Have any of you been asked when the baby was due.

gypsykitchen

Ha! I teach high school. So many students (usually girls) ask me if I'm pregnant, especially if I'm wearing something with an empire waist. I like to tell them, "No, I'm just fat," and smile.

Josette89

I have, but it but different circumstances. I had a surgery on my stomach and I seriously did look like I was pregnant. My sister was offended, but I just played along because they didn't know about anything, and I was never gonna see them again anyway .

skinnyinnotime

Yep and it really upset me, especially as I was trying to lose my baby weight and was doing so well. :sad: :sad: :sad:

ETA: when I said I wasn't pregnant she said "oh that's strange how your tummy sticks out" I went home and cried to my hubby, he was so pissed off my my behalf he phoned the grocery store to complain to the manager about the woman. Fair enough to make a mistake but then to go on about it.

iieee

Not exactly been asked it, but I was getting a lot of "are you thinking of having any more?" at the start of this year, which is what people used to ask me when I actually was pregnant with #2. A sort of 'I think you could be pregnant but I'm not sure so I will try and get you to tell me without asking directly'. So I just say 'nope!' and smile...

slowturtle1

I'm sorry that happened to you. There's no way around it, that is just hurtful. It happened to me years ago, long before I actually got "fat." I was a teacher in my late 20's at the time and at 5'3" I weighed125 --not great, but certainly not fat! A skinny little mother of one of my students just casually asked one day "So, when are you due?" I WISH I'd responded with "Due for what?", but instead I just instantly replied, "I'm not pregnant, I'm just fat." She was sufficiently embarrassed and I didn't attempt to make her feel any better. If someone is not OBVIOUSLY a day away from delivery, you just don't ask that question!!

saragato

When I first went over to a now ex friend's house, her then 4 year old sister slapped on my belly and asked if I was pregnant. She maintained the belief I was pregnant for roughly 4 years and then she finally figured out I was just fat.

Other than that I've never been asked because my stomach is in such a way that it doesn't even remotely resemble any stage of pregnancy. But really, it's nothing to get up in arms about. People are naturally curious and they don't mean any ill will by asking. Personally I'd rather someone think I was pregnant than fat.

hippieklaar

People used to ask me this all the time.. It was before I ever started dieting.. I was still pretty thin, but had just started to gain weight after high school. I tend to gain the most weight in my stomach/hips and the rest of my body stays pretty thin. I feel like unless you are very obviously showing, people should NEVER ask that... Sometimes I see people 7-8 months along & stop myself from asking just in case...

ohmyshysamantha

My cousin asks me all the time if I'm pregnant. He's 9. and when I say no he says "you got alot of junk in your trunk" I seriously want to strangle whoever taught him that saying.

And there was a time last year. I was in wisconsin and some bars there will serve people under age 21 if their parent or guardian is there, I convinced my boss to say she was my mom when I went out with some coworkers, I had two beers and the bartenders switched, when I went up to the bar for a 3rd beer and the bartender refused me service because he couldnt in good conscious serve me alcohol in my condition. and when I asked what condition he responded with pregnant.

africaa

I've been asked ..but usually by strangers. It's so embarrassing because they usually say it in front of a lot of people, but I usually just laugh and say oh i'm not pregnant it's just fat that I'm working on "/

I have a pretty small shape, but my stomach has always been the biggest part of my body! & is the first place where I gained weight (pretty much only place)

Bunnehface

I've never been asked that before - thank God - but just reminded me of someone asking my friend that very same question...she had a one year old son (at the time) and this guy just said 'so when's the next one due?'...she didn't understand and said 'oh I don't know, a long time yet.' He didn't get it and persisted with 'haven't you had scans and stuff?' The penny dropped, there was an awkward loooooong silence and I took him outside and told him she wasn't pregnant. He was completely unabashed, and even continued saying 'sorry, but hey mummy tummy's are sexy to some people, you don't need to lose a pound!' *faceplants keyboard* I'm cringing just remembering it...and the worst bit was, she wasn't even big! She was about a UK size 12 (a US size 10).
For the record, we didn't stay in touch with this guy haha.

kimad

I haven't, but I did have someone asked me (after I had slimmed down alot) if I had just recently had a baby.
HAHA I decided to take it as a compliment that I could get my pre baby body back so quickly.

Let it roll off your back, she will learn with age

My daugther called me fat as a whale once, blah!

davidr730

I was at a friend's house with my fiance discussing the wedding and the friends little sister who is 16 asked if i was pregnant....Im not and i was mortified and embarrassed, i keep thinking how could i have let this happen to myself!!! Has anyone else ever had a similar experience and if so how did you ladies handle it?

Did you smack her? I'm told that etiquette allows for that in these types of situations.

SLHartman

I got the question around December. I'm a middle school band director, so for concerts I'm in front of quite a few people. The next day my principal called me into her office and proceeded to tell me how about 12 people asked her if I was preggers. I was completely embarassed and got super serious about calorie counting the next day.

noweightfisherj

No; but for me that would be really odd. :-)

cxzawerf

One time a friend's mom rubbed my belly and said "What's this?" When I made a face she yelled out "Oh my goodness, you're pregnant!" My response.... "Nope, I'm just fat."

