Those of you with a significant other?

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  • EnchantedEvening
    EnchantedEvening Posts: 671 Member
    Not to go off topic here - but I am bit concerned over some of the people who have said things like "he never gains weight, so it's ok." Being healthy is not just about weight - it is about what you are putting into your body. Even if someone doesn't gain weight, eating sugar and other not so healthy things, too much of the time, will still have adverse health effects if done so for long periods of time.

    I have loads of guy friends who eat lots of junk and fast food, and they say "well I never gain weight, so it's fine." No it's not! The old adage here proves true: "garbage in, garbage out".

    Baking cookies for someone doesn't mean they're going to eat the entire dozen in one sitting, though. When I bake cookies or a cake, my boyfriend has a couple cookies after dinner. He eats it like any other treat - in moderation. If he had a binging disorder, I wouldn't bake anything.

    That said, he's 38 years old and can make his own decisions. Even if I didn't bake anything, he could always stop at Dairy Queen on the way home from work. It's not like I'm enabling or encouraging bad behavior. I'd rather have him eat a couple homemade cookies every day than some crap from Dunkin Donuts.
  • MostlyWater
    MostlyWater Posts: 4,294 Member
    make stuff that only he likes, so it won't tempt you.
  • fallenoaks
    fallenoaks Posts: 19
    Perhaps you could turn your love of baking into some volunteer work. For example, the hospice in my city occassionally looks for volunteers to bake treats to have on hand for the families and visitors of the patients. Also, a church in my neighborhood hosts an annual holiday cookie walk and donates the proceeds to charity. They're always looking for people to make a few dozen cookies to donate.
  • vtmoon
    vtmoon Posts: 3,436 Member
    Not to go off topic here - but I am bit concerned over some of the people who have said things like "he never gains weight, so it's ok." Being healthy is not just about weight - it is about what you are putting into your body. Even if someone doesn't gain weight, eating sugar and other not so healthy things, too much of the time, will still have adverse health effects if done so for long periods of time.

    I have loads of guy friends who eat lots of junk and fast food, and they say "well I never gain weight, so it's fine." No it's not! The old adage here proves true: "garbage in, garbage out".

    Baking cookies for someone doesn't mean they're going to eat the entire dozen in one sitting, though. When I bake cookies or a cake, my boyfriend has a couple cookies after dinner. He eats it like any other treat - in moderation. If he had a binging disorder, I wouldn't bake anything.

    That said, he's 38 years old and can make his own decisions. Even if I didn't bake anything, he could always stop at Dairy Queen on the way home from work. It's not like I'm enabling or encouraging bad behavior. I'd rather have him eat a couple homemade cookies every day than some crap from Dunkin Donuts.

    Convince is the biggest thing, we will eat it if it's around Dunkin Donuts requires driving there. I know I struggled with grazing mainly cause goodies were readily available. Again he is a grown man but a supportive environment with less temptation helps a lot.
  • belladonna786
    belladonna786 Posts: 1,165 Member
    LOL no. I bake lots of yummy things, but they are all healthy so we can enjoy them together.
  • lizbutt70
    lizbutt70 Posts: 7
    I do too, but my hubband is underweight, so I'm always slipping protein and sugar into his foods.
  • Espressocycle
    Espressocycle Posts: 2,245 Member
    I'd like my lady to gain 10 lbs, so I guess i should be doing this.
  • BSchoberg
    BSchoberg Posts: 712 Member
    I will admit to cooking really delish meals for my husband because it makes him happy.

    He loves curries, roasts, steaks, etc etc etc...You know, all those things we "shouldn't" have.

    Like you I don't do it to make him fat, or sabotage any diets I just want him to be happy and not be "stuck" eating all the diet foods that he really doesn't like but I need to be eating right now.

    Oh goodness.... I eat all of those delicious meals! If those are "bad" for me, then I eat horribly! I don't eat "diet" foods and I don't think anyone should if this is intended to be a lifestyle. Steak and curry and roasts are not bad for you!

    THANK you... take my protein at the risk of your own hand! lol
  • dswolverine
    dswolverine Posts: 246 Member
    I do that all the time, but my fiance is skinny as a stick and never gains any weight anyway.

    this! he's so skinny he eats whatever he wants
  • paul7799
    paul7799 Posts: 98 Member
    Anyone who wants to make me food is welcome to.
  • _AllieCat_
    _AllieCat_ Posts: 515 Member
    So I know I do this, and I'm starting to think it's kind of cruel, but does anyone else do the following?:

    I watch what I eat. I make sure I don't put a lot of things into my body that I shouldn't. That being said, I love baking. I love sweet things. I love my boyfriend.
    I have this outrageously bad habit of baking things or buying delicious dessert things JUST TO GIVE THEM TO MY BOYFRIEND. I understand it's still a form of showing love, but I think I do it because I know that I PERSONALLY can't eat it.

    Does anyone else make/bake things with the intention of not eating any of it and just giving it to your significant other?
    LOL I don't want him to become fat, but I don't want to eat those things.
    Sometimes even when someone gives me a dessert to take home, I give it to him because I know I don't want it. hahaha

    I do the exact same thing. If someone gives me food I shouldn't be eating, I always pass it on to my guy. Same as you, I don't want to harm him in any way, but since I rarely buy bad for us foods to keep around I feel almost guilty.

