Up late
Starbuck2020
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Almost every night my husband stays up late drinking and playing games online. Then once every few weeks I stay up and he floods me with guilt trips. Tonight he made me feel guilty for being on here and watching a show instead of coming to bed early with him. It is bs. I can go to bed without him, but if he goes to bed without me I am being a selfish wife?
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"Turnabout is fair play."
What does he say if you ask him why he thinks it is alright for him, but not for you?0 -
He just made grunts and shut the door
So annoying. 0 -
then return the favor. That is bs.0
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Um, not cool. You are an adult, you can go to bed when you want.0
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Maybe he went to the bedroom early because he wanted nookie...0
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Maybe he went to the bedroom early because he wanted nookie...
Maybe she wants some on the nights when he feels like staying up late.
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He's the one being selfish...0
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Maybe he went to the bedroom early because he wanted nookie...
haha no. We have no problem in that department and he knows how to communicate that. This was "throwing a fit" because I was going to stay up without him.0 -
Maybe he went to the bedroom early because he wanted nookie...
Maybe she wants some on the nights when he feels like staying up late.
For sure! haha0 -
yeah, you need to have a talk with him about that. If he can do it, then you should be able to do it. Wonder why he gives you a guilt trip...what's he think your'e doing? Maybe he's feeling guilty?0
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He's the one being selfish...
Yea that is why I am upset. I just don't understand his logic on this one. It is just plain mean. I tell him to have fun and come to bed when he is ready and all I get is "oh, I see you are too busy to come to bed with your husband. Your more important life on the computer"0 -
yeah, you need to have a talk with him about that. If he can do it, then you should be able to do it. Wonder why he gives you a guilt trip...what's he think your'e doing? Maybe he's feeling guilty?
He knows or should know I am on MFP and Netflix. Diligently re-watching heroes. haha0 -
He's the one being selfish...
Yea that is why I am upset. I just don't understand his logic on this one. It is just plain mean. I tell him to have fun and come to bed when he is ready and all I get is "oh, I see you are too busy to come to bed with your husband. Your more important life on the computer"
how long you been married?0 -
We have been married a year and a half.0
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Almost every night my husband stays up late drinking and playing games online. Then once every few weeks I stay up and he floods me with guilt trips. Tonight he made me feel guilty for being on here and watching a show instead of coming to bed early with him. It is bs. I can go to bed without him, but if he goes to bed without me I am being a selfish wife?
Keep a log of your guys' sleep pattern, next time he brings it up, say
"You know, you had a problem with this last time, so I thought I'd do a log on a sleeping patterns for the next time you brought it up. "
and let him read it. Don't allow him to make you feel guilty, you did nothing wrong!0 -
I would tell him your a big girl and can go to bed whenever you want. If he can't fall asleep without you go and get him a nuk, it helps my twins sleep.0
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Almost every night my husband stays up late drinking and playing games online. Then once every few weeks I stay up and he floods me with guilt trips. Tonight he made me feel guilty for being on here and watching a show instead of coming to bed early with him. It is bs. I can go to bed without him, but if he goes to bed without me I am being a selfish wife?
Keep a log of your guys' sleep pattern, next time he brings it up, say
"You know, you had a problem with this last time, so I thought I'd do a log on a sleeping patterns for the next time you brought it up. "
and let him read it. Don't allow him to make you feel guilty, you did nothing wrong!
That is a good idea.0 -
Ok... I"m not trying to be the kind of poster that is trying to start trouble. It sounds suspicious. Like maybe he didn't want you staying up because you might check his computer. I wonder what would happen if you stayed up and in the room with him? Last just as long as he does?0
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We have been married a year and a half.
his tomfoolery and shenanigans would annoy the heck outta me. The fact that he can't even give you a straight answer when you ask him why its ok for him but not you is unacceptable. I learned from my divorce that communication is very important.0 -
Ok... I"m not trying to be the kind of poster that is trying to start trouble. It sounds suspicious. Like maybe he didn't want you staying up because you might check his computer. I wonder what would happen if you stayed up and in the room with him? Last just as long as he does?
interesting to see if the web browser history is cleared every late night..lol...or if he's smart he uses the incognito window.0 -
Act exactly the same to him when he's up late.0
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Oh hey, maybe he's afraid of the dark and is afraid to sleep without you. But he's too embarrassed to tell you!
I have single handedly saved your marriage. You're welcome.0 -
incognito window aka lack of browsing history for the HOURS he is awake.Ok... I"m not trying to be the kind of poster that is trying to start trouble. It sounds suspicious. Like maybe he didn't want you staying up because you might check his computer. I wonder what would happen if you stayed up and in the room with him? Last just as long as he does?
interesting to see if the web browser history is cleared every late night..lol...or if he's smart he uses the incognito window.0 -
Act exactly the same to him when he's up late.
eh, i hear what your saying but that wont really accomplish anything. I'd pretty much just tell him "STFU, you stay up late and I don't say jack to you...deal with it, hun"....but that probably wouldn't accomplish anything either.
On a related note I am a big abuser of the "...."0 -
Ok... I"m not trying to be the kind of poster that is trying to start trouble. It sounds suspicious. Like maybe he didn't want you staying up because you might check his computer. I wonder what would happen if you stayed up and in the room with him? Last just as long as he does?
I can see your point. That isn't the case though. He is legitimately a nerd. He plays online games and drinks. If it was something suspicious I wouldn't be as upset because then I would have something to understand and work with, but this is just plain stupid. haha0 -
incognito window aka lack of browsing history for the HOURS he is awake.Ok... I"m not trying to be the kind of poster that is trying to start trouble. It sounds suspicious. Like maybe he didn't want you staying up because you might check his computer. I wonder what would happen if you stayed up and in the room with him? Last just as long as he does?
interesting to see if the web browser history is cleared every late night..lol...or if he's smart he uses the incognito window.
aka "i don't want my wife finding out I look at porn" mode.0 -
Oh hey, maybe he's afraid of the dark and is afraid to sleep without you. But he's too embarrassed to tell you!
I have single handedly saved your marriage. You're welcome.
Hilarious thanks hehe 0 -
incognito window aka lack of browsing history for the HOURS he is awake.Ok... I"m not trying to be the kind of poster that is trying to start trouble. It sounds suspicious. Like maybe he didn't want you staying up because you might check his computer. I wonder what would happen if you stayed up and in the room with him? Last just as long as he does?
interesting to see if the web browser history is cleared every late night..lol...or if he's smart he uses the incognito window.
aka "i don't want my wife finding out I look at porn" mode.
I watch more porn than he does. lol0 -
Ok... I"m not trying to be the kind of poster that is trying to start trouble. It sounds suspicious. Like maybe he didn't want you staying up because you might check his computer. I wonder what would happen if you stayed up and in the room with him? Last just as long as he does?
I can see your point. That isn't the case though. He is legitimately a nerd. He plays online games and drinks. If it was something suspicious I wouldn't be as upset because then I would have something to understand and work with, but this is just plain stupid. haha
Not that I want to open a can of worms...but is it once in a while drinking or every night drinking? That right there could be a problem.0 -
incognito window aka lack of browsing history for the HOURS he is awake.Ok... I"m not trying to be the kind of poster that is trying to start trouble. It sounds suspicious. Like maybe he didn't want you staying up because you might check his computer. I wonder what would happen if you stayed up and in the room with him? Last just as long as he does?
interesting to see if the web browser history is cleared every late night..lol...or if he's smart he uses the incognito window.
aka "i don't want my wife finding out I look at porn" mode.
I watch more porn than he does. lol
and he rather stay up late playing games alone??? haha.0
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