Another time, a friend was looking through the pictures on my phone and asked "Is this a picture of your sister's baby bump?" My response... "Nope, that's my fat bump."

bonnyebrew

I've never had this happen to me, I tend to gain weight everywhere, including my stomach, although there have certainly been times I thought I looked preggers. However, it has happened to my step-daughter before, and I've seen how much damage such a seemingly insignificant comment can do to a teenager, she wasn't yet 16. I wish I could shake the people who ask this question without thinking.

chocciechip

I think whilst it's embarrassing or shameful for the one the question is being directed at - it must be MORTIFYING for the person who asked it. especially mums with kids :-D

victoria4321

I think I'd punch someone in the face if they asked me that...maybe even a kid

Elleinnz

Oh my goodness - I once asked a woman's husband when his wife was due (thank goodness I did not ask her!!) And that was when I myself was more than a 100lbs overweight......

wild_wild_life

I was always told, unless you can see a head coming out.
Or the person says " i cant't wait till this baby is born"
Dont EVER ask if they're pregnant.

Has anyone else heard this?

Yes, my friend has a saying that unless a baby is actually emerging from the person at that moment, don't ask!

This happened to a friend of mine who is not even overweight, BTW, so it can happen to anyone.

myogibbs

YES!!! TWICE!!! I just LOST 20 lbs,, including 7 inches from my abdomen, 5 from my hips and 4 from my waist, so now I am wearing those cute little babydoll shirts. I have had 2 little old ladies on 2 different occasions ask me when I was due. I just look at them blankly and said, "I am not pregnant, in fact, I just lost a bunch of weight." They apologized profusely & I did my best to shake it off. But, gotta admit, I think twice before I wear those shirts now. It does hurt your feelings. Consider the source..they usually don't mean it, they are just guilty of verbal diarrhea...

eidnahenri

I've been asked many many times in very public places. Now when someone asks when I'm due, I just say, "last October and I'm starting to get really impatient waiting for it."

00babyk00

AWWW I know exactly how you ladies feel. Some people have no tact whatsoever! Im apple shape and carry my leftovers in the front, and have been asked a few times now, last time was a checkout lady saying "youre going to be very busy soon" while looking at my tummy. I said Huh? Then she says Oh never mind. (I even had my sucky in pants on that day LOL and was feeling great) And then theres the "look" without the person saying anything, thats happened millions of times. Theres an unspoken rule that you just dont assume curvy ladies are pregnant, it really hurts peoples feelings for along time after.
Theres a saying "Better to be thought the fool than open ones mouth and remove all doubt".

Afterblue

I have been the "asker".

To be fair, I didn't just approach a random woman and ask her this. One of my colleagues got married late last year and all she could talk about was how she was eager to start a family and they planned to er...get on that right away if you catch my drift. She went on vacation, and I saw her after a few months. She is a very slender girl but she was wearing an empire waist dress and had a visible belly where there had been none when I last saw her. I squealed loudly, hugged her, and screamed CONGRATS. She smacked me. I deserved worse.

I know it is mortifying when you are asked this question, but believe you me,you might feel a little better if you knew that there are three kinds of people who ask these question.

1. Jerks- who are doing this just to upset you. They don't deserve the remorse.
2. Innocents- like children or the like who don't know how upsetting it is.
3. Idiots like me, who think they have made a logical deduction but are absolutely horrified when they know they made a mistake and have upset someone.

I am just socially awkward. I don't mean to be mean.

rolandgaspar

True Story... This was actually one of my main "kick in the *kitten*" factors...

I was the heaviest I had been in a long time...

My wife was 7mo pregnant...

My 1st child, she was ~3yrs old, ran up to her and said: "Daddy, Daddy, Mommy has a baby in her tummy!" .. big pause... "And Daddy, Daddy, you have a baby in your tummy too!"

Seriously?!?!?

Seriously?!?

There is nothing malicious about a 3yr old (well, maybe others, but not mine ) ... so, that, right there, THAT was a huge kick in the *kitten*...

so..

probably not at all the answer you were looking for, but, as a guy, yeah, it's happened to me.. once.


.. More typical answer, as stated above very clearly, unless you unequivocally know she's pregnant, zip it...

recbutterfly

I work with pregnant women every day and have frequently been asked when is my baby due. It used to be daily. Now, its "how have you lost the weight!" Of course, it still happens occasionally, but not like it did. I always laughed it off: "Nope, just fat" and "See, I struggle with this just like everyone else." But it feels VERY good to state that I am finally working on it, and I am setting a good example. Now folks are asking " now that you are loosing the weight, when are you going to get pregnant again?" To most of the world: women are supposed to want to be pregnant. I do admit that part of the motivation to lose weight was to have a heathier future pregancy after obesity related complications with the last two.

People will always lack tact when it comes to discussing someone's weight and not trying to rub pregnant bellies. FYI: good way to combat the rub the pregnant belly request: "only if I can rub your tummy too" Even funnier if that person has a buddha belly.

MUByM

No I haven't. I'm very thankful that I haven't been through that. I don't know how I would handle it.

bbaker172

I have...now I gotta figure out how to get rid of it!!!! Is it sugar? Just flub? WIll sit up's get rid of it? Help!

randomnennie

YES by a nurse at my orthopedic surgeon's office...10 days after having a total hysterectomy at 32 Talk about emotional

omg my heart goes out to you. i had to have an emergency hysterectomy at 25 ... after my first and only child. and people who KNOW that happened to me still joked about me being pregnant when i was heavier. people just need to shut it!!

misskerouac