OT: attitudes on weddings

oregonzoo
oregonzoo Posts: 4,251 Member
in Chit-Chat
Is it
A. YOUR special day?
B. a fun and special day you share with your family and extended family( friends).
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  • cubizzle
    cubizzle Posts: 900 Member
    A great day to drive to Vegas with a couple of friends to witness I say!
  • Pengi81
    Pengi81 Posts: 336 Member
    B for me
  • juliecat1
    juliecat1 Posts: 3,450 Member
    Don't do iiiiiiiit!







    B.
  • LorinaLynn
    LorinaLynn Posts: 13,247 Member
    We eloped, so ... it was about us, but we didn't make it a huge production that inconvenienced a lot of people like a Bridezilla might.
  • oregonzoo
    oregonzoo Posts: 4,251 Member
    A great day to drive to Vegas with a couple of friends to witness I say!
    Haha that would be awesome.
  • cubizzle
    cubizzle Posts: 900 Member
    A great day to drive to Vegas with a couple of friends to witness I say!
    Haha that would be awesome.

    Oh........ it was!
  • cobracars
    cobracars Posts: 949 Member
    A HUUUUGGGGEEEE waste of money!

    Take the wedding budget, put it in an escrow account, and if the marriage lasts 7 years have a huge party to celebrate. If not, the two parties split the proceeds and go their separate ways.
  • fteale
    fteale Posts: 5,310 Member
    B

    Our wedding was an excuse for a big party with our friends.
  • cubizzle
    cubizzle Posts: 900 Member
    A HUUUUGGGGEEEE waste of money!

    Take the wedding budget, put it in an escrow account, and if the marriage lasts 7 years have a huge party to celebrate. If not, the two parties split the proceeds and go their separate ways.

    fracking romantic! I love it.
  • clydethecat
    clydethecat Posts: 1,087 Member
    i say b, but i planned my wedding for my husband. hes big into wwII history and loves airplanes, so i found an aircraft carrier museum ship that hosted weddings. he had a blast, all the men did. it was definitely not just "my" day.
  • hyperionguy
    hyperionguy Posts: 90
    Agree with above, if it's big it is a waste of money.

    If you're going to do it, I feel it is supposed to be option B. Option A seems really selfish to me and leads to the Bridzilla complex. :)
  • JustJennie1
    JustJennie1 Posts: 3,749 Member
    An awesome evening on a boat at sunset with our closest friends.
  • Owlie45
    Owlie45 Posts: 806 Member
    B ofcourse
    If i get married there will be guns, a large fire pit, a tattoo artist, and too many drunk people.
  • RealWomenLovePitbulls
    RealWomenLovePitbulls Posts: 729 Member
    both. it is your special day, so u should get what u want, but u should also take friends and family into consideration when it comes to certain things (don't pick a music list full of music that no one is going to enjoy, but still mix in th songs that are special to you, etc.) and have a great time
  • Fatimah1104
    Fatimah1104 Posts: 27 Member
    BBBBBBBBBBBBBBBBBBBBBBBBBBBBB
  • Fatimah1104
    Fatimah1104 Posts: 27 Member
    Wait, wait don't listen to me... I got hitched at city hall... :( Me hubby and a couple witnesses... Oh yeah and my son!
  • cobracars
    cobracars Posts: 949 Member
    A HUUUUGGGGEEEE waste of money!

    Take the wedding budget, put it in an escrow account, and if the marriage lasts 7 years have a huge party to celebrate. If not, the two parties split the proceeds and go their separate ways.

    fracking romantic! I love it.

    Yeah, I'm just fracking adorable.
    At least my wife of 27 years thinks so. Especially last week when she found a bouquet of flowers on the seat of her car when she was leaving for work at 5:30am...and realized they were only to remind her "I love you" and "I want your day to start off special"...when it wasn't any special day at all, just another Thursday. And also realized I must have planned it the night before.

    And I find it sad when people spend $20k - $30k on a wedding day just to get divorced in 3-5 years.
  • alias1001
    alias1001 Posts: 634 Member
    A marriage ceremony should be a confirmation for your family and friends of a relationship that already exists, and then a big party with said people.
  • LuckyLeprechaun
    LuckyLeprechaun Posts: 6,296 Member
    I eloped.

    Nobody likes Bridezilla, so if you can have a big wedding without getting all cray-cray, go for it!

    I needed hubby's dental insurance. They said coverage was effective immediately upon marriage. So we decided on Monday, and went downtown on Tuesday.

