The difference between saying 'I love you' and...

pluginchambers
pluginchambers Posts: 21
edited October 2024 in Chit-Chat
'love you'

Do you think there is some sort of subconscious meaning behind the two?

Do you think if your partner were to just say 'love you' most of the time rather than saying 'I love you' there is much to be interpreted by that?

I'm an over-thinker and I'm just curious as to if other people think there is underlying meaning behind it or if it's nothing.
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  • karenjoy
    karenjoy Posts: 1,840 Member
    I think there is a difference, The 'love you' one is more flippant and almost dismissive IMHO
  • invisibubble
    invisibubble Posts: 662 Member
    I say it more than "I love you". I also say "loves". For me, it's just the way I say it, and the way my whole family tends to say it. We miss out the "I".
    When people say "love YA" though, that bothers me. Again, it could just be the way they say things, but to me it seems insincere. It depends entirely on how they say it to others and any underlying issues with intimacy they may have. I have a lot of emotional issues so mine could well speak for that if only it wasn't just the way we said it in my family. *shrugs* I guess I'm trying to say it's entirely a "relative to the individual" thing as far as I see it.
  • EnchantedEvening
    EnchantedEvening Posts: 671 Member
    Nope. "Love you," is just something we say when hanging up the phone or closing an email. It's more casual, but the meaning is still the same. It's like "hello" versus "good morning". We say, "I love you," when hugging each other or being sappy during vacation. The phrase just depends on the circumstance.
  • LovingLisa2012
    LovingLisa2012 Posts: 775 Member
    I say " love you" allot to my husband (we tell each other several times a day, at random times)
    I don't see a difference from "I love you" vs "love you" just the way I say it
  • oregonzoo
    oregonzoo Posts: 4,251 Member
    I think there is a difference, The 'love you' one is more flippant and almost dismissive IMHO
    I hate "love you" I also hate "love u" and "ilu" all are dismissive hurried and lazy.
  • denezy
    denezy Posts: 573 Member
    I think you're over thinking. A lot.
  • holeshottdr
    holeshottdr Posts: 364 Member
    It doesn't even have to be said, just pay her and go on...





    Just kidding... From a guys point of view, I really think your putting way too much thought into it.
  • mlwatts2
    mlwatts2 Posts: 244 Member
    Defnitely a difference! While I am fine with "love you" it is nice every now and then to get a truly heart felt "I love you". Just means more...:heart:
  • blacklaceroses
    blacklaceroses Posts: 48 Member
    Well I tell my hubby "I love you" but I tell my best friend "love you" so meh I feel there is a difference but it also depends on the person as well. it may mean something different to them than it does to me or you.
  • karenjoy
    karenjoy Posts: 1,840 Member
    I also think that HOW it is said makes a difference, I like to say I love you, and I am in love with you to my man and love you to my children as they walk out the door, I love them, but in a different way,
  • MyM0wM0w
    MyM0wM0w Posts: 2,008 Member
    The last two guys I was involved with both changed from "I love you" to more flippant responses like "love you" or "love ya" and both relationships went south about the same time.
  • Sarah_Wins
    Sarah_Wins Posts: 936 Member
    Seriously?
  • McBully4
    McBully4 Posts: 1,270 Member
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  • Capt_Apollo
    Capt_Apollo Posts: 9,026 Member
    143 for anyone that remembers pagers.
  • austindog2
    austindog2 Posts: 128
    I think it all depends on the context and the relationship of the people saying it. I used to get upset with my ex for saying 'love you' a lot, but it was usually because I was annoyed with him for other things and that was just an easy target to nag him about :P
  • Sarah_Wins
    Sarah_Wins Posts: 936 Member
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    love u :flowerforyou:



    ono! wtf?
  • katamus
    katamus Posts: 2,363 Member
    There's a difference. Laziness. Sometimes I'm just too tired to get out the extra "I".

    Does it make it less meaningful? Maybe just as much as hearing it for the 12,823rd time. I think you're reading too much into it.
  • McBully4
    McBully4 Posts: 1,270 Member

    love u :flowerforyou:



    ono! wtf?

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    you didnt say I love you
  • Darkskinned88
    Darkskinned88 Posts: 1,177 Member
    i tend to say love you alot in a kidding sense so i guess there is a difference
  • imchicbad
    imchicbad Posts: 1,650 Member
    I think the words "I love you" are very powerful, and people have dismissed it and reduced it to almost nothing, like the anoying - I:heart: whatever-.

    I make it a point to say "I Love You" to my husband and kids. It means something more than just words to me. Im old school. I make it count:smokin:
  • Steve_Runs
    Steve_Runs Posts: 443 Member
    Absolutely NOT! I think it's silly to even think there is a difference. The difference is in the tone, not the words! Feelings are displayed in the tone! Simple as that!
  • Steve_Runs
    Steve_Runs Posts: 443 Member
    I think the words "I love you" are very powerful, and people have dismissed it and reduced it to almost nothing, like the anoying - I:heart: whatever-.

    I make it a point to say "I Love You" to my husband and kids. It means something more than just words to me. Im old school. I make it count:smokin:^^^This!
  • MrsBully4
    MrsBully4 Posts: 304 Member
    I tell my husband I wub him
  • kooltray87
    kooltray87 Posts: 501 Member
    Its weird but there's a difference to me lol. I say 'love you" like I would hi or bye. I only say "I love you" when I'm feeling particularly lovey dovey. So one is much deeper than the other, to me that is....
  • gr8pillock
    gr8pillock Posts: 374 Member
    I am pretty fond of the term L-Bombs, personally. :)

    But don't even get me started on the difference between Thanks and Thank you.
  • Illona88
    Illona88 Posts: 903 Member
    A comedian on people typing "luv u" in texts:

    “I am in no doubt that if you use the term 'luv' in a letter or text message then you are incapable of truly understanding the emotion. Artists have not pored over heartache and unrequited sentimentality for years so that our generation could decide that four letters is simply one too many to express how we feel.”
  • ImprovingEla
    ImprovingEla Posts: 396 Member
    I say "love you" to my husband, just to tell him I am aware of him in daily life or to end messages on the phone, but before I leave the house or when I am really with him (like cuddling) I say "I love you".
    Cause the latter phrase means much more to me and to the heart, you never know when you see someone back again or at all.
    Not being overly pessimistic, but traveling everyday and seen to much as a nurse!
  • Litlbeast
    Litlbeast Posts: 340 Member
    It depends on your partner. Some people use language in their own way, and if you know that, you shouldn't read into it when they don't use the same words that you do.
  • arewethereyet
    arewethereyet Posts: 18,702 Member
    Well we said I love you all the time, and the divorce was final 9/27

    How does he TREAT you. Does he show compassion? Does he communicate? Does he show consideration?

    THAT says "I love you" more than the words.

    :flowerforyou:
  • lamoursuffit
    lamoursuffit Posts: 267 Member
    I don't really think there's much of a difference. When we're just saying it randomly, my fiance and I say "I love you". When one of us is leaving we give a peck on the lips and a "love you!" I suppose one is more when we're rushing, but they both mean exactly as much :)
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