Cant be motivated, ever.
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If I went by how many times I was motivated, I would never do it.Lol. The last thing you want to do is wait around to get motivated or inspired. The only way I seem to do it is if I just literally do it not matter what I think, or how I feel. Other than that, I fail over and over. Also, don't try to go crazy and do everything perfectly. If Insanity is too much, start out with a Jillian Michael's videos. If eating extremely clean all at once overwhelms you, don't do it. Take gradual steps toward changing your eating and exercising habits, one at a time. I remember in the beginning I tried to go all out and make a drastic change in my food and exercise, and I crashed and burned.0
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Hey guys.
I'm such a joke, I can't ever get myself to do this.
Thing is, every time I want to diet I start thinking of how I'll fail and I get really anxious and eat. EVERY SINGLE TIME.
I've been waking up and saying I'll go on a diet just about every day of my life.
Yesterday I was supposed to start insanity also but I didn't and I'm kinda glad I didn't because I binged so much.
Also I work 12-7 and my break is towards the end of my work day so it's hard to eat at the right times and whatnot. Any ideas/suport/etc?
Marina
Honestly, I'm just like you. I'm starting Brazil Butt Lift tomorrow. I'm determined to do it. (We'll see, right.) I was supposed to do 30 Day Shred in Aug with my friends, I did it once. I wish I could keep snacks/sweets in the house but I can't because I know they are there and I will eat them. I haven't read anyone's responses yet but I wanted to share that I'm in the same boat. I'm so miserable being fat yet afraid of change or some other BS.0 -
OK, SO HERE IT GOES.
I was in the same position for YEARS! I blamed everyone but myself for not getting off my fat A_ _ and taking care of myself. this time it is a lifestyle change. I want it. Do i get anxious, find reasons? yep, do i listen to my head? nope. this is about me.
so either you want it or you don't. quit making excuses. get up off your butt if you want it. only you can take control of yourself.
or as my tough love friend said.."maybe you like being miserable."
and ps, i am actually a friendly person, just blunt, add me if you want, i'll tell you how it is. :happy:0 -
Some people need to start small and build on that. Success begets success.
Have a checklist of 5 things you want to achieve this week such as:
1) Eat at least one serving of fresh vegetables a day instead of processed food
2) Eat at least one portion of lean meat a day instead of processed food
3) Drink one can of soda or less per day
4) Do 20 minutes of any kind of physical activity per day
5) Go to bed earlier each day
As you do them tick them off. At the end of the week feel good with what you have accomplished, maybe even reward yourself.
Keep setting yourself more challenging goals as the weeks pass.
Once you have conquered your mind your body will follow.
I totally agree with this. If anxiety is an issue, start small. As your confidence builds and anxiety lessens, you will be ready to take on bigger challenges. I made the same excuses every day for the last year, and gained 10 more pounds last year in the process. But think about it as a lifestyle change. You don't have to be perfect everyday. You just need to keep trying every day! Make the first step! It is the hardest. The rest will come.0 -
Its been less than a year and I am ALMOST there! Not to keep it off!!!!!!0
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It's hard to get into the swing of things. I'm right there with ya!0
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You should never consider this a diet, it is a life style change. First and foremost you need to make small changes to your life so that you don't anxious. Try substituting a bag of chips with a handful of almonds or cashews, instead of getting fried/breaded food get grilled, substitute tasty cakes/sweets with fruit. Small changes make a world of difference and they are less intimidating. Try finding a friend to walk with that way they can help with motivation. Get rid of excuses and realize why you want to make the change in the first place.
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Hey guys.
I'm such a joke, I can't ever get myself to do this.
Thing is, every time I want to diet I start thinking of how I'll fail and I get really anxious and eat. EVERY SINGLE TIME.
I've been waking up and saying I'll go on a diet just about every day of my life.
Yesterday I was supposed to start insanity also but I didn't and I'm kinda glad I didn't because I binged so much.
Also I work 12-7 and my break is towards the end of my work day so it's hard to eat at the right times and whatnot. Any ideas/suport/etc?
Marina
Just doesn't sound like you want it enough.
