Why is it ok to over eat ?

ebony__

This is not a general rule or about everyone but I have found that if I eat under my cals for a day there is often a lot more comments and criticisms than if I over eat... Like under eating a couple of hundred cals one day is just plain terrible and shocking and I'm goin to get sick an my body will shut down and die ( so I exaggerate a little) but if I over eat, by the same amount if not more
Either no one says anything, or they compliments me on what good choices I made or something like that ...
My goal here is to lose weight ( along with all the other stuff but losing weight is the direction I want to go)
And I'm a big girl with a lot to lose ...

RedBullLiz

That is so true.
"Good choices you made even though it was over."
"Tomorrow is a new day."
All things that are almost repeated. I love the comments, don't get me wrong, but I'd like the brutal honest tough love truth from my friends. That is why I have them, right??

annwyatt69

I wonder the same thing. I get tired of people telling me that my calories are too low and when I raise them to where they believe they should be I either don't lose weight or I gain. My doctor has ok'd my low cals, so they can just deal with it or get off my MFP. That's my theory anyway. The other option is to close your diary. What you eat is your business.

Railr0aderTony

Most of us Fat people can understand overeatting where we can not grasp the concept of under eatting. my opinion anyway. We have all overate and you feel guilty for doing it so you say what you would want to hear if you over ate.

RedBullLiz

awyatt69: you're right. If your doctor has ok'd it, there should not be a problem. Seriously, it's gonna be hard for people to understand that that's what makes YOU happy. After being approved by a doctor, low or high calories are what YOU'RE eating. Not everyone else. I agree.
MFP sets my calories to 1400 something. I eat waaay too much. I reach up to 4500. Its just weird how "out of no where" I've gone up to that number. BUT the funny thing is, its not all bad. it's all healthy food and lots of veggies. Hmm... Well, its just weird.

meshashesha2012

if you dont like people making comments on your choices then close your diary or just ignore it.

toriaenator

its not that its "ok" per say; but having people comment "you suck" isnt going to do much. im assuming you already feel guilty after overeating anyways so no one else needs to criticize you.

also its a lifestyle change and in life some days you eat less and some more; the way it balances out is what matters!

Princess_Sameen

personally I don't think its anyone's place to judge someone else regarding what they eat........this is a personal journey. But I do agree I hate when I have been out and have made some rubbish choices then get nice comments.....................I do look at my screen and think "hello are you even looking at my diary"

GeekyGoddess

Ya, I closed my diary to everyone except my friends because random strangers were messaging me to ***** at me about my food or my macros or my totals. People just suck and need to mind their own beeswax. As long as what you are doing works for you, you're alll good.

Railr0aderTony

( so I exaggerate a little)

I think you exaggerate a lot at least with this post. and last night you were posting about fat kids, I am wondering what your Agenda really is?

newmein2013

if you dont like people making comments on your choices then close your diary or just ignore it.

this is true. people are going to advise on what they believe to be true and the majority of people don't want to hurt feelings. so you either have to go through a trial & error process of obtaining & weeding through friends, or close your diary. personally, i like mine closed. i have nothinv to hide & generally stay on target quite well. i just like the privacy. that's your right. this is your journey.

chubbygirl253

I agree. One day in particular I only consumed about 700 calories because I was away from home all day and good food choices were not abundant. I normally eat double that. I worked out 3 hrs that day and a girl jumped all over me for it. I deleted her because she was so snotty about it. I think if I had gone over she woulda been fine with it. I like having an open diary because most people are constructive but if someone is gonna be a jerk then I don't need them on my friends list.

rachelbethany

I notice this too, and it drives me crazy! Especially because if I am overeating by THOUSANDS of calories one day, and then undereat by a few hundred calories another day during the same week, I see it as totally fine. Balance. But other people definitely do not. Unfortunately, it's how our society-- at least in the United States-- is.

There is all this fear about eating disorders, but no one worries about binge eating disorder. Everyone's obsessed with the idea of the anorexic, and it's almost as if overweight people want to label other people -- whether they're overweight too or not-- as disordered if they're eating too little. But not everyone who undereats every once in a while has an eating disorder!

Maybe some people express concern out of legitimate worry, but I honestly think most of the people who freak out if someone's a few hundred calories too low are just being paranoid, bossy, and trying to look better than the other person. CHILL OUT!

I know that I have WAY too many days where I eat thousands of calories over my limit, but, perhaps since I'm technically at a healthy weight, no one thinks it's an issue. And in reality I have problems with portion control and emotional eating that need much more attention than the one day a month or so that I end up on the LOW end of things. And yet it's the rare day of undereating that always garners attention. It's just sad.

LordByproduct

well its important not to restrict calories so much that you crash and burn and end up with body clinging to its fat. other than that ignor the critics and go with what works for you.

ebony__

( so I exaggerate a little)

I think you exaggerate a lot at least with this post. and last night you were posting about fat kids, I am wondering what your Agenda really is?

