Jerk at the Gym
I have been going to the gym consistently since August - however, I am on week 8 of a certain workout plan.
In the beginning I was just tracking my weight, but since I am lifting, the scale hardly moved. So, I started taking measurements on 9/13.
I have lost 2.5 inches from my waist since I started taking measurements and I feel pretty great about it. I am not going to turn into a supermodel overnight, these things take time.
Slow and steady wins the race!
Today, some jerk at the gym came up to me and told me, "hey, I see you are working on your stomach, I have a better workout for you."
I told him, "No, thanks, I have my own plan." The douche kept on!
This guy is NOT in any shape to tell me about "ab workouts" - he has a jiggly belly. Who does he think he is to offer up advice?
There are hundreds of different ab workout routines, you do what works best for you. I wanted to tell the guy off, instead I just walked away before I punched him in the damn face!
Just here to vent!
In the beginning I was just tracking my weight, but since I am lifting, the scale hardly moved. So, I started taking measurements on 9/13.
I have lost 2.5 inches from my waist since I started taking measurements and I feel pretty great about it. I am not going to turn into a supermodel overnight, these things take time.
Slow and steady wins the race!
Today, some jerk at the gym came up to me and told me, "hey, I see you are working on your stomach, I have a better workout for you."
I told him, "No, thanks, I have my own plan." The douche kept on!
This guy is NOT in any shape to tell me about "ab workouts" - he has a jiggly belly. Who does he think he is to offer up advice?
There are hundreds of different ab workout routines, you do what works best for you. I wanted to tell the guy off, instead I just walked away before I punched him in the damn face!
Just here to vent!
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I find it hard to bite my tongue when I see someone with really bad form but abs are a different story. There are so many variations and who's to say which exercise is better than another? I have strong abs but they're so well hidden you'd never know it. Good on you for just walking away. He should've just stopped when you said you weren't interested. Maybe he thought you were going to seriously injure yourself or something. Or maybe he's got a big ego. I too found the scale hardly moved for the first few months of lifting. Keep at it.0
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I have a difficult time biting my tongue too when I see certain things. Its usually women who are lifting weights that weigh less than their purses. but so is life, I suppose...0
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I don't mind taking tips on form, I had a few people help me with dumbbell rows and lat pulldowns - I always love advice on form.
I just felt he wasn't in any position to tell me about my ab routine. He was talking about ab workouts, that he knows better exercises.
Routine and form are two different things. A crunch is pretty basic.
He doesn't know how my body has changed, it was just annoying how he came off.0 -
I have a difficult time biting my tongue too when I see certain things. Its usually women who are lifting weights that weigh less than their purses. but so is life, I suppose...
lol To each their own, everyone has their own personal fitness goal.0 -
maybe he was hitting on you.0
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No offense I understand where you are coming from but have you actually thought about where this guy came from? Maybe he was 500 pounds and glued to the couch and he worked himself down. Maybe he just thought he would give you a tip since he had not seen you around. You don't have to get all miffed for nothing. I've had 300 pound housewives give me useful advice during strength training, I was not in need of their assistance but its something to file away for the future.0
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i had the same thing happen to me... but the guy ended up following me and i ended up havin to complain to staff about it..0
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He was tryng to impress you hahaha
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I agree with you, I cant stand people who offer their unsolicited advice. I can't stand when people talk to me at all at the gym. Leave me alone I'm there to workout not socialize! He just wanted to talk to you cuz hes a .....guy!0
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maybe he was hitting on you.
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This.
Especially if he wasn't in any shape to give tips, he was probably trying to use humor as an opener. But sadly he crashed and burned... into a gas truck that was refueling a gas station.0 -
I use to be in great shape, I know what it takes.
Losing weight from 500 to 300lbs shouldn't really make you an expert on chiseled abs - let people do their own thing.
Again, I said no thanks very politely, he shouldn't have kept on.
The point is, there are a hundred different ab workouts, you do what works best for you. He doesn't know where I came from, I have lost 2.5 inches in 6 weeks from my waist alone, I am showing results based on my own routine.0 -
i had the same thing happen to me... but the guy ended up following me and i ended up havin to complain to staff about it..
