Personality or Looks: What do you notice first?
I engaged in an conversation with a girl on here recently about relationships. She said that she has noticed since losing weight that more of the "*kitten*" have come out and come forward. I know that guys tend to notice looks first, and women, personality... but let's be honest.. what really attracts you to someone in the beginning? Thoughts?
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personality!!!0
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Height. I'm 6ft 2 and finding a guy taller than me is like finding the Holy Grail.0
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Lets be honest...looks...then personality0
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There's got to be some basic physical attraction there before you wonder about the personality... So imma say looks! If the personality is s..hite they ultimately become unattractive anyway IMO.0
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Personality all the way. If you're a bore or way to into yourself, we're better off if we part ways.0
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It's kind of difficult to not notice looks first... since that's what you always see before you get to know someone's personality? (:0
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I'm more attracted to personality, but ... you can't SEE personality, so of course I'm going to notice looks first. Physical attraction is an immediate response. It takes time to uncover personality and compatibility.
But if someone opens his mouth and is a douche or an idiot, no amount of good looks can counter that. :noway:0 -
I cant help but notice looks first. The personality develops once u start to interact with person. At least that is my beliefs0
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Unconsciously, the same thing as everyone else - facial symmetry and waist to shoulder ratio.
After that, I notice hands.
ETA: Derp... didn't answer the question. Unless I was completely blind, I'd say it would be difficult to notice personality first, so looks.0 -
Physical appearance (can't help that)...especially height. Even at 5'2-5'3 I usually date guys over 6'0.0
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height first.... hands down
nice eyes/smile
well dressed...0 -
Personality. I tend to be quite unfair and think if they're very attractive they must be arrogant and cocky too (as a lot of people are!) so I am much more attracted to people with good personalities. Looks will fade in the end, you gotta have someone by your side that you actually want to hold a conversation with!0
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I never knew girls looked at height. Seriously. I'm pretty naive I suppose. I'm 6'4", just never knew that was looked at.0
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looks makes my head turn but personality makes me curious
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Looks is an appetitizer. Personality is the main course.0
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Looks is an appetitizer. Personality is the main course.
Very true!0 -
Obviously looks then personality...though I have to say if a hot girl walks around as if she owns the place it's a complete turn off!!0
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I absolutely have a type looks wise, dark-haired tattooed handsome musicians... but that gets ugly very quickly if someone has zero personality and can't make me laugh till my tummy hurts... I can say without doubt that within the first 10 minutes of talking to someone they can get 50% more attractive or 100% less attractive!0
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Looks is an appetitizer. Personality is the main course.
Ha, that's a good one!0 -
Of course you see someone first, you can't see their personality, unless they're wearing paper bags for shoes & a blanket as a cape ( those are my boyfriends from the subway...lol), I notice body shape if they're at a distance, face if they are close.0
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Of course you see someone first, you can't see their personality, unless they're wearing paper bags for shoes & a blanket as a cape ( those are my boyfriends from the subway...lol), I notice body shape if they're at a distance, face if they are close.
Are you 65? What is the chance of you being such a gilf....0 -
Looks is an appetitizer. Personality is the main course.
THIS!0 -
Im not going to sit here and lie and say oh personality for sure.. because how do u really know someones personality from across the room... You notice there looks.. and then as soon as their mouth opens you will know if you like there personality. Its bull **** when people say i fall for personality first.. u really dont know someones personality until you truly get to know them..
but personality does play a big part in being attracked to someone... In the end the looks are a bonus.. But i would say Looks then Personality for sure!0 -
Most people don't realize that women typically make up their mind in 10 seconds to give you 3 minutes.
That said personality and confidential flows through someone when they walk. Making her smile or laugh will buy you a few more minutes. Make them count. She's probably meeting more people because she has more confidence.
So if you're out to meet people walk tall, with confidence and a smile on your face. Slap that smiling on BEFORE you walk into a bar because believe it or not when people are in groups, at least on person has an eye on the door. Usually the alpha.
Funny how interesting it is and how it's been true with every group i've hung out with! People will typically watches year from afar also. So don't sit their with a scowl on your face and kvetch the whole time. You can assess whether someone has a good personality from far away.0 -
personality.
i like a girl with a nice set of personalities.0 -
first thing i would notice is looks...since I am looking at them...0
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Personality only comes through when you talk to someone, and since I don't like talking to most people, I'm going to notice how they look.0
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I'd say I notice height first. I LOVE tall men (hubby is 6'6" so there you go). Personality is key for me though. With a great personality you can become much cuter to me and if you're a douche, well, 100% ugly in my eyes.
Who knows though, I've been married for so long so what do I know ... LOL!
Scarlet
P.S. I'm only 5'5" so get the evil eyes from tall women for taking a tall man ... lol!0 -
Unless you are speaking on the phone or over the internet, without seing someones picture before, you will always see looks first. Unless you are blind to.
Before a person speaks, before a person does something in your front, you see how that person looks.
So a person seems charming, makes a joke from the start... that's not their personality or not all of it. It takes at least a few times to really notice someones' personality. Before that, you will get to see many times the looks, over and over again.
It's not superficial, it's logic. You first see that a person is redhead, tall, small, with blue eyes, etc., and after a while you get to see that the person is charming, smart, outgoing, etc. Sometimes it really takes months or years to know someones true personality.
Noticing something first doesn't mean that someone is superficial, just this is what you see first in a person. What it counts for a person is quite different from what that person sees first.0
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