My agenda?
I like to know peoples thoughts on topics.
Simple as that

Edit.. Things dont have to particularly relate to me for me to find them interesting.

Railr0aderTony

( so I exaggerate a little)

I think you exaggerate a lot at least with this post. and last night you were posting about fat kids, I am wondering what your Agenda really is?

My agenda?
I like to know peoples thoughts on topics.
Simple as that

Edit.. Things dont have to particularly relate to me for me to find them interesting.

Well good enough, just curious since you seem to hit some really touchy topics, maybe you should look into a talk show?

sunnykt

I notice this too, and it drives me crazy! Especially because if I am overeating by THOUSANDS of calories one day, and then undereat by a few hundred calories another day during the same week, I see it as totally fine. Balance. But other people definitely do not. Unfortunately, it's how our society-- at least in the United States-- is.

There is all this fear about eating disorders, but no one worries about binge eating disorder. Everyone's obsessed with the idea of the anorexic, and it's almost as if overweight people want to label other people -- whether they're overweight too or not-- as disordered if they're eating too little. But not everyone who undereats every once in a while has an eating disorder!

Maybe some people express concern out of legitimate worry, but I honestly think most of the people who freak out if someone's a few hundred calories too low are just being paranoid, bossy, and trying to look better than the other person. CHILL OUT!

I know that I have WAY too many days where I eat thousands of calories over my limit, but, perhaps since I'm technically at a healthy weight, no one thinks it's an issue. And in reality I have problems with portion control and emotional eating that need much more attention than the one day a month or so that I end up on the LOW end of things. And yet it's the rare day of undereating that always garners attention. It's just sad.

QFT.
I view my calorie goal as net calories per day over the week, not as a daily goal- so sometimes I used to eat 900 calories one day a week and then the rest of the week I'd eat 1,400- ending with results over the 1'200 calorie "starvation mode" deficit for the week (plus I have odd sleeping hours and times so this works).

I've never had people on my case about it (because I don't have many myfitnesspal friends), but I've witnessed a few people jump on their high horse and ride around the myfitnesspal forums calling everybody who even mentions going under 1'200 "anorexic" and "going into starvation mode". Which is a complete fallacy.

I've read those studies which the concept of "starvation mode" was taken from, and although our bodies stores food more readily when we don't eat enough (which is logical because it doesn't know when our next meal will be) and our metabolism slows to help keep us alive (because we are telling it there isn't much food sources around). 1'200 calories is a pretty standard measurement that can't possibly apply to both a 6'1 and a 4'12 woman. It's kind of like the "no more than 2" directions on a packet of panadol. It's for our own good, but there is a better equation out there that could tell us exactly what we shouldn't go under- but only experts know it.

It's just a community thing too. People see other people getting on their high horse about "starvation mode" and decide that it looks fun and they want to be a know-it-all too. It also means that they can pat themselves on the back for not dieting "badly" like other people, and not destroying their bodies, like other people. It strengthens the community and the people within a community become more likely to stick to a cause and not defect when they have a common enemy.

Wow. Psychological theories applied by governments about having a "common enemy" to strengthen allegiance to the state also work on dieters.

Railr0aderTony

QFT.
I view my calorie goal as net calories per day over the week, not as a daily goal- so sometimes I used to eat 900 calories one day a week and then the rest of the week I'd eat 1,400- ending with results over the 1'200 calorie "starvation mode" deficit for the week (plus I have odd sleeping hours and times so this works).

I've never had people on my case about it (because I don't have many myfitnesspal friends), but I've witnessed a few people jump on their high horse and ride around the myfitnesspal forums calling everybody who even mentions going under 1'200 "anorexic" and "going into starvation mode". Which is a complete fallacy.

I've read those studies which the concept of "starvation mode" was taken from, and although our bodies stores food more readily when we don't eat enough (which is logical because it doesn't know when our next meal will be) and our metabolism slows to help keep us alive (because we are telling it there isn't much food sources around). 1'200 calories is a pretty standard measurement that can't possibly apply to both a 6'1 and a 4'12 woman. It's kind of like the "no more than 2" directions on a packet of panadol. It's for our own good, but there is a better equation out there that could tell us exactly what we shouldn't go under- but only experts know it.

It's just a community thing too. People see other people getting on their high horse about "starvation mode" and decide that it looks fun and they want to be a know-it-all too. It also means that they can pat themselves on the back for not dieting "badly" like other people, and not destroying their bodies, like other people. It strengthens the community and the people within a community become more likely to stick to a cause and not defect when they have a common enemy.

Wow. Psychological theories applied by governments about having a "common enemy" to strengthen allegiance to the state also work on dieters.

Wow, this litterally made my head hurt, it is way to late to think that much. Well said BTW.

NocturnalGirl

I know right! I hate that people get angry at me when I undereat when there are others who overeat and they're all nice to them :ohwell:

hacker1234

I know right! I hate that people get angry at me when I undereat when there are others who overeat and they're all nice to them :ohwell:

Don't think I've ever had anyone get angry at me for under eating