Creepy, I hope you haven't seen him around.0 -
i bet that was his socially awkward way to not introduce you to a new ab workout but more to a hip thrusting workout0
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maybe he was hitting on you.
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This.
Especially if he wasn't in any shape to give tips, he was probably trying to use humor as an opener. But sadly he crashed and burned... into a gas truck that was refueling a gas station.
lol Maybe.0 -
The real issue is he didn't respect your attempt to decline unsolicited and unwanted help....he was like a pesky telemarketer that you would have to say "no" to a thousand times and still maybe just have to walk away from in order to get peace. I find it very frustrating when someone acts like their plan is the only plan or best plan for everyone. Maybe he was just trying to be nice, maybe he was attempting to flirt, maybe he's was just an annoying know it all...who knows...but experiences like that are exactly why I exercise in my basement--and put up a curtain so that when my husband's friends are over I can shut them out too!0
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i bet that was his socially awkward way to not introduce you to a new ab workout but more to a hip thrusting workout
Lmao.0 -
i bet that was his socially awkward way to not introduce you to a new ab workout but more to a hip thrusting workout
^^^ROFL absolutely on target!!0 -
He was tryng to impress you hahaha
Oh. Em. Gee. I DIE!! :laugh: :sad: :laugh:0 -
He was probably trying to hit on you. Just ignore him and do you. Tell him to take his own advice and you will try it when it works for him.0
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The real issue is he didn't respect your attempt to decline unsolicited and unwanted help....he was like a pesky telemarketer that you would have to say "no" to a thousand times and still maybe just have to walk away from in order to get peace. I find it very frustrating when someone acts like their plan is the only plan or best plan for everyone. Maybe he was just trying to be nice, maybe he was attempting to flirt, maybe he's was just an annoying know it all...who knows...but experiences like that are exactly why I exercise in my basement--and put up a curtain so that when my husband's friends are over I can shut them out too!
Great analogy! Yes, I am going to start going to the gym with my husband whenever I can.0 -
He was tryng to impress you hahaha
Oh. Em. Gee. I DIE!! :laugh: :sad: :laugh:
I just saw this! Hilarious - the guy looked very much like this guy in the pic!0 -
He was probably trying to hit on you. Just ignore him and do you. Tell him to take his own advice and you will try it when it works for him.
Lol, I wish I can be this mean, this is great!
My husband tells me I need to stand up for myself more.0 -
People are jerks and have no filter. I work out 4 hours a day, 6 days a week, yet anytime I'm in the produce aisle or looking at Lean Cuisines there is always someone who wants to give me diet advice. I usually politely tell them I've lost 40+ pounds in 4 mos and I'm doing what works for me. Sometimes people shut up, sometimes not.
Tonight in my circuit class that also has a lot of running laps the skinny skank next to me felt the need to say during the warmup that if I'm already sweating and class has barely begun maybe I belong in an easier class. To which I replied that I don't want to take an easier class. I'm sweaty because I've already been working out for 3 hrs and just finished 12 miles. She said she was just trying to help. Rolled her eyes at me. I told her I didn't ask for and don't need her "help" and if she knew how hard it was for a girl my size to come to class and do my best she would just keep her opinions to herself. During the class I noticed she was pretty darn sweaty too. Where was the sweating police! I also noticed she had to sit out at least one circuit. Sure would have liked to see her do my workout today.
It did upset me at the time but she doesn't mean anything to me. There is always gonna be jerks at the gym or mean girls. Keep up the good work!0 -
many of my guy friend have told me that 9 times out of 10 when a guy says something really incredibly stupid to you that make you want to throw chop him, he probably was meaning to be suave and charming and trying to hit on you..
i hope that's true because otherwise i would be worried about all the dumba$$ men i've met in my life who start off their first conversation to you with something borderline insulting :laugh:0 -
People are jerks and have no filter. I work out 4 hours a day, 6 days a week, yet anytime I'm in the produce aisle or looking at Lean Cuisines there is always someone who wants to give me diet advice. I usually politely tell them I've lost 40+ pounds in 4 mos and I'm doing what works for me. Sometimes people shut up, sometimes not.