    I mean -- I turned him on to drinking flax milk! How coo-coo is that!? What guy unless totally into health would drink that on his own? He does rave about it.

    For us it's more of a compromise thing. I like healthy foods. He doesn't. I try to strike a relationship-healthy balance in our home.
  • thektturner
    thektturner Posts: 228 Member
    If I did that, I'd be a terrible person. My boyfriend is diabetic. It's hard though, because I want to. I like to bake and he likes to eat sweets. It has made me stay away from them much more than I would through willpower alone. The fact that I know if sweets are in the house, he will eat them. I'd feel like I was killing him slowly.

    That being said, if he weren't diabetic and he was at a weight he was comfortable with, I'd probably make him a pie once a week at least!
  • sicilysclover
    sicilysclover Posts: 173 Member
    So I know I do this, and I'm starting to think it's kind of cruel, but does anyone else do the following?:

    I watch what I eat. I make sure I don't put a lot of things into my body that I shouldn't. That being said, I love baking. I love sweet things. I love my boyfriend.
    I have this outrageously bad habit of baking things or buying delicious dessert things JUST TO GIVE THEM TO MY BOYFRIEND. I understand it's still a form of showing love, but I think I do it because I know that I PERSONALLY can't eat it.

    Does anyone else make/bake things with the intention of not eating any of it and just giving it to your significant other?
    LOL I don't want him to become fat, but I don't want to eat those things.
    Sometimes even when someone gives me a dessert to take home, I give it to him because I know I don't want it. hahaha

    I do this all the time. He isn't on a diet so I like baking for him and buying him things I know he likes.
  • Crochetluvr
    Crochetluvr Posts: 3,281 Member
    Does anyone else make/bake things with the intention of not eating any of it and just giving it to your significant other?

    Yes....but I play it safe and make him things he loves that I don't like. :wink:
  • barb1241
    barb1241 Posts: 324 Member
    I do buy my hubs an occasional treat because it is something I know he'll like. I bake for holidays because it's what I do. I give a lot away to other people too. And he eats junk at work as well because there is always someone there with food to share. Cakes, pies, sweet breads, etc.

    He does a lot of physical activity at work, plus he walks with me every day, and he is pretty slim, maybe could lose 10 pounds but he'd be pretty skinny then.

    What I do especially well is to cook all of those foods we love so well but think we can't have...and make them skinnier. I use a lot of aromatic spices and herbs and lower fat versions of stuff, so it still tastes decadent, but has a lot less calories. All my friends know I am try to lose tonnage but they are still happy to come eat dinner at my house when I've cooked because I don't make or eat anything that tastes like cardboard.

    I guess I show hubs and myself both that I love us by cooking great food that is also healthy and also by having a treat sometimes even if it's just crap and garbage.

    Did that answer your question? Yes, sort of but not always exactly with the nutritionally-challenged food.

    Barb
  • mgmlap
    mgmlap Posts: 1,377 Member
    the key is moderation. i have 2 teenagers and i make stuff for them..as well as for my husband. i figure homemade hot wings is better than storebought.

    I do teach my children about healthy eating and moderation...its teaching them early on..and as far as hubby..he doesnt care what he eats..as long as its good..

    with christmas coming up..I will bake all sorts of goodies..and yes we eat them..cause life happens..!
  • Ely82010
    Ely82010 Posts: 1,998 Member
    I don't like baking, so I don't. People knows that so they never ask me to bake anything for them.

    I show my love to my husband by cooking healthy meals, because if I don't watch what he eats, he will seldom do it on his own. He does have sweet tooth!
  • Jennloella
    Jennloella Posts: 2,286 Member
    I bake things weekly because I love it, I have one or two then send them to work with my husband, so not for him solely. Or I give them to my sister and her family.
  • joeysox
    joeysox Posts: 195 Member
    i eat the same as my partner but i weigh all my stuff. i dont do 'diet' food i just modify recipes and still eat yummy stuff but i never go over 1400cals x
  • mellabyte
    mellabyte Posts: 193 Member
    Hahaha. I feel you. Since I started cooking more to keep from eating out and eating junk... I have discovered that I LOVE cooking and apparently have a special talent for baking, candy and treats... >_<

    But. I've discovered that I can indulge in moderation and it's okay...and since I know exactly what's going in everything - it's not as terrible as going out to the cheesecake factory.

    However, I do end up taking requests from my BF... And yes, sometimes I do end up making things just for him so I can get rid of stuff in the freezer/fridge/pantry...

    I also take a lot of my stuff to work and put in the common room for everyone to share.

    >_>;;;;
  • SuffolkSally
    SuffolkSally Posts: 964 Member
    No. But then we don't live together, I suppose that helps. I do most of the cooking so I cook healthy meals which are also tasty (I like my food). He tops up quite a bit often with sweets and cakes, but these aren't things that tempt me so that's fine.
  • ash8184
    ash8184 Posts: 701 Member
    Yes... I do it too, but I've stopped because neither one of us needs it! If he wants something sweet or fatty, I don't enable him by bringing it to him - I make him to get it himself :)
  • FeebRyan
    FeebRyan Posts: 738 Member
    my hubby LOVES healthy food above all else. He has gone gluten free with me...

    He is my rock and has been so so supportive.

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