how to be a GREAT, supportive husband as our wives get old
DetroitDarin
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It is important for men to remember that, as women grow older, it becomes harder for them to maintain the same quality of housekeeping as when they were younger. When you notice this, try not to yell at them.
Some are oversensitive, and there's nothing worse than an oversensitive woman.
My name is Jim. Let me relate how I handled the situation with my wife, Betty. When I retired a few years ago, it became necessary for Betty to get a full-time job along with her part-time job, both for extra income and for the health benefits that we needed. Shortly after she started working, I noticed she was beginning to show her age. I usually get home from the golf club about the same time she gets home from work.
Although she knows how hungry I am, she almost always says she has to rest for half an hour or so before she starts dinner. I don't yell at her. Instead, I tell her to take her time and just wake me when she gets dinner on the table. I generally have lunch in the Men's Grill at the club so eating out is not reasonable. I'm ready for some home-cooked grub when I hit that door. She used to do the dishes as soon as we finished eating. But now it's not unusual for them to sit on the table for several hours after dinner.
I do what I can by diplomatically reminding her several times each evening that they won't clean themselves. I know she really appreciates this, as it does seem to motivate her to get them done before she goes to bed.
Another symptom of aging is complaining, I think. For example, she will say that it is difficult for her to find time to pay the monthly bills during her lunch hour. But, boys, we take 'em for better or worse, so I just smile and offer encouragement. I tell her to stretch it out over two or even three days. That way she won't have to rush so much. I also remind her that missing lunch completely now and then wouldn't hurt her any (if you know what I mean). I like to think tact is one of my strong points.
When doing simple jobs, she seems to think she needs more rest periods. She had to take a break when she was only half finished mowing the yard. I try not to make a scene. I'm a fair man. I tell her to fix a nice, big, cold glass of freshly squeezed lemonade and just sit for a while on the ground below me in my hammock. And, as long as she is making one for me, she may as well make one for herself, too.
I know that I probably look like a saint in the way I support Betty. I'm not saying that showing this much consideration is easy. Many men will find it difficult. Some will find it impossible! Nobody knows better than I do how frustrating women get as they get older. However, guys, even if you just use a little more tact and less criticism of your aging wife because of this article, I will consider that writing it was well worthwhile. After all, we are put on this earth to help each other .
Signed,
Jim
Some are oversensitive, and there's nothing worse than an oversensitive woman.
My name is Jim. Let me relate how I handled the situation with my wife, Betty. When I retired a few years ago, it became necessary for Betty to get a full-time job along with her part-time job, both for extra income and for the health benefits that we needed. Shortly after she started working, I noticed she was beginning to show her age. I usually get home from the golf club about the same time she gets home from work.
Although she knows how hungry I am, she almost always says she has to rest for half an hour or so before she starts dinner. I don't yell at her. Instead, I tell her to take her time and just wake me when she gets dinner on the table. I generally have lunch in the Men's Grill at the club so eating out is not reasonable. I'm ready for some home-cooked grub when I hit that door. She used to do the dishes as soon as we finished eating. But now it's not unusual for them to sit on the table for several hours after dinner.
I do what I can by diplomatically reminding her several times each evening that they won't clean themselves. I know she really appreciates this, as it does seem to motivate her to get them done before she goes to bed.
Another symptom of aging is complaining, I think. For example, she will say that it is difficult for her to find time to pay the monthly bills during her lunch hour. But, boys, we take 'em for better or worse, so I just smile and offer encouragement. I tell her to stretch it out over two or even three days. That way she won't have to rush so much. I also remind her that missing lunch completely now and then wouldn't hurt her any (if you know what I mean). I like to think tact is one of my strong points.
When doing simple jobs, she seems to think she needs more rest periods. She had to take a break when she was only half finished mowing the yard. I try not to make a scene. I'm a fair man. I tell her to fix a nice, big, cold glass of freshly squeezed lemonade and just sit for a while on the ground below me in my hammock. And, as long as she is making one for me, she may as well make one for herself, too.
