Living together AFTER marriage....

oregonzoo
oregonzoo Posts: 4,251 Member
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  • odusgolp
    odusgolp Posts: 10,477 Member
    I couldn't agree more. Thank GOD for divorce!!
  • DontStopB_Leakin
    DontStopB_Leakin Posts: 3,863 Member
    Yea. I'm *this* close to kicking the husband out.


    He snores and steals the covers. That's grounds for divorce.
  • odusgolp
    odusgolp Posts: 10,477 Member
    Yea. I'm *this* close to kicking the husband out.


    He snores and steals the covers. That's grounds for divorce.

    I snore & steal the covers... am I out too?
  • oregonzoo
    oregonzoo Posts: 4,251 Member
    Yea. I'm *this* close to kicking the husband out.


    He snores and steals the covers. That's grounds for divorce.

    I do this when I drink.
    So we're all in trouble ladies.
  • DontStopB_Leakin
    DontStopB_Leakin Posts: 3,863 Member
    Yes, but you girls have ladyparts. So you're in the clear.
  • pawnstarNate
    pawnstarNate Posts: 1,728 Member
    I lived with my ex wife (1st marriage) about a month after our divorce and we were steal decent friends for a few years after that....until she borrowed money from me and never paid me back...lol

    edit...oh wait...I think I totally misread the post..haha
  • bushidowoman
    bushidowoman Posts: 1,599 Member
    It can be a big adjustment. It's not easy. It's WORK. But just like everything else, the amount of work you put into it = what you get out of it.
    I love having a best friend to cuddle up in front of a movie on chilly evenings, rub my back after a rough night at work, share silly inside jokes, plenty of sex!, and he's the first to high five me when I'm excited about my accomplishments. I love living with my hubby.
  • oregonzoo
    oregonzoo Posts: 4,251 Member
    I lived with my ex wife (1st marriage) about a month after our divorce and we were steal decent friends for a few years after that....until she borrowed money from me and never paid me back...lol

    edit...oh wait...I think I totally misread the post..haha

    hahaha no actually I MEANT it the way you read it.
    My ex and I did for about 9 months! EEK!
    However, I'm glad we did. Because I think we get along better than a lot of divorced people.. We had no choice.
  • PanteraGirl
    PanteraGirl Posts: 566 Member
    I am soooo glad that I moved in with my SO 3 years ago...still not married....but when we get married...it won't change cuz we already got used to each others crappy habits!

    I think divorce rates are high because people move in together after marriage!
  • rickthexpreacher
    rickthexpreacher Posts: 57 Member
    Nah. Vastly overrated. All the fun's gone now the marriage is an actuality.. Do a runner and start off somewhere else under a different name. Start again. I have been doing this for 45 years.
  • oregonzoo
    oregonzoo Posts: 4,251 Member
    Nah. Vastly overrated. All the fun's gone now the marriage is an actuality.. Do a runner and start off somewhere else under a different name. Start again. I have been doing this for 45 years.

    I'm usually pretty quick, but I have no idea what in the name of Ben and Jerry this means.
  • coliema
    coliema Posts: 7,646 Member
    I am soooo glad that I moved in with my SO 3 years ago...still not married....but when we get married...it won't change cuz we already got used to each others crappy habits!

    I think divorce rates are high because people move in together after marriage!
    I feel the same way, I dated my fiance for 6 years before he proposed, and I have been living with him for 2 years so far...so I already know what to expect after our wedding, we are so used to living with eachother now :) I don't mind it actually...we get along very well.
  • MattTheWaterRat
    MattTheWaterRat Posts: 167 Member
    Just out of curiousity, did you have your maid of honor advise you to run away? Because my best man made it very clear what I should have done.
  • _Calvin_
    _Calvin_ Posts: 122 Member
    I got you beat. I lived with my ex for 13 months after we decided it was over. I wish we became better friends but not so.
  • wolverine66
    wolverine66 Posts: 3,779 Member
    only if we're still allowed to do the hibbity-bibbity
  • fcp1234
    fcp1234 Posts: 1,098 Member
    I know !! Who came up with this idea..
    Thank god for King size bed
  • laarae
    laarae Posts: 332 Member
    I think it's so funny when we teach our childrens that when you get married everything is "peaches/cream and roses" BULL$H!T-it is work to make a marriage work-everyday. I have been married 26 years and I and he have had to work at it-but we have not given up-we have been through a DUI ($10,000 cost for that mistake of his), cancer, 5 children, bankruptcy, him developing diabetes, deaths of our parents....many, many other things. We live today in such a "throw-away" society that it seems its easier to throw it away than to fix it. I must be too old school for that
  • oregonzoo
    oregonzoo Posts: 4,251 Member
    I think it's so funny when we teach our childrens that when you get married everything is "peaches/cream and roses" BULL$H!T-it is work to make a marriage work-everyday. I have been married 26 years and I and he have had to work at it-but we have not given up-we have been through a DUI ($10,000 cost for that mistake of his), cancer, 5 children, bankruptcy, him developing diabetes, deaths of our parents....many, many other things. We live today in such a "throw-away" society that it seems its easier to throw it away than to fix it. I must be too old school for that
    Well that's just fantastic for you.
    I really hope someday if I've been married I have a happier disposition to show for it.


