men are evil!!

hasiangirl

:grumble: :grumble: and men are my biggest stress factor right now ....i hate men ugh lol .....i cant stand my current bf of 5+ yrs......im actually setting aside money and if all goes well then by march i should be able to have enough money to leave........he is just to controling and such a negative person...and then theres my ex, who for some reason started talking to me again ....he was the first guy i ever loved...didnt treat me like crap persay but did at the same time (I think it was mainly because of our ages) but anyay he walks back in acting like he wants to start where we left off...except I have 2 kids and a boyfriend and he's married now.....wtf who does that?!?!?!?! ugh im so frustrated and i just cant stand men right now...........:grumble: :grumble: :grumble: :mad: and when i get like this i always eat more whyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy

hasiangirl

and the worst part is im still in love with my ex :frown: *kicks herself really hard*

Chiny

It's OK girly, I for one have been thru all of those emotions too (and then some). I can attest to the fact that "time heals all wounds". If that's you in your avatar you look REALLY young. You have a LOT of years left. These 2 guys were probably not the first 2 you've met and I'm sure they won't be the last 2 :flowerforyou:

MissKim

I know the feeling...and I feel for you. I love my boyfriend but he can really be selfish and such a pain sometimes. I have been through some terrible relationships..and they have all been different but have the same factor....men suck. they are just not like us. unsensitive, selfish. i'm sure there are a few good men out there, i consider mine one, but good men are still men. they still will never be on our level. I think that a relationship gets to the point and the guy starts to take things for granted. That's where all my relationships turn bad. A girl has to be respected and appreciated or we won't be happy. As far as advice goes for you, I don't really know the situations your in exactly, but I can tell you to stay away from the married man. he is def in it for himself. take this time for yourself. instead of being depressed and eating...take care of yourself. like you are putting money away. you are investing in your future. getting skinny and choices you are making everyday is an investment in your future too.

hasiangirl

It's OK girly, I for one have been thru all of those emotions too (and then some). I can attest to the fact that "time heals all wounds". If that's you in your avatar you look REALLY young. You have a LOT of years left. These 2 guys were probably not the first 2 you've met and I'm sure they won't be the last 2 :flowerforyou:

i was healed up until my ex walked back in wanting to talk again and rekindle old flames ect ect... =/ well i wasnt all "healed" up but i was managing and i hadnt talked to him in 6-7yrs =/...he was sthe first guy i ever loved and the only one i felt completely happy and safe around =/...ugh im just so frustrated i want to break down

MissKim

The reason I say I can relate is because I have been fighting with my boyfriend for the last couple of days. He is being selfish and insensitive. Yesterday, of all freaking days, my ex, (whom I will never get over!!! and still just the sound of his voice makes my day!!) called me at work. I have not spoken with this man in five months! Men are selfish creatures

hasiangirl

I know the feeling...and I feel for you. I love my boyfriend but he can really be selfish and such a pain sometimes. I have been through some terrible relationships..and they have all been different but have the same factor....men suck. they are just not like us. unsensitive, selfish. i'm sure there are a few good men out there, i consider mine one, but good men are still men. they still will never be on our level. I think that a relationship gets to the point and the guy starts to take things for granted. That's where all my relationships turn bad. A girl has to be respected and appreciated or we won't be happy. As far as advice goes for you, I don't really know the situations your in exactly, but I can tell you to stay away from the married man. he is def in it for himself. take this time for yourself. instead of being depressed and eating...take care of yourself. like you are putting money away. you are investing in your future. getting skinny and choices you are making everyday is an investment in your future too.

ty hun....yea my current boyfriend and i have 2 kids together.....he is on disability (bipolar) so he technically doesnt work, sleeps until 12-3pm everyday...doesnt clean and makes a mess....doesnt cook and then throws a fit if i want to go out.....last week i said i was going out and he agreed....i got dressed in what i thought was a cute outfit and came out of the room and he looks at me and says "that shirt and those pants make u look huge".....ugh he is just a lazy selfish a**hole...and i cant take it much longer.....as for the married guy we were eachothers first loves.....its stupid and silly, but i dont think ill ever get over him completely....but id like to thank everyone for listening ...i needed to get some of it off of my chest

kimss

just remember... when dealing with EX's... you left them for a good reason... usually they haven't changed and you won't find that out until it is too late. and also... If he is willing to see you, and wants to "start your relationship again" while he is still, currently, married.... well, that says it all!!!!! He is SCUM.
ONCE A CHEATER, ALWAYS A CHEATER.
Do yourself and your kids a huge favor....get ride of both of them and start a new life.
Just my Opinion....
but, my experience has taught me many things. and both of these were hard lessons to learn. I hope you don't have to learn them the hard way. good luck

hasiangirl

The reason I say I can relate is because I have been fighting with my boyfriend for the last couple of days. He is being selfish and insensitive. Yesterday, of all freaking days, my ex, (whom I will never get over!!! and still just the sound of his voice makes my day!!) called me at work. I have not spoken with this man in five months! Men are selfish creatures

ack sorry to hear that hun :frown: and whyyyyyyy does it seem so hard to get over an ex sometimes? lol

