"body dysmorphia"?

kdeaux1959

Bullying has such negative impacts on peoples' lives. Yes, if this profile pic is current, you have done a great job. If you want to do anything a this point, I would think it would be to lift heavy and forget the scales for a while... Eat plenty of protein and tone up what you have. Above all, it does take an adjustment in your thinking to begin to see yourself as who you now are, rather than who you were... If these thoughts begin to become pervasive and cause some level of limitation in your life, you may want to seek counseling to overcome them; however, if they are not limiting to you then continue to work out and create the you that you will feel most comfortable with. The hardest person to forgive is yourself- this is because you can never get away from yourself... you are always there... you remember what was and the pain of hearing those cruel voices in your head from your past are hard to overcome.... But you have done a wonderful job and I encourage you to continue to do what has gotten these results for you, continue to tone up and begin to see yourself as you are rather than who you were.. and more importantly who OTHERS thought you were (whether you were or not)... Best wishes on a life free from your past.

Verity1111

I deal with the same exact thing. I'm 5"8' 132. I still see myself at 200. People don't always understand. They think you look great, and you should think you do too. So why don't you? It's HARD not to still see that person. I still do some days. You just have to continue to fight it.
Fight it everyday.

girls are crazy, your beautiful and absolutely ridiculously crazy for thinking otherwise!

Girls are crazy lol, guys can have body dysmorphia too. It just tends to be in the "I'm too skinny/not buff enough" realm. And I gotta say, there is a reason that girls may be more insecure about their bodies. Girls get a lot more pressure to be pretty/sexy/fit than guys from society as a whole

True and not true. My husband was once 300lbs and he feels like he is huge now. I know he can't stand the idea of being big and actually cried and told me to never let him get that way again because he was ridiculed his entire life. We had him down to about 175 at one point (he is only 5'7") and he looked very thin because he has a large frame/curves. Well, he still felt like he was large. Now he is about 190/200, just a little over weight, but he feels disgusting and self conscious now too. I used to feel that way, but when I gained weight I missed what I had, looked back and pictures and realized how distorted our minds can be sometimes. This time, as I have started to lose weight I appreciated the difference and healthy improvements I saw.

paprikas

I can relate to so much of this thread. Even though I have lost 30 lb and have totally changed my body shape, I somehow keep telling myself that "I was skinny until yesterday, but today I messed it up". My mind has not caught up with my body. I am so scared of sabotaging myself and living up to my fat expectations. I have been subconsciously messing up lately and am worried that I will regain the weight. I cannot let this happen.

My strategy to take control:

I will have to take this day by day and focus on staying at my goal calories on a daily basis.
I will go shopping and will try on all the small sizes that my mind tells me will never fit!!!
I will take some time to relax and visualize myself as a thin person who deserves to be thin
I will be kind to myself and allow my mind to catch up...

any other advice would be very welcome.

gypy

No matter the Weight I put on, having to buy new clothes. I can never see my gains in the mirror. I'm sure it's not healthy.. lol