Are "big chics" submissive?

RLDeShazo
RLDeShazo Posts: 356 Member
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I had decided to get back out there and meet people, so I joined one of those online dating sites. Met a guy named Chris, and we talked for several days. Finally decided to meet. Well, he started getting a little "handsy" and I shut him down. He told me, "This isn't going to work out. All the big chics I've ever met have been submissive. You're too dominate for me." LOL

Me, dominate? Um, Ok. I figure it is more my self-confidence growing as a result of losing weight.


So what do you guys and gals think. Are "big chics" (his words, not mine......it was like fingernails on a chalkboard) submissive?
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  • corn63
    corn63 Posts: 1,580 Member
    HAHAHA He's reading "submissive" as probably characterizing that all big chicks need love and will lower their standards to get it.

    Good for you on not lowering your standards for that *kitten*. Lower your standards when you see fit:)
  • brandiuntz
    brandiuntz Posts: 2,717 Member
    Chris is an *kitten*. Sounds like he looks for women with low self-esteem to try and dominate.
  • hbrittingham
    hbrittingham Posts: 2,518 Member
    Apparently he thinks "big chicks" are easy. What a loser!
  • pastryari
    pastryari Posts: 8,646 Member
    Sadly, overweight women do tend to have lower self-esteem. Many guys have realized this and taken advantage of that.

    Good for you, though. You should never put up with that. :flowerforyou:

    Edit: Damn, spelling mistakes left and right today.
  • halobender
    halobender Posts: 780 Member
    Chris is an *kitten*. Sounds like he looks for women with low self-esteem to try and dominate.
    This is it precisely; he's just looking to get some action and thinks, "Well, she's going to be stoked that I'm even talking to her."
  • spade117
    spade117 Posts: 2,466 Member
    You're too dominate for me."

    Dominant.
  • Iceman1800
    Iceman1800 Posts: 476
    I've found bigger girls are a bit easier but it was always good. Always.
  • RLDeShazo
    RLDeShazo Posts: 356 Member
    You're too dominate for me."

    Dominant.

    Thanks for the correction. Seriously. I knew I was spelling it wrong, but didn't want to take the time to look it up.
  • sweetheart03622
    sweetheart03622 Posts: 928 Member
    Submissive?! I think he meant that most big girls are desperate. Screw him.

    For the record, I'm a size 10 and I'm definitely more submissive lol
  • poshcouture
    poshcouture Posts: 610
    Chris is a babaso! Look that up...

    I may be lusciously plump; however, I do have standards and I respect myself enough not to lower them. Kudos to you, mi'ja for having some sense AND some taste! :wink:
  • ilovemybuggy
    ilovemybuggy Posts: 1,584 Member
    UGH- What a jerk!! Good on you for turning him down :) you're better off!
  • RLDeShazo
    RLDeShazo Posts: 356 Member
    I've found bigger girls are a bit easier but it was always good. Always.


    um, yeah. Ok....
  • LaMujerMasBonitaDelMundo
    LaMujerMasBonitaDelMundo Posts: 3,634 Member
    Sadly, overweight women do tend to have lower self-esteem. Many guys have realized this and taken advantage of that.
    We can blame the media for that which is why some overweight people have lower self-esteem. However I don't think weight alone dictates it, family, friends & the environment are also big factors. If you have unhealthy issues on yourself then it won't make a difference whether you're fat or skinny.

    I'm not overweight anymore but my low self-esteem still hasn't changed. By the way I'm not submissive despite of that. Its just not in my vocabulary, LOL

    EDIT: Great job turning that douche down.
  • christine24t
    christine24t Posts: 6,063 Member
    HAHAHA He's reading "submissive" as probably characterizing that all big chicks need love and will lower their standards to get it.

    That is what he means.
  • xtinalovexo
    xtinalovexo Posts: 1,376 Member
    I'm submissive, but not to just anyone. My standards are so high that I need a genetically engineered man to fulfill them.
  • VelociMama
    VelociMama Posts: 3,119 Member
    Chris sounds like a douche. Move on. Find someone else who isn't a douchepickle deluxe of the turdmonkey order.
  • TheFunBun
    TheFunBun Posts: 793 Member
    LOL. Yeah, sounds like a ****. Submission doesn't mean, "Yeah, I'll let you into my pantalons just because you want in"

    I am a big chick, and it would probably be creepy if my amazon *kitten* was submissive.

