people that are poison ...
emilymoxey
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Unfortunately I have a case of a very bad neighbour (alcoholic, verbally abusive towards us) .... today he announced loudly "our fat neighbour is home" .. .after working so hard and losing 56 pounds ... this hit me hard.
I guess my question is .. how do you not let little things like this bog you down?
I guess my question is .. how do you not let little things like this bog you down?
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Just remind yourself where this is coming from - a drunken idiot who probably can't see straight. :laugh:0
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Ignore him. He's a sad pitiful man whose destroyed his life with drinking. One day, he'll probably be homeless and will lose everything he loves. Alcohol is brutal and an awful destroyer when someone abuses it. Anything that comes out of his mouth is venom and he's probably seeing double of anything that crosses his path.0
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You're bettering yourself and he's a useless abusive drunk *kitten*? How would that get your down?0
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**** him, I think these people should go kill themselves~!!!!!!~@!~!@!@!#@$%0
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Take a bag of dog SH$T and light it on fire on his front steps and ring his bell and run.0
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Always consider the source.0
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I think it honestly hurts either way. I'm sorry that someone said such a rude thing. But first you must recognize that someone that speaks so fouly about someone else isn't very happy about themselves, plus yuou know the road you've come along and know that it took hard work and determination to get there. Their nasty comment would only motivate me to work that much harder. Be encouraged and try not to let that kind of stuff get yuou down. Pray for people who persecute others like that. They obviously need help. Add me as a friend if yuou like. I love to motivate others and get motivated too. Be Blessed.0
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he can go **** himself0
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First of all, fantastic work on losing 56 pounds!! Keep up the great work. :flowerforyou:
As for your neighbor, try thinking about him from a different angle... feel sorry for the b*stard. He obviously has issues and needs to try to bring others down with him so that he can feel better about himself. My mom always used to say to me "if they're talking about me, they're leaving someone else alone".
Don't let him bring you down, just consider the source.0 -
People like your idiot drunken neighbor spew hatred and hurtful words into the world, he hates himself, therefore he has to tear other people down to feel better about himself. Ignore him, he can do nothing but bring you down! However, let this be an incentive to reach your goal weight, I have always said, the best revenge in the world is success! Think of how great you will feel when you walk by him, looking your best all thin and lovely, you can smile and know that you are doing great, and he is a used up hateful drunk! : )0
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Just remind yourself where this is coming from - a drunken idiot who probably can't see straight. :laugh:
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Ignore him. He's a sad pitiful man whose destroyed his life with drinking. One day, he'll probably be homeless and will lose everything he loves. Alcohol is brutal and an awful destroyer when someone abuses it. Anything that comes out of his mouth is venom and he's probably seeing double of anything that crosses his path.
^^^ This + Karma :laugh:0 -
"Yep, I still live next to an *kitten*."
I'd be just as nasty back to him.0 -
Say something genuinely nice back in return.Unfortunately I have a case of a very bad neighbour (alcoholic, verbally abusive towards us) .... today he announced loudly "our fat neighbour is home" .. .after working so hard and losing 56 pounds ... this hit me hard.
I guess my question is .. how do you not let little things like this bog you down?
Always do that.
If an opportunity arises to do something kind/helpful, do it.
When you think about him, plan a good reaction toward him at next meeting.
Never say anything unkind, and end all negative conversions with others that anyone else starts.
It will stop.
And you will be free as a bird:)0 -
I agree with some of the other posters.....turn your hurt into motivation. What's the old cliche? You can loose the weight (and you are), but he's still going to be the mindless drunk jerk still then.0
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people like that are just angry with themselves, the world and life in general and I totally agree with MinMin97 who said
"Never say anything unkind, and end all negative conversions with others..."0 -
Wow, WHAT an *kitten*!! I'm sorry. I wish I knew something to say that would help. No one should have to endure bullying like that.0
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Remember you have the right to be respected no matter what weight you are. Ignore the oaf, only someone who is not happy with themselves will put others down to make themselves feel better.
HUGE HUG!!!
You are doing an AWESOME job!!! Keep going!!! :flowerforyou: :flowerforyou:0 -
Gosh, having such nasty neighbors is hard.:grumble: I’m sorry he was so rude. You have done an amazing job losing 56 lbs! Don’t let miserable people trip you up. You look beautiful! :flowerforyou:0
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My sister is one of those people, and through living with her and knowing her so closely I have come to understand that those people say those sorts of things because they are as abusive to themselves as they are to other people - they need to externalize some of it to escape the feelings that come from dealing with that sort of negativity 24/7. I'd even go as far as to venture that the alcohol abuse is another form of escape from their own mind.
Knowing this, I tend to forgive them easily and even feel a little bit sorry for them. I go out of the way to do nice things for them and try not to snap back when they make remarks. It hurts and it's unfair, but at the end of the day, you're not them; you only have to deal with these things when they come out of someone else's mouth, as opposed to being bombarded with them all the time by your own thoughts.0 -
Always remember that there are two kinds of people you shouldn't ever bother giving the time of day to: *kitten* and idiots. Sounds like you've got a double whammy in your neighbor.0
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Do no react, in any way. I know that sounds like the wrong thing to do, but if you react to the him, you are rewarding him. Letting him know he has power over your emotions. Don’t allow the him to EVER have control over how you feel. Ignore his sorry *kitten*. He does not deserve any kind of attention from you. You DESERVE better.
Congratulation on your 56 lb. weightloss! That is spectacular!
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If I were you my response would have been "Alcohol piece of crap is still home". Don't let him get you down though. Some people are just complete *kitten*. It's most likely cuz he feels miserable about his own crappy life. Big hugz to you0
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If I were you my response would have been "Alcohol piece of crap is still home". Don't let him get you down though. Some people are just complete *kitten*. It's most likely cuz he feels miserable about his own crappy life. Big hugz to you
"Alcohol piece of crap is still alive"
Fixed that for you.0 -
Just remind yourself where this is coming from - a drunken idiot who probably can't see straight. :laugh:
Exactly this!! Plus he must be very miserable. Gotta feel sorry for idjits sometimes:)0 -
I know how you feel. When someone upsets me., Im tissed off for the whole day. And it could just be one person. The way I try to deal with it usually a friendly persons attitude pus me in a good mood0
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Take a bag of dog SH$T and light it on fire on his front steps and ring his bell and run.
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Um, you remind yourself that you are a freaking rockstar to have gotten so far already!!!! That is an AMAZING accomplishment!! You are taking what you had, and making yourself healthier and better for it. You respect your body enough to want to make the best of the life that you have and this person OBVIOUSLY does not have the same going for them!! If all else fails, be thankful you are not a hopeless imbecile like they are!0
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Love your response! OP no one can take away your hard work and pride in it unless you give them the power to. Others can't hurt us unless we allow them too. I'm not there yet but I'm working on being stronger at keeping that at the front of my mine so it will become natural to not worry what others words are.
Say something genuinely nice back in return.Unfortunately I have a case of a very bad neighbour (alcoholic, verbally abusive towards us) .... today he announced loudly "our fat neighbour is home" .. .after working so hard and losing 56 pounds ... this hit me hard.
I guess my question is .. how do you not let little things like this bog you down?
Always do that.
If an opportunity arises to do something kind/helpful, do it.
When you think about him, plan a good reaction toward him at next meeting.
Never say anything unkind, and end all negative conversions with others that anyone else starts.
It will stop.
And you will be free as a bird:)
Congrats, well done!!!:drinker: 0
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