EKarma

Put a stop to talking to you ex right now.. He's mind f**kin you bad! What kind of a guy does that.. A player.. and players only love you when they're playin games. He's playin his wife too..

Don't give him the pleasure of talking to you.. and remember... Ex's are ex's for a reason.. Don't go back to what didn't work in the first place.

And your boyfriend just sounds like a turd.

hasiangirl

just remember... when dealing with EX's... you left them for a good reason... usually they haven't changed and you won't find that out until it is too late. and also... If he is willing to see you, and wants to "start your relationship again" while he is still, currently, married.... well, that says it all!!!!! He is SCUM.
ONCE A CHEATER, ALWAYS A CHEATER.
Do yourself and your kids a huge favor....get ride of both of them and start a new life.
Just my Opinion....
but, my experience has taught me many things. and both of these were hard lessons to learn. I hope you don't have to learn them the hard way. good luck

or break up was my fault.....i got scared because i was way too "happy" and from my past i learned that it never lasts so i disappeared and hid from him....the only problems we had were our age differences and his dad being the cheif of police well he didnt want people knowing my real age...he never cheated on me......and he hasnt cheated on his wife(we havent done anyything like that, just talked)...i think we just left alot of wounds open

chgudnitz

:noway: :noway:

WOAH... Don't go clumping all men together... :noway: :noway:

Seriously... your topic should be "this guy I was seeing sucks" or something like that... :laugh:

hasiangirl

:noway: :noway:

WOAH... Don't go clumping all men together... :noway: :noway:

Seriously... your topic should be "this guy I was seeing sucks" or something like that... :laugh:

lol......true can i just say most men suck? lol

CasperO

All elephants are grey, but not every grey thing is an elephant.

There are good men, you just have found one yet. I hope things get better for you.

chgudnitz

:noway: :noway:

WOAH... Don't go clumping all men together... :noway: :noway:

Seriously... your topic should be "this guy I was seeing sucks" or something like that... :laugh:

lol......true can i just say most men suck? lol

I mean I guess you can, but even thats not true. :flowerforyou: I am sorry to hear about your experience, but ALL MEN hating isn't the way to go. Did you ever get a dozen roses and one of them dies really fast? It doesn't mean all roses die really fast, it was just one bad one.

kimss

just remember... when dealing with EX's... you left them for a good reason... usually they haven't changed and you won't find that out until it is too late. and also... If he is willing to see you, and wants to "start your relationship again" while he is still, currently, married.... well, that says it all!!!!! He is SCUM.
ONCE A CHEATER, ALWAYS A CHEATER.
Do yourself and your kids a huge favor....get ride of both of them and start a new life.
Just my Opinion....
but, my experience has taught me many things. and both of these were hard lessons to learn. I hope you don't have to learn them the hard way. good luck

or break up was my fault.....i got scared because i was way too "happy" and from my past i learned that it never lasts so i disappeared and hid from him....the only problems we had were our age differences and his dad being the cheif of police well he didnt want people knowing my real age...he never cheated on me......and he hasnt cheated on his wife(we havent done anyything like that, just talked)...i think we just left alot of wounds open

sound like your making excuses for a bad, teenage , crush. you can't afford to let your kids get hurt.

Angie1215

:noway: :noway:

WOAH... Don't go clumping all men together... :noway: :noway:

Seriously... your topic should be "this guy I was seeing sucks" or something like that... :laugh:

lol......true can i just say most men suck? lol

i def agree with the MOST men part!!

iplayoutside19

they still will never be on our level.

Come now. Get off your high horse. The G/F I kicked to the curb before I met my wife was upset because I blew off spending time with her ,to spend time with my Grandfather on his death bed. We were serious enough that she was more than welcome to come with me, but she wanted me to her self.

Self centered people know no gender/race/religion/nationality boundries.

