Does This Make Me a Bad MFPer?
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Unless I have something relevant and interesting or unique to say, I keep quiet. That's not just on MFP though, that's just how I operate in life generally. For some reason, it bothers people more than I'd expect.
^^this^^.....i don't have any friends on MFP. i get some, but i just don't know what to say to them. they can eat how they want, zumba all day long, etc....that's on them. i don't want to criticize, and me commenting "atta-boy" everyday seems fake to me.
i like reading the forum posts however. Some threads are motivating, some provoke ideas i can put into my fitness rotation and some (like the attention-whorey threads, y u eat back ur exercise calories, etc) are just plain ol' entertaining :laugh:0 -
I'm a crappy MFP friend. I high-5 sometimes and I do like to look at people's diaries but I'm usually on the fly and logging my stuff with a kid climbing on my head. I do try to yay!! for everyone when they weigh in though.0
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I like being invested in my MFP friends by knowing their individual goals and personalities. They seem to appreciate it. Quite honestly, I get as much out of it as they do. Plus, it allows for a good exchange of information and leads to interesting friendships.
This pretty much sums it up for me too…
Plus, I have a couple of friends who will give me a much needed kick in the pants if I start slacking on my logs. They really help me get back on track when I fall off the wagon. I try to do the same for my friends.
Granted, many of my status updates are totally non fitness-related; but most of my friends are willing to put up with my weird personality. And they seem to get a chuckle out of some of the stuff I post. So, if I can make someone smile, I chalk that up as a win :flowerforyou:0 -
I like being invested in my MFP friends by knowing their individual goals and personalities. They seem to appreciate it. Quite honestly, I get as much out of it as they do. Plus, it allows for a good exchange of information and leads to interesting friendships.
This pretty much sums it up for me too…
Plus, I have a couple of friends who will give me a much needed kick in the pants if I start slacking on my logs. They really help me get back on track when I fall off the wagon. I try to do the same for my friends.
Granted, many of my status updates are totally non fitness-related; but most of my friends are willing to put up with my weird personality. And they seem to get a chuckle out of some of the stuff I post. So, if I can make someone smile, I chalk that up as a win :flowerforyou:
You're totally worthy of putting up with
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I will comment if I am impressed with they exercise someone did. Being the lazy *kitten* that I am, it doesn't take much to impress me.
If someone posts a regular status or something, I will comment if I have something to add, but that is it.
Now, what I am diligent about is checking in with others to see how they are doing (fitness wise) other than what they post.
ETA: I don't have many "friends" and few of them comment on my stuff. I'm not into the "way to go" stuff. I need someone to be an *kitten* to me and tell me I'm being lazy.0 -
Some people want props when they do well. Others want scolded when they mess up. And there are some that only hear what they want to.
Personally, I don't care for the people that give the "WTG on your fiber intake!" or "Nice water consumption!" I, like several others here, prefer to be accountable for myself and observe what works best with others in the hopes that I may learn something new and useful. IRL I'm a social person, but with my online profiles... not so much. Go ahead and add me; I could use some more friends.
Oh, and I do enjoy perusing the forums for troll threads
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First of all, if you're not going to comment on your FL's status updates, why have friends in the first place?
I personally love motivating my friends and seeing their accomplishments. It's those accomplishments that inspire me to 'give it my best'. Yes, they are strangers and we will most likely never meet IRL, but I can learn a lot from them. I have several friends who know a lot about fitness, and find it extremely interesting to learn from their daily logs. I ask them questions, and truly love it, when they respond. I have truly come to really care about them and their daily struggles. I want to post comments on their status updates. I want to be the one who inspires them to reach their goals. They start out strangers, but end up friends. I love it!!0 -
I like being invested in my MFP friends by knowing their individual goals and personalities. They seem to appreciate it. Quite honestly, I get as much out of it as they do. Plus, it allows for a good exchange of information and leads to interesting friendships.
This pretty much sums it up for me too…
Plus, I have a couple of friends who will give me a much needed kick in the pants if I start slacking on my logs. They really help me get back on track when I fall off the wagon. I try to do the same for my friends.
Granted, many of my status updates are totally non fitness-related; but most of my friends are willing to put up with my weird personality. And they seem to get a chuckle out of some of the stuff I post. So, if I can make someone smile, I chalk that up as a win :flowerforyou:
You're totally worthy of putting up with
Awwww...thanks!! :blushing:0 -
I don't don't think it makes u a bad mfper at all. I like to comment on stuff, some days i'll go nuts and some days I won't comment at all....I rarely comment on food diaries. I certainly don't get offended or delete people of they don't comment on my stuff. I don't NEED comments. My motivation comes from within but I do appreciate the friendships I have made so far.0
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Is the validation of strangers on the internet the thing that really motivates them to get up and start moving?
Is it just me?
Could be the hand jobs?0 -
Agreed!This site seems to take all kinds. Quiet types just looking to lose weight, attention *kitten* battling daily for validation in the "hottest" threads, and then people like me... observing these behaviors, appreciating the eye candy when it pops up, and thanking those who come up with truly creative things to make me laugh.
Game on.