    Again you like most missed the point of this thread, it was kind of a spoof.
  • TeachTheGirl
    TeachTheGirl Posts: 2,091 Member
    People LIVE together after they're married?

    ...oops.
  • mommy2AR
    mommy2AR Posts: 2,796 Member
    lmao! Love this :heart: Sadly living together AFTER marriage is proving to be harder than the before
  • laarae
    laarae Posts: 332 Member
    I think it's so funny when we teach our childrens that when you get married everything is "peaches/cream and roses" BULL$H!T-it is work to make a marriage work-everyday. I have been married 26 years and I and he have had to work at it-but we have not given up-we have been through a DUI ($10,000 cost for that mistake of his), cancer, 5 children, bankruptcy, him developing diabetes, deaths of our parents....many, many other things. We live today in such a "throw-away" society that it seems its easier to throw it away than to fix it. I must be too old school for that
    Well that's just fantastic for you.
    I really hope someday if I've been married I have a happier disposition to show for it.


    Again you like most missed the point of this thread, it was kind of a spoof.
    Yep I must have missed the spoof part.
  • XtyAnn17
    XtyAnn17 Posts: 632 Member
    Yea. I'm *this* close to kicking the husband out.


    He snores and steals the covers. That's grounds for divorce.

    I snore & steal the covers... am I out too?

    Becauseof this i use my own blanket
  • Bentley2718
    Bentley2718 Posts: 1,689 Member
    I think it's so funny when we teach our childrens that when you get married everything is "peaches/cream and roses" BULL$H!T-it is work to make a marriage work-everyday.

    My parents taught me no such thing. Quite the opposite in fact, my parents taught me, by example, how crappy marriage can be when it's not working.
  • laarae
    laarae Posts: 332 Member
    Yep I must have missed the spoof part.:laugh:
  • Heather_Rider
    Heather_Rider Posts: 1,159 Member
    I love being married, and I hope that if GOD FORBID something happens that we are ever forced to be divorced for some reason (because it wont be because we arent in love anymore) that we can still live together.. because for us, it is all peaches & cream! :heart: I dont believe its "work" to keep a marrige happy & strong. I believe once you get over the bumps in the beginning of your relationship that ALL relationships go through.. learning each other, gaining trust, teaching each other about how to respect each other & what each other needs, ect.. (which should be done BEFORE you get married...) then it shouldnt be work at all! (that is if neither person does something stupid to screw it up....

    Maybe im old school or whatever, but I was raised in this environment & so was my husband that you respect and care about the other with every ounce of love in your body... and I guess it rubbed off on both of us. You give and do for the other person as if its the last time you could ever do for them. When my husband works night shift, i get up at 4am out of bed, and i cook him a complete hot meal. when he works days.. and i just dont feel like doing it.. he will work 18 hours, and come home, start laundry, and cook dinner for our family. its about loving each other, and not "expecting" something from the other person, but wanting to do as much as possible for the other at all times. *shrugs* its just the way we work. lol... people tease us and say that there are NO two people more spoiled in the entire world... and they are probably right!
  • wolverine66
    wolverine66 Posts: 3,779 Member
    I love being married, and I hope that if GOD FORBID something happens that we are ever forced to be divorced for some reason (because it wont be because we arent in love anymore) that we can still live together.. because for us, it is all peaches & cream! :heart: I dont believe its "work" to keep a marrige happy & strong. I believe once you get over the bumps in the beginning of your relationship that ALL relationships go through.. learning each other, gaining trust, teaching each other about how to respect each other & what each other needs, ect.. (which should be done BEFORE you get married...) then it shouldnt be work at all! (that is if neither person does something stupid to screw it up....

