Men's advice please....

Tiffers44
Tiffers44 Posts: 6
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So I thought I had a great date with a fantastic guy. Enjoyed the conversation even though I talked a bit too much (nerves got the best of me). I haven't dated in a long time! LONG time. After the date I sent him a text that I had a nice time and it was nice to meet a nice attractive man. I apologized for talking to much and he said he wasn't thinking that I talked too much. That he enjoyed it, I was very sweet and good night pretty lady. I know right?! How sweet is that!

I haven't heard from him since? What do you think? Just a nice way of saying...I don't think so?
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  • legs_n_bacon
    legs_n_bacon Posts: 478 Member
    How long has it been? We need more information!
  • ldalbello
    ldalbello Posts: 207 Member
    How long ago was the date ?
  • dinosnopro
    dinosnopro Posts: 2,177 Member
    Should have put out....................just sayin.
  • zaph0d
    zaph0d Posts: 1,172 Member
    Maybe he's playing The Game. Why not call or text him?
  • MassiveDelta
    MassiveDelta Posts: 3,271 Member
    Maybe he's playing The Game. Why not call or text him?

    bingo
  • Tiffers44
    Tiffers44 Posts: 6
    It's been a week.

    For those of you that are actually helpful. Thank you.
  • whitehairedguy64
    whitehairedguy64 Posts: 105
    Being old, and therefore old fashioned the message you conveyed by text should have been said verbally at the end of the date. I guess it's a sign of the times, but some things should not be said by text, and in my opinion, this is an example.

    Not knowing how long it's been since the date, I suugest you be patient and wait. You sent the message, now the ball is in his court.

    This is Tuesday, assuming the date was sometime over the wekend, don't rush it.
  • Tiffers44
    Tiffers44 Posts: 6
    Thanks- Whitehairedguy64!
  • fcp1234
    fcp1234 Posts: 1,098 Member
    I am not a man, but here's my opinion...

    Do nothing !!

    If he is interested, he has your number..If he is playing THe game, he has your number..Dont sit there waiting for him, go on other dates, go out with friends. If he really wants to, he will contact you.
  • johnlatv
    johnlatv Posts: 654 Member
    i would say reach out to him, a quick hi, how was your weekend and leave it alone. He should have sent a text by now, if he was a gentleman.
  • PhotogNerd
    PhotogNerd Posts: 420 Member
    If he's interested he'll call.....or text (ugh). Go on some more dates with other men. If you never hear from him who cares, he just didn't see the awesome in you. Someone else will though. =)
  • RunHardBeStrong
    RunHardBeStrong Posts: 33,069 Member
    I am not a man, but here's my opinion...

    Do nothing !!

    If he is interested, he has your number..If he is playing THe game, he has your number..Dont sit there waiting for him, go on other dates, go out with friends. If he really wants to, he will contact you.

    This.
  • iWaffle
    iWaffle Posts: 2,208 Member
    If you're crazy about him them call him soon. If not then keep shopping because he's apparently not koo-koo for your cocoa cocoa puffs.
  • Danardeener
    Danardeener Posts: 255
    To be bluntly honest, he's just not that into you. He has your number if he's interested he would chase you. Go out on other dates, have a good time.... he may or may not resurface. If he doesn't no loss!
  • ErinBeth7
    ErinBeth7 Posts: 1,625 Member
    i would say reach out to him, a quick hi, how was your weekend and leave it alone. He should have sent a text by now, if he was a gentleman.
    I agree with this. You can reach out without sounding needy. If he doesn't respond well or if this doesn't propel things, then I wouldn't worry about him. If he really is interested, he'd make the effort.
  • drmerc
    drmerc Posts: 2,603 Member
    Should have put out....................just sayin.

    this
  • Laura8603
    Laura8603 Posts: 590 Member
    If it's been a week "he's probably not that into you". Do not chase him. Move on.
  • fcp1234
    fcp1234 Posts: 1,098 Member
    i would say reach out to him, a quick hi, how was your weekend and leave it alone. He should have sent a text by now, if he was a gentleman.

