Are "big chics" submissive?

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  • ShaunaLaNee
    ShaunaLaNee Posts: 188 Member
    I would've kicked him in the nose, yep:)
  • Arexxx
    Arexxx Posts: 486 Member
    He just sounds like a tool.

    A persons weight doesn't really have an effect on their sexy time. I think o.o

    I know some large women that are all about being in charge haha
  • 1Kristine1
    1Kristine1 Posts: 697 Member
    What an A-hole.
    If I ever met such a guy, it would be interesting indeed.
    "Ill show you submissive! Watch me kick your ***!"
  • jkestens63
    jkestens63 Posts: 1,164 Member
    I've found bigger girls are a bit easier but it was always good. Always.

    LOL I feel like he meant this as a compliment to all the big n ez chix out there

    Lol ... big or small, I like getting it,,, if that makes me "submissive" (code for easy
  • rextcat
    rextcat Posts: 1,408 Member
    i have only ever met one "fluffy" girl that was submissive aka door mat. i think he was just ticked your not a "sure thing"- by the way those come in all sizes:smile:
  • Jellyphant
    Jellyphant Posts: 1,400 Member
    Definitely more shy, but I don't see how that has to do with standards. I'm a fatty and I'm vain as hell with men. /shrug
  • Shannon2714
    Shannon2714 Posts: 843 Member
    Chris is an *kitten*. Sounds like he looks for women with low self-esteem to try and dominate.

    Pretty much this. You're not being dominant by not wanting him pawing at you the very first time you meet! What a jerk.
  • WifeNMama
    WifeNMama Posts: 2,876 Member
    Submission has nothing to do with letting a man take advantage of you. It speaks more of the trustworthiness of the man than it does the personality of the woman.

    I do hope there was a well placed knee in his groin after that exchange.
  • flobeedoodle
    flobeedoodle Posts: 176 Member
    Sounds wike hims feewings got hurt when you had the nerve to turn him down, and he decided to say something $#itty to put you in your place.

    My gut instinct would be to respond that big chicks need big d!cks, and he is not packing enough to be worth my time. But I'm not a nice person.

    (Really, it censors "****"?!? What if my name is Richard? What if I want to discuss former President Richard "Tricky ****" Nixon? Does it scan for context?)
  • nicholettebell
    nicholettebell Posts: 414
    When I was bigger I would take any kind of attention from any man I could. It was because I had such a low self worth. It was quite sad. It took a bit of time for me to realize the path that I was going down. I actually convinced myself that I was okay with being treated so terribly. I took a few years off dating and now feel much more confident in myself and have a much better view of who I really am. But back in the day, I would have let that D-bag get "handsy" with me....sigh. Sad.
  • aj11016
    aj11016 Posts: 65
    This killed me lol! I am not even close to the submissive type, no matter what size I've been I've always kinda been a little... well... dominant. This reminded me of when I ran into a guy I knew at a bar (from a time when I was younger and a lot thinner) he told me that I was "sexy as hell... for a big girl" (that big girl part still burns my @$$) needless to say, I told off :noway:
  • m0mofw4r
    m0mofw4r Posts: 74 Member
    I don't necessarily agree - I think that being a "big girl" can still allow a girl to be sexy and adventurous and quite the opposite of a submissive. Okay, so I gained a crap-load of weight, it doesn't mean that I still can't make a man fall to his knees. I've been thin but I've never been a "small girl." Even with all the self image issues I've battled throughout my life, sex is something intimate and/or in the moment and in the end nothing really matters as long as you both get yours :p
  • weighlossforbaby
    weighlossforbaby Posts: 847 Member
    Not a big women are easy. Good that you were dominant and shut him down.
  • LiteBrite007
    LiteBrite007 Posts: 294 Member
    I'm an *kitten* so he definitely wouldn't have liked me! :tongue: I am definitely dominant over submissive ultra needy people.

