is it wrong???

JessigirlJb
JessigirlJb Posts: 656
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i am married. but i love love love to flirt. it makes me feel good and sexy. so is it wrong?
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  • sweetchildomine
    sweetchildomine Posts: 872 Member
    lol It depends on the level of flirting. If you wouldn't want your husband to do it, then you shouldn't. I don't think there's anything wrong with the typical, friendly flirting though. Sometimes you don't even realize you're doing it. It's especially easy to accidentally do when you're talking to strangers on the internet haha. I'm totally guilty of that. In my opinion it depends on what you're saying. If you're just giggling and saying they look good, whatever. If you're telling them you want to bang them silly...that's bad haha. That's just my humble opinion though!!
  • JessigirlJb
    JessigirlJb Posts: 656
    lol It depends on the level of flirting. If you wouldn't want your husband to do it, then you shouldn't. I don't think there's anything wrong with the typical, friendly flirting though. Sometimes you don't even realize you're doing it. It's especially easy to accidentally do when you're talking to strangers on the internet haha. I'm totally guilty of that. In my opinion it depends on what you're saying. If you're just giggling and saying they look good, whatever. If you're telling them you want to bang them silly...that's bad haha. That's just my humble opinion though!!
    i agree with you. i just like the eye candy on here
  • glovepuppet
    glovepuppet Posts: 1,710 Member
    i vote no. unless you're doing it in a way that would make your man look like a chump.
  • SmexAppeal
    SmexAppeal Posts: 858 Member
    ^^Agree with her. There are limitations. When you start to question your actions, I would say you should stop. But if you are comfortable with what you are doing/saying to others, and you know how you feel about your husband... well then its all your business.
  • antizoni1
    antizoni1 Posts: 334
    Nothing wrong with it, it lets you know that you are Alive
  • gseburn
    gseburn Posts: 456 Member
    I was going to flirt, but then I was too busy drooling over, I mean appreciating, all the lovelies. :tongue:
  • _the_feniks_
    _the_feniks_ Posts: 3,412 Member
    Flirting is OK up until the point that your SO would be hurt by it.
  • MoveTheMountain
    MoveTheMountain Posts: 764
    lol It depends on the level of flirting. If you wouldn't want your husband to do it, then you shouldn't. I don't think there's anything wrong with the typical, friendly flirting though. Sometimes you don't even realize you're doing it. It's especially easy to accidentally do when you're talking to strangers on the internet haha. I'm totally guilty of that. In my opinion it depends on what you're saying. If you're just giggling and saying they look good, whatever. If you're telling them you want to bang them silly...that's bad haha. That's just my humble opinion though!!
    i agree with you. i just like the eye candy on here

    About the flirting, every one is different, every couple is different, and they have to find their own balance. If any given action hurts your SO, it's still not necessarily wrong, but you might be with the wrong SO.

    And you, btw, have the best ticker on this whole site. Bravo!
  • Beastette
    Beastette Posts: 1,497 Member
    I have issues with the word "wrong". Not sure if I can answer this.

    I assume you are asking if you should stop. I suppose that if you think it could harm your relationship if your flirting comes to light, then you may want to cut back.

    You are the best judge of whether you are doing something you ought not.
  • oh_em_gee
    oh_em_gee Posts: 887 Member
    depends. If you're leading other people on or doing anything that would upset your husband, it's wrong. But I personally am a little flirty by nature and I don't see that changing
  • 33neenaj
    33neenaj Posts: 306
    If you need to flirt then your relationship must be lacking something.....
  • YokoJ
    YokoJ Posts: 253
    lol It depends on the level of flirting. If you wouldn't want your husband to do it, then you shouldn't. I don't think there's anything wrong with the typical, friendly flirting though. Sometimes you don't even realize you're doing it. It's especially easy to accidentally do when you're talking to strangers on the internet haha. I'm totally guilty of that. In my opinion it depends on what you're saying. If you're just giggling and saying they look good, whatever. If you're telling them you want to bang them silly...that's bad haha. That's just my humble opinion though!!

    Deff this! ^^^^^
  • TheRoadDog
    TheRoadDog Posts: 11,788 Member
    i am married. but i love love love to flirt. it makes me feel good and sexy. so is it wrong?

