If you're fat, don't call someone else fat!!!!!!!!!

oregonzoo

If your cousin is important to you, then ask her (PM her) WHY she is calling you fat when she herself is overweight. Don't let it escalate into an argument, just listen to her reasons and respond sensibly.

If you don't really care for your cousin, block her.

I care for her A LOT, the problem is, I've noticed that my family tends to feel the need to comment on everyone else weight

Some people are just busybodies. And in most cases the more they comment on the appearance of others, the more they are concerned about their own appearance. It's projecting, and it's not ok. You need to make certain they know you won't be part of that cycle.

sh4690

Sorry, cousin or not cousin BUT if she was mines, I would be giving her a slap..

across the face....

with a sledgehammer

Either that or just comment on the fact that she clearly has that low self esteem and body hatred issues that she has to make cruel comments on your facebook picture just to make herself feel better which in actual fact it won't make her feel better. Tell her she needs to look at herself in the mirror, like really look and concentrate on herself rather than you. Oh and also calling you fat won't make her any skinnier, but being on a diet might help

AHAHA... LOL. TOO FUNNY. I love my cousin, we are closer than just cousins, but this is really ANNYOING. I sent her a picture last week because we swap pictures of each other and her kids, and she tells me I look fat. -_- again, i didn't ask her what she thought about my weight!!!! ARRRGHH

Just point blank say to her that you would appreciate it if she stopped commenting on your weight or you are going to start commenting on hers. See how she feels when the shoe is on the other foot. If she say's she wouldn't bother about it she's lying; she would.

I have had two CLEARLY clinically obese girls in my life call me fat, literally 200+lbs when I was no where near that and never have been... but I was like "That's all right doll, say whatever you need to say to me to make yourself feel better, because you and I know this *kitten* is not true when you are trying to back up in a room to fit your body into a full length mirror and you fail because you hit the wall at the other side of the room, but hey, I'm all for boosting self confidence even if that means you have to call someone less than half your size fat, because clearly no one else blows your trumpet! "


I'm not a beat around the bush kinda person, say it straight up or don't say it at all, with tact obviously though! haha!

virichi08

Some people are just busybodies. And in most cases the more they comment on the appearance of others, the more they are concerned about their own appearance. It's projecting, and it's not ok. You need to make certain they know you won't be part of that cycle.
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This is true. I've had body issues since i was 9...i honestly the remember the day it started and what lead up to it. So It does annoy me when my family comments on my weight.

virichi08

Just point blank say to her that you would appreciate it if she stopped commenting on your weight or you are going to start commenting on hers. See how she feels when the shoe is on the other foot. If she say's she wouldn't bother about it she's lying; she would.

I have had two CLEARLY clinically obese girls in my life call me fat, literally 200+lbs when I was no where near that and never have been... but I was like "That's all right doll, say whatever you need to say to me to make yourself feel better, because you and I know this *kitten* is not true when you are trying to back up in a room to fit your body into a full length mirror and you fail because you hit the wall at the other side of the room, but hey, I'm all for boosting self confidence even if that means you have to call someone less than half your size fat, because clearly no one else blows your trumpet! "


I'm not a beat around the bush kinda person, say it straight up or don't say it at all, with tact obviously though! haha!
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Ahahah.... wow. you let them know!!!!

rbjd2004

You can definitely block certain posts from certain people. Add her to a new "list" and then exclude the list from certain posts. Having negative people around is part of life, especially when it comes to family. It happens to all of us (I think?? LOL Most people I know have at least one meanie in the family - usually jealousy). When it's time to shine, you can totally invite certain people from your friends list and exclude other lists.

I have negative people in my family. People that told me I was "fat" when I got boobs at the age of twelve and was at the bottom end of my BMI range. I was skinny, awkward, but had boobs and hips and family members had the audacity to say "Wow, you've been putting on weight" as opposed to something more appropriate (I got boobs and hips, I was growing into a woman... hell, I don't know. Anything would have been better than telling me I was putting on weight).

Give yourself some piece of mind. If you can't block her from seeing certain stuff because it's too hard, then just ignore her. You want to keep your family, but also keep your sanity. More than likely, she's just jealous of your progress when she has nothing to show for herself.

Hugs and loves, dear!