We've all been slefish at least once (more than likely, several times) in our lives.

hasiangirl

:noway: :noway:

WOAH... Don't go clumping all men together... :noway: :noway:

Seriously... your topic should be "this guy I was seeing sucks" or something like that... :laugh:

lol......true can i just say most men suck? lol

I mean I guess you can, but even thats not true. :flowerforyou: I am sorry to hear about your experience, but ALL MEN hating isn't the way to go. Did you ever get a dozen roses and one of them dies really fast? It doesn't mean all roses die really fast, it was just one bad one.

good example.......but ive never got a dozen roses before :laugh: :laugh:

Chiny

As far as kids are concerned you do what's in the best interested of those kids, PLEASE!! Do NOT fight with your bf/their father in front of them. They are innocent and did not asked to be in bad situations. If you're staying with him BECAUSE of the kids, that's crazy! Please do not believe the BS that kids are better off in a 2 parent home. Yes that's true IF the two are not fighting constantly and are on the same page working together in life. I'd rather be in a broken home, then a home with 2 broken parents. I'd rather see my parents happy APART then unhappy together.

Sorry, rant off, I don't know you personally but when kids are involved the situation becomes more difficult.

hasiangirl

just remember... when dealing with EX's... you left them for a good reason... usually they haven't changed and you won't find that out until it is too late. and also... If he is willing to see you, and wants to "start your relationship again" while he is still, currently, married.... well, that says it all!!!!! He is SCUM.
ONCE A CHEATER, ALWAYS A CHEATER.
Do yourself and your kids a huge favor....get ride of both of them and start a new life.
Just my Opinion....
but, my experience has taught me many things. and both of these were hard lessons to learn. I hope you don't have to learn them the hard way. good luck

or break up was my fault.....i got scared because i was way too "happy" and from my past i learned that it never lasts so i disappeared and hid from him....the only problems we had were our age differences and his dad being the cheif of police well he didnt want people knowing my real age...he never cheated on me......and he hasnt cheated on his wife(we havent done anyything like that, just talked)...i think we just left alot of wounds open

sound like your making excuses for a bad, teenage , crush. you can't afford to let your kids get hurt.

what excuse? :ohwell: i was the reason we broke up...and just because i have feelings for him doesnt mean id actually do anything with him,....and it wasnt a crush ...i will never believe that....but my kids are always my main priority....thats why i come on here and rant instead of holding it in or doing something really dumb in real life

kimss

and the guys are right... you can't lump all men together. there are some great ones out there. if you find one hold tight to him, if your unhappy, let him go and keep looking. I was 35 when I found the best man in the world, and all the rest were losers in comparison. So don't give up on life when yor only 23yrs old. you have only just begun to live.

hasiangirl

As far as kids are concerned you do what's in the best interested of those kids, PLEASE!! Do NOT fight with your bf/their father in front of them. They are innocent and did not asked to be in bad situations. If you're staying with him BECAUSE of the kids, that's crazy! Please do not believe the BS that kids are better off in a 2 parent home. Yes that's true IF the two are not fighting constantly and are on the same page working together in life. I'd rather be in a broken home, then a home with 2 broken parents. I'd rather see my parents happy APART then unhappy together.

Sorry, rant off, I don't know you personally but when kids are involved the situation becomes more difficult.

I try and not to fight infront of the kids, but sometimes its inevitable......i do not condone fighting in front of my kids by any means....i went through it as a kid and i remember the feelings.....usually if he goes off about something ill tell my son to go in the playroom or his bed room and i bring his brother in the other room......i cant avoid an arguement with a guy who is always looking for an excuse to fight and the only reason im staying with him now is because i need to save up money to get a place for my kids and I to stay after the break up.....i want to leave with a little bit of security

hasiangirl

and the guys are right... you can't lump all men together. there are some great ones out there. if you find one hold tight to him, if your unhappy, let him go and keep looking. I was 35 when I found the best man in the world, and all the rest were losers in comparison. So don't give up on life when yor only 23yrs old. you have only just begun to live.

i think uve got this rant all wrong....i am not giving up on life at all...i am just extremely frustrated and needed a place to get it out...

1Corinthians13

they still will never be on our level.

Come now. Get off your high horse. The G/F I kicked to the curb before I met my wife was upset because I blew off spending time with her ,to spend time with my Grandfather on his death bed. We were serious enough that she was more than welcome to come with me, but she wanted me to her self.

Self centered people know no gender/race/religion/nationality boundries.

We've all been slefish at least once (more than likely, several times) in our lives.

True. There are just as many awful women out there as men.

