Are you an introvert? Extrovert? In between?

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  • RealWomenLovePitbulls
    RealWomenLovePitbulls Posts: 729 Member
    In my comfort zone - with family, friends, or at work, I am super bubbly, friendly, smiley, outgoing, etc.
    outside of my comfort zone, i am nervous, shy, and quiet.
    Mostly I prefer to be alone or with my hubby or family/close friends, but once I warm up to a large group, I end up having a lot of fun
  • DaysFlyBy
    DaysFlyBy Posts: 243 Member
    Total introvert, and yet, I'm a clinic nurse and love my job. LOVE. I'm a born nurturer so it's great for me. And I can converse easily because it's all about my patient. The only break a nurse actually gets in reality is his/her lunch, and often that is taken up by a meeting, so when I get a free lunch break I am absolutely taking off to be alone. I just NEED it. I do think coworkers tend to look down on that or possibly feel offended by it assuming I don't like them or I'm stuck up, which makes me feel bad. I do explain myself but I still feel like they think I'm rude. I hate that. Outside of work I have 3 good friends and I'm completely fine with that. That feels sane and real and manageable to me. I wouldn't know what to do with a dozen friends lol. And while I text a lot, I dislike phone calls and actual hanging out only happens maybe once every two weeks, and only in one-on-one situations, I loathe group settings, hate small talk and can never think of anything to say on the fly. I just find it exhausting. I love and cherish and hoard my time alone, now more than ever because with kids it's a rare occasion anymore lol. Funny thing is, all my friends are extroverts, probably why I can only handle them in small doses, lol. All my very favorite pastimes are solo activities: painting, crafting, reading, quiet walks, etc. I don't party, don't do the bar scene and this greatly hampers dating, so that sucks. But generally I like being introverted and wouldn't want to be any other way. :)
  • tamtamzz
    tamtamzz Posts: 142

    Introversion is not seen as being identical to shy or to being a social outcast. Introverts prefer solitary activities over social ones, whereas shy people (who may be extroverts at heart) avoid social encounters out of fear,[8] and the social outcast has little choice in the matter of his or her solitude.
    http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Extraversion_and_introversion

    I am an introvert. The common misconception is that introverts are shy; most of us are not. My husband, who is an extrovert, is very shy. I am usually the one who has to do the negotiating for the family. I enjoy parties and talking to people. I also do not have an issue with public speaking. Generally, people who suffer while doing these things suffer from some sort of social anxiety, which introverts and extrovert can have.

    Intro/extrovertism is where a person gets their energy from, and how one processes their thoughts (among other things). It has little to do with their ability to socialize. Yes, we do need our quiet time, but it's not because we are terrified of people and crowds.
  • coachblt
    coachblt Posts: 1,090
    I can be deathly quiet and not shut up in the same hour, depends how comfortable I am with the people I'm with...

    WINNER!
  • angelalf1979
    angelalf1979 Posts: 244 Member
    Have always been an introvert in a world of extroverts. And the older I get, the more I just want to hide and be by myself.
  • jenjersnapco
    jenjersnapco Posts: 206 Member
    I scored 100% introvert on the Myers Briggs Type Indicator test. INFJ, to be exact. Anyone else take this test?
  • petiteLady89
    petiteLady89 Posts: 198 Member
    VERY introverted. It's painful to watch me communicate to the outside world. I cringe at my self.
  • DollyMiel
    DollyMiel Posts: 377 Member
    I scored 100% introvert on the Myers Briggs Type Indicator test. INFJ, to be exact. Anyone else take this test?
    Ha, yeah, I'm INTJ. c:

    I'm extremely introverted. I find it amazing how many of us exist and yet the world is so based around extroverted people that we're so misunderstood. I've had people tell me to my face recently how boring I am because I prefer to be alone and do quiet activities at home rather than go out and party. How rude....
  • heartofviolet
    heartofviolet Posts: 119 Member
    An introvert. As much as I love being around others, it can be exhausting, and I really do need my alone time to sort of recharge and recuperate.
  • KaleidoscopeEyes1056
    KaleidoscopeEyes1056 Posts: 2,996 Member
    I scored 100% introvert on the Myers Briggs Type Indicator test. INFJ, to be exact. Anyone else take this test?
    Ha, yeah, I'm INTJ. c:

    I'm extremely introverted. I find it amazing how many of us exist and yet the world is so based around extroverted people that we're so misunderstood. I've had people tell me to my face recently how boring I am because I prefer to be alone and do quiet activities at home rather than go out and party. How rude....

    That's horrible! I'm an extrovert for the most part, but I LOVE being around introverts. My boyfriend, my high school best friend and my college best friend are all introverts.
  • DaysFlyBy
    DaysFlyBy Posts: 243 Member
    :flowerforyou: sorry, screwed up quote lol
  • DaysFlyBy
    DaysFlyBy Posts: 243 Member
    I scored 100% introvert on the Myers Briggs Type Indicator test. INFJ, to be exact. Anyone else take this test?

    Yup, and I'm an INFJ also :)
  • possibri
    possibri Posts: 158 Member
    According to the MBTI (Myers-Briggs Type Inventory) I am an ENTP, which means I'm extroverted, or that I get my energy from interacting with the external environment. This is true for me, but I am not a classical extrovert. I prefer small kickbacks with a few close friends, and I like my alone-time, so I tend to think of myself as an introverted extrovert; I am definitely in-between.

