I could do With a Hug

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  • Dudagarcia
    Dudagarcia Posts: 849 Member
    ((hugs)) you r doing great and can get lots of positive support here.
  • rmartin72
    rmartin72 Posts: 1,085 Member
    HUGS & HUGS & Support You In What your going through:flowerforyou:
  • MrsCCWoods
    MrsCCWoods Posts: 142 Member
    That was wrong and very mean, please keep eating right and working out cause you are doing this for yourself and not HIM
  • runbyme
    runbyme Posts: 522 Member
    ((((((HUGS)))))) So sorry you have to put up with that. Hang in there and find strength in your accomplishments! :flowerforyou:
  • misalillstead
    misalillstead Posts: 407 Member
    ::Big hugggggs!!!!!:: I'm sorry he's so negative! Just focus on yourself, and what your trying to do! :) You're worth every bit of the effort!!
  • davert123
    davert123 Posts: 1,568 Member
    (((((HUG)))))

    Just do it for yourself not them. Doing if for you and making you happy is more important than making them happy :-) I know it stings but try and focus on what you have achieved for you. Good luck and don't give up - you have lots of support here and well all know the work you have put in to drop a stone based on our own experiences - keep it up you deserve it
  • Nessiechickie
    Nessiechickie Posts: 1,392 Member
    If i let my parents tell me what I looked like I would be huge!
    Do what feels right for you, because I don't think you are loosing this weight for them, it is for you.
    So why should it matter what others say.

    I've had "your too skinny, your disgusting"
    "You big, wow do those jeans really fit your big *kitten*"
    All thanks to my mom, and you know what... she is isn't very skinny either.
    For my situation, I cannot speak for yours, but my mom was jealous.
    She still makes the comments of are you going to the gym, how often do you go.
    I personally take it as " I should go because I'm fat" but i let it slide and think about it and she probably just wants to know so that she can copy it.
  • karenp40
    karenp40 Posts: 5 Member
    No one can take away your success. Hold onto that. It is unfortunate that your father is so forward. He should learn that supporting someone is not putting them down. Does he need to be a part of your weight loss journey?
  • chatter27
    chatter27 Posts: 121
    Hugs coming your way. On the days you feel sluggish or when you are at the gym and you feel like you can't push any further, use it as your fuel. That is what I do and it works.:-)
  • marz42
    marz42 Posts: 223 Member
    I know it works and I just don't see why he's being so mean, this is after I made the whole dinner and cleaned all his clothes. I feel so frustrated that I've made progress and I'm sticking with it and even worse this over a ****ing slice of cheese.

    If I had money I'd move back out again but I can't I have to live at home and deal with this every day.

    Ouch..it really sucks when you area n adult, but treated like you aren't, and yet can't really tell them off (like you could with say a friend) because your depending on them in some way. He sounds like an *kitten*, and I kind of wonder if he (like my dad used to be) sort of likes having something over other people and likes to be right and in control, and when you showed him you WERE already doing something and it's working..it messes with that. But I don't know either of you so who knows.

    Just keep doing what you're doing. I had to look up how many lbs a stone was and that's quite a few, good job! Hang in there. Perhaps you might be able to show your doctor the MFP site and what you've been doing and get his or her backing. Hard for a dad to argue with "my doctor told me to" you know?
  • Lilower
    Lilower Posts: 5 Member
    Hey, hugs to you for sure ((((( ))))). Definitely keep in mind that what you are doing IS working and that it's all about you. When it comes to your body, your frame of mind and your health, focus on how you are feeling and what you are seeing & not others. Especially their approval/disapproval ratings. Sounds to me like you are doing everything right. DO IT FOR YOU! :smile: :smile: Keep up the good work! Stay strong & be proud!
  • dandaninc
    dandaninc Posts: 392
    Personally, I'd piss in his coffee. Then you can laugh at him all the time too. That's ridiculous. Congrats on your progress and don't starve yourself just because your dad's being an *kitten*.

    HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA

    I AGREE!!!!

    You need to do this for yourself and honestly try to ignore the bad advice.

    You know exactly what you are doing and you are doing a fantastic job!! KEEP AT IT!! This works and it's the best way to loose weight for LIFE!!
  • ali117
    ali117 Posts: 12 Member
    Who are you losing weight for? You or your dad? If its you! Then you are doing great you have lost 1 stone that makes you a strong and capable woman. Start a gratitude journal and look for 5 things everyday to be great full for. This will help you focus on the positives and keep you in a good headspace and remember we are all here. oooooooooo
  • lamlam2468
    lamlam2468 Posts: 837 Member
    Ew, your dad sounds like a jerk. Sending virtual hugs your way, and the patience to deal with unkind people. Remember, you're doing this for yourself, not anyone else. Take a deep breath, and keep doing what you're doing. If it's working, you're fine!

    I completely agree! :flowerforyou:
  • Reneefit135
    Reneefit135 Posts: 170
    ouch- I feel for you. As a parent, I know how I agonize over the well being of my children. Im assuming that is what is motivating your dad- however poorly he is handling it. Keep your head up-- you are doing great! If you must take something from your dad's behavior-- take the fact that he loves you from it. Other than that-- ignore his adivce and do what you are doing!

    I agree, thats a healthy way to look at it. Hugs to you and like another MFP member said WE are proud of you...be proud of yourself.
  • blondie6688
    blondie6688 Posts: 57
    Aw I'm sorry, I can relate, my father was unsupportive too. You are doing GREAT!!!! Every lb lost (or stone) is an accomplishment. Pat yourself on the back... and look forward . There will always be someone to try and bring us down. DONT let him... then he will win. He probably means well, just doesn't know what to do to support the way you need it or would prefer it. You will get lots of support here. Remember, you're doing GREAT!!!!
  • frando
    frando Posts: 583 Member
    Thank you everyone!

    I'm hoping the situation would have calmed by tonight's dinner, but I'll avoid putting the cheese out :P

    My Mum and sister came in that evening to show me something on youtube and Mum just said ignore it and carry on as it is working. This is rather odd as she used to be rather... well unsupportive but now I have solid evidence it works and that I'm sticking to it I think she's changed her mind.

    About my Dad; at the start of the year he was diagnosed with being borderline diabetic (which has increased my likely hood as well), it was his wake up call as it were. He used to feast on fatty cheeses and drink copious amounts of wine and eat rather badly then he cut back to just the monthly stilton and choice wines and exercised regularly at a rather posh hotel gym and has lost a lot of weight. Everyone in the family, including myself, said how proud we were of him. He's roughly where he wants to be weight wise and he's not so likely to develop diabetes, I can't help but think this has something to do with it all.

    That I don't tell my parents a whole lot about my life these days, I find its better not to. They only found out last night that for the past three months I've been going to the gym. They have no idea I'm on chemical contraceptives to help alleviate period pain, to them it's just me being 'wimpy' every month or so :/

    Ah well.

    Thanks again and I'm feeling so much better and when I was listening to my playlist in the gym I thought Lady Gaga's lines were rather apt in 'Born This Way' :D

    Have a good day everyone :3
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