the fake 'I'm so fat' comments

AmberJo1984

I always say, 'if you think you're so fat, then what must you think of me?' Normally shuts them up,

Good one!

I agree. I really like this response.

nphect

i just stare at their butt.

chivalryder

I always say, 'if you think you're so fat, then what must you think of me?' Normally shuts them up,

Good one!

I agree. I really like this response.

If someone said that to me, and they were bigger than me, I'd probably call them a fat load, or a cow, or some other very large animal or object. Something offensive, at the very least.

Culley34

I had someone tell me they were going to lock me in a room and feed me until I gained enough weight to come out.

I was like... "Hmmm... not exactly what I was going for..."

As some one who was told at 43 pounds heavier "You look fine" while I felt like crap, I can tell you the weight hurt on me. If I annoyed anyone with my complaining about my weight or "fat", I apologize.

However, I wish some one had said, you are welcome to come walk with me at lunch or have you tried the gym in our building... anything that would have been a tiny step to feeling better...

It doesn't annoy me when someone fishes for compliments (heck we all need a hug now and then) , but your post reminds me to not to make my weight everyone else's issue..

This! People have been telling me that I don't need to lose anymore weight about 30 pounds ago. I think its funny when I'm told how great I look... but I looked good before and didn't NEED to lose weight. I don't think 50 pounds is vanity weight.

Currently I feel great and am finally comfortable enough in my own skin to start showing this new shape I've worked so hard for even though I'm still not where I want to be. I don't think I complain about the weight I still have to lose and only fish for compliments from people I haven't seen in months and haven't mentioned my weight loss. I think I have another 10-15 pounds to lose to be at my goal which I'm willing to put the time and effort into. Please don't tell me I don't need to lose weight. I'd rather hear "the last 10-15 pounds are the hardest to lose".

enigmachik

I know a lot of people like that. Yes, very annoying. I work with people young enough to be my biological children. They constantly say, OH I am sooo old! Here I am creaking and cracklin when I walk, Finding grey in my hair and have a niece and nephew older than them! Plus the same kiddos talk about how chubbo they are. PHFTT. I have 50 more lbs to lose. Thats half their body weight! Who are they kidding!

To be fair, when I was younger, I truly did feel old. It was difficult to mentally wrap my mind around the fact that I was leaving childhood behind. As a result, I'm sure I uttered the "I'm so old" comment in front of people older than me on a few occasions.

TR0berts

How about repying, "It does seem like you've gained a bit of weigh recently..." :laugh:

So much win.

SoDamnHungry

I agree to some extent, because compliment fishing is annoying.

Still, when I gained ten pounds and was still a normal, healthy weight, I felt fat and felt like I couldn't say anything about how I felt in front of my friends because they were heavier.

ShreddedTweet

I agree to some extent, because compliment fishing is annoying.

Still, when I gained ten pounds and was still a normal, healthy weight, I felt fat and felt like I couldn't say anything about how I felt in front of my friends because they were heavier.

This! It's all relative, I've never been 'overweight' in my life but I've had days where I 'feel' fat or bloated...And I might have been fat for me, as in fatter than I would normally be. Two of my best friends are properly overweight and I'd hate if I couldn't say to them, 'Uh, I feel fat' occasionally without them taking it personally, we've been friends since we were 12... Thin people can have 'fat days' too!

lisamarie2181

I always say, 'if you think you're so fat, then what must you think of me?' Normally shuts them up,

This actually makes a lot of sense... If you are a thin person and you are having a day you feel fat, I don't think saying those things to someone is a lot heavier than you is having any consideration for their feelings either. There are a lot of heavier girls that are confident in themselves, but there are a lot that are not and also have image and body issues as well and by someone making those comments to them may just make them feel even worse about themselves. And when someone has about 50+ lbs on you and then you sit there complaining to them that you are fat, who wouldn't wonder well gee you think your fat, then you must think I am a cow!

Some girls that are overweight do take the "fat" word as a hurtful word, and I am sure the majority of them would trade places any day with the person that is thinner. It is understandable why people would get annoyed by that.

WendyTerry420

What counts as fat? I have gained about 25 pounds or so in the last few years. My BF is high for my (normal) weight. However, if someone were to look at me they would say I was small. As a matter of fact most people do. Nonetheless, I have gotten "fatter" than what I used to be.

