MFP Pet Peeve

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  • mslainie
    mslainie Posts: 25
    I totally agree. Alot of stuff people on here say i dont agree with, but i dont say anything because it doesnt affect me. one thing i do know is that everybody's body and taste is different. what might work really well for one person may not work well for another.
  • mslainie
    mslainie Posts: 25
    No one is required to respond. I agree they should be nice or be quiet
  • mslainie
    mslainie Posts: 25
    amen
  • almc170
    almc170 Posts: 1,093 Member
    I totally agree. Alot of stuff people on here say i dont agree with, but i dont say anything because it doesnt affect me. one thing i do know is that everybody's body and taste is different. what might work really well for one person may not work well for another.
    But people are never going to agree. And that's OK. When you post something, you never can predict exactly what kind of a response it's going to get. There are some incredibly knowledgeable individuals who patiently answer the same questions over and over. And I've seen those people criticized for being "rude" because someone doesn't like their answer. They continue to try to help out, and the site is a better place for it. Who really benefits if everyone just keeps their mouths shut?
  • JustANumber85
    JustANumber85 Posts: 644 Member
    When a guy sends you messages only trying to flirt and then when you politely turn him down- hes turns into a doodlewad.
  • Yogi_Carl
    Yogi_Carl Posts: 1,906 Member
    Well, not everyone believes in a certain style of giving advice. Many are the tough love types. Especially when it comes to certain things(eating under 1000 calories, diet pills, etc) people react strongly. You also have to realize, many of the vets here have seen the same topic a billion times and probably have given advice many different types of ways before.....frustration sometimes plays a roll.

    Surely if you are a vet' and have seen the question come up time and time again, the answer is simple - isn't it? - either be civil or don't post.
  • kristen6022
    kristen6022 Posts: 1,923 Member
    I think people need to understand that MFP alum (the people that have been there done that, and are just here now to keep off what they got off) know how get to where all the newbies need to be. We are kinda like the fountain of information. We've been there, done that and we did it without any "diet" or "pill" or "potion". A drastic eating plan or a crazy workout regime isn't required. What is required is healthy eating, lots of water, getting up off your butt once in awhile and staying patient and positive. If you slip up one day, don't sweat it - we all did. You cave into those potato chips at the party, we don't really care, because we have too. You skipped a workout day because you didn't feel like it - guess what, we have too. So, if we give advice it comes from knowledge and we are trying to save you from the failure and the aggravation that all those "plans" typically produce. We aren't trying to be mean, even if disagreeing with you comes off snarky...
  • jkcrawford
    jkcrawford Posts: 435 Member
    This is why I will not ask a question in a forum. Rude people have deterred me from asking. I will read and sometimes throw a suggestion out but I will never ask anything. I depend on my MFP' friends to answer what I have as a question, and they are not rude. I do understand tough luv, but not rudeness. I agree if you don't have something nice to say don't. It is like at work when I have to say the same thing over and over even if I said it yesterday, someone may have missed it, I don't tell them to go look it up as I just said it yesterday. Yes you can search a topic but sometimes the answer your looking for may not be there.
  • LaMujerMasBonitaDelMundo
    LaMujerMasBonitaDelMundo Posts: 3,634 Member
    Well, not everyone believes in a certain style of giving advice. Many are the tough love types. Especially when it comes to certain things(eating under 1000 calories, diet pills, etc) people react strongly. You also have to realize, many of the vets here have seen the same topic a billion times and probably have given advice many different types of ways before.....frustration sometimes plays a roll.
    Totally agree... Also you have to consider where the other person comes from. The advice may find it offensive for you but not for the person giving an advice. That's life, whether online or offline. Not everyone are born and raised the same way as you are and so you must accept that certain people behave in a certain way.
  • Spokez70
    Spokez70 Posts: 548 Member
    my favourite is people who say 'i do x, y and z and i cant lose weight' so people suggest trying a, b or c, and the OP shoots each idea down with an excuse why they couldnt possibly try that... so what did they bother asking for?!