    Maybe im old school or whatever, but I was raised in this environment & so was my husband that you respect and care about the other with every ounce of love in your body... and I guess it rubbed off on both of us. You give and do for the other person as if its the last time you could ever do for them. When my husband works night shift, i get up at 4am out of bed, and i cook him a complete hot meal. when he works days.. and i just dont feel like doing it.. he will work 18 hours, and come home, start laundry, and cook dinner for our family. its about loving each other, and not "expecting" something from the other person, but wanting to do as much as possible for the other at all times. *shrugs* its just the way we work. lol... people tease us and say that there are NO two people more spoiled in the entire world... and they are probably right!

    so.. is that "yes" or "no" to hibbity-bibbity if you decide to live with him in the (unlikely) event the marriage ends?
  • oregonzoo
    oregonzoo Posts: 4,251 Member
    I love being married, and I hope that if GOD FORBID something happens that we are ever forced to be divorced for some reason (because it wont be because we arent in love anymore) that we can still live together.. because for us, it is all peaches & cream! :heart: I dont believe its "work" to keep a marrige happy & strong. I believe once you get over the bumps in the beginning of your relationship that ALL relationships go through.. learning each other, gaining trust, teaching each other about how to respect each other & what each other needs, ect.. (which should be done BEFORE you get married...) then it shouldnt be work at all! (that is if neither person does something stupid to screw it up....

    Maybe im old school or whatever, but I was raised in this environment & so was my husband that you respect and care about the other with every ounce of love in your body... and I guess it rubbed off on both of us. You give and do for the other person as if its the last time you could ever do for them. When my husband works night shift, i get up at 4am out of bed, and i cook him a complete hot meal. when he works days.. and i just dont feel like doing it.. he will work 18 hours, and come home, start laundry, and cook dinner for our family. its about loving each other, and not "expecting" something from the other person, but wanting to do as much as possible for the other at all times. *shrugs* its just the way we work. lol... people tease us and say that there are NO two people more spoiled in the entire world... and they are probably right!

    I LOVE THIS! :) THis honestly made my day.
  • oregonzoo
    oregonzoo Posts: 4,251 Member
    I love being married, and I hope that if GOD FORBID something happens that we are ever forced to be divorced for some reason (because it wont be because we arent in love anymore) that we can still live together.. because for us, it is all peaches & cream! :heart: I dont believe its "work" to keep a marrige happy & strong. I believe once you get over the bumps in the beginning of your relationship that ALL relationships go through.. learning each other, gaining trust, teaching each other about how to respect each other & what each other needs, ect.. (which should be done BEFORE you get married...) then it shouldnt be work at all! (that is if neither person does something stupid to screw it up....

    Maybe im old school or whatever, but I was raised in this environment & so was my husband that you respect and care about the other with every ounce of love in your body... and I guess it rubbed off on both of us. You give and do for the other person as if its the last time you could ever do for them. When my husband works night shift, i get up at 4am out of bed, and i cook him a complete hot meal. when he works days.. and i just dont feel like doing it.. he will work 18 hours, and come home, start laundry, and cook dinner for our family. its about loving each other, and not "expecting" something from the other person, but wanting to do as much as possible for the other at all times. *shrugs* its just the way we work. lol... people tease us and say that there are NO two people more spoiled in the entire world... and they are probably right!

    so.. is that "yes" or "no" to hibbity-bibbity if you decide to live with him in the (unlikely) event the marriage ends?
    Well in my case there was no hibbity bibbity. In fact I wanted to throw up once when he bumped into me. lol
  • fcp1234
    fcp1234 Posts: 1,098 Member
    I love being married, and I hope that if GOD FORBID something happens that we are ever forced to be divorced for some reason (because it wont be because we arent in love anymore) that we can still live together.. because for us, it is all peaches & cream! :heart: I dont believe its "work" to keep a marrige happy & strong. I believe once you get over the bumps in the beginning of your relationship that ALL relationships go through.. learning each other, gaining trust, teaching each other about how to respect each other & what each other needs, ect.. (which should be done BEFORE you get married...) then it shouldnt be work at all! (that is if neither person does something stupid to screw it up....

    Maybe im old school or whatever, but I was raised in this environment & so was my husband that you respect and care about the other with every ounce of love in your body... and I guess it rubbed off on both of us. You give and do for the other person as if its the last time you could ever do for them. When my husband works night shift, i get up at 4am out of bed, and i cook him a complete hot meal. when he works days.. and i just dont feel like doing it.. he will work 18 hours, and come home, start laundry, and cook dinner for our family. its about loving each other, and not "expecting" something from the other person, but wanting to do as much as possible for the other at all times. *shrugs* its just the way we work. lol... people tease us and say that there are NO two people more spoiled in the entire world... and they are probably right!

    Im too lazy to read it all. But yea I am jealous.
  • diadojikohei
    diadojikohei Posts: 732 Member
    I have been married for almost 25 years. We have only lived together for 11.5 years!! We have 4 children, who are all perfectly happy with the arrangement. Hubby was military, then worked for a US based company then an Indian one. I love having the time to myself!
    Living together after marriage is seriously over rated!!

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