    If anybody else is interested in discussing personality types (MBTI/Enneagram/etc.) feel free to add me and we can talk more! I've been fascinated with the way different people act/feel/etc., and I've found personality typing is an interesting place to start.
  • tamtamzz
    tamtamzz Posts: 142
    I scored 100% introvert on the Myers Briggs Type Indicator test. INFJ, to be exact. Anyone else take this test?

    Yes! I am an ISTP. I am the Mechanic or the Problem Solver. I tend to mull things over in my head a lot until I can find the solution, or improve a process that already exists. It's a blessing a curse.

    Apparently, I have the same personality type as Clint Eastwood (I guess so from what I can see), Steve Jobs (I can't see it, really), Maggie Fitzgerald Million Dollar Baby (fits my personality very much).
  • UncleMac
    UncleMac Posts: 13,719 Member
    Introvert; INTJ. I exert myself in social and work situations where required but it takes energy.
  • SueGremlin
    SueGremlin Posts: 1,066 Member
    I just took that test and I am an ENFP. That apparently means I am neither introverted nor extroverted.

    I am confused.
  • puppywalker
    puppywalker Posts: 109 Member
    I am an ISTJ. I used to be 100% on the Introvert, but two years later it had moved down to 78%. Being introverted doesn't mean you don't like being around people, it just means they drain you of your energy. So for an extrovert, it doesn't mean they don't like being alone, they just get their energy from being around people. People with high "E" scores completely exhaust me. Though most are nice people, they just don't even realize how much they are draining me.
  • Ang_Quark
    Ang_Quark Posts: 28
    To be totally honest I think I'm more of an ambivert than the two given, since being with people isn't particularly draining to me and I enjoy large groups and crowds (the feeling of anonymity is best) but appreciate and cherish the time I have to myself.
  • possibri
    possibri Posts: 158 Member
    I just took that test and I am an ENFP. That apparently means I am neither introverted nor extroverted.

    I am confused.

    ENFPs and ENTPs are considered to be the most introverted of extroverts (there is an ongoing debate over who is moreso, us ENTPs swear we are, while I've known many-a ENFP to claim THEY are the most introverted extroverts... lol)

    Basically it just means that you aren't SUPER extroverted, and that you are more balanced in the introversion/extroversion department, but that you still get energized by interacting with the external world (instead of getting energized by going inside and spending time in your inner world).
  • cuarrech
    cuarrech Posts: 118 Member
    Introvert! INTP by Meyer's-Briggs, and pretty strongly on all of them.
  • corgihugger
    corgihugger Posts: 41
    EXTROVERT =)
  • Presleyforpresident
    Presleyforpresident Posts: 172
    introvert, definitely.
    i'm supposed to hang out with my friend in a few hours and i'm dreading it- all i want to do is lie down and take a nap or read or something but she's leaving for college soon!
  • RiverMelSong
    RiverMelSong Posts: 456 Member
    Just took the test some people were talking about, and I'm a ISTJ (89% introvert). No surprises there I guess :smile:
  • UpEarly
    UpEarly Posts: 2,555 Member
    I am in introvert. I strongly dislike crowds, loud parties, anything with lots of people and/or noise.

    I have and love my friends, but I limit my time with them. I'm perfectly content with seeing friends once every few months or so. I don't mind texting or facebook often, but I HATE talking on the phone. I had a friend once where this caused a rift, because she wanted to talk on the phone ALL THE TIME, like every day, several times a day. You're lucky if you get me on the phone once a MONTH. ha ha!

    ^^ This is exactly like me!

    I like people, but they exhaust me. I also hate talking on the phone.
  • opuntia
    opuntia Posts: 860 Member
    I was pretty much straight down the middle when I had the Myers Briggs test done - a combination of INTP and ENTP. I was very strongly NTP, but in the middle of I and E. Apparently more extrovert by nature, and more introvert by nurture.

    I'd say my Aspergers has played a significant part in my introversion too - I need a lot of time alone to process things. I frequently find people confusing, and I don't enjoy a lot of the things that most people enjoy. I enjoy spending time with people, because I find them interesting, but it's incredibly exhausting too. A lot of sensory input to process. It's easier and calmer to be alone, in silence. And I love my own company. I have a lot going on in my head and I need time and space to focus on it.

    As a kid, my ambition in life was to become a hermit. :-)
  • MsNewBooty83
    MsNewBooty83 Posts: 985 Member
    i feel like i want to be alone, but then when i am i dont know what to do, lol. im a pretty fair split between the two.
  • HeatherDee92
    HeatherDee92 Posts: 218 Member
    I am in between depending on my mood at the time.
  • VeganPanda
    VeganPanda Posts: 582 Member
    I am in between, but more towards introvert. I enjoy time with people, but not too much. If given the choice, I would be alone.
  • angelalf1979
    angelalf1979 Posts: 244 Member
    I scored 100% introvert on the Myers Briggs Type Indicator test. INFJ, to be exact. Anyone else take this test?

    I believe those were my same results! What does the J stand for again?
  • katymcd81
    katymcd81 Posts: 73 Member
    Introvert...other people are exhausting! My husband is also an introvert, which is good because we understand each other. With people we know well we're pretty comfortable and come out of our shells, but with strangers we're both pretty much paralysed with shyness and anxiety.

    Sometimes I miss not having a female 'best friend' close by to do things with (my two lady best friends are working long-term overseas and don't live locally when they're home), and I wish that I found it easier to socialise and make friends, but on the whole I'm pretty happy and like having time to myself. I don't like to have a full social calendar!

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