If your MFP friends weren't happy with your level of input, they can always hit the "gone" button.0 -
Agreed!This site seems to take all kinds. Quiet types just looking to lose weight, attention *kitten* battling daily for validation in the "hottest" threads, and then people like me... observing these behaviors, appreciating the eye candy when it pops up, and thanking those who come up with truly creative things to make me laugh.
Game on.
If your MFP friends weren't happy with your level of input, they can always hit the "gone" button.
UncleMac gives me plenty of attention with that beauty in his profile pic!0 -
the people on your friends list are most likely just like you or have another group of friends on their list that like their diaries and all that detailed stuff you cant do on the app.0
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I totally get what you're saying. At first, I commented on people's stuff all the time. But then my FL grew. Now, I might 'WTG!' when someone loses, I might peek at their diaries, I'll comment on really big cal burns, but rarely if ever do I seek these kinds of posts out. I try to comment just because so many comment on mine. But in reality, that notification on my phone isn't going to motivate me anymore than I can motivate myself.0
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I changed my settings so pretty much no alerts about me losing weight or working out or completing food diary are ever posted to my wall. I don't post on any of my friends posts, and they do not have the opportunity to post on mine so I don't feel bad.0
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I changed my settings so pretty much no alerts about me losing weight or working out or completing food diary are ever posted to my wall. I don't post on any of my friends posts, and they do not have the opportunity to post on mine so I don't feel bad.
Then, why have friends? You are not being FAIR to them!!!0 -
Yes. This makes you a horrible MFPer. How dare you? Shun!0
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Also, this ^Is the validation of strangers on the internet the thing that really motivates them to get up and start moving?
Is it just me?
Could be the hand jobs?0 -
If people never ever comment on my stuff, I delete them. Unless they're super hotties.0
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I like being invested in my MFP friends by knowing their individual goals and personalities. They seem to appreciate it. Quite honestly, I get as much out of it as they do. Plus, it allows for a good exchange of information and leads to interesting friendships.
Edited by Spartan_Maker on Tue 08/21/12 09:36 AM
(I don't know how to do the post/copy thing -- but Spartan_Maker is my MFP friend and he is a good friend to have :-))
Seriously, in this day and age of technology we all know people better via virtual relationships. Cousins, aunts, uncles; many of them our relationships primarily exist via Facebook and e-mail.
At MFP we are all a community of mutual or similar goals - improved health. The cliche "There is Power in Numbers." resonates for a reason.
Regularly I look forward to regular posts, updates, and support from my hand-selected team of "friends." Allow yourself a few friends with whom you can relate and engage. I think you may find a greater understanding of the power of MFP. It's not just about counting calories.0 -
"Why can't we be friends, why can't we be friends?"
Ugh. Are there any other lyrics to that song?0 -
I love to motivate my friends and they re equally motivating and supportive and so fun to chat with. I love them all.
I guess Im one of the "attention *kitten*" that lady spoke of. LOL0 -
Nope, you are not a bad MFPer.
Some people need that extra encouragement... that extra lift... the inspiration that comes from knowing someone else is going through the same struggle you are...
I, personally, do not post on food diaries. At all. As of late, don't post much of anything. But I do tend to try to post positive and encouraging status updates at least once a day. The rest of the time, I'm just goofy or silly. I've made some friends... some I would even consider good friends... and some that just give me an ego boost by telling me how beautful I am. LOL0 -
nope, it doesn't.... different things motivate different people.. some like to read, and some people do enough talking for everyone
I like your profile pic, although of the two miser brothers, Heat miser is my favorite 0 -
I normally delete this type of MFP friend because I am not looking for quantity, rather quality friends.0
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That sort of motivation is unnecessary for me too. IRL I don't like/need people to congratulate me for a job well done. It's a sweet thought and all, and intellectually I appreciate it, but it does nothing for me.
Also, with the MFP crowd specifically, my goals aren't really aligned with the majority. I don't have much weight to lose and I'm sure there are a lot of people on here (at least there are a lot of them on the forums) who think that either a. my goals are less important or perhaps not important at all, b. my goals are unhealthy, or c. I'm going about it the wrong way (AKA: GO PALEO, vegetarians are loooosers!). So there aren't many people who would identify with my fitness goals and methods enough to even be able to be encouraging.
MFP is what you make of it. Unless you troll or are consistently hurtful toward others, you aren't a "bad" MFPer, imo.0 -
I like a few others on this post like to invest time and effort into my friends list. Over 10% are people I know in real life and the others I probably won't meet but wouldn't have qualms over meeting if we happen to be in the same location.
I always welcome new additions to my FL with a private message, to find out what they are trying to achieve and let them know a little about me. I also prefer to use first names and currently I think there is only one on my FL that hasn't told me but she will :laugh:
I would call myself a supporter more than motivator and will comment on most posts, as I think an atta girl/boy gives that little bit of a boost.
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nope, it doesn't.... different things motivate different people.. some like to read, and some people do enough talking for everyone
I like your profile pic, although of the two miser brothers, Heat miser is my favorite
there's always one... LOL :laugh: j/k I like the cold personally so I can relate to him better.. (plus he's thin...wait ..what?? :huh: ) :happy:0
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