TeamNoExcuses

I dnt think it's a jealousy thing, my family is from the Islands and they're the type who even if they haven't see you in a year they'll tell you you are either too thin how fat you got. like jees, you don't look like a swim suit model yourself!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! example: I was about 160 before my weight gain and they told me i was TOO small. now im 180 and I'm fat. let me get down to 175 and i'll be too skinny again. LIKE THANKS, NO ONE FRICKN ASKED. i don't lose weight for you.

I LOL'd at this because it's so true!! omg. My friends and I joke about this all the time. West Indian people love letting you know that THEY know how you look. O_O They always tell you if you are looking fat or skinny, have a pimple etc..... men women and children, no one escapes. And half the time they are worse than you! lol. And THEN they try to give you a solution to your "problem!" haha. I hate when they do that! sigh...

misslindseylou

There's a way on FB where you can keep people from commenting on your posts. They can still see them, but they can't post to them- that way she gets the message you don't appreciate her saying those things.

virichi08

I dnt think it's a jealousy thing, my family is from the Islands and they're the type who even if they haven't see you in a year they'll tell you you are either too thin how fat you got. like jees, you don't look like a swim suit model yourself!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! example: I was about 160 before my weight gain and they told me i was TOO small. now im 180 and I'm fat. let me get down to 175 and i'll be too skinny again. LIKE THANKS, NO ONE FRICKN ASKED. i don't lose weight for you.

I LOL'd at this because it's so true!! omg. My friends and I joke about this all the time. West Indian people love letting you know that THEY know how you look. O_O They always tell you if you are looking fat or skinny, have a pimple etc..... men women and children, no one escapes. And half the time they are worse than you! lol. And THEN they try to give you a solution to your "problem!" haha. I hate when they do that! sigh...

AHHHHHHHHHHH............I KNOW U KNOW WHAT I MEAN. ugh, lets not talk about the pimples. I've been breaking out since i was 12 or so, and sometimes they get terrible out of the blue then they clear up. one time they saw me after they started clearing up and i was feeling reeeeally good about myself, well that feeling went straight down the toilet when they HAD to say SOMETHING... like DANG, IT'S MY FACE, U DNT THINK I SEE MYYYY FACE EVVVVERYDAY :explode: :explode: :mad: :mad: :mad: :huh: :huh:

banks89202

Sorry, cousin or not cousin BUT if she was mines, I would be giving her a slap..

across the face....

with a sledgehammer

Either that or just comment on the fact that she clearly has that low self esteem and body hatred issues that she has to make cruel comments on your facebook picture just to make herself feel better which in actual fact it won't make her feel better. Tell her she needs to look at herself in the mirror, like really look and concentrate on herself rather than you. Oh and also calling you fat won't make her any skinnier, but being on a diet might help

AHAHA... LOL. TOO FUNNY. I love my cousin, we are closer than just cousins, but this is really ANNYOING. I sent her a picture last week because we swap pictures of each other and her kids, and she tells me I look fat. -_- again, i didn't ask her what she thought about my weight!!!! ARRRGHH

Just point blank say to her that you would appreciate it if she stopped commenting on your weight or you are going to start commenting on hers. See how she feels when the shoe is on the other foot. If she say's she wouldn't bother about it she's lying; she would.

I have had two CLEARLY clinically obese girls in my life call me fat, literally 200+lbs when I was no where near that and never have been... but I was like "That's all right doll, say whatever you need to say to me to make yourself feel better, because you and I know this *kitten* is not true when you are trying to back up in a room to fit your body into a full length mirror and you fail because you hit the wall at the other side of the room, but hey, I'm all for boosting self confidence even if that means you have to call someone less than half your size fat, because clearly no one else blows your trumpet! "


I'm not a beat around the bush kinda person, say it straight up or don't say it at all, with tact obviously though! haha!

You do realize there are many 200+ people on this site....

virichi08

Sorry, cousin or not cousin BUT if she was mines, I would be giving her a slap..

across the face....

with a sledgehammer

Either that or just comment on the fact that she clearly has that low self esteem and body hatred issues that she has to make cruel comments on your facebook picture just to make herself feel better which in actual fact it won't make her feel better. Tell her she needs to look at herself in the mirror, like really look and concentrate on herself rather than you. Oh and also calling you fat won't make her any skinnier, but being on a diet might help

AHAHA... LOL. TOO FUNNY. I love my cousin, we are closer than just cousins, but this is really ANNYOING. I sent her a picture last week because we swap pictures of each other and her kids, and she tells me I look fat. -_- again, i didn't ask her what she thought about my weight!!!! ARRRGHH

Just point blank say to her that you would appreciate it if she stopped commenting on your weight or you are going to start commenting on hers. See how she feels when the shoe is on the other foot. If she say's she wouldn't bother about it she's lying; she would.