    This exactly. Or better yet when those posts begin by asking for only people who got good results with something to respond in the first place- then they get mad when people who got bad results chime in.
  • kinmad4it
    kinmad4it Posts: 185 Member
    Look at the name of this specific board. Motivation and Support.

    Some of the responses I've seen here are neither motivational or supportive.

    Someone new signs up to MFP and see's all the success stories and all the congratulation those people receive. They decide to ask a question and get shot down immediately by the usual pious and sanctimonious bellends that have nothing to offer other than trying to make themselves feel clever and important at anothers expense. The original person then thinks twice before ever posting again.

    If it's a silly question, then move on and ignore it. No need to point it out, surely you have better things to do with your time than act like some forum nazi who believes their opinion is the only one that matters.
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  • dab52776
    dab52776 Posts: 536 Member
    This is why I will not ask a question in a forum. Rude people have deterred me from asking. I will read and sometimes throw a suggestion out but I will never ask anything. I depend on my MFP' friends to answer what I have as a question, and they are not rude. I do understand tough luv, but not rudeness. I agree if you don't have something nice to say don't. It is like at work when I have to say the same thing over and over even if I said it yesterday, someone may have missed it, I don't tell them to go look it up as I just said it yesterday. Yes you can search a topic but sometimes the answer your looking for may not be there.

    Well said!
  • Capt_Apollo
    Capt_Apollo Posts: 9,026 Member
    We were all newbies once but after only 12 months on the forums there are certain posts I get to see EVERY day that start to get annoying, including but not limited to:
    Diet Pills
    Eating less than 1200
    Eating 1200
    MFP Pet Peeves

    Maybe if people did use the search function people who need help with a new topic wouldn't get buried under the barrage of the same topics over and over

    this
  • Capt_Apollo
    Capt_Apollo Posts: 9,026 Member
    btw, this thread is totally going to fix the problem.

    totally.
  • jamers3111
    jamers3111 Posts: 495 Member
    Amen. The purpose of this site is to learn and to bounce ideas off one another. Everyone will find which activities/workouts, diets/lifestyles, etc. work for them even if it doesn't work for someone else. One reason a lot of people stay in their "funk" is because they feel like they can't ask for help. This is supposed to be a safe place where everyone can get the support and encouragement they probably aren't getting at home.
  • Dave198lbs
    Dave198lbs Posts: 8,810 Member

    Maybe if people did use the search function people who need help with a new topic wouldn't get buried under the barrage of the same topics over and over

    agreed but have you actually used the search function here?

    it is extremely clunky and kind of lame
  • Dave198lbs
    Dave198lbs Posts: 8,810 Member
    One reason a lot of people stay in their "funk" is because they feel like they can't ask for help. This is supposed to be a safe place where everyone can get the support and encouragement they probably aren't getting at home.

    this is supposed to be a place to count calories..........the rest is what you make it

    I think relying on total internet strangers for encouragement is the wrong attitude and can be used as an excuse
  • djsupreme6
    djsupreme6 Posts: 1,210 Member
    I do believe in responding in a positive helpful way for those who are really looking for something in particular, but of course i'm not expert. As far as the search function..well i've tried this and found a lot of good information. In most though there are pages and pages people being severely made fun of or put down and its not very good to see and annoying to scroll through. Offering advice should be something taken seriously as it can really make or break. Since different people have different information why not ask the same questions over and over. Really though, if you are bothered by these questions just move on but when you take that time to respond with something negative you are purposely attempting to not be helpful and seeking attention in my opinion
  • Capt_Apollo
    Capt_Apollo Posts: 9,026 Member


    I think relying on total internet strangers for encouragement is the wrong attitude and can be used as an excuse

    +1
  • SONIA820
    SONIA820 Posts: 208 Member
    No one is required to respond. I agree they should be nice or be quiet

    Be nice or be quiet--the mantra of the thin skinned. Ugh!