I know that I probably look like a saint in the way I support Betty. I'm not saying that showing this much consideration is easy. Many men will find it difficult. Some will find it impossible! Nobody knows better than I do how frustrating women get as they get older. However, guys, even if you just use a little more tact and less criticism of your aging wife because of this article, I will consider that writing it was well worthwhile. After all, we are put on this earth to help each other .
Signed,
Jim
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Oh this is mildly funny... But at the same time it's bull **** lol... N I know damn sure my husband is not that lucky to not do **** n then keep expecting things lol
he's not dumb ... 0 -
Dear Jim
Bite me
Love the Ex :laugh:0 -
hehehe. If my husband found a woman half as tolerant as betty I worry he might leave me!0
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Lol, Just how bored do you get?0
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Mildly funny is one helluva compliment for the above post.0
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...don't hate the playa!0
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What a blessing you must be for your wife. :laugh:0
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Hilarious! But dangerous if you were my husband... As the lawn I am mowing would have your decomposing body underneath!0
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My fella does the cooking, I do the cleaning simples! 0
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When doing simple jobs, she seems to think she needs more rest periods. She had to take a break when she was only half finished mowing the yard. I try not to make a scene. I'm a fair man. I tell her to fix a nice, big, cold glass of freshly squeezed lemonade and just sit for a while on the ground below me in my hammock. And, as long as she is making one for me, she may as well make one for herself, too.
What a gentleman you are :flowerforyou:0 -
LOL! Thanks for reminding me why I am single!!!!!!!!!!!!0
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Sorry not even mildly funny.0
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Dude i had you at the first line LOL!!0
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Sorry not even mildly funny.
It is mildly funny to people who can giggle at what is obviously stupid sh|t. Let your hair down, proverbially.0 -
This would be funny if there weren't so many couples in this exact relationship. :noway:1
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you have got to be kidding about this right??? get off your backside and give the woman some help!! honestly!! You give men a bad name, it sounds like you do nothing round the home at all...hmmm! ever heard of the modern man? lol0
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Lmaoooo. If only such husbands were like unicorns.0
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you have got to be kidding about this right??? get off your backside and give the woman some help!! honestly!! You give men a bad name, it sounds like you do nothing round the home at all...hmmm! ever heard of the modern man? lol
It's a joke, bro. I found it online awhile ago. Thought it was kinda cute. Simma down...My name isn't Jim. My dad's name is Jim...but his wife isn't Betty.
And for the record, most men give men like ME a bad name I'm funny, fairly smart, and sometimes...on occasion...maybe twice a year...I'm even cute 
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I seriously cannot believe that some people actually thought that this was written seriously. Its a flaming joke. Lighten up people. Made me laugh anyways and you can flame me all you like for having a sense of humour.
Oh and Elexi...get back to paying those bills... dearest
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I loved this!! I haven't laughed this hard in a long time! Good post!0
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I seriously cannot believe that some people actually thought that this was written seriously. Its a flaming joke. Lighten up people.
I know...Some folks are so serious...it's as if they are about to go against a Sicilian when death is on the line!0 -
This was hilarious and well written! :drinker:0
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Yeah. Don't quit your day job.0
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Wow - how long did it take you to get that out? I quite like the way the writing is all nicely spaced out and the spelling is very good, especially considering how long it is. No offence my dear, but you don't look like you can spell that well in your photo.:happy:0
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lol, Jim should be smothered in his sleep!
Thanks for the morning giggle!0 -
Love it! :drinker:0
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LOL ... thanks for sharing!!0
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I loved this, its right up there with the TRUE LOVE thread and A WOMANS WEEK AT THE GYM :drinker:0
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Wow - how long did it take you to get that out? I quite like the way the writing is all nicely spaced out and the spelling is very good, especially considering how long it is. No offence my dear, but you don't look like you can spell that well in your photo.:happy:
What the hell are you talkin' about? What the hell would my looks have to do with my spelling?
Rant: Why is it people think they can be freely rude as long as they put in a 'no offense' disclaimer.0 -
LOL......loved it!0
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