It drives me batty how so many women on here transfer another person's feelings to themselves. My feelings about myself don't always reflect what I think of others. A lot of cattyness in this thread. Moving along...

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ash8184

YES! I totally agree. As someone who has been overweight her whole life (and has to work HARD to even be pudgy), this is SO irritating. It's like someone who makes a perfect score on an exam saying, "OMG I'm sooooo dumb" and everyone in the class knows they're the one who ruined the curve. I get that every woman has one of those days, but it's the people who consistently say it that are really the problem.

secretlobster

No, I don't get annoyed with them, because I recognize the difference between "I feel fat" and "I am fat". A person is entitled to feel fat whether you think they are or not. I feel badly for a thin person who feels fat. I've been there and it's horrible.

If you really believe they're fishing for attention, and don't seriously have a problem, then treat them like garbage and say things to shut them up. I'm sure you'll make a big difference.

Dawnymaries

While some of them have serious issues and may actually believe they are fat, most of them probably don't. I've seen girls and women say this, get the response of "No, you're perfect!" to which the 'insecure' girl would reply with something like "Yeah, I guess I am". It's all about them wanting someone to tell them they're attractive. Just want attention.

LuckyMe381

people do not see themselves as you do....you may think they are skinny or not overweight.but when they look in the mirror all they see is fat....you are your worst critic and most people look at the bad instead of the good when it comes to themselves....

abbylg1983

Well...on the one hand, yes, they are shamelessly fishing for compliments. On the other hand, someone who looks awesome and knows it probably doesn't *need* to fish for compliments, so there is something psychological going on there. Or maybe they aren't self conscious about how they look, but they have low self esteem in every other aspect of their lives and need to hear how awesome they look (even though they know it) constantly.

I am usually the one guilty of making 'I'm fat' comments (although only to my husband and people I am very close to). I know I am not fat, but I am also not as thin as I'd like to be. Looking in the mirror and seeing fat dimples on my butt, or seeing my muffin top hanging over my pants when they ride down, can ruin my good mood- no matter that I normally wear a size 2.

StarIsMoving

Does anyone else get annoyed with thin women who talk about how fat they are all the time? I am not talking about the insecure type who feel they are fat and have body issues. I am referring to women who know they have an amazing figure, like to show it off and are very aware that they look good. I know someone like this and it really annoys me when she will come up with a random 'Oh I'm so fat' when she knows there is a group of people (mostly bigger people) around and someone will say 'Noooo! you have an amazing figure' or 'Don't be ridiculous you are stunning'. I wouldn't mind if I thought it was genuine but it is so obvious that she is just after compliments. I know there are a lot of people with genuine body issues but I know this person isn't one of them.

Yes it is quite annoying, but if it's someone that is "just after compliments" then it sounds like she would fall in the category of "the insecure type". Maybe she's not insecure about her body, but she has other insecurities that mean she can only feel good about herself if she's getting regular compliments on her body.

I've always found it strange that people's behaviour is so easily dismissed as "attention seeking"; don't you ever wonder why they need to seek attention so desperately? Not saying that this woman doesn't sound extremely annoying, but it's something to think about.

^^ This. Makes me wonder

TanzaMarie

People seem to think that I am a good person to complain about being fat to. I understand that it's all relative so I generally try my best to be understanding...unless you are a size 0. I have three of these in my life who complain about their weight....no...you wear a non size...you're fine.

rubixcyoob

If they are genuinely insecure then so be it. It doesn't matter how big or small someone is, or appears to be, to you - if they are insecure, they are insecure and nothing can be done about that. I'm a member of a wedding forum and said I'm a UK 10-12 atm and want to get to an 8-10 and more toned. Some woman told me I was perfect the way I was and I did feel happy she said so (I wasn't looking for compliments), but all my life I've had an eating issue/body issues, which means that no matter how other people view me I can't see it - ever.

However, there is a girl in my class. She's a stripper, she goes out wearing nothing and randomly flashes guys her boobs and body because she thinks it's 'hot'. Then claims she's 'fat' and blah de blah. Those two don't go hand in hand, and I just want to kick her in the face and tell her to stop acting and fishing for compliments.

pastryari

I agree to some extent, because compliment fishing is annoying.

Still, when I gained ten pounds and was still a normal, healthy weight, I felt fat and felt like I couldn't say anything about how I felt in front of my friends because they were heavier.

