The hardest thing about dating...
For me, its my schedule. Right now I am working swing shift, which means I get off at 11:30pm. The only thing open around here are clubs, which is not my idea of a "getting to know someone" kind of date. The option of "hanging out" at his place that late at night tends to lead to one thing. Since I am a single mom the two nights I do have off I usually have something going on with my daughter or I atleast want to tuck her in. Her bed time is 8pm and I live about an hour out of town so the date couldn't start until 9 which is plausible. But my days off are Tuesday and Wednesday, so 9 makes it hard for a guy that has to get up and work in the am. I get asked out often but actually going on dates doesn't happen much anymore. Either guys think I am blowing them off or that I am not worth the effort.
What is the hardest part of dating for you?
What is the hardest part of dating for you?
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finding a date.
hahahaha
but for real...0 -
No way your cute...0
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all of what you said is very similar with me. I'm not sure if i'm too picky or what but there seems to not really be much for choices. I'm a single dad, like to be home with my kids even though they are teenagers. I would like to have somebody to share it with but too many hardcore partyers or women who just don't enjoy a romantic evening anymore0
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And with being a single parent you have to be really careful about who you bring around your kids. I have had a lot of guys who offered to take me and my daughter to do something, because I wanted to spend my evening with her. But I can't do that either. It just doesn't seem safe0
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Finding someone who actually wants to date me.0
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Immaturity in guys my age. Seriously, the early twenties have to be the WORST for guys. They act like long-armed little children. Even the CONCEPT of dating terrifies them.0
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Finding a half decent guy who has their head screwed on around the same age is me! And Meeting people is difficult!0
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LOL I work in a male facility and the guys from 18-21 are the WORST!!!!!!!!!!! but you can tell who is in their early 20's by their behavor. It is so bizzarre0
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figuring out if someone's a phyco before you go on the date.lol0
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That is not possible0
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finding willing girls to date psychosfiguring out if someone's a phyco before you go on the date.lol0 -
No way your cute...
Thank you! But yes it is hard. Haven't dated much in my life at all - only four dates ever.0 -
finding willing girls to date psychosfiguring out if someone's a phyco before you go on the date.lol
lol, i guess that's hard to do?0 -
And with being a single parent you have to be really careful about who you bring around your kids. I have had a lot of guys who offered to take me and my daughter to do something, because I wanted to spend my evening with her. But I can't do that either. It just doesn't seem safe
dating as a single mother is so hard!!!0 -
getting out of bed quietly in the morning making to the car before she wakes up :laugh:0
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And with being a single parent you have to be really careful about who you bring around your kids. I have had a lot of guys who offered to take me and my daughter to do something, because I wanted to spend my evening with her. But I can't do that either. It just doesn't seem safe
dating as a single mother is so hard!!!
a single father is as well0 -
Staying interested, unfortunately I seem to have the attention span of a five year old. *sign*0
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finding guys emotionally and mentally ready to date. I am tired of the break ups only to be told months or years later "you were the best girlfriend, I just didn't know what I wanted back then. I was falling for you and got scared."
who runs from something that feels good?? i just don't get it.0 -
Staying true to myself and falling into traps that lead to self-sabotage. It's the "OMG!-this-guy-is-so-amazing-and-I must-keep-him-because-he-says-he-likes-me" syndrome. In reality, the guy is not so amazing. I just want him to be. This is why I am on a break from dating. I have to learn to be better to myself so I can attract a better caliber of guy. Doormats attract *kitten*.0
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getting out of bed quietly in the morning making to the car before she wakes up :laugh:
I don't even wait for him to fall asleep before I leave... but that isn't the dating I was talking about0 -
Putting myself out there. I'm so shy...0
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Staying true to myself and falling into traps that lead to self-sabotage. It's the "OMG!-this-guy-is-so-amazing-and-I must-keep-him-because-he-says-he-likes-me" syndrome. In reality, the guy is not so amazing. I just want him to be. This is why I am on a break from dating. I have to learn to be better to myself so I can attract a better caliber of guy. Doormats attract *kitten*.
Yeah I have fallen into that trap before. Its good to take time to step back and reevaluate the situation.0 -
getting out of bed quietly in the morning making to the car before she wakes up :laugh:
I don't even wait for him to fall asleep before I leave... but that isn't the dating I was talking about
I'm confused then0 -
i hate this! why do people hide away in their little portable devices??? gah so annoying! like sometimes i can't even say hi to a girl because she's on her cell phone the whole time. (not talking btw)Putting myself out there. I'm so shy...0 -
For the guys who are shy, nervous around woman and can't seem to find a "date" for that reason. I wrote this on another thread, but deserves to be here too:
I remember being awkward, shy, nervous, worried, sweaty when being approached or approaching a girl.
