Would you stay in a relationship if?

kelsey054
kelsey054 Posts: 110 Member
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You had a bad sex life? If so, what would be the deal breaker in your relationship?


I had to add, this isn't about me and my husband; it's steaming off a debate on Facebook. I was just curious on others responses.
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  • AddieOverhaul
    AddieOverhaul Posts: 734 Member
    No, I couldn't. Sex is too important. If I really liked the guy I would put in some effort to trying to get it to improve, showing him what to do etc, but if the sex is no good, I wouldn't be able to stay in it for long. It's such a huge part of a relationship and if you aren't satisfied you'll lose interest eventually, start noticing other men etc. Well, for me anyway...
  • Dub_D
    Dub_D Posts: 1,760 Member
    Just break up.
  • kelsey054
    kelsey054 Posts: 110 Member
    I'm the same way. I love sex, just don't get it enough.
  • jplord
    jplord Posts: 510 Member
    Ask your self and your partner what you want from the relationship. Over time, sex changes. If you are in a relationship for great sex, the relationship may not last. If you support each other's goals and dreams, if you sync over recreational pursuits, if you share values and spiritual principles, then there is a good chance the relationship will last through a shakey period of crumby sex.
  • LizHowerton
    LizHowerton Posts: 329 Member
    Is he trainable?
  • Cliffslosinit
    Cliffslosinit Posts: 5,044 Member
    Is he trainable?

    ^^THIS! You are only 19 get to work on it!!:flowerforyou:
  • kelsey054
    kelsey054 Posts: 110 Member
    Just break up.

    It's not really about me. It's steaming off a debate on Facebook. lol. Just asking to see what others think lol.
  • infamousmk
    infamousmk Posts: 6,033 Member
    Of course I'd stay... The only way to get better at sex is to practice, and I like practicing.
  • Steve_Runs
    Steve_Runs Posts: 443 Member
    Is he trainable?
    now this is a good woman! lol
  • kelsey054
    kelsey054 Posts: 110 Member
    Of course I'd stay... The only way to get better at sex is to practice, and I like practicing.

    Let's say he isn't interested in sex. You all haven't had sex in about a year. What then?
  • pickledginger
    pickledginger Posts: 172
    Is he trainable?

    This! A lot of what constitutes good sex can be taught, partner willing. The process can be educational and adventurous and great fun for all concerned.

    (Partner *not* willing, sex may be the least of your priblems.)
  • kelsey054
    kelsey054 Posts: 110 Member
    Ask your self and your partner what you want from the relationship. Over time, sex changes. If you are in a relationship for great sex, the relationship may not last. If you support each other's goals and dreams, if you sync over recreational pursuits, if you share values and spiritual principles, then there is a good chance the relationship will last through a shakey period of crumby sex.

    I love your answer! Very wise. :)
  • Mistyblu08
    Mistyblu08 Posts: 580 Member
    sex isnt everything in a relationship....its nice...bonding etc but not all....a good relationship should be based on respect, love and the ability to communicate with other honestly....best friend kind of situation....unless its more about the other person getting it from somewhere else...whether its another woman/man or porn sites etc..... then ya it would be done!
  • kelsey054
    kelsey054 Posts: 110 Member
    Is he trainable?

    This! A lot of what constitutes good sex can be taught, partner willing. The process can be educational and adventurous and great fun for all concerned.

    (Partner *not* willing, sex may be the least of your priblems.)

    If he/she isn't willing, how do you get him/her to be interested?
  • elprincipito
    elprincipito Posts: 1,200 Member
    You had a bad sex life? If so, what would be the deal breaker in your relationship?


    I had to add, this isn't about me and my husband; it's steaming off a debate on Facebook. I was just curious on others responses.
    but i don't see how that can't be improved....unless she wasn't around much ever then yea noooo.
  • Troll
    Troll Posts: 922 Member
    Of course I'd stay... The only way to get better at sex is to practice, and I like practicing.