You need to choose of you want to be healthy or not rather than making lame excuses.
Sorry but that the truth. If you don't start until 12 you could get up in the morning have a healthy meal and go the gym.
You are also saying diet, diets are rubbish. A diet is a temporary thing that when you finish you will gain the weight again.
You need to change your life style, your food, your routine, your exercise and your attitude, no one else can change it for you.
Do it and do it for a month, look at the results if you have made any loss even small then take that as motivation thats when you will start feeling good about the change and how you can stick with it.
May be you should start with something really small just one thing, do you eat say bread or cakes everyday, start by removing one thing from your diet which you eat often and know is bad.0 -
The problem with so much of this is that it should not be a "diet" it should be a lifestyle of healthy eating and exercise. Diets may work for the temporary, but they will never last if you go right back to your old lifestyle. Adjust your lifestyle to be altogether healthier, and you will succeed. Keep at it, it's a challenge but worth it! Also, feel free to friend me if you'd like
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If by support you mean a kick in the butt? Then yes, I'll give you some support.
1. Quit with the negative self talk. If you tell yourself that you're a loser long enough and often enough then, guess, what, you start believing that. Try positive imaging and thinking of yourself in a positive way.....it sounds flaky but it works (assuming there is no underlying organic disease such as clinical depression - then you need professional help)
2. Quit making excuses - your hours of work have nothing to do with eating well or exercising.
3. Make a decision. Don't wish for stuff, act. It is only through action that you can achieve results. If your decision is to do nothing don't whine about it.
Q. How do you eat an elephant? A. One bite at a time.
Changing your life is the same, make small changes. If you find jumping into a fitness DVD routine overwhelming start by going for a walk or bike ride. Look at how you eat and make one small, healthier change at a time.
No one said this is easy (life isn't easy.......)0 -
I've been there girl, trust me. It's all about will power. It not going to be easy. It took some time for me to finally hit my "this is it" point. Do your research on healthy foods...tons of it. That's what helped me. I was obsessed with figuring out what was healthy for me. Now, eating right comes easily (sort of). You will deal with temptations for the rest of your life. The bottom line is you need to get it together and fight through it. Eat in moderation....yes, this will be hard at first if your used to eating whatever you want. The good news is your body will get used to it. You just have to be patient. You can do this. You either want it, or you don't. It's all up to you.0
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i agree with everyone else on this! Stop with the excuses and just do it. It is easier said than done but you CAN do it!0
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Tomorrow never comes. It's what we do right here right now that matters. I may not be able to move a mountain right now, but I can move one stone, one rock, one pebble, one grain of sand. If I do that right here right now and string enough of them together, I've moved a mountain. But right here right now I have this rock to move. What am I going to do about it?
Pick one goal and focus on it. You choose and do the one thing until you can add another and yet another. You CAN do this, the question you must answer, every moment of every day is, "WILL I do this?"0 -
I think until you really want to do it you'll never get motivated.
I used to smoke. I used to half heartedly give up every now and then but it would only last a few days as I didn't actually care enough. Then one day I decided that I didn't want to be a smoker any more and gave up, just like that. Tomorrow it will be 8 years and 5 months since I gave up.
This year I had the same lightbulb moment with being overweight and unfit. I've been on diets before, but never really kept it off. This time though I think I am going to manage it. I don't want to be the fat one for the rest of my life, and I am the only person that can do something about it.
Until you get to that point you will keep making excuses. Mine were that I would make my asthma worse if I exercised or that I didn't have enough time with three children and a job. But if you really want to do something you will find a way.
Good luck when you get to that point! :happy:0 -
You have to want it bad enough to do it...you apparently don't want it bad enough. The last time I tried this I wanted it bad enough for well about 6 months or so, then didn't care anymore. I can't tell you how many times I've wanted to quit this time, but look at what I've done. Why would I want to stop now? It's still a long road ahead of me but I feel I'm in it for the long haul. I'm so excited to see the new me, the me I see and feel(in my head), but don't yet have the look.
When your really ready you'll get to it, no one else can persuade you. It has to be you0 -
Jumping into Insanity sounds like a plan to possibly fail, unless you are already used to vigorous exercise.
