I just wish she had the same passion for healthy eating...

ls_66

forks over knives? I have not seen it.. would it be appropriate to watch it with my 15 yo daughter?

lizziebeth1028

Sadly she has to make that decision herself. The best way you can assist her is to -

You become the cook and cook healthy dinners for both of you
Or....plan a romantic or just fun dinner you two can cook together
help her in the kitchen, research healthy recipes
You should do the grocery shopping, stock up on healthy items
take walks, hikes and bike rides together
go the the gym together and grab a healthy meal out afterwards

Lead by example!

3foldchord

If she hates cooking and you have no time to cook, check out your local whole foods/Healthfood store or Trader Joes for healthier pre-packaged, prepared foods.

MB_Positif

One of the biggest things that turned me around was realizing how often I told my son who was 4/5 at the time "No." It was always because I didn't want to be on the floor playing with him or outside kicking a ball or whatever he wanted to do. I was flat out lazy. I realized how sad it was that my son was missing out on doing that stuff with me and essentially I was able, just too lazy, but on a potential track to be unable. Ugh. Now he sometimes runs a mile with me or we play soccer, tennis or volleyball! Fun stuff!

Edited to add: I realize I said nothing about cooking. I just mentioned what turned me around. That said, maybe get her a cool cookbook with 5 ingredient recipes. It's an easy place to start

TheNewLeslie

You could sometimes offer to make the meal, and then prepare something healthy and tasty. I imagine most women would respond better to that than to being asked to make a healthy meal. And if she likes it, you can do it more often.

This.

Asking her to change isn't going to do much other than annoy her. Helping her out by making a meal or two a week will show her that you care AND that food can be healthy and good.

Eat2Live2Run

Sure, but she may be bored to tears. It was interesting to me, but I love documentaries and anything nutrition or food related.

MB_Positif

Forgot to mention...since I do most of the cooking in my house, my husband was stuck with it when I started eating differently, BUT it took him about 9 months to follow my lead by adding exercise to his life...so she may come around if you just show her how important it is to you. I never once told/asked my husband to exercise. I also prepared meals, etc. but he still chose snacks or what he'd eat while at work, etc. When he was ready he really started paying attention!

bfitgirl

My husband only recently (like 10 days ago!) got a bit of a health panic-attack so decided to cut out the crap food in order to lose some weight.

He has no interest in active exercise (he'd like to think golf counts) or cooking and leads a very busy stressed work life. If left to him (even with a fridge full of food) he'll dial up a Take-Away order. While I'm delighted that he's now ON A DIET he is not well educated on food nutrients. He equates healthy eating with being strict with yourself, having plain and boring meals etc much like your vegetarianism appears to your wife. So I've tried to help him, researching menus at his local breakfast/lunch/dinner restaurants that he uses and choosing the healthier option, because I don't see him, in the near future anyway, actually making that big a change to his work routines, maybe when he starts losing weight and feeling better about himself he'll start cooking aswell as exercise.

Let me tell you that I have been that nagging wife and I backed off a while ago cos I felt like I was bullying him albeit with good intentions. But when one of his closest friends wife got diagnosed with a life threatening illness recently I took the opportunity to tell him of my nightmare, that I leave him on the sofa to head up to bed for the night, but he dies of a heart-attack sitting up on the couch and our 9 year son discovers him the next morning, screaming the house down! Maybe both these brought on a bit of self-awareness and wanting to change. Maybe a heart to heart on her health and not weight is whats required.

michellekicks

OP, it looks like you've just found some success in the weight loss department... first time dieting and you've lost 32 of 47 lbs you needed to lose? If that's correct, what made you change? Why do you expect she would change just because the time was right for you?

Your job is to love and support her no matter what. She's your wife and the mother of your children and she was loving you when you were 47 lbs overweight, no?

I have been thin and I have been fat and neither changes your identity, really. You are who you believe you are and your body is just part of the equation. I found success this time around only because I found a workout in this new town I moved to that I really enjoyed and was going regularly (a class)... then a friend challenged me to run a half marathon and I had done one years ago. I figured I had better start dropping pounds if I wanted to run faster and farther... so I started eating right to fuel my running.

We all find different routes to success. What do you do for exercise? Maybe she would like to join you? Maybe you would try a new activity or class she'd try with you? Since I started this, MrBigMack has joined on, started running and has lost a little over 15 lbs now and I sometimes join him on his walk/run just to spend time...

You sound angry at your wife for not moving at your pace. You obviously just recently discovered this new pace... give her time.

RealWomenLovePitbulls

it's just something that you have to decide to do and really want, no amount of words from others, encouraging or not can make someone want to change until they want it

lmarshel

I was diagnosed with a thyroid condition, Graves' Disease. When I went in to see the specialist for the first time, I told him I realized something was wrong when I lost 25 pounds without changing a thing. His response - "That was probably a good thing for you." I was livid!! :explode:

Then I went home and thought about it and realized he probably was right. Also, being 25 pounds lighter allowed me to stop all blood pressure meds. And I felt like a new person. :bigsmile:

But I second that your wife will need to make the decision for herself. You really cannot do it for her. But you can lead by example, and hopefully she will eventually come around. I was trying to eat right and work out for a couple years before my hubby decided to join me. Now that he has, it's completely changed our lives!