Poll: Overly Nice People

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  • texjenn
    texjenn Posts: 146 Member
    Always A
  • eireannyoung
    eireannyoung Posts: 154 Member
    Used to be B, got burned and now my reaction is A
  • CassiusKnox
    CassiusKnox Posts: 305 Member
    When a complete stranger, either online or in real life, approaches you, unsolicited, and is overly nice to you, for no apparent reason, are you:

    A. Cautious, and curious as to what scam they are trying to pull

    B. Delighted, that the world is full of such super-dee-duper nice people

    C. Annoyed, because overly happy people are clearly annoying

    D. Fearful, because they're setting you up for an assault and are very likely a carrier of multiple diseases

    Why would someone being nice to you solicit 3 really negative responces from you or 1 positive yet cynical response??

    Why so negative? <<< serious question.
  • When a complete stranger, either online or in real life, approaches you, unsolicited, and is overly nice to you, for no apparent reason, are you:

    A. Cautious, and curious as to what scam they are trying to pull

    B. Delighted, that the world is full of such super-dee-duper nice people

    C. Annoyed, because overly happy people are clearly annoying

    D. Fearful, because they're setting you up for an assault and are very likely a carrier of multiple diseases

    Why would someone being nice to you solicit 3 really negative responces from you or 1 positive yet cynical response??

    Why so negative? <<< serious question.

    I was about to say the same thing. After seeing this and seeing the responses from everyone, I'll try to be less nice now. It's funny though how when you seem less nice, you get nicer reactions from people you talk to like, store clerks, customers or just random people. When you're being genuinely nice though you're looked down upon.
  • Meg_78
    Meg_78 Posts: 998 Member
    A and C...

    I reallllly dislike overly nice people!
  • Gotta say A.

    Which is kinda weird to say considering I've been told i'm that overly nice person at times.... So thaaaaaat's how I must come across to other people lol
  • A
  • Impy84
    Impy84 Posts: 430
    Cautious and annoyed
  • GorillaEsq
    GorillaEsq Posts: 2,198 Member
    Why would someone being nice to you solicit 3 really negative responces from you or 1 positive yet cynical response??
    Why so negative? <<< serious question.
    And...
    I was about to say the same thing. After seeing this and seeing the responses from everyone, I'll try to be less nice now. It's funny though how when you seem less nice, you get nicer reactions from people you talk to like, store clerks, customers or just random people. When you're being genuinely nice though you're looked down upon.
    See this string...
    http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/733633-the-science-behind-nice-people
  • meeper123
    meeper123 Posts: 3,347 Member
    When a complete stranger, either online or in real life, approaches you, unsolicited, and is overly nice to you, for no apparent reason, are you:

    A. Cautious, and curious as to what scam they are trying to pull

    B. Delighted, that the world is full of such super-dee-duper nice people

    C. Annoyed, because overly happy people are clearly annoying

    D. Fearful, because they're setting you up for an assault and are very likely a carrier of multiple diseases

    B not enough people are nice anymore in this world so its always great to meet someone with a sunny additude
  • AmyFett
    AmyFett Posts: 1,607 Member
    Usually C
  • meeper123
    meeper123 Posts: 3,347 Member
    When a complete stranger, either online or in real life, approaches you, unsolicited, and is overly nice to you, for no apparent reason, are you:

    A. Cautious, and curious as to what scam they are trying to pull

    B. Delighted, that the world is full of such super-dee-duper nice people

    C. Annoyed, because overly happy people are clearly annoying

    D. Fearful, because they're setting you up for an assault and are very likely a carrier of multiple diseases

    Why would someone being nice to you solicit 3 really negative responces from you or 1 positive yet cynical response??

    Why so negative? <<< serious question.

    I was about to say the same thing. After seeing this and seeing the responses from everyone, I'll try to be less nice now. It's funny though how when you seem less nice, you get nicer reactions from people you talk to like, store clerks, customers or just random people. When you're being genuinely nice though you're looked down upon.

    Heck no be nice don't let these cynical people ruin your additude :D ( hell I think maybe most of them could try to be a bit nicer lol)
  • A and B. People are still genuinely nice, myslef included, but some are still evil.
  • GorillaEsq
    GorillaEsq Posts: 2,198 Member
    Heck no be nice don't let these cynical people ruin your additude :D ( hell I think maybe most of them could try to be a bit nicer lol)
    I'm curious as to your thoughts on the other string...
    http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/733633-the-science-behind-nice-people
  • marie_cressman
    marie_cressman Posts: 980 Member
    I can feel all of those, depending on the vibes different people give off :p

    This. Different people give off different vibes and my reaction is based on those vibes.

    That being said, I am a super nice person, but I don't always go out of my way to hold conversations with random people. I am nice in the way that I smile at everyone I pass and offer my help when I see someone who needs it. :) If a conversation sparks up, then great, but usually that only happens on rare occasions. ;)
  • dakitten2
    dakitten2 Posts: 888 Member
    When a complete stranger, either online or in real life, approaches you, unsolicited, and is overly nice to you, for no apparent reason, are you:

    A. Cautious, and curious as to what scam they are trying to pull

    B. Delighted, that the world is full of such super-dee-duper nice people

    C. Annoyed, because overly happy people are clearly annoying

    D. Fearful, because they're setting you up for an assault and are very likely a carrier of multiple diseases


    Sometimes A because I am a practical person and realize that not all people are trustworthy.

