NO SUPPORT

ILoveTheBrowns

self motivation is a noble trait

Lazygal53

I haven't added any friends other than my wife. I'm here for me. MFP + Friends = Too much drama!

^^^ This
I've only added my friend at work to introduced me to MFP ... so far.

Lazygal53

When I need extra support, I wear my jock strap. Keeps things just right.

Awwe are we boasting again?

meerkat70

So I know i have been on the wagon off the wagon over the past few months but mostly do to busy schedule and health issues. I have to say though the best feeling today was deleting all my fitness pal friends and am starting over. I felt as if they were not being very supportive and have decided that I need more supportive people around me. Starting over feels awesome!:happy:

Interesting definitions of the terms 'friend' and 'support' in operation here.

Good luck.

sdwelk11

I wasnt speaking in regards as to what I do and dont eat or when and how I exercise. I was speaking in regards to responses to your "friends" when you post replies to things and they never reply to your posts but they do to other people. i am not petty or self absorbed but it is nice to not be ignored.

sdwelk11

Thanks! I will!

sdwelk11

you got it!

Glynneybug

Please feel free to add me! Hope you are doing well!

~Glynis

JSlattery79

you can add me if you'd like!

sdwelk11

Good luck with your new kick at the cat. Sometimes we need to just clean out the closet and get at it. You can do it.

THANKS!

sdwelk11

The negative replies are amusing. I can see why you might want to delete and start over on this site:). Add me if you'd like. I'm in a 6 week bootcamp that requires me to post all food/exercise to MFP, and I can pass on what I'm learning. I can be definitely supportive for at least 4 1/2 more weeks:)! Best wishes on the new start.

THANKS SHANNIE! Thats exactly what I am talking about! And for all the others who are questioning my support, I have logged on at least a few times a week since I joined and left supportive hoo-rahs for others. unfortunately nothing was left for me! so it is true that you give what you get but when you dont get then I give the boot and dont feel bad at all about doing it. If you dont want to be my friend then dont request to be my friend. simple as that.

all4my3boyz

Scratching my head...

all4my3boyz

First, you get back what you give. Second, why are all these people jumping to be added after the entire previous FL was thrown under the bus??

My thouthts exactly!

dawn_eichert

So I know i have been on the wagon off the wagon over the past few months but mostly do to busy schedule and health issues. I have to say though the best feeling today was deleting all my fitness pal friends and am starting over. I felt as if they were not being very supportive and have decided that I need more supportive people around me. Starting over feels awesome!:happy:

I have noticed people who have signficant weight to lose never take any accounability for themselves. I am out of the house a mimimum of 12 hours a day, recently had surgery, and had problems walking due to problems with the tendons in both my lower legs yet still manages to take proper care of my diet. Whatever is going on is not a justification for going " on and off the wagon". Those are just excuses. The attitudes of people around you is another excuse. Why should people be supportive of someone who blames everythhing else other than their own lack of determination, will power, motivation.....etc...

This is a horrid generalization. I have a significant amount of weight to lose and I know that I am solely responsible for going it. This is exactly the type of attitude that would get you deleted from alot of friend lists. I don't believe the OP is making excuses but she is recognizing the items that are holding her back. I am totally supportive of her deleting her friend list and starting over. Having positive people who give encouragement is exactly what can help bring someone who is stuggling to this site everyday.

stubbysticks

Yes, success depends solely on what friends you have on MyFitnessPal. If you make friends with one of those 6-pack abs guys, you will loose weight for sure.

^^^
This. I FR'ed Sidesteal & lost 85 lbs overnight. True story. If he ever leaves, it's Mountain Dew & Cheetos for me.

Seriously, OP...you were admittedly inconsistent in your efforts the first time around, yet you had an expectation that your friends should cheer you on when you felt like taking care of your business. What some of the others are trying to say is that depending too much on others is going to bite you in the *kitten* no matter who's on your FL.

