All you obese ppl..do you do this?

sam308lbs
sam308lbs Posts: 1,936 Member
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You never add hot chicks/guys in their 20s/30s even if they are the one's to have initiated the request.
Maybe its bcuz you can picture them seeing your "before" pics and cringing.Or you think One fine day when i lose all this weight i am deffo gonna add her/him but not now!
I do this all the time but i am pretty sure once i lose the weight steadily and gradually i will gain my confidence back.Just wondering if anyone else out there does this too

I posted this on the chit chat forum for fun so plz dont make this about boosting my morale.Thanks
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  • cmriverside
    cmriverside Posts: 34,422 Member
    I'm at my goal weight and I don't add people. But not because I'm insecure. Just because I don't want any more friends....I don't spend much time in the feed, and hardly ever post any "statuses".

    It is good to have a few buddies here, but I don't see the point in having a lot of them
  • acuratlsd
    acuratlsd Posts: 228
    I look at it this way... I keep the friends that I have now and I know that they were there because they liked me for me.. They saw pass the obesity and actually found a decent person inside...

    There are lots of people who make first judgement just by looking at the person. Not even talking to the person, not even giving the other person a chance.

    But one thing that you learn about being over weight, then you drop all this weight and you start to associate with other people is that you can see right through those fake people.

    The best thing that comes out of being over weight and being that person that everyone ignores is that you have a better outlook on life.. You don't take it for granted.
  • besaro
    besaro Posts: 1,858 Member
    I tend to add people that are in similar situations because it seems more relevant to me. If a hot chick/dude wanted to be my friend it would be fine. totally fine. better than fine. :)
  • MichelleLaree13
    MichelleLaree13 Posts: 865 Member
    I try to only at women that are similar in goals or motivation as me.
  • AllTehBeers
    AllTehBeers Posts: 5,030 Member
    My list is a pretty good mix. There are some just starting out and some that are ripped to shreads. What I look for in friends is knowledge, support and a good attitude.
  • Skeebee
    Skeebee Posts: 740 Member
    Nope....don't really have that problem. Not that I didn't WANT to or didn't think about it. I was embarrassed before like facebook and other media channels to do so (I have some ex boyfriends on there that found me later). But, I figured, I got myself here in the first place so why should I hide them from the truth? If anything, it should be more of a motivating factor to get myself active and lose the weight. Let them see me as I am. If they judge, then there is no reason to have them on my list in the first place. Plus, if I end up losing, they get to share in that journey and see how strong you really are.
  • MissShancey
    MissShancey Posts: 464
    Im Obese and Sexy... i add people on here who will be supportive and motivational .. or who have advice and tips for me ... Yes i have plenty of very very sexy people on my friends list ..
  • Skeebee
    Skeebee Posts: 740 Member
    My list is a pretty good mix. There are some just starting out and some that are ripped to shreads. What I look for in friends is knowledge, support and a good attitude.

    Short and sweet and well said. :-)
  • cmcollins001
    cmcollins001 Posts: 3,472 Member
    I add just about anyone who sends a request. I'm not worried about it. You're fat. I'm fat. Pretty much most people on this site are fat or have been fat...even the "hot" ones. Also, what defines "hot"? There are plenty of fat "hot" people..just look at me. :laugh:

    I don't know about confidence, I have plenty, but it's more about if you don't like me for who I am now, then I don't want to bother with you later. Not worth MY time.
  • manderson27
    manderson27 Posts: 3,510 Member
    It all depends on the person doing the requesting, if I like their profile and they seem to have a good sense of humour I add them. Doesn't matter what weight I am at when the request comes. My friends are all ages and they are all brilliant.
  • DMarieLVT
    DMarieLVT Posts: 71 Member
    I try to add people with similar goals or stats for motivation and support. Although if a hot guy wanted to add me, I can't say as I would deny him the honor ;)
  • Gwen_B
    Gwen_B Posts: 1,018 Member
    I think there is nothing wrong with wanting a particular type of friend. I only accept women preferably closer to my age.
  • Phaedra2014
    Phaedra2014 Posts: 1,254 Member
    You never add hot chicks/guys in their 20s/30s even if they are the one's to have initiated the request.
    Maybe its bcuz you can picture them seeing your "before" pics and cringing.Or you think One fine day when i lose all this weight i am deffo gonna add her/him but not now!
    I do this all the time but i am pretty sure once i lose the weight steadily and gradually i will gain my confidence back.Just wondering if anyone else out there does this too

    I posted this on the chit chat forum for fun so plz dont make this about boosting my morale.Thanks

    That's pretty twisted :frown:
  • Defren
    Defren Posts: 216 Member
    Almost all my friends are either diabetic or paleo/primal. People's shape makes no difference to me. I started out obese, I have just reached normal BMI so have been through all the stages, and I always had people supporting me, and I support them. Size or how long you have been here makes no difference to me at all.
  • cgarand
    cgarand Posts: 541 Member
    ALL of the people on my list are HELLA sexy. It doesn't even matter what size they are. Each one of them is delectable. :smokin:
  • bulbadoof
    bulbadoof Posts: 1,058 Member
    I'll add pretty much anyone who wants to add me except woman collectors.
  • allifantastical
    allifantastical Posts: 946 Member
    I tend to add people that are in similar situations because it seems more relevant to me. If a hot chick/dude wanted to be my friend it would be fine. totally fine. better than fine. :)