    Let's say he isn't interested in sex. You all haven't had sex in about a year. What then?

    i would assume something was wrong with him.

    im imagining this as my fiance....i would not leave him over this. i luff him.
  • Mistyblu08
    Mistyblu08 Posts: 580 Member
    Ask your self and your partner what you want from the relationship. Over time, sex changes. If you are in a relationship for great sex, the relationship may not last. If you support each other's goals and dreams, if you sync over recreational pursuits, if you share values and spiritual principles, then there is a good chance the relationship will last through a shakey period of crumby sex.

    great answer!
  • pickledginger
    pickledginger Posts: 172
    Of course I'd stay... The only way to get better at sex is to practice, and I like practicing.

    Let's say he isn't interested in sex. You all haven't had sex in about a year. What then?

    A year? Get him to a doctor. Otherwise ... Long-term, if all he wants to be is buddies? Get him to a new apartment or at least a separate bedroom. Or at a minimum, set up a standing account at Good Vibrations.
  • magj0y
    magj0y Posts: 1,911 Member
    You had a bad sex life? If so, what would be the deal breaker in your relationship?

    In a year ? therapy and a physical. if he's just seriously not interested and not interested in fixing this, I couldn't continue
  • LizHowerton
    LizHowerton Posts: 329 Member
    Is he trainable?

    This! A lot of what constitutes good sex can be taught, partner willing. The process can be educational and adventurous and great fun for all concerned.

    (Partner *not* willing, sex may be the least of your priblems.)

    If he/she isn't willing, how do you get him/her to be interested?

    I've never met a heterosexual healthy man that isn't interested in sex. Ever.

    See a doctor, maybe somethings wrong with him.
  • kelsey054
    kelsey054 Posts: 110 Member
    Of course I'd stay... The only way to get better at sex is to practice, and I like practicing.

    Let's say he isn't interested in sex. You all haven't had sex in about a year. What then?

    i would assume something was wrong with him.

    im imagining this as my fiance....i would not leave him over this. i luff him.

    I took it as my husband also. I love him for who he is, and all he does for our family but over time I would question.
  • _SpeshK_
    _SpeshK_ Posts: 496 Member
    Is he trainable?

    This! A lot of what constitutes good sex can be taught, partner willing. The process can be educational and adventurous and great fun for all concerned.

    (Partner *not* willing, sex may be the least of your priblems.)

    If he/she isn't willing, how do you get him/her to be interested?

    I've never met a heterosexual healthy man that isn't interested in sex. Ever.

    See a doctor, maybe somethings wrong with him.

    I'm sorry, do you have to be a heterosexual man to be interested in sex?
  • kelsey054
    kelsey054 Posts: 110 Member
    Is he trainable?

    This! A lot of what constitutes good sex can be taught, partner willing. The process can be educational and adventurous and great fun for all concerned.

    (Partner *not* willing, sex may be the least of your priblems.)

    If he/she isn't willing, how do you get him/her to be interested?

    I've never met a heterosexual healthy man that isn't interested in sex. Ever.

    See a doctor, maybe somethings wrong with him.

    Hmm, something in the closet? :O lol.
  • LizHowerton
    LizHowerton Posts: 329 Member
    I would assume either he was sick or he was getting it somewhere else.
  • MrDelts
    MrDelts Posts: 209 Member
    Sex is important on so many levels.. No sex = deal breaker.
  • Contrarian
    Contrarian Posts: 8,138 Member
    It depends. If the sex is bad but he is enthusiastic, there is hope. If he just has a low sex-drive, then it probably won't improve.
  • Crochetluvr
    Crochetluvr Posts: 3,284 Member
    I don't think so. I am spoiled by my b/f. :)
  • oregonzoo
    oregonzoo Posts: 4,251 Member
    Depends on the reason why it was bad, and if they cared to improve it.
  • DaughterOfTheMostHighKing
    DaughterOfTheMostHighKing Posts: 1,436 Member
    when you are married, its for life. if you're not married, you shouldn't be having sex.
  • infamousmk
    infamousmk Posts: 6,033 Member
    Of course I'd stay... The only way to get better at sex is to practice, and I like practicing.

    Let's say he isn't interested in sex. You all haven't had sex in about a year. What then?


    Check his text messages.

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