No compliments on weight loss...

linwaggs

So, I am doing this FOR ME, but does anyone else get sick of.people not noticing your efforts? I have lost almost 30 lbs this year and started weight training and gone from a size 16 to a 10. I am 5'8 (and a half) and started at 190 and am almost down to 160. I dropped 15 lbs this summer from working my rear end off and just saw some colleagues I haven't seen since school let out (I teach) and NO ONE commented. No, "Wow, you are looking good" or "Have you lost weight?" I just feel like I am working so hard, and no one notices/cares. I guess I just need an internet hug .

happyfeetrebel1

I had to lose around 50 lbs and 2 sizes for anyone to even notice. But, people WILL notice. Sometimes people just don't want to comment cause they're unsure if you're ok and stuff.

Keep it up, the comments will start coming

Halleeon

Yeah, I agree...and perhaps, especially with women and weight being such a sensitive subject, they may not know how to bring it up in the right way. What if you didn't lose any weight, then does that mean they were calling you fat? I mean, people's minds go on all sorts of conflicting ways before they decide to make a comment...especially on a potentially touchy subject.

Also, then there are the haters. The ones who are so jealous and miserable themselves that they can't bring themselves to say anything nice to you. I love those types...I just smile inwardly to myself and wish them a **** you too...haha.

Connieburt

( hug):flowerforyou:

Candywoodroof

So, I am doing this FOR ME, but does anyone else get sick of.people not noticing your efforts? I have lost almost 30 lbs this year and started weight training and gone from a size 16 to a 10. I am 5'8 (and a half) and started at 190 and am almost down to 160. I dropped 15 lbs this summer from working my rear end off and just saw some colleagues I haven't seen since school let out (I teach) and NO ONE commented. No, "Wow, you are looking good" or "Have you lost weight?" I just feel like I am working so hard, and no one notices/cares. I guess I just need an internet hug .

I lost about 60 pounds before I was sick of all the compliments. I had a married man make a comment that was way innappropriate. I don't like all the attention when I lose weight. I want people to notice me for me not for the "skinnier" me. Sometimes I don't compliment others who have lost weight because I don't want them to feel that there is so much emphasis on their now "fit" body. So, don't take it personally. Maybe if you lose a little more people might notice but like you said "I am doing this FOR ME." congrats on your weight loss so far! :flowerforyou:

musiche

I have lost a ton of weight, and some people are just floored, and some people say absolutely nothing. People are weird about change, I think it intimidates some and makes others uncomfortable. Once, I was laid off for 6 months, and had a lot of time to concentrate on my so I put my effort into weight loss and lost 60+ pounds. I returned to work and one girl was like "Holy cow! You lost a boat load of weight!". Another girl I had been talking to (who hadn't said anything yet) was shocked and said "Wow, you're just right out with it eh?" and then said "I need to do what you did. How'd you do it?" So I think they kind of explains the mindset of some.

You did this for you. I know compliments are nice. Be patient, they'll come eventually. Stay proud!

ecrim

I am also a teacher, and I think there are a couple reasons that people may not be saying anything. First, even though people always think that teachers are the kindest, most nurturing people, the truth is that we often treat each other terribly. I would rather spend 3 hours with 100 high school students than spend 10 minutes with 10 teachers. There are probably many people who notice but are so jealous and insecure that they don't say anything. The other thing is that a lot of teachers are super stressed out right now. They may be so focused on getting ready for students that your success hasn't registered on their radars. Be patient.

meshashesha2012

i'm actually glad people dont fawn all over me for losing weight.i'm doing it for health reasons so i think it's weird if people would make a big deal out of it. i also get yearly pap smears and visit the dentist twice a year, i dont need anyone congratulating me on those things either

Owlie45

First off, congrats.

I know some don't like to say anything out of fear of why you are losing weight. My uncle has lost a lot of weight because hes been battling cancer, so did my grandma.
My mom had lost 70 pounds when my uncle, the one battling cancer, approached her about it. He actually waited until she was alone and quietly ask if she was okay and that she wasn't sick.

youcandooeet

I lose weight in my face and abdomen first, so people noticed as early as ten pounds. If you lose weight more evenly around your body, it might take a while, but don't worry. They will notice!

noogie98

Congratulations!!

<<HUG>>

nwhitley

Teacher also. As other posters mentioned some people are uncomfortable mentioning someone's weight. I never know what to say exactly, especially if the person never mentioned they were concerned about their weight previously. It feels sort of out of the blue or critical (not the right word, but don't know how to explain it).

Wow!! You look great or gosh, you've lost a lot of weight? It just feels like you thought the person was overweight before, which I may have but I don't want the person thinking I was thinking or caring about their weight. But, this only pertains to coworkers. Friends and family, I would definitely mention the weight loss.

Jenloma

I believe people are jealous. I have lost 24 pounds and only 3 people noticed. REALLY! I mean they must all be blind or jealous because it is sure noticeable. I want to see your photos!

katrinkap

i totally understand.. focus and keep up the good hard work... remember it's for you.. not others... once that weight comes off, people will turn their heads and notice!! I PROMISE!

grubb1019

I have lost 27lbs and my husband and my sister are the only two that ever say anything. And my sis is the only one encouraging me. My husband told me yesterday I better keep my clothes because I will gain it all back....sigh....Anyway, I'm a teacher too and I start school in two weeks. We shall see if anyone there says anything. So, big hug, I know how you feel. I just keep reminding myself that my clothes are falling off me and I feel great, that is what is important!

reyopo

The ladies at the salon where I work have made a few comments that made me feel like I need to defend myself. Like the "You need a cheeseburger" and, "you're so skinny...you EAT, right?" kind of stuff. For f**k's sake, It's taken me 5 1/2 MONTHS to lose only 13 pounds! I'm 5'7" and 137lbs...hardy wasting away with an ED. Seriously? If someone is going to make me defend my good habits, and reassure them that I've: busted my *kitten* in the gym, eat quite well (thank you vey much) and don't purge, "promise!"...I'd rather have no comments at all. Of course some friends have said nice things, and some said nothing. So I reckon what the above posters have said about people not wanting to make you feel awkward could very well be true...be very proud of yourself! You'll probably inspire someone to get healthy without even knowing you have!

