Most embarrassing "fat" moment....

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  • joselo2
    joselo2 Posts: 461
    In physics class my junior year we were doing an class project about energy. First we had to weigh ourselves and then be timed as we ran up and down a flight of stairs. The results were recorded on the board so everyone got to see that not only was I the heaviest girl, but also the slowest runner out of everyone.

    OMG, we had to do just about the same thing!! I refused, I used my friends stats. As each person got weighed the rest of the class was all crowded round looking... I just could not do that!!. There was a few times for various reasons they asked to weigh us in school, I always refused!! hehe.

    A bad time at school (I just got so many!) the teacher was talking about averages in maths class, and she said something like 'James is the lightest boy in the class and Joselito is the heaviest,so everyone else is in between' She didn't even weigh us, just assumed! I was sat there all shocked and wounded,. haha!

    There is also a whole load of stuff happened in PE lessons, theyr were the worst!
    xxxx
  • That has also happened to me, but to take it a step further, when you sit in one of those chairs at a picnic and the legs sink into the ground....then you really need help getting out of the chair.
  • GmeB
    GmeB Posts: 70 Member
    breaking my new beach chair,ON the beach
  • slimsdown
    slimsdown Posts: 122 Member
    hmmm too many to count ..... guess the worst was from a work collegue he said " uld look so much bettter if you lost weight, i mean you have a pretty face but you would look better losing a stone or 2"

    i cryed like a baby after that comment, but he is now in a retirement home hahahaha whos laughing now
  • Canther
    Canther Posts: 14
    The day in high school I realized I was unable to shop any where in the mall except for the large department stores anymore.

    Not fitting in the Superman ride at Six Flags over Georgia and my special needs friend getting upset and making a scene about it.

    On a school trip in middle school, two friends stole a pair of my jeans and showed everyone how they could both fit in my jeans.

    All of those happened over 10 years ago, but none of it was enough to spark a change. It wasn't until recently when I got a new job and they ordered personalized shirts for me. I could still wear 2X in most brands, so that's what size I requested. They gave me 5 personalized shirts and they were ridiculously short. Enough for my gut to hang out the bottom of them. I was also unable to keep them tucked in. I wore my work hoodie as much as possible to hid it, but living in the south, the acceptable time for wearing a hoodie is fairly short. It killed my spirit every time I had to put one of those shirts on.
  • phoenixoncemore
    phoenixoncemore Posts: 196 Member
    I have one that I gave out as kid, the shame lives with me to this day. I was waiting on a plane to get off, jammed in behind this larger lady and my Mum was yelling at me to move so she could get out from wedged behind the seat. To this day I don't know why these words came out of my mouth:

    "I can't move Mum, I'm stuck behind this lady with the big bum!"

    I got a huge smack from my mother right there and then. (Deservedly so) I remember that moment and how the poor lady looked at me and I still feel awful right to my core. I was quite young and a few years later, I put on the dreaded puppy fat and got the fat comments myself. I still believe it was kharma. I hope the lady has forgotten it but knowing what I know now I doubt it, I imagine I'll always be that horrible child to her.

    I call it puppy fat as I ballooned at 11 and it sort of redistributed and shrank away by the age of 13 into a size 10-12 figure of a, ahem, more adult female. Unfortunately I spent the couple of years that I started high school being the fat kid and that label doesn't ever leave.

    The ones that stick out for me are:

    Playing at arm wrestling with my cousin of the same age when I was about 12 and when I won he said "Yeah, well you are a lot chunkier that me" Ouch.

    And this thing at primary school where we were given jobs in rotation during breaks, during my rotation of holding the doors open for the other kids to come back in a boy came up to me, right in my face and shouted "BIG, FAT, UGLY, BOUNCER". I laughed it off in front of the others but I went to the toilets later and bawled. :cry:
  • phoenixoncemore
    phoenixoncemore Posts: 196 Member
    Why do people think its Ok to abuse others who are overweight? Can you imagine having someonelean out of a car and shout "Go F*cking you cold turkey you smoker" ...In fact there are lots of words to abuse fat people but I can't think of a single one for smokers, why is that?

    I can tell you that people do, in fact, shout that and much worse to smokers.

    Why do you think shouting abuse at one group of people is so wrong but completely admirable to shout abuse at a different group?

    My favourite is somebody telling me that because I smoke I deserved to die young, when I was outside having a cigarette. It's NEVER ok to say stuff like that to people, much like I shouldn't go up to a fat person and say "Because you haven't controlled your weight you deserve to get heart disease and die early" :explode:

    Edited to add: FYI, you know how when someone yells abuse at you for being fat and it makes you feel awful and just want to stuff yourself with a massive cake? Guess what reaction happens for getting abuse for smoking? Get stressed and want another cigarette! It didn't help that I was cutting down when this bloke made the above comment to me, and it pretty much blew that day right out of the water for my cutting down effort.
  • One that stands out was at a theme park about to get on a ride with my bf at the time... and a young girl pulled me aside and with hands on perfect little hips asked me infront of the whole group "ummm like are you preggas or what? Coz if you are you really can't go on this ride..." I just died.. it ruined my entire day!
    Another one that makes me shudder... I was at a bar having a great time with my friends and I hear a snide remark from a guy trying to give his mate hell "go for the whale, she won't say no- it's not like she'll ever get anyone else so you're in!" he was looking directly at me.
    I will not be the fat girl forever...
  • PayneAS
    PayneAS Posts: 669 Member
    I was on a date (years ago) we went to a concert, we were late. We couldn't find ANY parking, so finally we found a spot we had to park real close to another car. He got out and walked around to my side. I couldn't fit out the door, I climbed into the back seat to try the back door, still wouldn't fit, we had to go find another parking spot, and that took like 15 minutes. I could tell he was irritated. I wanted to D I E E E E E E E E E E.