    Just for the record, the way to shut him down is to say that you're only submissive for /real men/. ;)
  • juliecat1
    juliecat1 Posts: 3,450 Member
    That dude is a douche that is confusing submissive for low self esteem. Two very different things
  • Mhaney
    Mhaney Posts: 467 Member
    I am a submissive no matter what my size has been, but that doesn't mean I put out on a first date.

    This guy's definition of submissive is "easy and low self esteem." I am only submissive to a man that deserves it.
  • Laura_Suzie
    Laura_Suzie Posts: 1,288 Member
    Just because you have self-esteem doesn't mean you're "dominate". It just means you won't let some creep you met online fondle you.

    Chris sounds like a weirdo with a bruised ego and possibly abusive. You can do better, honey. And you should be proud of yourself for not letting him violate you.
  • bekkaL85
    bekkaL85 Posts: 133 Member
    Uhhhh...no. Maybe is his experience, which is why he goes for them. He thinks that we are easy pickings because we are lonely. Just because I'm fat doesn't mean I'm lonely. A lot of bigger girls do have self esteem problems, and I am one of those. But it's also a matter of what we are taught. My mother taught me well. They have to earn the right to be with me. No one gets a ride for free. I've heard that stuff since BEFORE I knew what it meant.

    Long story short? Just because I'm fat doesn't mean that I have to grovel and be thankful that you took the time to feel me up. I have standards too, and they don't involve self righteous idiots who think just because you're fat you're easy
  • victoria4321
    victoria4321 Posts: 1,719 Member
    I've found bigger girls are a bit easier but it was always good. Always.

    LOL I feel like he meant this as a compliment to all the big n ez chix out there
  • CannibalisticVegetarian
    CannibalisticVegetarian Posts: 1,255 Member
    I've heard this time and time again and it just baffles me. This was actually one of the topics that was part of an extended discussion segment on the radio. Back and forth they went about big women. The guys (and even the one or two girls there---I don't listen to this station much to know who's who) were asking for people to call in and give their opinions on whether or not this was the case.

    It was also covered that big women were usually extremely nice and I recall one of the women theorizing that this was probably because big women are often overlooked as opposed to their skinny smaller counterparts, and so they try to be as sweet as possible since they don't win in the physical department and that because of her self-esteem people will be reluctant to talk about her negatively as much. On and on they went, even talking about how bigger chicks are just easier and more submissive because they can't exactly get the prize, so they have to settle for whatever comes their way.

    None of this is verbatim mind you. This all happened years ago in any case, but it was still so stupid sounding that I couldn't forget it. Should've called in and said some choice words.. Stupid passive-aggressiveness. :grumble:
  • LoggingForLife
    LoggingForLife Posts: 504 Member
    I think you dodged a bullet. Good for you for standing up for yourself!
  • oregonzoo
    oregonzoo Posts: 4,251 Member
    Yikes, no big loss there for you! Eep sorry you had to run into such a creep.
  • UncleMac
    UncleMac Posts: 13,762 Member
    I think you dodged a bullet. Good for you for standing up for yourself!
    Agreed!!
  • redheaddee
    redheaddee Posts: 2,005 Member
    To answer the topic question: only when we want to be. My husband is my partner, but sometimes, I am happy to be submissive to him. Because I trust him and know that he would never hurt me. And it is sexy that he can fling me over his shoulder and smack my @ss, because as big as I am (5'10", 250 lbs) it makes me feel girly. Sounds like this guy was just a first date failure.
  • TxAlpha
    TxAlpha Posts: 173 Member
    All women are submissive....just depends on if you give them a reason to be......Just my opinion....
  • obrendao
    obrendao Posts: 318
    I agree that dude was a douchelord and a half. Consider yourself lucky, and here's to you having a much more pleasant dating experience.

    He probably did mean easy when he said submissive. Oh and the idea that bigger girls are easy is b.s. Lame.
  • chlorisaann
    chlorisaann Posts: 366 Member
    Sadly, overweight women do tend to have lower self-esteem. Many guys have realized this and taken advantage of that.

    Good for you, though. You should never put up with that. :flowerforyou:

    Edit: Damn, spelling mistakes left and right today.

    ^^ This!

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