I know I shouldn't be discouraged but...

megalin9

ummm...ditto



I had the same mentality, OP. I lost 25lbs and thought, damn, I stil have 55 more to go! It was overwhelming and intimidating. So I changed my mentality. It became about reaching mini goals. I set a goal to lose 30lbs before I went on a trip to visit my brother and sister-in-law stationed in TX. I ended up losing 34 by the time I got on the plane! I set goals to wear a certain size jean...or run a mile...run TWO miles...etc., etc. etc. Now, my hard work is not so much about seeing the scale go down as it is about reaching for things I want to do, like run a 5K, do a pull-up - things that make me feel like Super Woman! Who cares what the effing scale says if I can run 3.1 miles without walking and if my arms are toned and I can see my collar bones again! Make it more about feeling a hellovalot better than you did yesterday!

raeleek

I totally understand how you feel.

I used to look at all the weight I had to lose and forgot to be proud of what I have lost. I does get frustrating.

I am not even trying to pretend that I don't want to drop the pounds for vanity's sake but I'm learning that can't be the only way you look at it.

I've started to look at it from a health stand point before a looks stand point. This is especially helpful on the days where you're pmsing or bloated or maybe you've plateaued. Looking at it like this seems to help me push through. I think that even if I'm not seeing the weight fall off I'm still making good choices for my health. Every good food choice and workout adds up and leads to better health in general!

I still have days when I see weight loss success stories of 100+ lbs and in the back of my mind there is a tiny voice that says "that will never be you" but you just have to tell that voice to STFU and just keep pushing.

:drinker:

justjenn1977

Thanks guys for all your responses! I know I have an unhealthy scale relationship. I even had my husband hide our home scale but I went and found it like a pyscho.

I did make little goals for myself and each time I lose 5 pounds I'm buying myself a new lily & laura bracelet.. (my favorite thing to buy..and then I'll be able to count my weight loss in bracelets..haha).

I'm just having trouble being excited about 13 pounds because I guess I feel kind of dumb (or maybe embarassed?) to celebrate numbers that pale in comparison to what I need to lose..

When I first started this current journey I weighed 340#... My goal is 140ish#... that is daunting... 200... Just seems like an incomprehensible number... How in the hell could I ever ever loose that much?

I quit making scale goals....at all... My weight is just a byproduct of my fitness goals.... My weight is a byproduct of my calorie goals... I can walk... I can bike... I can hang with the big boys and I have the endurance to outlast them... Every day/week/month I try to be more active than before...

It has radically changed me...


I used to have a goal of five pounds per month... If I didn't make it I would be pissed and hurt and binge... And gain six pounds... It was a horrible vicious cycle and it had to stop...

That being said.. I still weigh... It helps me know if my calorie goals are accurate... I weigh once per day... No more... Sometimes a lot less (I might one week weigh fo ur times... I might the next weigh six... depends) the point is to stop letting those numbers define you

flyingpurplemonkey

13 pounds in 20 days?!?! That is over half a pound per day! That is great!

For me, when I decide to lose weight, I want it gone, NOW. So I understand that even if it is going at a good pace, it still is happening quick enough, and it may be impossible to lose at the rate that I want. You are making great progress, try not to lose sight of that.

Also, something that I read on one of these boards, was something along these lines (I wish I remembered who said it to give them credit, sorry): I don't know how to lose100 pounds. But I know how to lose one pound. So I'm going to do that. One hundred times over.

Keep up the good work, you're obviously doing something right!

justjenn1977

I wanted to add (my phone posted before I was done)

There are still days when I look at what I have left verses what I have lost... I still want to lose ~120~... That still seems daunting... Then I go pick up my 12 year old (weighs 70#) and try to walk ten feet... Can't do it... No wonder it was hard to start!

I totally second the recommendation to go carry a ten pound bag of sugar at the store... You will be amazed

pattysanderson71

13 lbs is GREAT!!!! But I understand when you feel discouraged!! I have only been on MFP for about 2-3 weeks (4 lbs )but have dieted all my life. I started seriously excercising in June and I am only down 9lbs. I must say I am totally frusterated. I know all the in's and outs of healthy eating yada yada yada....and do fairly well. Had my bloodwork done and all my results were great....finally got my cholsterol down to a good # so that is a plus. However even on my worst days I usually don't go much over 2000 calories and this is rare and I still excercise! Point blank....I think for the way I eat and the amount I excersice I should be down a heck of alot more!!!!! I also know that I am the only one that controls all of this....but just needed to vent!!!!! I drink my water, I eat breakfast, I walk at 4 mph (5 km in 40 mins) 5-6 times a week, I work out at they gym for 40 mins 5 days a week plus I walk to the gym and back 6 mins each way, I get 8 hrs sleep. If it is this hard now....what's it going to take for the next 35 lbs to go?????!!!!