30 day shred or ripped in 30 are great DVDs to start with. I know we all sound like we are on Jillian Michaels' payroll but the videos are great and they are less than 30 min. You're done before you realize you've been working out for 25 min! Plus you can go at your own pace.
It sucks sometimes, and it's hard. I tell myself multiple times a day "I'm going to the gym tonight" AND at the gym I remind myself to push hard otherwise it's just a waste of time.
What really got me out of the house and exercising at least 30 min a day was my dog. My husband and I adopted a dog that is very energetic and needs to be walked about 3 miles and there's no making excuses there. After walking him for about a year my fitness increased by like 200%. It worked for us. Please be aware that I am not saying go out and get a dog simply to exercise.
Small goals and take things day by day.0 -
Start with small substitutes in your diet, and small additions to exercise. Commit to walking everyday for 20 minutes this week. Up it to 25 next week, etc.
I have to talk myself into exercise all the time!! My mantra that I repeat over and over?
'JUST DO IT!!'
Once I've done it, then I'm done!0 -
You need to break it down into babysteps, jumping into insanity and thinking of it as a diet is the wrong approach, find an easy exercise to start with walking, bike riding, leslie sansomes walking dvds, etc
just make yourself exercise for 10 mins a day, usually after 10 mins you will go farther, but if 10 is all you do it is better then what you have been doing, remember you are out lapping the person sitting on the couch.
dont think of it as a diet if you want a special treat have it just eat smaller portions and fit it into your calorie count find substitutes for the foods you love. I use to eat ice cream everyday...HUGE BOWLS, now I still eat ice cream alot but i buy the ice cream bars and eat no more then 1 a day or go to mcdonalds and get an ice cream cone it is only 150 cals, find new foods that are low cal that you love
concentrate on 5 lbs at a time dont look at the big picture and give yourself a reward for each 5 lbs I bought myself a new pair of earrings for every 10 lbs
JUST DO IT....if you eat less then you are now and even going for a short walk it is progress0 -
Then don't diet... it's not necessary. You're putting way too much pressure on yourself right off the bat, no wonder you can't stay motivated!
Instead of going in fast and hard- why not try slowly like walking, or jogging and then easing your way into other workouts. You have to walk before you run.0 -
I agree with what others have said -- the only person who can motivate you is you. You can look at other people's success in order to find that motivation, but it still comes down to you having to decide that it's not an option anymore and that you're going to do it.
This is coming from someone who quit EVERYTHING before finishing. I'd start a program and give up days after. I'd start eating healthy then fall back into my old ways of eating what was good and convenient. I finally broke that cycle because I found workouts that I love and started to feel better when I changed my diet; I've now been working out 6x/week and eating healthy for 6 months.
EXCUSES will get you nowhere, and the only person they hurt is you. Build working out into your schedule and make it non-negotiable. If you don't have to work until noon, wake up and work out in the morning -- not only is that the best time to work out, but it also ensures that you don't have the whole day to come up with excuses.
Yes, it is going to be TOUGH, otherwise everyone would be thin and happy with themselves. You just need to say to yourself, "Self, it's time. There is no other option so here we go." Good luck!0 -
You need to get yourself ou tof the diet mentality. You don't need a diet. Diets are for those who seek a quick fix. You need a lifestyle change. Rethink your game and come up with a new plan and quit second-guessing yourself.0
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I am working on a 100 lb goal also, for me state of mind is more important than anything else. If you feel like you are punishing yourself , then part of you will always be looking for a way out. I NEED POSITIVE,,, NO diet,,,,, i am counting calories. no exercising,,,, I take a bike ride 3 times a week . Trying out ALL the fruits in the store ,,, finding new favorites. Its not "I am unhappy with my fat/weight" I celebrate each lost LB and I wanna be HAPPY,,, Snoopy dance each time I take pants size to goodwill . I am looking at my goal weight like a trip to Disneyland ,,,,,,, and I can't wait to get there. do yourself a favor ,,, figure out what works for YOU...0
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Just do it! Don't think about doing it. Get your butt up and move! You deserve to be fit and healthy so stop being your worst enemy. You can do it!0
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Start off by setting small goals for yourself that you think you can accomplish. As you begin to see that you can do this through accomplishing these small goals, you can begin to add more/harder goals for yourself. This is a lifestyle change and most people don't just wake up one morning and completely change their lives.
