Do you withhold doing it when mad at your significant other?

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  • mwoods5716
    mwoods5716 Posts: 194 Member
    I'm way too weak to withhold
  • Darkskinned88
    Darkskinned88 Posts: 1,177 Member
    One simply does not waste sex, its like throwing away food with all the starving children, you know how many people going to bed with a pillow or hitachi, who am i to waste sex, i'll just take me aggressions out on her Walter White style
  • SeaRunner26
    SeaRunner26 Posts: 5,143 Member
    No. Why punish myself?
  • veggiehottie
    veggiehottie Posts: 590 Member
    Here is a hint... "The Silent Treatment" is not a punishment for a man, it is usually a well earned relief...

    LOL
  • veggiehottie
    veggiehottie Posts: 590 Member
    i grudge *kitten* it out....it's great stress relief.....and hard to stay mad at someone while in post-orgasm glow.

    What she^ said. :D
  • JennyLisT
    JennyLisT Posts: 402 Member
    I try not to punish other people by shooting myself in the foot.
  • Determinednoob
    Determinednoob Posts: 2,001 Member
    "You'll cut YOURSELF off"
  • Drop_it_Like_Its_Hawt
    Drop_it_Like_Its_Hawt Posts: 226 Member
    Not as a punishment, no. But I can't get in the mood if I'm angry at someone, and I'm not about to fake it for some sake of "wifely duty" or some other such B.S. If there's something I'm mad about...I just tell him, and we try and work it out! Never go to bed angry, you know? Not that it's 100% effective, but it sure beats being petty about it and treating something as important as physical intimacy with the one you love like it's nothing more than a cheap bargaining trick.
  • super_monty
    super_monty Posts: 419 Member
    Maybe this is whats on on in my marriage, been together 10 years maybe she's been mad at me for 9.
  • 0MissErin0
    0MissErin0 Posts: 92 Member
    It depends on what the anger is about :) But mostly no.
  • SomeoneSomeplace
    SomeoneSomeplace Posts: 1,094 Member
    My ex and I had our best sex when we were fighting, it's a great way to blow off steam and it's fun. I may or may not have picked at fight or two for this reason... so no I would never withhold sex for that reason or any reason honestly...
  • 0MissErin0
    0MissErin0 Posts: 92 Member
    Here is a hint... "The Silent Treatment" is not a punishment for a man, it is usually a well earned relief...

    My partner is opposite :S If i give him silent treatment he can't stand it haha
    I'm not the nagging type though anyway.
  • Laura_Suzie
    Laura_Suzie Posts: 1,288 Member
    I don't have a significant other, BUT I heard that it's even more important to be intimate with each other during "rough spots" in the relationship. A lot of therapists suggest having sex, even if you're fighting because of the endorphins that are released make you feel closer and help to create a bond (psychologically speaking). Just some food for thought...
  • frogz21
    frogz21 Posts: 314 Member
    I can't say I "withhold" it, but if I'm angry or we're fighting, I am not in the mood in the slightest....but, the same goes for him.


    This! ^^
  • MrsWonderland
    MrsWonderland Posts: 107 Member
    My husband with holds it from me, only because work is exhosting and I can really tire the man out. He turned me into a nymph. Rarely I am not in the mood but he sure can put me there. We have never had an arguement in 5yrs so I have no idea about that part. I have at times went so long with out that I thought why bother, but Im always reminded of the reason.

    I always wondered why women ever used the excuse, " Not tonight I have a headache". It sure cures all mine.
  • Farburnfred
    Farburnfred Posts: 333 Member
    Yes, there ia no way I get turned on when I am angry.
  • Farburnfred
    Farburnfred Posts: 333 Member
    I don't have a significant other, BUT I heard that it's even more important to be intimate with each other during "rough spots" in the relationship. A lot of therapists suggest having sex, even if you're fighting because of the endorphins that are released make you feel closer and help to create a bond (psychologically speaking). Just some food for thought...

    Only if its good sex, if its crap sex it makes everything worse..
  • sizzle92
    sizzle92 Posts: 1,015 Member
    No. But the last thing we are looking to do when we're at odds if *kitten* so it just doesn't happen. LMAO
  • sizzle92
    sizzle92 Posts: 1,015 Member
    Oh and I would never withhold sex from my husband. Then he'd just end up like many men here and PM women asking to sext or dirty picture share.
  • ncbill
    ncbill Posts: 76 Member
    Oh and I would never withhold sex from my husband. Then he'd just end up like many men here and PM women asking to sext or dirty picture share.

    Hey, how about dirty photo share
    Unfortunately, I have no idea how to do that, figuring out the quote thing was enough "messaging fun" for the day. Plus when I've sent them though email, I just get the reply back " LOL"
    Only if its good sex, if its crap sex it makes everything worse.

    WTF is crap sex?
    (LOL) actually that sounds wrong on a different level...The more I think about it, I agree crap sex is sh#@y, so it must stink, but at first I thought you were eluding to bad sex
  • melanie8289
    melanie8289 Posts: 161 Member
    Sex should never be a punishment (or bargaining tool or reward scheme for that matter). However I can see that if you've had a huge argument and are really angry you might not be in the mood for sex but that's different than withholding it. I have never been mad enough with my hubby to not be in the mood for sex. Maybe we just don't argue enough *lol*, just realised I can't even remember the last time we had a serious argument.
  • rbear713
    rbear713 Posts: 220 Member
    man - guess I REALLY musta pissed her off..ok here's what happened - It was a cold winter night in 2006 - February, I think...you see, she was acting like a witch so I told her so.....and MARRIAGE IS BLISS (content in this comment may have been changed to promote the institution of marriage)
  • XxXWhitneyShereeXxX
    XxXWhitneyShereeXxX Posts: 160 Member
    I have yes ... but he has to do something to reallly piss me off.
  • khara2012
    khara2012 Posts: 1,051 Member
    Shoot, no! But I do control the outcome...and it may be quite a bit shorter or quite a bit more painful!! :devil: ...and, no, I'm not sorry about it!
  • VeggieKidMandy
    VeggieKidMandy Posts: 575 Member
    no beacause that causes even more resentment. I get back at him in other ways ;)
  • crazy4lulu
    crazy4lulu Posts: 822 Member
    nope. angry sex is great sex too!!
  • magj0y
    magj0y Posts: 1,911 Member
    We've has some serious arguments and it's not so much as withholding, but not even wanting to be in the same room! But I never make him sleep on the couch, I do that on my own, hahaha.
  • TravisBurns
    TravisBurns Posts: 353 Member
    Women like sex or anything sexual?...Holy shi*
  • chelsifina
    chelsifina Posts: 346 Member
    When we're both angry, neither one of us want to do it. We're both usually hurt and don't feel close to each other. But, the angry times don't last long because we're great at figuring it all out and listening to one another, and the make-up sex is always fantastic.
  • lamoursuffit
    lamoursuffit Posts: 267 Member
    No. Sometimes its better to do it while you're angry! :blushing: :love:
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