Scared to get back in the dating scene

juscallmeb

Thank you for all the replies. They are exactly what I needed to hear. I guess after trying to make someone else happy for two years, I have forgotten how to make myself happy and live my life for me.

I used to be a strong, confident woman. And this relationship took a bit of that away from me. I guess by focusing on myself, I can find that again.

It's just so scary! :frown:

it seems scary - because it's different. but fear not.
as you said - you were busy making someone else happy for the past 2 years, you got comfortable doing that, (I was the same way in a past relationship). but with every relationship and breakup - it's an experience and you learn.
you fnd out what you want and dont want in a relationship.... also keep in mind -don't change who you are for some guy. Be that STRONG CONFIDENT WOMAN! i'm sure in your future you will meet many men who find that in itself attracting!
be you and love you.

ohnuts14

Why would you let yourself go just because you had a boyfriend? I've been married over 10 years and damn if I would let myself go, that makes no sense whatsoever.

Well, usually people meet someone who loves them for who they are, and not so much for how they look.

Ekoria

Why would you let yourself go just because you had a boyfriend? I've been married over 10 years and damn if I would let myself go, that makes no sense whatsoever.

Well, usually people meet someone who loves them for who they are, and not so much for how they look.

^This was exactly what I thought

ChrisRS87

Why would you let yourself go just because you had a boyfriend? I've been married over 10 years and damn if I would let myself go, that makes no sense whatsoever.

Well, usually people meet someone who loves them for who they are, and not so much for how they look.

^This was exactly what I thought

I set high standards for myself, I don't think its unfair to hold my partner to those standards. The same character traits I am attracted to are closely related to the ones that drive someone to stay in good shape. A slip in appearance is just the surface of the underlying problem.

slkehl

I would give yourself some time. I'm sure guys will take notice of your new single status and start asking you out in a few weeks, but don't rush into anything. In my opinion, it's best to say no and fall in love with yourself again first!

CaraColleen

Why would you let yourself go just because you had a boyfriend? I've been married over 10 years and damn if I would let myself go, that makes no sense whatsoever.

Well, usually people meet someone who loves them for who they are, and not so much for how they look.

^This was exactly what I thought

I set high standards for myself, I don't think its unfair to hold my partner to those standards. The same character traits I am attracted to are closely related to the ones that drive someone to stay in good shape. A slip in appearance is just the surface of the underlying problem.

Yeah, this is totally off topic and was in no reason why I broke up with him. (Yes, I broke up with him because we were in different places in our lives.) But we all are looking for different things, and it's just a personal preference.

Ekoria

Why would you let yourself go just because you had a boyfriend? I've been married over 10 years and damn if I would let myself go, that makes no sense whatsoever.

Well, usually people meet someone who loves them for who they are, and not so much for how they look.

^This was exactly what I thought

I set high standards for myself, I don't think its unfair to hold my partner to those standards. The same character traits I am attracted to are closely related to the ones that drive someone to stay in good shape. A slip in appearance is just the surface of the underlying problem.

^ Woah I am out. My mum taught me "If you don't have anything nice to say, dont say anything at all"