    Is it something you and your husband agree on? Then. I don't see a problem.

    Are you hiding it from him? That's a problem>

    Do you mind if he flirts?
  • LonLB
    LonLB Posts: 1,126 Member
    CONTENT is very important IMO. Sometimes I will be flirting and not even realize it, but if it's not over the line, it's OK IMO.


    Some stuff I see guys post here, makes me wonder if they are from the same planet as the rest of us. And I'm far from an uptight old fashioned ****tard.
  • spade117
    spade117 Posts: 2,466 Member
    i am married. but i love love love to flirt. it makes me feel good and sexy. so is it wrong?

    As long as you have an orgasm everyday, it's all good.
  • livinginwoods
    livinginwoods Posts: 562 Member
    Flirting is OK up until the point that your SO would be hurt by it.

    This.
  • tmauck4472
    tmauck4472 Posts: 1,785 Member
    Doesn't matter what we think. What does your husband think of it ? If he doesn't like it then you probably shouldn't be doing it.
  • LonLB
    LonLB Posts: 1,126 Member
    i am married. but i love love love to flirt. it makes me feel good and sexy. so is it wrong?

    As long as you have an orgasm everyday, it's all good.

    And then there is that too.:laugh:
  • Jain
    Jain Posts: 861 Member
    Flirting is OK up until the point that your SO would be hurt by it.

    Agreed. My SO & I are both flirty people & don't always realise we're doing it. But neither of us take it so far that we're leading the other person on.
    I guess what I'm saying is 'know your limits' but have fun.:wink:
  • JessigirlJb
    JessigirlJb Posts: 656
    Flirting is OK up until the point that your SO would be hurt by it.

    Agreed. My SO & I are both flirty people & don't always realise we're doing it. But neither of us take it so far that we're leading the other person on.
    I guess what I'm saying is 'know your limits' but have fun.:wink:
    i like that! know the limit and set boundaries. i will follow that advice
  • _Wits_
    _Wits_ Posts: 1,286 Member
    Flirting is OK up until the point that your SO would be hurt by it.

    THIS!!!
  • paintlisapurple
    paintlisapurple Posts: 982 Member
    Just asking the question "is it wrong to ..." PROBABLY means that yes...it is. and if its something that you wouldn't do with your s.o. there...then its probably wrong too. (IMO)
  • macpatti
    macpatti Posts: 4,280 Member
    To know if it's wrOng in your marriage, you'd have to ask your husband.
  • kristen807
    kristen807 Posts: 361
    i am married. but i love love love to flirt. it makes me feel good and sexy. so is it wrong?

    Is it something you and your husband agree on? Then. I don't see a problem.

    Are you hiding it from him? That's a problem>

    Do you mind if he flirts?

    I agree
  • Il_DaniD_lI
    Il_DaniD_lI Posts: 1,593 Member
    Only you know your current relationship so only you can answer this question.
  • supahstar71
    supahstar71 Posts: 926 Member
    You don't really care what we think, do you? Please say no.

    But, nah, I vote for not wrong.
  • Maria_T007
    Maria_T007 Posts: 107
    Would your other half say it’s wrong? How would you feel if your other half was on here flirting like you are? I'd be asking myself those answers and then deciding if its wrong :)
  • sandrinamsilva
    sandrinamsilva Posts: 651 Member
    I would go by how your husband feels about it.
  • kimber0607
    kimber0607 Posts: 994 Member
    I dont get it..maybe I am the minority
    BUT if u are in a relatively healthy marriage (what marriage is perfect) why do u feel the need to flirt? To me it is getting some empty compliments from co-workers or strangers on line..think some people should look at why they are craving this type of attention?

    Also, and not saying always but I think what starts out as harmless flirting could lead to something more
    I would also think how you would feel if your so was flirting with someone on line the way that you have..would it bother u...and like others say, would he be bothered by how you are acting?
    or see it as harmless


    Kim
  • irishrose22
    irishrose22 Posts: 161 Member
    I've been happily married for 12 years and we are both serious flirts. That's why we fell for eachother to begin with. Flirting is healthy as long as you both agree that its cool. We don't get jealous, because we trust eachother completely. It's a turn on, plain and simple. I say, if you wouldn't hide your screen from him, then your not doing anything wrong.

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