If you really can't put in the effort to begin this, even by starting with baby steps, I think you need to consider if you actually want to do this or not. It takes effort and it's not easy and it can take a long time to get the results you want. You aren't going to get anywhere by always putting it off for tomorrow.
And don't want for the perfect day to start or until you have everything planned. There is no perfect day to begin or not. Just do it, make mistakes and learn from them.0 -
This is a little more frivolous than what others have suggested but it's worked for me so far - rewarding yourself with something material for each goal might help you focus a little more. For example, once I get halfway to my goal weight I'm going to buy a necklace I really want. As long as you don't reward yourself with food or clothes (you never know what's going to not fit suddenly!) It's also easier if you stick to stuff that's only available at one store or online, because if you see it around you less then you're less likely to be tempted to buy it without earning it.
The Couch to 5K app is also doing wonders for me so far. Any kind of interval training is good because it gives you ample time to break between periods of exertion. I've also been using running as a way to get to know my new neighborhood, so if you live somewhere a little more urban you can turn exercising into a cool exploration of what's around you.0 -
Buy "Eat to Live" and read it all the way through. Then just do it. It works. I can live with it, cook with it, eat well on it, and never go hungry and don't have to work out like a madwoman. 'Nuff said.0
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Hey there.
I'm trying to think of something that I find the most motivating and the only thing I can think of is...Me.
I get the most motivated when I remember how good I did or how great I felt or how great something looked on me.
There isn't one thing that helps everyone, everyone has their own little nudge factor. My nudge is Me. Someone else's might be rewards or significant others, or enemies, or friends, etc.
I think you should read all of these replies and try each one that has given some advice and see what works for you.
But I am right there with everyone, when I say, no more excuses. We ALL have a life, we ALL have problems, we ALL have obstacles, etc.
I say the first step is stop thinking of all of the reasons why you can't do it!!! Try thinking of a reason why you can...
I don't know you and I can give you 3 MFP pages worth of reasons why you can...US!!! We've all done it, are doing it, or trying to do it.
Don't give up.
Frankie0 -
When it becomes important to you, you will figure it out. Until then, nothing that any of us say is going to hoist you off the couch, pull your hand out of the doritoes bag and push you out the door. When you reach the point that you just cannot fathom living the rest of your life like this, you will either accept it and go on about your business, not caring if the outfit you just picked out from the dress barn looks good on you, OR, you will put your shoes on, lace them up, go for a run and change your bad habits. You can make excuses all day long. But, I assure you that you are not the first, nor the last, person to have to face those same obstacles. Everyone does it differently. Some work out AT work, some cancel other obligations to make room, some find ways to work it in at home, some change all their eating habits at once, some do it gradually.
The first step, is decide what you REALLY want. To make excuses and stay where you are, wave the white flag and grab some KFC, or stop complaining, and get off your butt.0 -
Start logging your food today, don't even worry about changing the way you eat. Get a good grip on what you're eating. Just seeing it there in black and white, was hugely motivating for me. (Am I REALLY eating 400 g of carbs a day, almost all of which are coming from sweetened drinks??). And then, you will see where to start making the changes. "Hmm, I could shave 100 calories off this meal just by cutting the amount of condiments I use by half. If I use less creamer in my coffee and drink 2 fewer cups a day, I could shave 150 calories off my day, etc."
I have been here for 5 weeks and I'm eating way better today than I did the first couple of weeks. However, I lost 4 pounds the first week and 10 pounds as of last weekend. You have to start at the beginning and just keep putting one foot in front of the other, whether you need to lose 15 pounds or 150.
The food diary is KEY so start doing it! Getting a good sense of calories in foods and comparing that to how hungry you are really does help you make better choices (150 calories-worth of broccoli is going to be a lot more filling than 150 calories of potato chips).0
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