    There is a little thing called tact...be nice or be tactful, is that better?
  • Flyersteve18
    Flyersteve18 Posts: 53 Member
    Amen. The purpose of this site is to learn and to bounce ideas off one another. Everyone will find which activities/workouts, diets/lifestyles, etc. work for them even if it doesn't work for someone else. One reason a lot of people stay in their "funk" is because they feel like they can't ask for help. This is supposed to be a safe place where everyone can get the support and encouragement they probably aren't getting at home.

    "Everyone will find which activities/workouts, diets/lifestyles, etc. work for them even if it doesn't work for someone else."

    This. What may not work for 1 person may work for another. Posts asking if this diet is good or is this workout good, should not be met with "You're an idiot don't do that". Should be met with how those diets or workouts actually work and give information on what they will do to the body, and have the OP/rest of the people figure out if its right for them or not.

    Sens suck though ;) (j/k)
  • Capt_Apollo
    Capt_Apollo Posts: 9,026 Member
    No one is required to respond. I agree they should be nice or be quiet

    Be nice or be quiet--the mantra of the thin skinned. Ugh!


    There is a little thing called tact...be nice or be tactful, is that better?

    i remember when i tactfully told someone that they weren't running far enough or long enough for them to consider using the GU gel packs yet.

    i got called unsupportive and rude. well, i got called other things too.
  • quirkytizzy
    quirkytizzy Posts: 4,052 Member
    When a guy sends you messages only trying to flirt and then when you politely turn him down- hes turns into a doodlewad.

    Completely off topic, but your profile pic of "RUN LIKE YOU STOLE SOMETHING" is awesome.
  • NotHopelessButHopeful
    NotHopelessButHopeful Posts: 50 Member
    Some people complain that nothing works but I see that they don't log their food or workouts which makes me wonder if they've even tried, and some try to push different diets or meal plans. I understand why people get frustrated with their posts. However, I've seen some threads where aside from dismissing their stupidity, people have made fun of or attacked the way a person looked in response. Now that I find uncalled for.
  • Juliejustsaying
    Juliejustsaying Posts: 2,332 Member
    controlling, holier than thou freaks who shroud their controlling in a marriage license or self righteous christian babble. ugh. Wanted to deactivate my account after the whole christmas, porn and nasty virus thread. God needs to come save us from the back stabbing christians among us.
  • PJ64
    PJ64 Posts: 866 Member
    I have found that most sites, not just MFP seem to be a beacon for Cowards with Keyboards. They would NEVER say anything to your face that they type on here. When my kids started using the internet, I told them "If you can't say it to someones face, then don't type it"
  • Melroxsox
    Melroxsox Posts: 1,040 Member
    i think its supportive to hear all sides of the issue...whether I like it or not. simple really.
  • lamilli09
    lamilli09 Posts: 354 Member
    I have found that most sites, not just MFP seem to be a beacon for Cowards with Keyboards. They would NEVER say anything to your face that they type on here. When my kids started using the internet, I told them "If you can't say it to someones face, then don't type it"

    Best thing I've seen all day.
  • Chinadorian
    Chinadorian Posts: 200 Member
    However, I've seen some threads where aside from dismissing their stupidity, people have made fun of or attacked the way a person looked in response. Now that I find uncalled for.

    ^ agree. and I had this happen to me...lol I mistakenly wrote something that later on as I went back to the thread to edit it, realized that within seconds of posting it not one but about 5 other posters had jumped down my throat....the same forum vigilantes who always show up to bash anyone who has opinions other than their own or isnt "fitsmart" enough to keep up. Later on i see a few of these people chatting up their forum successes (ie playground wars) on their wall..... LOL and Im on the FL! :) still makes me laugh......

    If it wasnt cyberspace, i would seriously b-slap some of these people , but again....You cant see them, they cant see you and the lack of basic accountability for being civil can be frustrating to those who are just looking for answers

    If i have a message to the OP in particular that would be beneficial but may receive flack, and am not sounding off like many of the forums turn into, then a PM is the right thing to do. otherwise, keep your head up.

    haters gonna hate.

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