Being Deleted/Deleting Friends

sarahrbraun

The weirdest 'deleting' story I have is I got a FR which I accepted and then the next day that person deleted me, wtf?!!!

I only delete people if they haven't logged for 6 months, I think it's nice if you fall off the wagon and come back that there's still someone on your FL.

LOL SAME thing happened to me... haha like wth?? I've only deleted one person who was basically promoting an eating disorder. She just drank those visalus shakes and had pictures of her rib cabe up and stuff.

At least she was drinking something with calories...I deleted a girl who was like 130lbs, usually ate like 800 calories a day, constantly whined about how the scale wouldn't move, finally *binged* and ate 1200 calories one day then drank nothing but 0 calorie seltzer for 2 days.

Erienneb

I don't pay attention if I get deleted. It's no big deal, if we don't click or I'm not what you need to keep you motivated, I totally understand. Everybody needs to be surrounded with different types of people.
I myself have deleted two people. One was a younger girl who had some serious ed and mental issues and didn't want to hear any encouragement or support. She just wanted to whine and as someone who grew up with those issues I don't want to hear an 18 year old complain all day and not accept help when it's offered, she just wanted to hear herself talk. THe other was extremely insensitive of people with a lot of weight to lose, making fun of methods of exercise used by people who are too heavy to go running or swimming, for example. I can't stand the superiority and negativity.

annebubbles

I have deleted people who cut & paste, quote, after quote, after quote, from books they read. or make dumb comments about football games & television shows that I do NOT care about. I don't mind if you ramble on about your horrible life or your struggle with the daily grind, but I do NOT want to read about your new facebook crush or your favorite sports team.

ahviendha

I've only deleted one person, and that was 2 days after I accepted their friend request. While considering whether or not to accept, I knew we had little in common and decided to give it a shot.

Not worth it, so I deleted him.

As others have said you get what you give!

Sick_Beard

Too laid back and chilled to worry over something as menial as this...

bikermike5094

I randomly delete all my friends because I'm a d*ick that way...

running_shoe

I have been deleted and have deleted. I think we're all looking for reasonably like-minded people for "friends." If I have a "friend" who is never supportive in reciprocation for my support, or if that person just does not appear to be "serious" about their health per my definition, then what's the point of continuing on. I know I have been deleted, but really couldn't tell you why. You'd have to ask them! It's no biggie, really. At work with "real" people I'm not friends with everybody, so why should it be expected to work out any differently here.

1ConcreteGirl

I delete people all the time for a variety of reasons. In all honesty, wearing too many clothes is reason enough.

Bahaha! I like your style!

I delete people all the time, mostly for one of the following reasons: they have a private profile and I don't know who they are until I accept. If I don't like what I see, they're gone. If they haven't logged in in a week, they aren't active on MFP, I don't find their statuses interesting, they whine and complain about their lives, or they seem to be constanty "falling off the wagon" and making no serious effort to change anything.

I'm trying to build a moderately-sized community of interactive, funny, intelligent, sarcastic people who click with my personality and are still serious about their fitness, so people who don't fit into that category after some amount of time might also get deleted.

ETA: I don't get this fixation on the friends list. I don't check my friends number every time I log in, but it seems like it's a big deal to some...

Sarge516

I have a hard time declining FRs. I'm thinking they see that I have lost some weight and want to peek at my food diary for a few days. No harm in that. So I let them, and if I don't hear from them after a few days, I assume that's what they wanted and have moved on, so I delete them.

Truthfully, I would prefer a smaller group of MFP friends than I have, but it's about a 0.2 on a scale of 1 - 10 importance. I support those I can, and delete the inactives after a few days. I'm sure no one really cares.

I had to cull my Facebook friends list too as it got too big for my liking. For FB, I did the "living room test". If it would feel weird for them to be in my living room, they got deleted. I went from 350 "friends" to about 80. It has since creeped back up to just over 100. What a cumbersome process that is. It took me a couple hours.

About 80% of my friends on MFP are strangers anyway. A few people I work with are on here, and if they go inactive, I delete them too - I assume they gave up or moved on.

NiSan12

I've been deleted for whatever reason, and probably will delete those that don't have any activity on here. Nothing personal. This is
supposed to be a site for support and if you are never here, where is the support?

pastryari

I'll delete people just to get my FL to a multiple of 5.

I like it when mine adds up to 7.

And I've had people delete me MINUTES after I accept their request. It happens. Can't let it get to you.

I've actually deleted someone a minute after accepting their request because their profile may be private. I take a looksie and if I don't like it, BAM DELETE.

But I would never do that to you. :flowerforyou:

odusgolp

Too laid back and chilled to worry over something as menial as this...

Am I the only one picturing you with a blunt in your left hand and a PBR in the right?

AReasor

I lost some friends while I was away for a bit.

I had to delete a 110lbs. 19 yr old who posted 10 times a day about making her thighs look leaner and saying she is ugly.

2boypeas

What are the prerequisites for having friends on Mfp?
I'm pretty new, and have read so varying requirements that
I'm unsure sure of what is needed.

Is logging my intake mandatory? I do log, but I've been using
an app I'm more comfortable with.

