People thinking you're sick after weight loss?

Zylahe

I don't understand at all why someone thinks it is perfectly okay to tell you that you don't need to lose weight or lose "any more" weight YET if you said to that same person, "I don't think you need to gain anymore weight" it would be the rudest thing they've ever heard!

I love it

flirzhja

My mother told me once that I looked like I had an abortion after a significant weight loss. :huh: She emphasized how unfit I looked being slimmer and how I had no butt, etcetera etcetera. Moms could be the worst critics ever.

mearlie

I actually was sick a couple of years ago and lost weight - but was still above my goal weight - so I'm assuming that 'concern' will return as I continue losing.

That said, there's a bunch of research on this in the U.S. - 63% of the population is significantly overweight (and going up) and peoples' perception of what is "normal weight" has been distorted ... so first off many people see "normal" weight as "underweight", when it isn't. Second, as lots of folks have pointed out, graduate loss isn't noticed until it hits some sort of "perceptual threshold" and then it looks like a sudden loss, so people are concerned.

Myself I also wonder if people are also unused to seeing people successfully reduce as a result of choice and hard work that they assume illness rather than conscious change.

For some reason I can't help but think of the movie Wall-E

mearlie

I don't understand at all why someone thinks it is perfectly okay to tell you that you don't need to lose weight or lose "any more" weight YET if you said to that same person, "I don't think you need to gain anymore weight" it would be the rudest thing they've ever heard!

I love it

:laugh:

bethygirlie

I don't understand at all why someone thinks it is perfectly okay to tell you that you don't need to lose weight or lose "any more" weight YET if you said to that same person, "I don't think you need to gain anymore weight" it would be the rudest thing they've ever heard!

ex-actly. i'm sure they wouldn't want me coming up to them asking them if they're pregnant or telling them "are you sure you want that brownie?"

chriscm70

This happened to me last night. A woman I hadn't seen in a while commented on it but said she was a little afraid to say anything because she thought I might be sick. She said she commented on a guy's weight loss once and he told her it was because he had cancer though, so I guess I can understand her apprehension. Before that it hadn't even occurred to me that people might be thinking that.

Oishii

I was asked so many times that I developed a little speech:

'Yes I have lost weight and yes it was on purpose.'

When I gained a little a few people told me how much better I looked, and at my lowest I was a bit scrawny, but 30DS sorted that out. Annoyingly, I was also anaemic, which I'd never been in my life before, which may or may not have been related to my weight loss, so maybe the real difference was no iron v. supplements.

The people I remember being concerned were mainly rather socially gauche and probably feared making a faux pas by praising me for being ill.

Razack541

my mom asked me if i were making myself throw up the other day wtf

Nice username.

xristysmith

:laugh: lol..where the heck is Flour Bluff, Tx !

Evasavealot1

I have clients come in and ask if I'm sick. I lost 20 pounds in 2 months. People are weird. It also doesn't help I don't wear make up so I usually have my morning face look like a disaster. By noon, my face seems more alert and rosy

Levedi

Normally I'd say don't worry about it - ignore gossips and you take their power away.

But if this threatens your business because your clients are worried you need to find a positive way to address the issue so they're reassured. Say how charged up you are to work with them and add that you have so much more energy for everything, work and play, since you lost the weight.

GomesDavid

My best friend used to think I would make myself puke after I ate.........

hmmm!! let him think... but u do what u want to do....

Florawanda

I just get told I am looking so much younger! And when I say that I am still classified as obese, they are amazed! Like some have said, we have become so used to people carrying more pounds than they should, anyone who is in the 'healthy' range is seen as scrawny, or sick.
But I usually say now when people say 'You have lost a lot of weight' - 'Yes, isn't it great'!
So celebrate!

EgyptianMushroom

Ironically, I'm actually losing weight from the medications I got prescribed for an infection.

I periodically get asked if I've lost weight, when I haven't, and when I do lose a few pounds, it's 'You aren't heavy or anything.'

Work with what you've got. :flowerforyou: I just want my pants to fit.

lily1972

When I consulted a specialist in athlete nutrition and exercise, I followed his recommendations quite strickly and obtained quick results (even he was thrilled!)... but it freaked out my Mom - hehe! I had to explain over and over again that the idea was to "strip away the old" before bulking up... with muscle and that I had never felt better!:glasses: A few people at my children's school asked me if the weight loss was on purpose... I answered that I couldn't have obtained such nice arm definiton by accident And for those who have told me that I'm "lucky" I have learned to say that luck has nothing to do with it: it's the result of hard work and discipline... and I love it! :bigsmile: Good luck! :flowerforyou:

BSchoberg

I've had that... and I kind of get why. My face loses a lot - and fast - so while I'm still working on trying to burn off the belly, hips & thighs, my face gets thinner & thinner. If I'm tired at all, people worry that I'm sick because I'm so drawn. I will say - no one at the gym has EVER asked if I'm sick --- LOL

jeffreyjording

They call me Jefferexic. I am in the best shape ever. Ignore these people. Usually it comes from people choosing not to live a healthy lifestyle.

maeve1988

I think that the appeareance of the face is one the reasons,too. My brother lost 30 kg and the first two to three month he just looked ill, because the skin wasn't as thight as normally, because all the fat was away. After a few month it was tighter and looked much healthier, even the weight didn't changeanymore.