And honestly, I think some of this comes down to a self esteem issue. You need to have enough love for yourself to get out of your current relationship b/c no one deserves to be treated that way.

And you need to have enough respect for yourself to not go talking to your ex. He's married. Talking will lead to dinner....trust me. My ex cheated on me for a long time before I found out. It wasn't with his ex, but it was another woman, and I'm sure things started out innocent enough. No, that's not true. He truly is an awful person. But still - there's a line that those who are married should draw.

My bf and I have talked about this and are in complete agreement. You don't put yourself in those situations. If you're married, you probably shouldn't be speaking to your ex, especially if there are still any feelings there or if he's aware of your feelings for him. And it most definitely shouldn't go beyond that. When you're married, you don't do things with someone from the opposite sex and no one else. Period.

kimss

sorry, I didn't mean to offend you. I know your just letting off steam here. we are all just concerned about you. we all would like to impart our yrs of wisdom and stupid mistakes on you so maybe you can avoid making the same ones. that is the only thing that the ppl here are trying to do for you.
again sorry, never ment to make you feel bad or hurt your feelings in any way.

jessicob

I agree I believe that some men are no good but there are plenty of great ones. We also need to understand that we are totally different. There are plenty of girls out there too! gotta look at it from both perspectives.

hasiangirl

they still will never be on our level.

Come now. Get off your high horse. The G/F I kicked to the curb before I met my wife was upset because I blew off spending time with her ,to spend time with my Grandfather on his death bed. We were serious enough that she was more than welcome to come with me, but she wanted me to her self.

Self centered people know no gender/race/religion/nationality boundries.

We've all been slefish at least once (more than likely, several times) in our lives.

True. There are just as many awful women out there as men.

And honestly, I think some of this comes down to a self esteem issue. You need to have enough love for yourself to get out of your current relationship b/c no one deserves to be treated that way.

And you need to have enough respect for yourself to not go talking to your ex. He's married. Talking will lead to dinner....trust me. My ex cheated on me for a long time before I found out. It wasn't with his ex, but it was another woman, and I'm sure things started out innocent enough. No, that's not true. He truly is an awful person. But still - there's a line that those who are married should draw.

My bf and I have talked about this and are in complete agreement. You don't put yourself in those situations. If you're married, you probably shouldn't be speaking to your ex, especially if there are still any feelings there or if he's aware of your feelings for him. And it most definitely shouldn't go beyond that. When you're married, you don't do things with someone from the opposite sex and no one else. Period.

sorry to hear about your past experience :frown: but i know nothing would go past us talking...i wouldnt let it even if he wanted to anyways...and as far as opposite sex....i dont totally agree with that and im going to assume that they are in agreement that nothing happens then talking with the opposite sex and hanging out with them is fine

XFitMojoMom

Can I be frank with you? I think you need to get away from relationships altogether and explore being alone and finding yourself. Do you think that by being with these guys you are setting a good example for your children?
And waiting until March so you have some money set aside sounds like a bit of a cop-out. Get out now. Your current BF is toxic (and bi-polar, is he on meds and are they the proper dosage?) and your ex is even shadier. There are a lot of social programs for women with children to start over again.
By being alone you will be able to explore yourself, know yourself and be confident in knowing yourself that comments like the one your BF made when you are about to go out, roll off of you like water to a duck.

hasiangirl

sorry, I didn't mean to offend you. I know your just letting off steam here. we are all just concerned about you. we all would like to impart our yrs of wisdom and stupid mistakes on you so maybe you can avoid making the same ones. that is the only thing that the ppl here are trying to do for you.
again sorry, never ment to make you feel bad or hurt your feelings in any way.

thank u hun i really do appreciate it :flowerforyou: and i understand...ive just been so frustrated lately.. and needed to let it out somewhere ..i really do appreciate all the kind words


And i really dont think all men are bad ....lol just my feelings as of right now to all the men i know personally :laugh: :laugh: :laugh:

cassandra1220

Can I be frank with you? I think you need to get away from relationships altogether and explore being alone and finding yourself. Do you think that by being with these guys you are setting a good example for your children?
And waiting until March so you have some money set aside sounds like a bit of a cop-out. Get out now. Your current BF is toxic (and bi-polar, is he on meds and are they the proper dosage?) and your ex is even shadier. There are a lot of social programs for women with children to start over again.
By being alone you will be able to explore yourself, know yourself and be confident in knowing yourself that comments like the one your BF made when you are about to go out, roll off of you like water to a duck.

BUMP