This Guy .. Help?

ShmoozyQ

It sounds like your intuition is telling you his touch creeps you out, instead of flatters you. If you aren't up for seeing him again, you don't have to!

AJ_Pete

I've been debating putting this out as a discussion post since I wrote it in my blog earlier .. I think I need to because I'd really like to get some feedback. My blog just isn't as out there for people to see.. So here it is:



Okay, so .. There's this guy .. I met him online, which I know is still kind of sketchy but he seems really nice and fairly put together. I won't really get into that though.

Anyway, we went out to lunch yesterday. Nothing fancy, it was just Subway. He paid though, but the way that he offered to pay surprised me a little.

Now keep in mind that this was the first time we've actually hung out together - after about a week of online chatting and texting.

So we were standing in line, waiting for our subs and he puts his hand on my back and said "I can pay for yours" and possibly may have called me babe/baby .. something.. I was just so startled by his touch - I hadn't been expecting it at all.

Well, we got out food, and I did let him pay, who wouldn't right, lol. We sat down to eat and it was all good. We had a nice chat about how highschool was and a few things came up about siblings and pets - it was during my lunch hour so it wasn't anything too insightful. Overall it was good, he didn't make any awkward moves to try to touch me again so I was fine.

Now, I guess I was expecting or anticipating him to try something else. And I was right. He was driving and when he was dropping me off we said that we would have to meet up again. He grabbed my arm and started to pull me close. I was a little frazzeled but managed a "No thanks" with a giggle .. nice right.. so he let so and said okay. I got out and left.

He texted me a few minutes later saying he had a nice lunch, and I thanked him for paying. Then chatted on and off for the rest of the day. It ended on an awkward note though, we said goodnight and he ended with and "xo xo" to which I didn't respond.

This was yesterday.

Tonight we're supposed to be going out - possibly to a movie.

I'm not sure what to do here. I mean, it's weird for me too, because usually I'm the one who loves physical contact, and don't mind rushing into things. I think it has to do with a recent experience with another guy. I'm just not used to being 'just friends' and now I feel lost.

He texted me this morning - about half an hour ago. I haven't replied..

Let's, for lack of being able to use more colorful words, call him a pirate. What are pirates in constant pursuit of?

legnarevocrednu

I think if you really liked him, that stuff would not be bothering you. I've had guys do those things (and more) who I've had a lot of chemistry with and it was exciting. However, I have also had other guys do that (and more) and it just creeped me out. I think if you're uncomfortable with what little that went on, you are not that into him. I appreciate texts after dates. It lets me know they had a nice time. I also appreciate good mornings texts. I think it's sweet. Everyone is different though and if you are creeped out after the first date, there shouldn't be a second one. By the way, I do online dating too. I've been on a lot of dates...I have it down to an art. You have a right to be picky. There are plenty more where they came from! Good luck!

AmberJo1984

You talked to this guy online for a week and then got in his car alone with him???

NO! NO! NO!!!!!!

SSSOOOOOO dangerous. Don't do that again.

As for the rest, that would annoy the crap out of me and I wouldn't see him again. But that's me. I say if you're feeling weird about it, trust your gut.

^^^I think this needs to be said again. and probably a few more times!!

This is kinda how I feel... but, I have no room to talk really. Because of my past, I'm always finding myself pushing away any guy who gets close.