It took practice, but I managed to change myself(primarily after getting dumped by my ex.) Although I was always assured of myself and had some sense of humor.
Be confident. When I say this I mean don't have your head down when she looks at you, have something to say if she talks to you. Do you see a girl that you like? THEN APPROACH HER. Woman want the best, so be the best you can be. Showcase your swagger. You have value, why does she deserve you?
Dress proper. Looks don't really matter, but if you're wearing something like it came out of your parents class of 79' photo then chances are you crapped the bed. Doesn't mean to wear prada, gucci and $200 cologne. I like vnecks, skinny jeans, toms for casual. Button down/cardigan for clubbing. Still trimming down to get into blazers.
No girl is special. LEARN TO GET REJECTED. Deal with it. Ask yourself what happened, how I can do better and MOVE ON.
Don't put her on a pedestal. She's not the end all be all. Your life doesn't revolve around her.
Practice. Talk to girls. This isn't something that we are born with. It takes time, trial and error. When I mean talk to a girl, I don't mean talk to some girl that you want - right away. I mean talk to the cashier, bank teller, movie attendant, barista, classmate. Build yourself up so you don't get as nervous and transform yourself to a more seductive, charming man. It DOESN'T happen overnight just like a healthy life style. Elevate your social skills. Go somewhere where your attributes can be noticed and feel more comfortable at first. Smart? Library. Buff? Beach. Dancer? Club. Musician? Concerts/Live bands.
Body Language. Look at her directly, not like a criminal, but with some suave, don't put your hands in your pockets, smile, have good posture(straight, elbows back)
Talking to her: Be cool. Now I don't mean having the latest apple product. I mean be assertive of yourself, be calm, relaxed, nice, fun, open to new things. This is where confidence really comes into play. This is where your mindset should be saying you're the man, and she's lucky to be talking to you NOT the opposite. Get her to talk. Lead on conversations(making sure you're in control), don't let her stop, unless she asks you a question then you answer it and follow up with another question. A good opener is always helpful. Make her laugh. Backhand compliments are great if you know how to use them. Being an *kitten* helps. Woman enjoy an *kitten* opinion and thoughts because they don't always correspond to theirs and it creates sparks. I don't mean be a ****, I mean be playful. Listen to what she has to say. LISTEN. LISTEN. That's how you have a conversation and follow up on things. Store something she has said and keep it with you. Mention it later on. Woman love that. Stop talking about yourself. Stop bragging. Have flow in your conversation. If she's talking about dogs, don't mention your friends dog died. NO. STOP. I like to mention my name in the end, adds mystery.
Make sure she's interested. Eye contact. Eye contact. EYE CONTACT. Chances are if she's looked at you a couple times, she's looking for you to talk to her. Girls don't show interest like men. They're subtle. If she's playing with her hair. If she's smiled, a comment, etc. Okay you've now talked to her for a while and it's going well? Don't know if she's willing to give you her number/ interested in you? Few things to look out for... Leaning towards you, starts asking you tons of questions, blushing, tone of voice, posture. You can go for the kill by getting close saying something, if she doesn't reject what you said go for a kiss. If she does reject you. Chin up. Sometimes even with all of these hints she could just be an attention *kitten* or a tease. There's more out there.
Again don't be desperate, kiss *kitten*, try too hard, and being scared of who you're naturally supposed to be - a man.
Most importantly be yourself. Be comfortable with who you are. Do some soul searching. Don't live someone else's life. Don't make it all about someone that can hurt you, mistreat, you and eventually break you. Have self-respect. Love yourself because you are so ****ing worth it.0 -
Putting myself out there. I'm so shy...
your really cute in the pic you can get over being shy by just talking to people0 -
Meeting a confident guy, there are way too many insecure men0
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getting out of bed quietly in the morning making to the car before she wakes up :laugh:
I don't even wait for him to fall asleep before I leave... but that isn't the dating I was talking about
I'm confused then
:laugh: :laugh: :laugh: I think I like you
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finding a date.
hahahaha
but for real...
Same here...0 -
finding a date.
hahahaha
but for real...
This^0
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