    Ditto to this! :bigsmile:
  • AllTehBeers
    AllTehBeers Posts: 5,030 Member
    ALL of the people on my list are HELLA sexy. It doesn't even matter what size they are. Each one of them is delectable. :smokin:

    I like this.
  • jerbear1962
    jerbear1962 Posts: 1,157 Member
    I'm here to lose weight, I add anyone that wants to help motivate me or needs my motivation. I'm hoping to counsel people in the future. I know what it's like and want to help. Maybe one of these fantastic looking people have been there and can offer assistance. Or maybe they just want to help.
  • crystalbluewolf13
    crystalbluewolf13 Posts: 197 Member
    i dont care what someone looks like as long as we help each other who cares
  • bluefox9er
    bluefox9er Posts: 2,917 Member
    i dont care what someone looks like as long as we help each other who cares


    ^^ this^^
  • magj0y
    magj0y Posts: 1,911 Member
    I tend to add people that are in similar situations because it seems more relevant to me. If a hot chick/dude wanted to be my friend it would be fine. totally fine. better than fine. :)

    ^^
    this, and people I post with regularly. The whole turning 40 and wanting to get my @ss in gear!
  • hughtwalker
    hughtwalker Posts: 2,213 Member
    I am delighted to accept Friend-requests BUT

    1. I am 63 years old
    2. male
    and
    3. married - I imagine that a friend request from me would just look too, too weird.

    I sometimes respond to requests for advice and sometimes get into a dialogue - briefly
  • Candi_land
    Candi_land Posts: 1,311 Member
    I add just about anyone who sends a request. I'm not worried about it. You're fat. I'm fat. Pretty much most people on this site are fat or have been fat...even the "hot" ones. Also, what defines "hot"? There are plenty of fat "hot" people..just look at me. :laugh:

    I don't know about confidence, I have plenty, but it's more about if you don't like me for who I am now, then I don't want to bother with you later. Not worth MY time.

    ^^ LOL this 100 percent! I'm doing this for me, I've made great progress but I still have a super long way to go. Luckily all of the people on my friends list are awesome and supportive and most have been with me on my journey since day one. If you support me, I support you. Size and body type mean nothing to me. It's all about the person. I'm friendly and positive and if someone doesn't like me because of my weight well honestly they can suck a big one. Their loss, cuz I'm pretty awesome. Just sayin :wink:
  • sam308lbs
    sam308lbs Posts: 1,936 Member
    wow this puts things in a perspective..so its just me then uh oh!
  • lachesissss
    lachesissss Posts: 1,298 Member
    Honestly, it doesn't bother me. I wore my weight on the outside for 25 years. I don't care if people on the internet see it.
  • NdianJourney
    NdianJourney Posts: 17
    I don't think its just you. I am sure that a lot of people here on MFP have some type of negative feelings about themselves or how people perceive them. We all here have issues with our weight. That is how we all became members. I know that I have ran across certain people's profile that I considered added but chose not to. I don't remember who said it but I read that she added people who basically she felt could relate to her better but if anyone else felt like added her, That would be great. I agree with that. I am not looking for a specific type of friend just someone who can relate to what I am going through. Someone who doesn't pass judgement, and brings to the table as much as I do which is support, motivation, and understanding.

    Best Wishes,
    Gina
  • sam308lbs
    sam308lbs Posts: 1,936 Member
    I don't think its just you. I am sure that a lot of people here on MFP have some type of negative feelings about themselves or how people perceive them. We all here have issues with our weight. That is how we all became members. I know that I have ran across certain people's profile that I considered added but chose not to. I don't remember who said it but I read that she added people who basically she felt could relate to her better but if anyone else felt like added her, That would be great. I agree with that. I am not looking for a specific type of friend just someone who can relate to what I am going through. Someone who doesn't pass judgement, and brings to the table as much as I do which is support, motivation, and understanding.

    Best Wishes,
    Gina
    this was very comforting..thank you!:flowerforyou:
  • jeleclekat
    jeleclekat Posts: 124 Member
    Nah - I'm 61, female, and married but yet will send requests to men. (hehe - hubby knows, too) If they're about my age, similiar goals and/or sound very supportive and motivating to others, I'll send a request. Most friends I have found through the forums and reading their posts. Sometimes I think it's good having support from members of the opposite sex..:)
  • littlelaura
    littlelaura Posts: 1,028 Member
    I have over 100 lbs to lose, I qualify as obese, and I have smokin' hot male and female friends on my friends list , some are at their goal and working at keeping it there, others are still working on getting to their goals. I find it very motivating to see someones end result, its proof that it can happen, not just some image on a fitness informercial and I am happy for them, and excited for me that I can do the same thing too!

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