Mom, I'm fat

MarlinWil

Thanks for sharing this. My little girl just asked me a few days ago if I thought she was fat. I was horrified, and think I handled it ok, but this is something I am printing to keep for the future. If need be, I will dance naked with her in front of the mirror - so hard to be honestly accepting of our bodies, even before having kids.

My son (now 20) once told me to watch what I said about my weight in front of my daughter (then just a baby). He reminded me that I had a daughter who would learn about self-acceptance from how I accepted myself, and the negative things I was saying about myself back then were inappropriate and wrong - not just for me, but for her, too. It woke me up (he was 13 at the time).

Wil

Poods71

Thanks for sharing this. My little girl just asked me a few days ago if I thought she was fat. I was horrified, and think I handled it ok, but this is something I am printing to keep for the future. If need be, I will dance naked with her in front of the mirror - so hard to be honestly accepting of our bodies, even before having kids.

My son (now 20) once told me to watch what I said about my weight in front of my daughter (then just a baby). He reminded me that I had a daughter who would learn about self-acceptance from how I accepted myself, and the negative things I was saying about myself back then were inappropriate and wrong - not just for me, but for her, too. It woke me up (he was 13 at the time).

Wil

Wow, clever 13 year old. Hope my kids grow up to be so thoughtful and insightful

BCSMama

As the mother of a beautiful, healthy weight, smart, kind, loving, energetic, and creative blue eyed 7 year old daughter, this had me in tears. I had a similar moment with my daughter a little while back while I was blow drying her hair in front of the mirror. It also nearly broke my heart. I reminded her that she had just gone for her check up and that the doctor even said she was a perfectly healthy weight. She dances 3 nights a week and gets plenty of exercise and actually prefers healthy foods to junk (most of the time anyway).

I honestly don't know why many little girls go through this and make it a point to NEVER say anything negative about my body in front of her. Even while on this journey to a healthier more fit me, I have emphasized to my children that I am eating better (we are all eating better actually) and exercising more so that I can be healthier; not so I can be thin. It's almost like slimming down is a nice side effect of the main goal, which is being healthier.

I don't know why these very young girls seem to be concerned about their bodies. It even seems like many, like my own daughter, are not even chubby at all and are considered thin by many people. Anyway, I too will gladly dance naked in the mirror with my daughter and do my very best to model a positive body image.

onyxgirl17

Thanks for sharing this. My little girl just asked me a few days ago if I thought she was fat. I was horrified, and think I handled it ok, but this is something I am printing to keep for the future. If need be, I will dance naked with her in front of the mirror - so hard to be honestly accepting of our bodies, even before having kids.

My son (now 20) once told me to watch what I said about my weight in front of my daughter (then just a baby). He reminded me that I had a daughter who would learn about self-acceptance from how I accepted myself, and the negative things I was saying about myself back then were inappropriate and wrong - not just for me, but for her, too. It woke me up (he was 13 at the time).

Wil

Wow, your son is wise beyond his years. Wish somebody would have told my mom that ......

When I have kids I don't want my body issues to be pushed onto them either. I want them to accept themselves as beautiful.

lady_jessi

My daughter is 6 and when she asks me why I workout so much I tell her it's because I want to be super strong, but I guess I should stop looking at my belly disapprovingly.

Lovely story!

ObtainingBalance

Aww...

KeRAWRi

I had an 8yo tell me recently that one of her friends needed to lay off the sugar because the girl was big. when I was 8 I was chunky but I outgrew it for a small amount of time (bad habits meets genetics). The "you're fat" comments didn't happen until sixth grade. even my mother was making comments so bravo to this woman. this the kind of woman and the kind of mother who I dream to be. I wish someone would have tried to make me feel beautiful instead of ugly when I was that age. Reading a story like this truly gives me hope.

Verity1111

I cried at the end.