    I'm a scorpio and sometimes... well.... I can really sting.:explode:

    Love and happiness:flowerforyou: for everyone! YAY! :happy:
  • dodihere
    dodihere Posts: 490
    Ugh. I read dominate and submissive and I think about whips/gags and chains.
  • Mhaney
    Mhaney Posts: 467 Member
    Ugh. I read dominate and submissive and I think about whips/gags and chains.


    sounds like a good time!
  • PaleoRDH
    PaleoRDH Posts: 266
    Tell him "That's interesting, men with small d*cks always try to be dominant. Hmm." (swift kick to the jewels and run....). Good for you. And BTW, no matter what size, there are many 'online' men just looking to get a POA and when it doesn't happen, they hurl insults like a monkey flinging poo. Don't take it personally, you obviously know your self-worth my dear. :bigsmile:
  • AngryDiet
    AngryDiet Posts: 1,349 Member
    You should be glad he's gone.
  • JennyLisT
    JennyLisT Posts: 402 Member
    I wouldn't say I'm "easy", but I'm certainly not some sort of level 10 "hard". However, I have noticed that some guys do seem surprised when their one-liners don't make me rip off my clothes, and I do think that they are operating under the assumption that me being fat means that I'm desperate.
  • CarleyLovesPets
    CarleyLovesPets Posts: 410 Member
    I'm extremely dominant and pretty aggressive.
    Sorry guys, but I usually am the one who wears the pants.

    I'm... Feisty! LOL!
  • caraiselite
    caraiselite Posts: 2,631 Member
    that's like saying all small chicks are dom..

    it doesn't work that way.

    i guess fat girls might have crappy self esteem and be more prone to being sub because they like being treated poorly (and treat themselves badly ie: self harm, overeating)

    i'm sub in bed but dom in life.
  • obrendao
    obrendao Posts: 318

    i guess fat girls might have crappy self esteem and be more prone to being sub because they like being treated poorly (and treat themselves badly ie: self harm, overeating)
    :noway: I can't believe what I just read. Seriously? WTF? lol Nice. No words can begin to describe the wrongness of this sentence.
  • ShaneOSX
    ShaneOSX Posts: 198
    Good rule of thumb, never use the thoughts of an idiot to evaluate yourself.

    And saying "big chicks" are submissive is like saying african americans only like rap music. Generalizations are never good.
  • RainHoward
    RainHoward Posts: 1,599 Member
    I'm extremely dominant and pretty aggressive.
    Sorry guys, but I usually am the one who wears the pants.

    I'm... Feisty! LOL!
    First, I think I love you a little bit.

    OK now that the perviness is out of the way. I think dude was slightly confused on the difference between submissive and easy. Women of all shapes and sizes fall into both of those categories. I've found the easy ones generally have self esteem issues, but that's not necessarily because of their size, it could be from any number of causes. Submissive? Well, you never really know what kind of kink a girl has hiding in the closet till you venture inside and find out.

    Dude wanted to play hide the willy with you and was annoyed it didn't happen. It's been said on here already that many people think large women are easy, it's not always true. It's all about personal choices on part of the person. How many fat porn stars have you seen? Or obese strippers?
  • Cait_Sidhe
    Cait_Sidhe Posts: 3,150 Member
    Seems like Chris is a little confused about what Submissive/Dominance means and is grasping at straws to make up for the rejection.
  • bbb84
    bbb84 Posts: 418 Member
    Dude was a douche.... But to answer your question I'm a big girl and I love to be the dominant one (not easy by any means) but I have no problem taking the reins and pulling on them as I like. Lol. It's men like him that prey on women with low self esteem probably bc he has low self esteem himself. Kudos to you for standing your ground! It's not easy being single, but it beats settling for less than you deserve every time!
  • Alex_is_Hawks
    Alex_is_Hawks Posts: 3,499 Member
    He doesn't know what he's talking about...he's jut trying to hurt you and make you feel inadequate...

    i'm a submissive, I was submissive when I was small, and I was submissive when I gained the weight..it had NOTHING to do with my body size and everything to do with what was going on in my mind...

    To be honest, most of the bigger women I have met in the "lifestyle" have been very outgoing, dominant, flamboyant, confident women...which is antithetical to his argument.

    Jus sayin.
  • Iceman1800
    Iceman1800 Posts: 476
    I've found bigger girls are a bit easier but it was always good. Always.

    LOL I feel like he meant this as a compliment to all the big n ez chix out there
    absolutely meant as a compliment.
  • RLDeShazo
    RLDeShazo Posts: 356 Member
    Ugh. I read dominate and submissive and I think about whips/gags and chains.

    Who knows.....maybe that's what he had in store for the second date. Glad I didn't stick around to find out.

    On to bigger and better things. :happy:
  • RLDeShazo
    RLDeShazo Posts: 356 Member
    He doesn't know what he's talking about...he's jut trying to hurt you and make you feel inadequate...

    He may have been trying to make me feel inadequate, but instead it made me feel pretty dang good. I never thought of myself as "dominant" in either the correct definition or in his really. But it made me laugh for one and made me realize that I don't need his crap or anyone else's if they aren't going to worship me. :smokin:

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