Tonight in my circuit class that also has a lot of running laps the skinny skank next to me felt the need to say during the warmup that if I'm already sweating and class has barely begun maybe I belong in an easier class. To which I replied that I don't want to take an easier class. I'm sweaty because I've already been working out for 3 hrs and just finished 12 miles. She said she was just trying to help. Rolled her eyes at me. I told her I didn't ask for and don't need her "help" and if she knew how hard it was for a girl my size to come to class and do my best she would just keep her opinions to herself. During the class I noticed she was pretty darn sweaty too. Where was the sweating police! I also noticed she had to sit out at least one circuit. Sure would have liked to see her do my workout today.
It did upset me at the time but she doesn't mean anything to me. There is always gonna be jerks at the gym or mean girls. Keep up the good work!
That is exactly my point, they don't know are "true" progress. Great job on the weight loss!0 -
I have been going to the gym consistently since August - however, I am on week 8 of a certain workout plan.
In the beginning I was just tracking my weight, but since I am lifting, the scale hardly moved. So, I started taking measurements on 9/13.
I have lost 2.5 inches from my waist since I started taking measurements and I feel pretty great about it. I am not going to turn into a supermodel overnight, these things take time.
Slow and steady wins the race!
Today, some jerk at the gym came up to me and told me, "hey, I see you are working on your stomach, I have a better workout for you."
I told him, "No, thanks, I have my own plan." The douche kept on!
This guy is NOT in any shape to tell me about "ab workouts" - he has a jiggly belly. Who does he think he is to offer up advice?
There are hundreds of different ab workout routines, you do what works best for you. I wanted to tell the guy off, instead I just walked away before I punched him in the damn face!
Just here to vent!
Did he say anything actually rude to you? Did he insult you? (e.g. "jiggly belly" or "douche") Or was he just trying to offer advice?
BTW: Ab work outs do not get rid of a "jiggly belly", they build muscle so if you carry extra fat on the belly it will protrude more. Any decrease of your waistline was due to fat loss not ab workouts.0 -
Haha don't you love those people. I just keep my mouth shut unless spoken to first, the gym instructors are there for a reason. I did have one guy tell me once I was obviously lifting weights that were too heavy because I was lifting them so slow (aka controlled) - there he was bouncing around and lifting his weights soooo quickly it looked like his shoulder was going to pop out. I handed him my weight and said 'maybe, but you try it, just try it slow'. He couldn't do more than 8 reps. Trying to be all macho and he got beaten by a girl hehehe.0
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I have been going to the gym consistently since August - however, I am on week 8 of a certain workout plan.
In the beginning I was just tracking my weight, but since I am lifting, the scale hardly moved. So, I started taking measurements on 9/13.
I have lost 2.5 inches from my waist since I started taking measurements and I feel pretty great about it. I am not going to turn into a supermodel overnight, these things take time.
Slow and steady wins the race!
Today, some jerk at the gym came up to me and told me, "hey, I see you are working on your stomach, I have a better workout for you."
I told him, "No, thanks, I have my own plan." The douche kept on!
This guy is NOT in any shape to tell me about "ab workouts" - he has a jiggly belly. Who does he think he is to offer up advice?
There are hundreds of different ab workout routines, you do what works best for you. I wanted to tell the guy off, instead I just walked away before I punched him in the damn face!
Just here to vent!
Did he say anything actually rude to you? Did he insult you? (e.g. "jiggly belly" or "douche") Or was he just trying to offer advice?
BTW: Ab work outs do not get rid of a "jiggly belly", they build muscle so if you carry extra fat on the belly it will protrude more. Any decrease of your waistline was due to fat loss not ab workouts.
No means no, he was persistent - he wouldn't leave it alone.
Ab workouts create muscles, muscles burn fat.0 -
Haha don't you love those people. I just keep my mouth shut unless spoken to first, the gym instructors are there for a reason. I did have one guy tell me once I was obviously lifting weights that were too heavy because I was lifting them so slow (aka controlled) - there he was bouncing around and lifting his weights soooo quickly it looked like his shoulder was going to pop out. I handed him my weight and said 'maybe, but you try it, just try it slow'. He couldn't do more than 8 reps. Trying to be all macho and he got beaten by a girl hehehe.
Lol Awesome win!0 -
Yep this happened to me, too.
Good news is, you'll just keep getting fitter, and all this will become a distant memory, pretty much a non-event:)0
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