    We spent more at lunch at PF Chang's afterward than we did on the entire wedding ceremony. God Bless Reno :heart:
  • chunkydunk714
    chunkydunk714 Posts: 784 Member
    B ofcourse
    If i get married there will be guns, a large fire pit, a tattoo artist, and too many drunk people.

    Love it.
  • MinMin97
    MinMin97 Posts: 2,674 Member
    It's a big party, of course. But it should be planned in such a way as to not create debt...not draining your funds, just proportional to what you have.
  • VelociMama
    VelociMama Posts: 3,119 Member
    B. It's about spending time and celebrating with everyone, not just all about YOU. Couples that give no consideration to their guests suck, and their wedding usually ends up being either boring and/or annoying for the guests.

    You don't have to spend a fortune either to make your guests feel appreciated for coming, gifting, and/or contributing. It's not about the cost, but rather appreciating your family and friends who have supported you and your spouse.

    Another thing I see often are brides who put really expensive things on their registry when most of their guests have modest income with little to no lower-price items. This is incredibly tacky and rude. Just because you're getting married, that doesn't entitle you to ask your guests to spend a fortune for gifts. Now, if you've got guests who you know will want to spend that, put a few higher price items on, but don't make the whole registry top-end everything.
  • trophywife24
    trophywife24 Posts: 1,472 Member
    B ofcourse
    If i get married there will be guns, a large fire pit, a tattoo artist, and too many drunk people.

    YES.

    Skip the wedding. We were just married at a justice of the peace.. I think we paid $40. We are just as married as our friends that have spent 40k on their weddings. If I could do anything over again, I would at least get dressed up and hire a photographer to take some "just married" pictures. We're thinking about having a vow renewal (aka excuse to party) for our 10th in a couple of years... if we do, there will definitely be a photographer this time.
  • lmeasterling
    lmeasterling Posts: 139 Member
    Both! My wedding day was MY special day, but I wanted my family & friends there to share it! :)
  • oregonzoo
    oregonzoo Posts: 4,251 Member
    B ofcourse
    If i get married there will be guns, a large fire pit, a tattoo artist, and too many drunk people.

    YES.

    Skip the wedding. We were just married at a justice of the peace.. I think we paid $40. We are just as married as our friends that have spent 40k on their weddings. If I could do anything over again, I would at least get dressed up and hire a photographer to take some "just married" pictures. We're thinking about having a vow renewal (aka excuse to party) for our 10th in a couple of years... if we do, there will definitely be a photographer this time.

    we want a huge party, and I want a dress. But mostly we want people to have a really really good time. I want people to walk away saying "Yep, that's them" not "goodness what a stuffy affair".
  • MaryJane_8810002
    MaryJane_8810002 Posts: 2,082 Member
    To be honest with student loans and a horrible recession, we get married and take a cruise to the Bahamas. (under $1000 and its 3 hours away.)
  • VelociMama
    VelociMama Posts: 3,119 Member
    B ofcourse
    If i get married there will be guns, a large fire pit, a tattoo artist, and too many drunk people.

    YES.

    Skip the wedding. We were just married at a justice of the peace.. I think we paid $40. We are just as married as our friends that have spent 40k on their weddings. If I could do anything over again, I would at least get dressed up and hire a photographer to take some "just married" pictures. We're thinking about having a vow renewal (aka excuse to party) for our 10th in a couple of years... if we do, there will definitely be a photographer this time.

    we want a huge party, and I want a dress. But mostly we want people to have a really really good time. I want people to walk away saying "Yep, that's them" not "goodness what a stuffy affair".

    We cut a lot out of our decor, dress, and cake budget and focused on spending more on food, booze, and entertainment. We still had a relatively small budget for the size of the wedding, but we had a full buffet with really good food, an ice cream bar, and a wine/beer bar. We also had a great DJ who kept things fun and light for us. I'm glad we didn't spend $3,000 on flowers.
  • caraiselite
    caraiselite Posts: 2,631 Member
    my day!

    but i don't want a big wedding. i don't have any friends, so no one would go anyway.
    my day to eat wtf i want. sounds good to me.
  • UncleMac
    UncleMac Posts: 13,774 Member
    Ours was all about family and friends. It looks like we're not going to make the 20th anniversary though. :brokenheart:
  • linz1125
    linz1125 Posts: 441 Member
    Neither! I hate weddings! We went to a little chapel with only 5 guests then went to our favorite restaurant for dinner. It was everything I wanted!

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