Men/women I need your honest opinions please...

trying2findmyway

I'm talking and going out on dates with an ex of mine again...
We've had the relationship where we have been off and on... but strangely enough when we were "off" he was the only guy I thought about it and I found/find it very hard to get past him. I don't know what it is. I guess I cared for him more than I thought.

There were issues and I often thought we were not compatible.
There were times when I was in tears because of things between him and I ... truthfully when I look back I think why the hell am I talking to him.

So, like I said we are communicating again and things have been generally nice. When I'm around him it feels natural...
But I can't help but think back on the things that bothered me and the issues we had.

He seems different... like he cares a great deal more.
How do I know he's genuine? How do I know I'm not just someone who he thinks will always be there :brokenheart:
What do I do?
am I just desperate and lonely or could this ex of mine possibly be meant for me :S

Men please help me out
and women who have been in my shoes. I know exes don't usually work out... but maybe there is an exception? :indifferent:
I sound stupid.

Just some honest opinions please

katamus

I did this for like three years with my ex. I couldn't get past... His baby with another chick (that he impregnated while we were together). Oh, and all the other girls he did god knows what with during the same time period. Aside from that, he was just in general a selfish jerk who was a FANTASTIC smooth talker (among other things that wouldn't contribute to his personality, but definitely contributed to my desire to be with him).

Only you can decide. I feel that an ex is an ex for a reason.. Wish I wouldn't have wasted SO much freaking time on the dude. If you're questioning it.. Well.. You probably should just run. Fast. Or maybe stick it out and take the chance. I don't know. Maybe he could be an exception, or maybe he's just a ticking time bomb.

You didn't give a whole lot of detail.. There's issues that are extreme and there's issues that are petty. You have to figure out if those issues are going to resurface and if they do, what you're going to do about it.

PittShkr

Vincentsz

He became an EX for a reason! old dogs new trick, not happening in the long run!

ravenchick

You will never know for sure. You have to decide if he's worth taking the chance on. If you can forget the past and it feels right, go for it. If you can't, then move on.

zachatta

No.

If he is an ex, he is done.

You are probably missing the companionship more than the person.

Need to go out and spend time with other guys, you will find one

who will make you forget about your ex.

corn63

You're only going to know if he's being genuine if you start down that path with him and find out that he's not. However, if you're going to attempt a relationship with him again, you'll need to let go of the past completely. And if you can't get over the past, it would probably be a good idea to not even try.

OBXbound4me

It's called a break up cause it's broken...

erickirb

<---- Just add bacon, as the shirt says bacon makes it better.

Dub_D

Just break up.

jackpotclown

Just break up.

YAAAAAAAAAY!!! now my day is complete.....\m/

DavidBenge

Just move on ..

Juliejustsaying

Yeah, been there...usually they don't change, they just like the chase. But so many of us women like the bad boy, like to think we'll be the one that will tame them. But once a *kitten*, always a *kitten*. Life it too short to make the same mistakes...go find a new *kitten* to make a mistake with...at least it gives you a fighting chance to get a different result.

The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different result.

Bentley2718

If you've already had an on-again-off-again relationship, and this is a third or fourth try, that should probably tell you something. Also, time matters here--if you've been apart 2 months and he says he's changed (or seems to have changed) he probably hasn't, if it's been years, and there have been other major changes in his life, then it is *possible* he has changed.

PilotX

I'm talking and going out on dates with an ex of mine again...
We've had the relationship where we have been off and on... but strangely enough when we were "off" he was the only guy I thought about it and I found/find it very hard to get past him. I don't know what it is. I guess I cared for him more than I thought.

There were issues and I often thought we were not compatible.
There were times when I was in tears because of things between him and I ... truthfully when I look back I think why the hell am I talking to him.

So, like I said we are communicating again and things have been generally nice. When I'm around him it feels natural...
But I can't help but think back on the things that bothered me and the issues we had.

He seems different... like he cares a great deal more.
How do I know he's genuine? How do I know I'm not just someone who he thinks will always be there :brokenheart:
What do I do?
am I just desperate and lonely or could this ex of mine possibly be meant for me :S

Men please help me out
and women who have been in my shoes. I know exes don't usually work out... but maybe there is an exception? :indifferent:
I sound stupid.

Just some honest opinions please

move on start fresh with someone else no need to live in the past

Bentley2718

The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different result.

Let me introduce you to a little thing called a stochastic process, life is full of them.

PeachyKeene

You should only listen to your heart. But, if you do decided to give him another chance, you need to forgive him for the things in the past. It will never work if you don't.

LMP18

Move forward. NEVER go back...there is a reason he is an ex - and you need to remember EVERY single reason he gave you to be done with him. He hasnt changed - he is just nice now but remember you saw his true self and that is who he is. RUN AWAY and do it quickly. You are sticking around because it is comfortable - but ask yourself if you deserve someone like him. The answer is NO - no woman deserves a man like that...the unfortunate thing is you are probably looking for someone to validate the fact that you are going to date him again. Once a douche always a douche...

CoachSamB

You're only going to know if he's being genuine if you start down that path with him and find out that he's not. However, if you're going to attempt a relationship with him again, you'll need to let go of the past completely. And if you can't get over the past, it would probably be a good idea to not even try.

VERY good advice. VERY good.

Dustinryan24

just end it.
youre thinking about the GOOD times only.. remember why he is an ex..

eyestylemom

Sometimes people do change. I married a man...divorced him 7 years later and a year after that remarried him. We just celebrated our 16th wedding anniversary. You didn't list many details, so its really up to you to decide if its worth your time to see if its good or not. No one will know but you. Good luck.