Memory boxes from past relationships

alleycat88

How many of you have one? Does your SO have one? What are your thoughts/feelings on this?

I don't have one, my SO does, and I think it's cute. A little funny that he has one, and I don't.

louiseshaw88

I think thats abit strange to be honest :S
why would you feel the need to hold onto those thnigs ? you have the memories in your head why keep things should get rid when that relationship ends or at least when you get into a new relationship - start making new memories not hold onto old ones from past relationships - thats just my opnion tho xx

littlepinkhearts

I have one, my husband has one (we're not together any longer) but we are just a memory in each others lives. I'm glad I kept it. It's a piece of my past. It has other pics in it also. I look through it when i'm feeling nostalgic. I don't see anything wrong with it.

coliema

I would never keep a memory box, the stuff I ever had from my exes forever ago, I burned. MUAHAH.

corn63

I don't have a box, well not a memory box....


But I do have some cards and things that were given to me by my exes. I don't have a collection though.

DMZ_1

Not a huge fan of this idea.

FlyByJuly

I used to have a boxful of letters, cards, poems etc from an ex. Then one day I flipped out and burned them all.

hougt

Seems a pointless thing, why keep memories of past relationships that didn't work, they obviously didn't work for a reason

PBsMommy

Does an envelope with divorce papers and custody agreements count? :laugh: Just kidding, never had a divorce....

My personal opinion is it is a sign you haven't quite moved on from the relationship, which is understandable in cases.

126siany

My feeling is that you aren't over the relationship if you feel the need to keep mementos.

Turtlehurdle

My husband has a box. It's his d_ck in a box.

alleycat88

My feeling is that you aren't over the relationship if you feel the need to keep mementos.

Well to be fair one of his exes (and friend of mine.) passed away so it's a way to remember her as a person, not just an ex.

Again, I don't have one as I never really want anything to do with most of my exes anyway :laugh:

littlepinkhearts

My husband has a box. It's his d_ck in a box.

hahaha perfect!!

alleycat88

My husband has a box. It's his d_ck in a box.

hahaha perfect!!

LoL.

As long as my so keeps his d*(k in MY box I'm okay with that!

CarleyLovesPets

I don't have a box.
I have a scrapbook that my ex is in.
But I'm not sure what to do with it... I want to get rid of it but I don't.

Same with my facebook albums that he's in.
Like vacations and such.

katamus

I had two of them. I burned it all. Whatever couldn't be burned got thrown in the lake.

AJ_Pete

I have a giant tote of memories with old letters from boyfriends, concert tickets, and pictures with high school best friends.

GlutesthatSalute

I STILL have one from a 10 year relationship that ended 5 years ago and up until now I always hesitated throwing it away several times... Actually it wasn't until I read this post that I realized I'm ready to toss it.. seems I wasn't over what we had until now.

magj0y

I have a memory box.. but it's for everyone. birthday card/congratulatory card from sis/bro, pictures of my exes and friends through life. I even have the outfit I was brought home in, and my niece's. No letters, wxcept one from my ex-mother in la, . None of them were in to that kind of thing. It's the history of Maggie.. and how I came to be the person I am today. All of these friends, all of these boyfriends, all of these experiences make me who I am today.

**I am def. over these guys, I've been married for ten years, but it's my history. some of these guys date back to High School, I have a picture of my first love... in 1st grade. All the wonderful memories that I cherish, even when the relationship went sour.

dsjohndrow

I would never keep a memory box, the stuff I ever had from my exes forever ago, I burned. MUAHAH.

This! ^^^

jamielovesjbs

i say burn that ****. what would he want it for?

eeeekie

I have one. It's at my parents house. They are like tattoos...big part of my life for such a long time. Why throw away stuff that once meant so much to me? I have no want or need to be with my ex any longer but that time in my life was happy so why throw it away. I wouldn't keep it at my apartment (which I share with my current boyfriend) that would be a bit disrespectful to my boyfriend and our relationship.

chivalryder

I burned the only one I ever made...

bulbadoof

Why is there so much stress on getting "over" what was such an important part of your life that you decided to keep pieces of it? To move on and forget about an experience that helped you to grow as a person, whether it ended well or poorly, is ungrateful imo. And burning their stuff is a waste of perfectly good things - if you can't return it for some reason, it hurts you too much to hold on to, and it still has some practical use, I'm sure a shelter would be more than happy to take it off your hands!

I don't keep memory boxes because I am TERRIBLE at holding on to things. I'd lose half the things I wanted to put in it long before I even got home! :laugh: However, I fondly look back on and appreciate all of my exes and the time I spent with them, because without the things I learned from them, without the mistakes we both made, I wouldn't be where I am today. I'm still friends with many of them, and often their new girlfriends too!

Maybe I only feel this way because I ended about 90% of my past relationships on good terms, though. I guess some people aren't as fortunate.

Molly_Maguire

I find this practice to be creepy as hell. Exes are exes for very good reasons. Even if you stay good friends afterwards---you ARE friends, so wtf do you need a memory box, for?? And if you're not friends, well, that indicates you're living in the past, and are not over him/her. Get rid of their crap.

ldrosophila

Did she pass while they were still in the relationship or before?

Personally, I get rid of everything.

waronmyfat

I still have scrapbook albums of my ex husband and I ... they just sit in a box packed away no idea what to do with them really..... same with family photos of us and the kids etc I suppose I keep onto them more so for the kids when they wanted to look at their daddy as we live in different towns 8 hours apart

tgh1914

Interesting topic. I actually do have one from a 2 yr relationship from about 15 yrs ago (or part of it anyway). I actually felt bad about throwing some of it away; she put a LOT of work into some of the stuff. I don't feel an attachment anymore, but some of the stuff was really creative & stuff. And it wasn't like a nasty break-up or anything - mostly just a very unrealistic relationship (it became long distance and some lifestyle differences).

My SO at the time was kinda bothered when she saw it, so after I explained my view I asked her what she thought I could keep without it bothering her too much. I ended up keeping some of the mix tapes (yeah, tapes, I'm old) and some of the hand-crafted stuff, but not letters & pics.

oliv2065

I don't have one. I have a few things my Ex husband gave me but I keep them for our daughter. I do have a lot of ex's who are still friends. Some I work with on a regular basis (usually it is daily) and some I even work with now

arewethereyet

Sure. It has his hair, a piece of his clothing.......ya know for the next time I go to New Orleans




:laugh:

shellebelle87

My husband has a box. It's his d_ck in a box.

I have had that damn song in my head for the past hour!!!