I am here for ME. I use this site to log my food & connect with others I think I have something in common with. I don't expect them to comment on everything I do. It's nice if they do, & I know it's not personal if they don't. Sometimes my life is busy & I don't get to spend much time on here apart from logging. My friends don't assume I no longer support them if I don't comment on their stuff because the people on my FL are focused & accountable for their own efforts.

Best of luck with your new batch of friends, I hope they give you whatever it is you need to reach your goals. And if they do, for your sake I hope they don't ditch you like you did those others, who very likely are unaware you even did so.

stubbysticks

I have noticed people who have signficant weight to lose never take any accounability for themselves. I am out of the house a mimimum of 12 hours a day, recently had surgery, and had problems walking due to problems with the tendons in both my lower legs yet still manages to take proper care of my diet. Whatever is going on is not a justification for going " on and off the wagon". Those are just excuses. The attitudes of people around you is another excuse. Why should people be supportive of someone who blames everythhing else other than their own lack of determination, will power, motivation.....etc...

This makes me wonder what kind of people you're around that you've made this assumption. If this is true, then I really am a special little snowflake!

meka325

Were people being negative towards you or were they just not responding alot? First scenario is unacceptable and good that you dumped them . Second scenario, well folks might be busy....

kristymcgee

WOW....Good luck...Just remember that YOU are resposible for what you do and eat, not your MFP friends...
You might have to start looking for something else to blame now that you have no more MFP friends to drag you down....

Exactly! I don't like all the hearts and flowers messages. I am doing this for me. I love my friends here but if I had someone that just posted ALL the time on my status - it would come off as insincere!

Mrbusterb

You can add me

Mrbusterb

So I know i have been on the wagon off the wagon over the past few months but mostly do to busy schedule and health issues. I have to say though the best feeling today was deleting all my fitness pal friends and am starting over. I felt as if they were not being very supportive and have decided that I need more supportive people around me. Starting over feels awesome!:happy:

I have noticed people who have signficant weight to lose never take any accounability for themselves. I am out of the house a mimimum of 12 hours a day, recently had surgery, and had problems walking due to problems with the tendons in both my lower legs yet still manages to take proper care of my diet. Whatever is going on is not a justification for going " on and off the wagon". Those are just excuses. The attitudes of people around you is another excuse. Why should people be supportive of someone who blames everythhing else other than their own lack of determination, will power, motivation.....etc...

....People can be so mean....smh

dont_give_up

Thank you for posting this! I've been here for over a year, and have lost over 40lbs. Back in Oct. my family and I went thru some hard times and had to move in with inlaws. During that time I had limited access to the internet and wasn't able to log on everyday. I still made sure that I watched what I ate and exercised daily. When I could log on I made sure to offer my friends what support I could. When were able to get a place of our own, I was on here daily giving support to just about everyone, I just wasn't taking the time to log my food and exercise. If I needed advice I would post it on my page, only to get no advice. When I did post my food and exercise I got very little support from others. I've been thinking about deleting my friends too, but didn't know if that would be fair. After reading your post I'm deleting my friends too. I could use a fresh start!

sdwelk11

So I know i have been on the wagon off the wagon over the past few months but mostly do to busy schedule and health issues. I have to say though the best feeling today was deleting all my fitness pal friends and am starting over. I felt as if they were not being very supportive and have decided that I need more supportive people around me. Starting over feels awesome!:happy:

I have noticed people who have signficant weight to lose never take any accounability for themselves. I am out of the house a mimimum of 12 hours a day, recently had surgery, and had problems walking due to problems with the tendons in both my lower legs yet still manages to take proper care of my diet. Whatever is going on is not a justification for going " on and off the wagon". Those are just excuses. The attitudes of people around you is another excuse. Why should people be supportive of someone who blames everythhing else other than their own lack of determination, will power, motivation.....etc...