    I still get embarrassed thinking about it, Omg! Depressing.

    why didn't he just back out let you out then pull up into the same spot? It may have been your embarrassing "fat" moment but it wasn't a great moment for parking strategies either. I've had to do this not because of being fat but because sometime people can't stay between the lines and the only spot left just barely holds the car.

    I suppose I should tell mine now... restaurant booths were my bane, I had to turn down the only seats left because I couldn't fit between the table and the booth seat and wait until a table opened up.

    I thought the exact same thing about him just backing out!! You may have been the big one, but he was certainly not the brightest crayon in the box.

    But then if you parked there, the other person can't get IN. I've had people park so close to me that i've had to crawl in thru the passenger door. If there's not room for a passenger to get out, then I, as the driver of my car, can't get IN :(

    But it says in the original post that the guy got out of the car just fine. I can understand your post, I'm sure it happens occasionally, however the person above though was totally right about the guy not being the brightest crayon in the box.
  • TxAngel79
    TxAngel79 Posts: 318 Member
    My ever so sweet precious babygirl, one day said "Momma did you know you're a little fat and have a big butt?" Started my "lifestyle" change the next day!!! Have to love the brutal honesty of a child!!
  • pittskaa
    pittskaa Posts: 319 Member
    my doctor thought i might have worms because of the strange marks on my stomach.
    she was a new doctor it was her first week.
    they were just my stretch marks.
  • far to many to list...lol
  • emilym_3
    emilym_3 Posts: 62
    *Hug* I would have helped.
  • ChristaLee72
    ChristaLee72 Posts: 27 Member
    I went from driving a Ford Ranger pick-up to an Escape and then to a 4 door Explorer. My dad asked me if I was upgrading to bigger vehicles to accommodate my weight gain. ugh...
  • TrailRunner61
    TrailRunner61 Posts: 2,505 Member
    I was alone when I had mine but it was still hard. I saw that the 'cute' swimsuit I bought at Target and had worn all summer was actually a maternity suit. I wondered how many people, if any, knew that it was and wondered when I swam with my white-haired husband, if I really was pregnant. I was 50 at the time. Thank God I didn't run into an actual pregnant woman wearing the same suit!

    That is how I came up with my sn on here. I'm very happy to say that I no longer look pregnant! :)
  • ChristaLee72
    ChristaLee72 Posts: 27 Member
    Having my friend tell me she had a hard time finding a bridesmaid dress that flattered because I was the only plus size person in their bridal party.

    Wow...some friend!!!
  • smithy85
    smithy85 Posts: 104 Member
    Went to a fair ground with a friend, sat on one of the rides and they came around to clip you in the harness.

    He said to me ''squeeze in'' but I would of had to of chucked my stomach over my shoulder to get in the ride, I was asked to get off the ride infront of a huge que, a full ride and left my friend on their, that was one of my worst moments!! to make it even worse the guy should at the que ''room for one more as the last person couldnt fit in the harness!!!'' OMFG - really did he need to shout that!

    Also once went out to the outdoor pool with my partner, one guy said my legs are bigger than his waist and I shouldnt have them out it was disgusting.

    Also went to the pub one night and one guy said jesus look at her arms, they are bigger than my legs....how fat is she?

    All disturbing points that led to me eating my feelings!
  • BrunetteRunner87
    BrunetteRunner87 Posts: 591 Member
    I worked for a cell phone company and answered the phone. It was a lady (quite obviously not from the US) who said "the chubby girl helped my niece and the money didn't go on the account." It was an easy mistake to fix but I was the "chubby" girl! I was only 10-15 lbs overweight at the time, so I was "chubby" but I don't think I was big enough that my weight was really that noticeable. Actually I was more mad than anything, maybe her culture thinks its ok to call and refer to someone as "the chubby girl," but it's actually kind of rude. I should have said sorry there are no chubby girls who work here!
  • emilym_3
    emilym_3 Posts: 62
    The pregnancy thing has happened to me on more than one occasion. :-/ That's the worst. My other humiliating "fat" moment was when my grandmother made a comment that I must have gained all the weight that my mother has lost. Rude... still haven't forgiven her for that snide remark.