Jenloma

That is not cool in a work setting! That really sucks and they need to mind their own business and stick a hamburger in their mouth and shove it. LOL

LittleRedBird18

So, I am doing this FOR ME, but does anyone else get sick of.people not noticing your efforts? I have lost almost 30 lbs this year and started weight training and gone from a size 16 to a 10. I am 5'8 (and a half) and started at 190 and am almost down to 160. I dropped 15 lbs this summer from working my rear end off and just saw some colleagues I haven't seen since school let out (I teach) and NO ONE commented. No, "Wow, you are looking good" or "Have you lost weight?" I just feel like I am working so hard, and no one notices/cares. I guess I just need an internet hug .

(Hug!)

technicalman

i went months feeling almost invisible. No one acted as though they noticed or said something. Then within a week, everyone i knew started asking me what i was doing. MFP has been a lifesaver for me. I have lost 86, but have at least 100 more to go. i haven't been this light in 15 years. keep up the good work and they'll come around. beware, sometimes the compliments work against your efforts. when people start saying you're losing weight, it can side-track you and you've fall off the wagon. it's happenned to me. hang in there.

jerbear1962

Sometimes guys are scared to say anything about weight loss because we don't want yelled at when it's a sickness that has a person losing...keep at it and someone will say something...you're doing great and probably look great...have a good day, Jerry

docdevore

Here's a hug. { }

stubbysticks

Yeah, I've made the mistake of complimenting someone on weight loss & turned out she'd had cancer. I'm sure people have noticed & just not said anything, plus it's harder for people who see you all the time to notice since it has happened over time. It also depends on your body composition, if that 30 lbs was pretty evenly distributed, it might take others longer to notice. I'm sure it's not personal.

docdevore

Great job on your progress!

I had to lose around 50 lbs and 2 sizes for anyone to even notice. But, people WILL notice. Sometimes people just don't want to comment cause they're unsure if you're ok and stuff.

Keep it up, the comments will start coming

dmcintyre2439

Hugs for you and I feel your pain, I too work at a school and people say nothing but is that all you' re going to eat for lunch?? :laugh: the jokes on them, I plan on being around to enjoy retirement, them well.....

dmcintyre2439

Hugs for you and I feel your pain, I too work at a school and people say nothing but is that all you' re going to eat for lunch?? :laugh: the jokes on them, I plan on being around to enjoy retirement, them well.....

SWilkins75

Congrats on the weight loss!
So in other words, other people don't really notice until you lose about 50-60lbs?? I have lost 30 and I am more excited than anyone. No one has really said,"You look like you've lost weight"..But I think a lot has to do with certain people seeing you every day (or close) through your journey. DO NOT get discourage now, esp after all of the hard work you've put in!

darlilama

It's a funny thing. There was a poster I read a while back that was upset because people DID comment! He took the "You look great!" as an insult that he'd looked terrible before. Sometimes there's just no winning.

Your co-workers may be noticing, but may not feel it's "politically correct" to mention it. YOU can always bring it up casually…. "I have so much more energy since I took some weight off. It will make keeping up with the kids this year so much easier." I bet then you'll get "Oh, I thought you had, but I wasn't sure I should say anything. I can really tell!"

Congratulations on your success!

happyfeetrebel1

I forgot to add. I work at the same place where my hubby does. I open, he closes. Several people who have NOT said anything to me about my loss, have approached him, they were afraid I was sick. I thought it was sweet that they cared, but it was sort of weird that they didn't just ask me.

SWilkins75

I forgot to add. I work at the same place where my hubby does. I open, he closes. Several people who have NOT said anything to me about my loss, have approached him, they were afraid I was sick. I thought it was sweet that they cared, but it was sort of weird that they didn't just ask me.

I would definitely know if someone lost over 100lbs!!!!!! I would ask how they did it. Of course if it was because they were sick, I'd feel like poo.

Barberini

I lost 15 pounds between January and May, and when I reached my goal I was so excited and proud if myself that I posted about it on Facebook. Once I did that, people started commenting. It was as though they noticed but didn't want to say anything, but once I acknowledged that I was trying to lose weight, they had permission so mention it, too. It also helps in a social setting now everyone is aware that I'm living a healthier lifestyle, they don't try to force bad foods onto me.

beekuzz

:flowerforyou: You definitely deserve hugs. You've done a great job. I agree that they are probably jealous as well. Keep that pride for yourself, but I can understand how it feels. I've been on both sides: Years ago, I lost about 50 lbs and all my work buddies were watching it just fall off. They mentioned it all the time, so that got a bit embarrassing after awhile. But, I didn't bother to learn to maintain my progress, so I gained that and more back.

Now, here's the kicker: My older daughter (30) told my younger daughter (18) that she feels bad but that she just DOES NOT WANT TO BE SUPPORTIVE to me. So turns out she's ignoring the changes I'm going through. Guess she is going through the "I hate my mother" phase of her life. But, I push on - FOR ME!!! And it's working. I'm determined to meet my goal before I turn 50 in Sept 2013, and very soon afterwards.

Good luck and keep strong. If I can do this with my own daughter dissing me, then anyone can!