advice about creepy guy at gym
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So, there's this guy..... who creeps me out. He works at my gym (which is a pretty small gym.) He seems to be pretty chummy with the owners (who are all brothers.) He talks to mom about how he wants to date me. How he "respects" me. Seems like a nice guy. Just creepy. who talks to a girls mother about her? So, I have been pretty tolerant about the guy. Til he followed me out to my car, for the second time. I have never hinted that I was interested. He even thinks I am dating someone. So I dont know what to do.
I hate hurting people's feelings. I have considered getting out of the contract but its nearly 500 bucks. (Wouldnt mind joining a bigger gym anyways.) I really really dont want to be mean. Do I just grow a pair? Is there a way to soften the blow and not come off as a total B? He is persistent, I will give him that. I could start wearing a wedding ring. :huh:
I hate hurting people's feelings. I have considered getting out of the contract but its nearly 500 bucks. (Wouldnt mind joining a bigger gym anyways.) I really really dont want to be mean. Do I just grow a pair? Is there a way to soften the blow and not come off as a total B? He is persistent, I will give him that. I could start wearing a wedding ring. :huh:
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So, there's this guy..... who creeps me out. He works at my gym (which is a pretty small gym.) He seems to be pretty chummy with the owners (who are all brothers.) He talks to mom about how he wants to date me. How he "respects" me. Seems like a nice guy. Just creepy. who talks to a girls mother about her? So, I have been pretty tolerant about the guy. Til he followed me out to my car, for the second time. I have never hinted that I was interested. He even thinks I am dating someone. So I dont know what to do.
I hate hurting people's feelings. I have considered getting out of the contract but its nearly 500 bucks. (Wouldnt mind joining a bigger gym anyways.) I really really dont want to be mean. Do I just grow a pair? Is there a way to soften the blow and not come off as a total B? He is persistent, I will give him that. I could start wearing a wedding ring. :huh:
Yea, that could lead to unpleasant things. Just tell him your taken. Or let the owners know. You wont come off as a b if you let him know how you feel. Otherwise you dont know when it will stop or how far it will go. Also carry a tazer0 -
He talks to mom about how he wants to date me. How he "respects" me. Seems like a nice guy.
Yea, that sounds super creepy. I hate it when nice guys respect me. :huh:0 -
Sorry, I'll stop.0
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Sorry, I'll stop.0
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If he's making you uncomfortable, SAY SO. If it continues after you ask him to back off, speak with the owners about it and ask them to let you out of contract without the fee. Let them know their employee is harassing you and you want out.0
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Find a male friend that will go to the gym with you. Act like bf and gf. If he doesn't get the hint, talk to the mgt. It doesn't matter if he is friends with them.0
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Next time he follows you or something, tell him that your boyfriend wouldn't like it if some guy is following you. Tell your mom to stop being chummy with him.0
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Super creeper... I used to work with a guy like this.. never came out and said he liked me.. but always gave me this "longing" look and "chatted" up with me when we worked together, or I stopped by to get groceries (food store) and later we ended up at college together in band... Needless to say VERY creepy but I grew a pair and told him I had a boyfriend (which I didn't at the time but it worked) WHEW! That was a close one! hahah0
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Sorry, I'll stop.
:laugh:
But yeah, I would just be up front with him and say listen, I'm here to workout and I'm not looking for anything more.0 -
BE MEAN! in a nice way lol if that makes sense. just say sorry im not interested would you mind please leaving me alone? I dont want to be in a relationship right now and given your attraction to me I dont even think we could be friends at this moment because its awkward for me. I'm sorry.0
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Next time he follows you or something, tell him that your boyfriend wouldn't like it if some guy is following you. Tell your mom to stop being chummy with him.
however on your OP... ^^^^ This!0 -
He talks to mom about how he wants to date me. How he "respects" me. Seems like a nice guy.
Yea, that sounds super creepy. I hate it when nice guys respect me. :huh:
Haha... It's just a weird thing to say.0 -
If he gives you the creeps, I'd go with your gut. I'm the type of person who will just be a B to someone who gives me the creeps so that they get the hint that I'm not interested, so that's probably not helpful to you.
I would try to not engage him in conversation if you're not interested in him. If he persists, I'd let the staff know the situation at the gym, and let them know that it creeps you out enough that you are considering canceling your contract, and I bet you they would help you out with the situation, if he doesn't get the message by you not talking to him.
By the way, I do think if you just don't talk to him or tell him that you're really trying to focus on your workouts and end any conversation he starts, he may get the picture, and that's not being mean, but being firm.
Good luck :flowerforyou:0 -
If he's making you uncomfortable, SAY SO. If it continues after you ask him to back off, speak with the owners about it and ask them to let you out of contract without the fee. Let them know their employee is harassing you and you want out.
My thoughts exactly. You aren't acting like a ***** is some strange mofo is stalking you and you tell him to stop. Being a ***** would be how badly I would cuss him and the owners out if I were the one telling him to stop.0 -
Just ignore him. He will get the hint.0
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Some people need to be told quite bluntly. I am not interrested leave me alone. If you don;t care about him who cares if his feelings are hurt.0
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Next time he follows you to your car mace him. He should get the hint then and stay away.
Just kidding.
Maybe.0 -
Ewe, so creepy, especially the following you out to the car thing. Obviously he's not getting the hint, you should just be strait with him that you are not OK with this.0
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I think it would be more mean NOT to put an end to it. If you don't he will keep thinking he has a chance.0
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I had a similiar situation in which I would always stop to get coffee at a gas station. The same guy was working everytime I went in so I was always nice. Long story short, he followed me home, went through my mail to learn my name, and would drive by my house constantly. In other words, he started stalking me. I had to take out a personal protection order on him. If someone gives you the creeps, go with that and tell the owners you want OUT!!!!0
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