    Mostly B because I am a happy-go-lucky type person and you never know when a friendly smile or hello might just make someone's day.

    Never C

    D would be possible if I was in an unfamiliar place, like when I travel or something (not really the disease part tho).
  • annmedford71
    annmedford71 Posts: 32 Member
    I am all of them. Dealt with people in foodservice for 30 years. You never know what your going deal with.
  • leomom72
    leomom72 Posts: 1,797 Member
    im caurious and fearful of everyone..ya never know about people of the world today..(thanks experience i had years ago for turning me into this)
  • hughtwalker
    hughtwalker Posts: 2,213 Member
    B. - until they try to sell me insurance (or 'Watchtower')
  • umer76
    umer76 Posts: 1,272 Member
    A< I have seen that in my experience. Any one who is overly nice is actually over-acting. They will show their colours soon!!
  • AwesomeMoJo
    AwesomeMoJo Posts: 1,145 Member
    Tell me, how does it make you feel?
    I don't know. No ever approaches me. I'm kinda scary.

    You know you are far from scary..well to me at least.
  • BSchoberg
    BSchoberg Posts: 712 Member
    That's my problem. I'm too nice online. I ooze e-warmth.

    ... you know, I picked up on that right away...
  • Heck no be nice don't let these cynical people ruin your additude :D ( hell I think maybe most of them could try to be a bit nicer lol)
    I'm curious as to your thoughts on the other string...
    http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/733633-the-science-behind-nice-people
    That was well written but it made me sad. I am a happy person and there are some days that something in my life has made me on top of the world. Now I will try to keep this to myself as people will think I want something from them.

    The answer to your question was B but now maybe I better stick to D.
  • opuntia
    opuntia Posts: 860 Member
    I don;t think we have OVERLY nice people in the UK unless they're tourist :smile:

    Haha - this. I can't think of any time I've been approached by an overly-nice stranger. Unless they've got something to sell, or want you to donate to a charity - that's the only time people approach complete strangers and start up a cheery conversation. People don't just approach strangers, without any context, purely to be overly-nice to them! It goes against the whole ingrained British reserve.
  • 0MissErin0
    0MissErin0 Posts: 92 Member
    It depends on the situation.
    generally i am over-nice to people, but i do believe it can come across this way as there are so many not-nice people in the world that it exaggerates the nice-ness :P LOL
  • Aquarian
    Aquarian Posts: 1,094 Member
    In real life, very cautious. Online, moderately cautious. :) But either way, I will be nice back, just won't be manipulated by nicety. :)
  • opuntia
    opuntia Posts: 860 Member
    It depends on the situation.

    This too. There has to be some kind of context.

    Does 'overly nice' mean approaching a random stranger out of nowhere and starting up a smiling conversation full of compliments and inviting them to your house for tea? That would be weird, because there is no obvious reason - people are naturally wired to try to make sense of their surroundings and look for the reason behind something. People generally have reasons behind their actions, and unless it is a cultural thing to approach random strangers and invite them for tea (in which case the reason would be a cultural norm) this would be looked on with suspicion. Or maybe the person simply lacks awareness of social norms and appropriate behaviour. For instance, someone once approached me in this way, and he had had a severe head injury in the past (he showed me the scars and gave me an in-depth account of all the gory details), so I realised that had caused him to lose natural inhibitions and social awareness. So I didn't suspect him of ulterior motives - but I also didn't go to his house for tea!

    Or does it mean approaching a stranger for a reason - like seeing they are in trouble in some way and offering to help? Once my bike broke as I was cycling home from work, and I was trying to fix it, and some stranger came along and offered to help. This was genuine kindness on his part, in a clear context, and I was grateful. I also try to help people if I see they are in trouble, and if I am able to help in some way. To me this isn't being 'overly nice' - it's just helping out a fellow human in need. But not everyone does it.
  • checof
    checof Posts: 114
    B: when I'm online. Especially on MFP! :)

    D: in real life. I am originally from a third world country, where you're always at risk of being assaulted by overly nice people AND by people who appear to be in trouble. Now they're using "lost children" to lure good samaritans to deserted alleys where they can be robbed/raped/killed. The result is deep down I'm a jaded and paranoid *kitten* who keeps walking/driving and doesn't stop when approached in the street. I will die alone. u_u
  • GorillaEsq
    GorillaEsq Posts: 2,198 Member
    Nice I like. Overly nice I find annoying and phoney. If you fart rainbows step away or I might puke on your shoes.
    "Farting rainbows" is now my most favorite idiom, of all time.
  • terryjo623
    terryjo623 Posts: 101 Member
    C - I am a waitress and I encounter a hundred new people everyday and yes super nice people are really annoying, not normal nice but the over the top, head will explode if they could be any happier nice!!!!