This! It's all relative, I've never been 'overweight' in my life but I've had days where I 'feel' fat or bloated...And I might have been fat for me, as in fatter than I would normally be. Two of my best friends are properly overweight and I'd hate if I couldn't say to them, 'Uh, I feel fat' occasionally without them taking it personally, we've been friends since we were 12... Thin people can have 'fat days' too!

I agree with both posters. Fishing for compliment people can be irritating but it's all relative on what a person views as "fat". I thought of myself as having gotten fat because I gained weight and was at a weight I didn't feel comfortable at. I felt fat but I was still in the "healthy weight category" and not classified as "overweight." I still have "fat" days but the fear of inadvertently making an actual overweight person feel bad apparently means I have to keep my mouth shut?

FrenchMob

Reply: "Yeah, I think you should do something about that."

Kayeb90

reminds me of a few ppl I know. My best friend I love her to death and she went up to about 200 or so having a baby she's 5'1 looks great now at about 140 but constantly talks about being fat and needing to lose another 20 or more and when she acts like that of course I say you look fine but it also hurts my feelings because Im 340 at last weigh in before getting on track and when I get annoyed by it and frustrated I just say " don't tell me about being fat look at me this is fat if you think you look so awful Id hate to know what you think of me." she does have some image issues but sometimes she is just fishing for a compliment may even have an eating disorder one thing I know for sure is been boney isnt healthy or attractive and no one should strive to be a skeleton with skin and these smaller ppl should be more considerate when speaking to someone much heavier about how "fat" they are

secretlobster

Have a who's fatter? contest with them, the loser has to eat an entire pizza

avsingleton

awww....don't feel annoyed. i'm considered small by the ppl i'm around and sometimes i feel sooo fat. it's a personal thing and shouldn't be taken personally by others. :noway:

btw...part of the reason why i'm still small and the ppl around my are overweight is bc i am so conscious of my weight and don't allow it to get out of control...think about it. u don't have to let a situation get out of control to take control.

AmberJo1984

The world has such a twisted view of what "true beauty" is. Too many people fall into the trap of those lies. Young men and young ladies. Unfortunately, there are many who will say this because they won't attention... even more unfortunate, though, are the ones who actually believe it.

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BeingAwesome247

Unfortunately, I'm one of those ppl no matter the actual size of the person, my response is the same

"If you feel that way then do something about it....go work out"

Personally I love when I'm at the bar with a group of female friends and at some point of the night there is always one that'll make the "UGH....wish I wasn't so fat"
Me: well that beer certainly isn't going to help :laugh: and what's wishing gonna do ya if you don't do anything about it. Don't like how you look, then change it. Until then, lets go back out there and have fun, k?

lasmit4477

Simple-just don't say anything back or give attention to it when it is done in that nature!!!

Louisianababy93

my cousin is like that!
i invite her to join me on my workouts.
then i told her that we're gunna be lifting weights and
alternating cardio dvd's that are about an hour long
and suddenly,she was like uhh! umm, i dont think i can do that.

slkehl

I always say, 'if you think you're so fat, then what must you think of me?' Normally shuts them up,

I do that! Love it.

jfrankic

It's probably not fake. Just because they are thinner than you does not mean they don't legitimately have low self esteem.

^^ This. Body image issues don't go away with the pounds. I will wear a curve hugging shirt because it fits nicely, but I still see the fat girl in the mirror. I've lost 57 pounds and rarely see it. I'll hold up a pair of pants and think "these look tiny, they will never go above my knees" and they fit perfectly. They might look awesome to someone else, but I'm still insecure about it.

ETA: I never say "I'm so fat." I'm not THAT girl. My issues are my own. I *know* I'm not fat any more, it's my own head issues I'm battling with.

Charmed285

:embarassed: Guilty on all accounts, but I'm not looking for sympthy or any of that is how I actually feel and I don't go around staying these things for attention. I do feel feel like I'm getting old because I feel as if I'm soon to be out of my twentys and far from my teen years. it's a scary thoughts growing older.

I know a lot of people like that. Yes, very annoying. I work with people young enough to be my biological children. They constantly say, OH I am sooo old! Here I am creaking and cracklin when I walk, Finding grey in my hair and have a niece and nephew older than them! Plus the same kiddos talk about how chubbo they are. PHFTT. I have 50 more lbs to lose. Thats half their body weight! Who are they kidding!