Anyone care to help out a new person?

ksemien

I'm quite sure I have been deleted, but haven't noticed. I delete people for a variety of reasons (inactive mainly). If I disagree w/ something like a 1000 calorie burn in 30 minutes then I just don't comment. I can't say awesome, wtg, when I am pretty sure that was some apps over estimation, but to each his/her own. I won't delete them because their calorie burn is bogus or I don't see eye to eye with their way of health, but pure inactivity will get you gone.

LorinaLynn

I don't like denying friend requests. I don't like deleting from my list. But I'll delete people off my list if they're inactive and I'm out of room.

And I've deleted a few who were looking to be super-skinny while eating under 1000 calories a day and burning off another 1000.

klacount77

klacount77

I delete people all the time for a variety of reasons. In all honesty, wearing too many clothes is reason enough.

Dammit! And here I thought flip flops and a thong was minimalistic! Guess I'll lose the thong. LOL

RocketsGirl

I have been deleted and I have deleted people.

I can't say why people deleted me but it maybe for some of the same reasons that I delete people:

1. I find them creepy/annoying/whiney/boring/etc
2. my personality just does not click with theirs
3. their attention whoring gets to be just too too much

Bottom line is the main reason that I delete people is personality. I use this sight the way that I choose to use it, which is what I find helpful for my success. This does not always work with some people. I am not a constant cheerleader and I am not on the sight a whole lot. I don't need a constant cheerleader. These are things that just don't work well with everyone. Like I said people use the sight the way that works best for them.

CarleyLovesPets

I have deleted people and been deleted.
I actually do not even know WHO deleted me, so I guess they were not that important.

I have deleted for mostly eating like 300 cals a day.

cheerforsteelers

I had one person delete me after 3 days. Oh well. I recently deleted people due to inactivity and/or zero interaction. I like to interact with friends and get feedback, but I don't seem to have this.

Edited to say: I don't mean inactivity for a few days or not talking to me each day. I mean someone who never speaks to me even after I reach out several times. Someone who hasn't logged in for a month. There were a few people who I saw that didn't log in for a while and I tried to get a hold of them. Some logged back in and started tracking again and others continued being inactive.

happypath101

Boundaries are good. Just saying! :O)

(I have deleted people for drama, e.g. constant posts about the crazy ex. If it's not about being healthy; I don't want to immerse myself in it. Not here at least. It's only been twice and it's been something I've watched for a while before I took action. I never said anything; I have no idea if they missed me.)

shaleasymphony

i delete people who havent logged in for awhile. 3 days ehh thats ok. but when i see you havent logged in for 25 days, that shows me you're not serious. i only want serious friends that can help me and encourage me and for me to encourage them.

i also deleted someone who complained that they were sooooo fat because she weighed in at 107. her goal was to be under 100 lbs and she wasn't a super short girl. sorry but thats rude to others who 2 or 3 times your size to say you're fat at 107 and your not making the healthy desicion by trying to be under 100 lbs....

but thats me though

Akimajuktuq

I delete people if they go missing for over a week or if they are not active on MFP. I figure we are all here for the same reason and if my "friends" arent supportive, then they dont need to be my friend so they get deleted

I guess one cannot take a vacation and stay on your FL! lol

tpittsley77

I was once deleted by this one girl because I disagreed with her opinion. She felt mfp needed a like button. I told her that I categorically disagreed. I detest the like button, as it impersonalizes life in general. She unfriended me for that. On the plus side, one of her friends sent me a friend request because he also dislikes the like button. And that has been a fabulous friendship. So win win for me!

CarmenSRT

Been deleted by one person right after accepting their FR - shook my head and went on. Deleted two myself, one for starting to ask me inappropriate questions (my profile specifically mentions I'm married!) and one for FRing me when I first started and then disappearing (after 2 months of absence it's safe to say she isn't that into MFP).

It's probably better to have 5 friends who work the site than 100 friends of sketchy dedication. My opinion only of course.

Onaughmae

I have probably been deleted and just never even noticed it. I dont delete often...every now and them I will go through my list and if someone has been a no show for over a month then I will delete them. Thats the only reason I have had so far though.

TinaBaily

I have deleted a few MFP folks from my friends list and this is why:

#1 reached out to me to be a friend, but never once commented to me about anything, nor responded to any of my encouragements, and this person's profile was completely private. In case you think I'm a snob, these encouragements are always positive comments such as "fantastic weight loss", "wonderful workout today", or even comments that are a question, to help build on the "friendship" here, like "wow, that sounds like it was hard, how do you feel today?" I got nothing, so after a month of this person not even signing in, I removed them from my friends list.

The others I have deleted were those who hadn't signed on to MFP in over a month with no reasons for the absence given, such as vacation, sick, whatever. I honestly need friends who are active here and will be mutually supportive. I don't want a ton of friends, but a good handful or two of the kind of folks who will care enough to comment here and there, who will respond to my comments from time to time, and even write a message back and forth once in a while.

I also never just dropped any of these people out of the blue. I wrote to them, inquiring politely if they were okay and that I missed seeing them here on MFP. I commented on their walls that I missed seeing them and hoped they return soon.

MollyKid

Good for you!

ajohn252

I deleted everyone I had on here just a few
nights ago actually. I re-realized this is for
weight loss and not another stupid social media
site. Lord knows we don't need any more of those.