    Why should she reach out to him?

    Here are some possible scenarios:

    He is not into her—she shouldn’t reach out
    He is playing games—grown *kitten* men should not play childish games—she shouldn’t reach out
    He is into her, but is kinda shy—who wants an insecure man—she shouldn’t reach out

    Can you come up with another reason why he hasn’t contacted her in a week?
  • _the_feniks_
    _the_feniks_ Posts: 3,412 Member
    If its been a week, let it go. If I received a text the night of the date, I'd be a bit turned off. Tell me the next morning you had a nice time. But right after via text... no thanks.
  • Iceman1800
    Iceman1800 Posts: 476
    I am not a man, but here's my opinion...

    Do nothing !!

    If he is interested, he has your number..If he is playing THe game, he has your number..Dont sit there waiting for him, go on other dates, go out with friends. If he really wants to, he will contact you.
    I agree with this. To be upfront, if I wanted a 2nd date, I would have tasked you by now.
  • odusgolp
    odusgolp Posts: 10,477 Member
    Women do not chase, darlin. You do nothing.

    And for future reference, hold off on that text until the following day or say in person at the end of the date that you had a nice time. Then, put out.
  • Colonel_Brandon
    Colonel_Brandon Posts: 256 Member
    I'm in the "Do Nothing" camp.

    Guys are hunters. That's what we do. If we want to go get you, we will. If we don't, then why waste your time?
  • NoMoreFlubbering
    NoMoreFlubbering Posts: 95 Member
    To be bluntly honest, he's just not that into you. He has your number if he's interested he would chase you. Go out on other dates, have a good time.... he may or may not resurface. If he doesn't no loss!

    This. He has the ability to contact you, should he wish. If he doesn't, keep on keeping on. So many other awesome fish in that sea.
  • digitalbill
    digitalbill Posts: 1,410 Member
    I am also in the "do nothing" camp.
    To many texts make you look needy.
    Also, there is the very real possibility that he is just really busy.
    I know I get that way sometimes.

    But, there is also the possibility that he simply doesnt want a second date.
    It happens. Even Babe Ruth struck out sometimes.
  • xHelloQuincyx
    xHelloQuincyx Posts: 884 Member
    oh the age old question. just let it be. seriously. you will never know what hes thinking, and no one here will be able to either. he could be busy with work, had a family emergency, or just dosnt think you guys are a good fit. either way, its not a bad thing. let life take its course. let things worry about themselves. and stop worrying about it. :]
  • jynxxxed
    jynxxxed Posts: 1,010 Member
    Why is it always the man's responsiblity to reach out? He may be thinking the same thing about you. You could call/text him asking if he's free sometime this weekend and if he doesn't respond, let it go.
  • Jersey_Devil
    Jersey_Devil Posts: 4,142 Member
    i say send him a very short text. short and to the point. like "Want to meet up again?
    " don't follow up after that,
  • lelliebugh
    lelliebugh Posts: 340 Member
    I am not a dude but I have been there done this... He is what we call a poofer. He is not interested. Most men would have text by now. If not called. Sorry :( but remember there are so many men out there dont settle
  • MassiveDelta
    MassiveDelta Posts: 3,271 Member
    i would say reach out to him, a quick hi, how was your weekend and leave it alone. He should have sent a text by now, if he was a gentleman.

    Why should she reach out to him?

    Here are some possible scenarios:

    He is not into her—she shouldn’t reach out
    He is playing games—grown *kitten* men should not play childish games—she shouldn’t reach out
    He is into her, but is kinda shy—who wants an insecure man—she shouldn’t reach out

    Can you come up with another reason why he hasn’t contacted her in a week?

    Shy is not insecure but I agree for the most part.
  • homerjspartan
    homerjspartan Posts: 1,893 Member
    Send him some hair and nail clippings or just show up in his kitchen boiling some rabbits. Men love that.

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