The hardest thing about dating...
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The hardest thing about dating....
My husband doesnt like when I do it. *shrugs*
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edited for typo. lol0 -
Finding a guy who is honest ... or one wanting to commiitt... I had a date tonight we planned it all week... and I got ready waitied for him to call nothing I texted 3 xs nothing... rude rude.. if you dont wanna go just say so simple.. ya know ... dont stand me up!0
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Finding Opie Winston in actual-person form.0
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I agree with all the single parents - it's almost impossible to find a time that isn't already packed with lessons, sports or just being there for your kids. And when I get a moment that isn't taken up by any of the above, I need time to just sit and breathe!
It also doesn't help that I work in a clinic that is staffed entirely with women (oh wait, 3 married guys) and that my circle of friends is made up of mostly couples.
And although I've been encouraged to try dating websites it just is way too hard for me to trust that what guys are putting out there is honest.
Because obviously I have no problem being honest with who I am. My profile pic is proof of that.0 -
Definitely the putting myself out there not just in the meeting of guys,
but once I actually found someone I'm interested in and HE'S asked me out ( because i'm way to shy to ever be the first to ask/hit on a guy), then to continue putting myself out there and opening myself to the possibility of being love and loving in return. My wall is high and super thick. Sometimes I really feel like an emotionless being when I'm with a guy who's pouring out his heart and soul to me and I know I can trust him, but all i give back is a "thank you", or a nervous giggle, or some sarcastic comment that evades the topic.0 -
I had the same issue as above. Since I have been on my journey, beginning November 2011, I have made HUGE strides in all areas. I began dating people and I realize now that I can be more discerning about who I choose to date. It feels good to be honest, blunt and to say NO to guys I have honestly assessed as not "keepers". I am actively dating, never did that in my entire life. The hardest part, honestly, is finding a guy that is worth giving up "me" time for.... I cherish MY time, whether it be sleeping in, window shopping, or working out/going to the gym... I come first... I know it sounds selfish, but I put everyone before me my whole life and it got me fat, depressed, miserable and perpetually single.... So, now I am number one... All else falls below that!Staying true to myself and falling into traps that lead to self-sabotage. It's the "OMG!-this-guy-is-so-amazing-and-I must-keep-him-because-he-says-he-likes-me" syndrome. In reality, the guy is not so amazing. I just want him to be. This is why I am on a break from dating. I have to learn to be better to myself so I can attract a better caliber of guy. Doormats attract *kitten*.
Yeah I have fallen into that trap before. Its good to take time to step back and reevaluate the situation.0 -
That stinks!Finding a guy who is honest ... or one wanting to commiitt... I had a date tonight we planned it all week... and I got ready waitied for him to call nothing I texted 3 xs nothing... rude rude.. if you dont wanna go just say so simple.. ya know ... dont stand me up!0 -
When I did shift work it was hard because I was always working funny hours.
Now I'm in a long term relationship the hardest part about date nights is........finding a sitter, finding the energy.
I hope you find your knight in shining armor :flowerforyou:0 -
Putting myself out there. I'm so shy...
Same.0 -
Finding a ball gag that fits him.0
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I think it's meeting new people.
Right now I know most of the people I'm going to know from work and the gym and the places I frequent... and I don't know how to meet people without a proper introduction... hell, I don't even know how to make eye contact with a cute guy. And I doubt that they're going to introduce themselves with the girl that won't look them in the eye. And after that barrier, I still don't know how to get them to talk to me...
Stupid awkwardness.0 -
Hiding the bondage gear and leather until I've got him sufficiently tied down.0
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My wife is against me dating.
I'm just trying to be funny, I'm madly in love with my wife, but found your topic interesting sounding, so I checked out your posts. Interesting responses, I liked dating when I was single, but love the married life much more. 0 -
I'm on a journey right now. I spent 14 years in a marriage that quickly and suddenly fell apart by reasons still unknown to me, spent about 3 years crying about it, while dating women and basically drinking myself into a coma everyday, and now, I'm in a quiet period. So, no dating for me. I need to regroup. It's nice not to really think about that at all. I enjoy quiet evenings, when I don't have my kids.
The thing I realized while I was dating is that I was not really there and it wasn't fair.
The hardest thing about it is this...
You meet someone. You like them. They seem happy and they make you feel good. You date for a few months, but it just ant clicking. Maybe for her, but not for me. Yes, I like her. But, it's not that deep like. It's not that super amazing feeling, it's just kinda like, eh, it's fine, she's nice and we have fun. So, one day, you get tired of the charade and you break it off. That's what I hate about dating. I want it to be awesome and last forever. But, if it's not going to those awesome places in my heart, I have break it off. Some women just don't get that. But, how else can you know if you don't try for a while? It's a difficult thing.
Meeting women is easy. I don't usually have that problem. I just don't wanna right now.0 -
Hiding the bondage gear and leather until I've got him sufficiently tied down.
How do you tie him down when your bondage gear is hidden?
Ha! Caught in a lie!0 -
Hiding the bondage gear and leather until I've got him sufficiently tied down.
How do you tie him down when your bondage gear is hidden?