    My Nana said something like "you know big women aren't attractive," when I was like 10 years old. I've never been close to her after that.
  • pag41989
    pag41989 Posts: 39 Member
    It would be either when I walked into Victorias Secret and was told they didn't carry anything bigger in my size when I was just used to wearing a size 3 just a couple years ago. Or going to my best friend's bachelorette party and overhearing some guy at the club calling me the "fat friend" :/
  • We were buying a new toiletseat at Ikea, when I showed my boyfriend a simple, plain white one. He responds "are you sure can fit your *kitten* on there?" Straight face, not joking - at all - so I stare at him with my mouth open. "No, seriously, do you think you will fit on there?" That hurt so much! I never knew he thought I was too big! Sure did then.


    Another one, very recent and also my reason for being on MFP: a friend of my boyfriend asks me if I'm sure me and my sister are related. "Why?" I ask. "Well because you have a big *kitten* and she doesnt." And he wasnt trying to be funny.. My friends were standing there, wishing they didnt hear that comment. Well, so did I!!


    Great thing is; the butt is getting smaller :wink:
  • Absidey
    Absidey Posts: 116 Member
    The reverse of getting asked if you're pregnant when you're not: I was excited when I crossed the "pregnant not fat" threshold with my daughter. For most of my pregnancy, people would eye me, study my belly, usually decide it was safer to say nothing, and then avoid eye contact. Smart move, but I was still happy when it got to the point people were sure I really was. Then the "Are you having twins?" questions started, but I was so happy to be visibily pregnant I didn't mind.

    I've gotten the question when I wasn't, though, too. The worst was when I was getting fitted for a corset, and the manager came jogging up to me, slightly paniced, and tried to get the sales person helping me to stop, because it could hurt the baby.
  • Clownfish423
    Clownfish423 Posts: 108 Member
    Gosh, there have been so many....being mistaken for pregnant, realizing I had a huge walk-in closet full of clothes but only about 3 or 4 things I could fit into, the shame of shopping in the plus department and hoping I didn't run into anybody I knew, but this one really stands out. A big group of my family was gathered around the dining room table over the holidays. We had just finished our meal when my sister patted her husband's belly (who was NOT fat) and made the comment that he had to go on a diet, he was ALMOST 200 POUNDS. Everybody laughed except me - I was mortified. I don't think she had a clue what I really weighed. I felt my face turn red with embarrassment. I'm pretty sure it was noticed...
  • rickpearce
    rickpearce Posts: 100 Member
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  • rickpearce
    rickpearce Posts: 100 Member
    I'm a dad. 2 young boys and soon to add a baby girl. It breaks my heart to think about a dad saying something like this to his baby girl. WTF? The fact that you see him 1 or 2 times a year speaks a lot of him... He'll realize one day what he's done and it will haunt him.
    Oh... a second one, not really an embarrassing fat moment, but an upsetting one! I was 15yo I think and I was getting ready to go out with my friends, when my Dad asks me if I'm "taking my spare tyre out with me tonight" - looking back now, I was a size 12 and NOT fat. At the time, I believed I was overweight and developed terrible eating/binge drinking habits. 15 years later, my Dad still makes comments every time he see's me (we only see each other 1-2 times per year, but now I'm old enough and strong enough to tell him his words are hurtful and just plain wrong.
  • deadmittens
    deadmittens Posts: 536 Member
    I got kicked off a ride at the amusement park because I was too fat.
    :blushing:

    Or when I was in jr high/high school walking people would yell "wide load" and say other mean things. Kids are jerks.
  • kehuizenga
    kehuizenga Posts: 151
    Why do people think its Ok to abuse others who are overweight? Can you imagine having someonelean out of a car and shout "Go F*cking you cold turkey you smoker" ...In fact there are lots of words to abuse fat people but I can't think of a single one for smokers, why is that?

    People DO say things like that to smokers all the time actually. I think it's rude to shout out at a stranger in any case, unless they are in danger and you are saying "watch out!"
  • krg724
    krg724 Posts: 18
    I was trying on wedding dresses and I found one that I liked in a size I knew I couldn't get my left leg into, I brought it to the woman working and was about to ask if she had one similar in a larger size and before I could say a word she said "you aren't a size 6 this isn't going to fit you" and took it from me. I was horrified but went to try on the other dress my friend and my mom had picked... the lady came into the room to check on me and I was having issues with the zipper, it zipped up but the dress was too snug in a few places.. She then turns to me and says "maybe you should go and lose weight and then come back to find a dress". It was a self owned shop, but it was probably the worst day of my life. Shopping for your wedding dress should be a happy magical experience and she ruined it. I ended up settling for an online plus size order that was not my favorite because I was just so depressed with shopping. I'm determined to get to my goal weight, and when I do my husband has promised a vow renewal ceremony on the beach in WHATEVER wedding gown I choose!
  • Mine was when my father-in-law told me that I needed to lose weight because if there were ever an emergency and I was unconcious my husband would be able to get my fat *kitten* out the door without a crane.
  • krg724
    krg724 Posts: 18
    Mine was when my father-in-law told me that I needed to lose weight because if there were ever an emergency and I was unconcious my husband would be able to get my fat *kitten* out the door without a crane.

    oh wow... I'm so sorry that is terrible