need to vent

brandi22479

You're getting alot of good advice here. Main one: learn to love yourself. If you weren't brought up in a home where it was taught to you (and I wasn't either), you have to learn to do it. It's hard, I know this. I struggle everyday with self esteem issues and don't really ever feel beautiful often. I doubt you're "ugly". No one is. Everyone has something beautiful about themselves physically.

Honestly, though, you're going to feel exactly the way you do right now about yourself unless you get moving to change what you don't like. If you don't like your skin...change it. There are products and procedures that assist with bad skin and scars. If you aren't happy about your midsection, start on some exercises that will tighten it up. (If you don't start today, you'll be in the same position tomorrow as you are right now).

Do something to make you feel good (start with counseling). Good luck!!

thingal12

Thank YOu everyone for your advice & suggestions :flowerforyou: . I do need to work on building my confidence and doing things for myself. BTW, I've seen a dermatologist for years and nothing has ever helped. My mom had acne until she was in her 50s, so maybe it's just genetics with me. :ohwell: Also, I just wanted to make clear that I've taken care of my parents since I was 22 yrs old, 10 years now. Just me and my parents. As a kid I always wanted to do just that- I remember staying up in bed thinking, "I'd love to take care of mom and dad when they get older!" Wow, I guess my wish came true! It's b/c I noticed how hard they both worked (inside and outside the house) and how little they took care of themselves.

@DetroitDarin : Interestingly enough, my parents used to (mom still does) say the same thing your dad said! Not the exact words, but pretty much.

@ aqm22: I too went to a private school with a bunch of rich girls. We went for free b/c my mom begged the principle and told her our home situation. My mom used to be a teacher and even a middle school principle at one time, but after 7 kids and health issues she couldnt work any longer.

WarriorCupcakeBlydnsr

Thank YOu everyone for your advice & suggestions :flowerforyou: . I do need to work on building my confidence and doing things for myself. BTW, I've seen a dermatologist for years and nothing has ever helped. My mom had acne until she was in her 50s, so maybe it's just genetics with me. :ohwell: Also, I just wanted to make clear that I've taken care of my parents since I was 22 yrs old, 10 years now. Just me and my parents. As a kid I always wanted to do just that- I remember staying up in bed thinking, "I'd love to take care of mom and dad when they get older!" Wow, I guess my wish came true! It's b/c I noticed how hard they both worked (inside and outside the house) and how little they took care of themselves.

@DetroitDarin : Interestingly enough, my parents used to (mom still does) say the same thing your dad said! Not the exact words, but pretty much.

@ aqm22: I too went to a private school with a bunch of rich girls. We went for free b/c my mom begged the principle and told her our home situation. My mom used to be a teacher and even a middle school principle at one time, but after 7 kids and health issues she couldnt work any longer.

One suggestion for the acne, it may be hormone related, if you are on any type of birth control pill (or not on it) you may want to speak to your primary care doctor or OB/GYN about your pills as a hormone imbalance can cause acne (I take BCP because of migraines and when a doctor changed the type of BCP hormone because she was concerned with my system adapting to the dose I was taking and the hormone type, I broke out worse than a teenager, my regular doc changed me back to what I was taking before and I cleared right up)

AshleyCephas

PRAY!!! You gotta focus on God. Take time out to appreciate you and love yourself. Everything can be fixed. If you dont like your skin.....se a dermatologist and get a system going.... if you dont like your weight and are having trouble getting it off on your own....get a trainer or do some research on work out systems. Dont give up on yourself...God put you hear for a reason. Thank him every chance you get, for he saw you so important and useful that he took time out to create you!!

AshleyCephas

Don't give up on yourself and what ever you do...Don't give up on the LORD! People in your life and on MFP will come and go...believe me. BUT HE SAID I WILL NEVER LEAVE YOU NOR FORSAKE YOU. You are not forgotten. You're just going to have an awesome testimony. Keep you head up and try to focus on the positives in your life. For every negative thing write down two positive aspects of your life. Then began to praise God for those and watch Him turn things around for you. Be Blessed.

Love this!!

vibegirl

Great advice Darin's Dad! ) And good for you Darin

Pretty much everyone is giving similar advice...take one or two areas and work on it...don't overwhelm yourself with being perfect or getting everything right in your life, right away...

What you put out there is what you tend to attract to you - keep that in mind..start turning your focus on what you'd 'prefer' in all the seemingly negative instances you are talking about - I even make a list sometimes...of all the stuff that seems to 'suck' at the moment ;o) and then next to each one write the opposite of that. So for you:


Current issue: What I'd prefer:
My skin is always broken out - I love waking up with hardly any breakouts!
I hate being overweight - I'm so excited that my clothes are getting loose on me!
I'll never meet any decent guys. - Funny how more guys are just talking to me and being sincere!

long and short..start focusing and feeling more of what you want instead of what you don't. Things will start changing and you'll feel the difference. Good book with basics..: Why Your LIfe Sucks (and what you can do about it) by Alan Cohen. Lots more books like that out there but this is a fun yet helpful start! Good luck and just start somewhere