shhhhh....it's a secret

Robin1117

When you lose significant weight, your fat friends and acquantances feel that you are somehow betraying them.

You're abandoning the club. Their club.

You're indirectly putting them in the uncomfortable position of deliberately ignoring that they really should re-evaluate their own habits.

So of course I tell everyone!

I find this really interesting....

Well, I keep it to myself. Do not like to talk about it. I have been using this site to maintain my weight and to get fit for the last few years. And I find the above to be true if I talk about this with anyone else. Most people I know are moms of young kids who like to say they don't have time, or act like martyrs because they are "so busy" with their kids and husbands and households. I truly feel in order to stay sane we need to take some time to keep ourselves healthy. It's part of my "job", and as the above post mentioned, it makes others uncomfortable and they make excuses when I have disclosed to anyone that "health and fitness" are important to me. So I definitely keep it to myself because it seems to backfire on me, even if someone else brings it up.

Oh, and the other thing is that very few people I know ever give me compliments on the changes I have made--I'm guessing because they are all chubby and as the above post mentioned, that would be "ignoring that they should re-evaluate their own habits".

At home my husband of course knows I work out and obsess over my fitness, and he knows I have "fitness friends" online who give me ideas and support. But I'm not sure he knows how important this community is to me and what a daily part of my life it is. My out-of-town family knows I workout--my mother told me a few weeks ago that "talking to me about fitness makes her want to do it even less......". thankfully I have one brother who gets it, we were able to do P90x simultaneously, and that was kind of fun.

But as far as eating goes, I pretty much eat whatever I want when around friends and family, I balance it really well, eating well when I'm home and not worrying when I'm out socially, so instead of everyone thinking I'm this thin person who doesn't eat anything, they see this thin person drinking wine, eating dessert, half and half in my coffee, whole milk in my cappuccino...... I do like that.