Ha! Caught in a lie!
Step into my basement and I'll show you really quickly... this'll just take a minute, promise....0 -
At this point of time it's not finding someone to go out with. It's finding someone who is compatible.0
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Putting myself out there. I'm so shy...
^^^ so me! I feel ya. & when guys approach me, I intentionally push them away.. I don't know what's wrong with me!
I think until I'm satisfy with myself, I can put myself out there.0 -
Staying interested, unfortunately I seem to have the attention span of a five year old. *sign*
This.
I rarely find people who challenge my mind and I end up being bored...0 -
Actually meeting someone locally is the hardest for me. I live in a community dominated heavily by married people, plus I work from home. Gave up on Match and PoF when I got tired of being some girl's idea of a "free dinner".0
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I'm on a journey right now. I spent 14 years in a marriage that quickly and suddenly fell apart by reasons still unknown to me, spent about 3 years crying about it, while dating women and basically drinking myself into a coma everyday, and now, I'm in a quiet period. So, no dating for me. I need to regroup. It's nice not to really think about that at all. I enjoy quiet evenings, when I don't have my kids.
The thing I realized while I was dating is that I was not really there and it wasn't fair.
The hardest thing about it is this...
You meet someone. You like them. They seem happy and they make you feel good. You date for a few months, but it just ant clicking. Maybe for her, but not for me. Yes, I like her. But, it's not that deep like. It's not that super amazing feeling, it's just kinda like, eh, it's fine, she's nice and we have fun. So, one day, you get tired of the charade and you break it off. That's what I hate about dating. I want it to be awesome and last forever. But, if it's not going to those awesome places in my heart, I have break it off. Some women just don't get that. But, how else can you know if you don't try for a while? It's a difficult thing.
Meeting women is easy. I don't usually have that problem. I just don't wanna right now.
I totally understand this. I have a close friend and coworker who I use to date. At the time we were dating we didn't work together. We enjoyed each others company and it was fun, but it just wasn't clicking for him.We split but still talked and hung out on a regular bases. He was the person who told me about the job opening where I work now. At the time he ended I didn't agree that we didn't click like that, but now I am so glad he ended it. He was right friends is all we were meant to be.0 -
Not having someone to date!0
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Finding Opie Winston in actual-person form.
Hell to the YES.0 -
Actually meeting someone locally is the hardest for me. I live in a community dominated heavily by married people, plus I work from home. Gave up on Match and PoF when I got tired of being some girl's idea of a "free dinner".
I have thought about dating sites but just could make myself pay to meet someone. I figure if I am going to meet someone online I have just as good of a chance meeting them on a free website as I do on one that charges. As far as being some girl's "free dinner" you can never tell what a person is truely looking for until that first date. Sometimes they are just trying to use you for dinner sometimes they are trying to use you for other things. Very seldomly I have I met someone who was trying to actually get to know me.0 -
I have not read everyone's response. Why not go and meet at a restaurant for a breakfast meeting?
It can be healthy. Short (for people have to get to work) which is ideal for the first or second date.
I do this and it is perfect. :drinker:0 -
I have tried that.... I don't make it home until 12:30 so I am not usually up for breakfast (remember I live an hour outside of town plus the time it would take to get ready).... and when I work night shifts I don't get off in time to meet up before work.0
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i hate this! why do people hide away in their little portable devices??? gah so annoying! like sometimes i can't even say hi to a girl because she's on her cell phone the whole time. (not talking btw)Putting myself out there. I'm so shy...
^ That is rude no matter if it is woman or man doing it! Unless they are talking to their children and there is a problem or another type of emergency. I go with the assumption, that this person is not respectful. I let them know, if behavior has not changed, I leave.0 -
I have tried that.... I don't make it home until 12:30 so I am not usually up for breakfast (remember I live an hour outside of town plus the time it would take to get ready).... and when I work night shifts I don't get off in time to meet up before work.
^ I did read your post. I sometimes have to work a double shift. I get off around the same time as you. Now, I do emphasis with you -
I do know that it is a thousand times harder with children. Please know that. I don't have children. I wish I did.
I mentioned breakfast because I thought .
1 - You go home - long drive. Bonus: see your child and bond.
2- You have a bath/shower and get brightened up
3- child off to school
4 - You are dressed like a new woman and meet your date for breakfast (late breakfast = brunch)
5- It is short, you have not a lot of sleep, he has to get back to work, Meet for coffee and tea and share something to eat.
6- If you like each, hugs back
Go home
Sleep
Go to work
Follow up with a letter on private message if you had a great time.
Good Luck
Go you Gorgeous!!! You can do it. Enjoy you Adventure!!0 -
I've been told by my male friends that I'm hot but that I appear to have a sign over my head that says "Don't even think about it, punk". So finding a date is a bit hard at times.
Plus I'm picky.0 -
When you've had a long term relationship that ended badly, it's hard to just start dating again. You try so hard to forget and move on- but every new guy that comes along, you end up finding an excuse or reason to not give him the chance he deserves. It really sucks; especially when the new guy turns out to be someone wonderful.0
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