I have had two CLEARLY clinically obese girls in my life call me fat, literally 200+lbs when I was no where near that and never have been... but I was like "That's all right doll, say whatever you need to say to me to make yourself feel better, because you and I know this *kitten* is not true when you are trying to back up in a room to fit your body into a full length mirror and you fail because you hit the wall at the other side of the room, but hey, I'm all for boosting self confidence even if that means you have to call someone less than half your size fat, because clearly no one else blows your trumpet! "


I'm not a beat around the bush kinda person, say it straight up or don't say it at all, with tact obviously though! haha!

You do realize there are many 200+ people on this site....

Indeed. :indifferent:

Show_Stopper

You dolly are beautiful and i know words can hurt but nobody should judge keep your head up

imchicbad

damn the devil to hell!:mad:

shes just jelous. :flowerforyou:

Charie1981

She just jelouse I would block my cousion from face book if they are saying that. I am not friends with all my family on face book because they can cause drama. Keep it up tell her to Screw it. I have to keep it pg on here lol.

DaphneAtx

Great job on the 14lbs, but everyone knows that people only post pictures of themselves on FB so other will tell them how pretty they look. This gets old VERY fast. Maybe don't post so many pictures of yourself just in general, but what she's doing is wrong regardless.

virichi08

Great job on the 14lbs, but everyone knows that people only post pictures of themselves on FB so other will tell them how pretty they look. This gets old VERY fast. Maybe don't post so many pictures of yourself just in general, but what she's doing is wrong regardless.

Wow...this made me laugh..deep, deep deeep deeeep down n my soul

Laura_Suzie

Just looked at your pics on your profile. You are FARRRR from fat. You are gorgeous, in fact!

Your cousin needs to grow up and gain some self-esteem...

Sherbog

Move on...delete her.

teletubbie87

ha..

Maybe her self-esteem is low. See, some people criticize you because you are doing what they
want to do. Maybe she wants to lose weight and look good, yet she's been lazy, and then she sees you looking good and
achieving goals and so tries to make you feel bad.

Just keep at what you are doing, regardless of haters.
You are beautiful, and no one can take that away from you.

ElizaRoche

she is just jealous, u are not fat at all!.. So ignore her and block her .

Bolsitka5

From what I see in your profile pic, you're not fat. I really think she has a low self-esteem and wishes maybe she could have your
willpower. Keep her close, she may need your help, invite her to your workouts (it thats possible) and invite her to myfitnesspal and maybe both of you can be eachothers fitness "coach". Good luck.

ReneaPanzer

I dnt think it's a jealousy thing, my family is from the Islands and they're the type who even if they haven't see you in a year they'll tell you you are either too thin how fat you got. like jees, you don't look like a swim suit model yourself!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! example: I was about 160 before my weight gain and they told me i was TOO small. now im 180 and I'm fat. let me get down to 175 and i'll be too skinny again. LIKE THANKS, NO ONE FRICKN ASKED. i don't lose weight for you.

I LOL'd at this because it's so true!! omg. My friends and I joke about this all the time. West Indian people love letting you know that THEY know how you look. O_O They always tell you if you are looking fat or skinny, have a pimple etc..... men women and children, no one escapes. And half the time they are worse than you! lol. And THEN they try to give you a solution to your "problem!" haha. I hate when they do that! sigh...

AHHHHHHHHHHH............I KNOW U KNOW WHAT I MEAN. ugh, lets not talk about the pimples. I've been breaking out since i was 12 or so, and sometimes they get terrible out of the blue then they clear up. one time they saw me after they started clearing up and i was feeling reeeeally good about myself, well that feeling went straight down the toilet when they HAD to say SOMETHING... like DANG, IT'S MY FACE, U DNT THINK I SEE MYYYY FACE EVVVVERYDAY :explode: :explode: :mad: :mad: :mad: :huh: :huh:

You know, there is another way to try to change her...Simply tell her "I know, I am working on it...hey by the way since we BOTH seem to struggle with weight issues, maybe we should work on it together...that way we can encourage each other"

That way you can still try to save a relationship, but still let her know that encouragement would be more appreciated....

just a thought...

chubbygirl253

I don't care if the person calling someone fat is skinny or not, it's mean and uncalled for. But since she is fat I think you should tell her she's being a jealous heiffer and unfriend her.