This is a horrid generalization. I have a significant amount of weight to lose and I know that I am solely responsible for going it. This is exactly the type of attitude that would get you deleted from alot of friend lists. I don't believe the OP is making excuses but she is recognizing the items that are holding her back. I am totally supportive of her deleting her friend list and starting over. Having positive people who give encouragement is exactly what can help bring someone who is stuggling to this site everyday.

EXACTLY!! OBTW what does OP mean???

sdwelk11

Were people being negative towards you or were they just not responding alot? First scenario is unacceptable and good that you dumped them . Second scenario, well folks might be busy....

They werent rude but they reply to others and never to my stuff.... to make a long story short

sdwelk11

Thank you for posting this! I've been here for over a year, and have lost over 40lbs. Back in Oct. my family and I went thru some hard times and had to move in with inlaws. During that time I had limited access to the internet and wasn't able to log on everyday. I still made sure that I watched what I ate and exercised daily. When I could log on I made sure to offer my friends what support I could. When were able to get a place of our own, I was on here daily giving support to just about everyone, I just wasn't taking the time to log my food and exercise. If I needed advice I would post it on my page, only to get no advice. When I did post my food and exercise I got very little support from others. I've been thinking about deleting my friends too, but didn't know if that would be fair. After reading your post I'm deleting my friends too. I could use a fresh start!

THIS WAS WHAT I WAS TRYING TO SAY! THANKS! :flowerforyou:

sdwelk11

So I know i have been on the wagon off the wagon over the past few months but mostly do to busy schedule and health issues. I have to say though the best feeling today was deleting all my fitness pal friends and am starting over. I felt as if they were not being very supportive and have decided that I need more supportive people around me. Starting over feels awesome!:happy:

I have noticed people who have signficant weight to lose never take any accounability for themselves. I am out of the house a mimimum of 12 hours a day, recently had surgery, and had problems walking due to problems with the tendons in both my lower legs yet still manages to take proper care of my diet. Whatever is going on is not a justification for going " on and off the wagon". Those are just excuses. The attitudes of people around you is another excuse. Why should people be supportive of someone who blames everythhing else other than their own lack of determination, will power, motivation.....etc...

....People can be so mean....smh

YES THEY CAN! :flowerforyou:

sdwelk11

There seems to be a rampant problem on this site with people failing to understand the difference between concrete and abstract concepts. Supportive, in terms of an internet forum, is going to have different meanings for different people. Just like the words rude, jerk, snark, thin-skinned, and any number of other descriptions people like to toss around at each other because they lack any other ammunition for their public pissing contests. It is all a matter of perspective! So while you feel that your friends were being unsupportive, they may have felt differently. You are being quite judgmental to blame your lack of success on them. It was probably for the best any way.

My question to you is what makes you think the next batch of friends will be any different than the first? I mean, after all, you are just randomly selecting strangers on the internet to 'support' you.

this time I will only be adding my friends that are on here already,,, Not strangers.. I can do this on my own but enjoyed listening to other people's acheivements and goals and questions and answers but now I am only looking at those on the message boards.

Cait_Sidhe

Feel free to add my if you would like. It helps so much if you have supportive people around you. Who needs rude, sarcastic and irrogant people, they just bring others down.

*arrogant (or do you mean ignorant?) people*? *They ...

Perhaps she meant irrigant?. I know I'm not found of being irrigated. It gets me down for sure.

gauchogirl

Don't you hate when people start out saying " no offense but..." because you just KNOW you're about to be offended?

Well, no offense, but, don't add me. It's no one's job but YOURS to accomplish YOUR goals. Saying your friends aren't supportive enough makes it sound like you're blaming them for your failure. And then to wholesale kick them to the curb? No thanks, with friends like that who needs enemies? Good luck on your journey, I sincerely hope you find some that can live up to your expectations so you can reach your goals.

beattie1

OBTW what does OP mean???

OP = Original Poster
HTH
(Hope This Helps)