Is my mother jealous or just concerned?

ErzaScarlet

It seems to be that every time I loose weight or say I'm going to loose weight my mother is always like you don't need to loose weight.

She gets angry at me when I Exercise am I just being paranoid or is she genuinely jealous of my success?

Does anyone else have a saboteur or demotivater trying to crush their success?

felice03

It seems to be that every time I lose weight or say I'm going to lose weight my mother is always like you don't need to lose weight.

She gets angry at me when I exercise am I just being paranoid or is she genuinely jealous of my success?

Does anyone else have a saboteur or demotivator trying to crush their success?

oregonzoo

Honestly, the only sabotage I believe in is self sabatoge.

Don't worry about what others say, unless you are trying to adhere to a too low calorie budget.

StinkyWinkies

Beats me, but if it were me, I'd stop telling her and "just do it."

JesterMFP

Are you overweight? If not, she's probably just concerned.

ahviendha

1) your mom is like any mom, and wants to build up her kid not tear her down. when i was borderline obese my mother just kept buying me bigger clothes and trying to soothe me

2) she's trying to temper her own insecurities and self esteem issues with her weight by telling you you're fine, when she knows you're both overweight

AlsDonkBoxSquat

She's not jealous, she's insecure, there is a difference.

Everyone has someone like this in their lives, when we do things to better ourselves it just reminds them of the hill that they have to climb that they think is insurmountable. Just do what you need to do and move on.

MB_Positif

Well, do you need to lose weight?

ShreddedTweet

She's your Mum, I doubt if a mother would be 'jealous' of their own daughter - surely she'd be happy for you! It's just a mother thing to tell you you don't need to lose weight and you're perfect as you are. You're probably projecting your feelings about yourself onto her.

rileamoyer

Well, since no one can see your profile, none of us can know if you need to lose weight or not. So how would we know if she is concerned or envious?

daj150

When I was living with my parents...a long time ago, lol, I would get the same thing. Motherly love looking passed everything combined with me going to the gym instead of doing stuff around the house.

Brunner26_2

More importantly, would she be concerned about your use of the word "loose?"

kimad

She's not jealous, she's insecure, there is a difference.

Everyone has someone like this in their lives, when we do things to better ourselves it just reminds them of the hill that they have to climb that they think is insurmountable. Just do what you need to do and move on.

This!

AlsDonkBoxSquat

Well, do you need to lose weight?

This is a better question.

1ConcreteGirl

You didn't say what you weigh, what you want to weigh, or whether you have a history of ED.

Without knowing that, it's impossible to answer this question.

AZKristi

I don't think "jealous" is the right word. Sometimes, when one person chooses to get healthy, people around them who aren't willing to make the same commitments feel ashamed. Its not a comfortable feeling, hence why they may tell you that you are OK the way you are.

Its also possible that your mother is actually concerned. Is there any truth to the idea that you don't need to lose weight? Would your doctor encourage you to lose weight?

know_your_worth

She gets angry at you for exercising? That sounds strange. Exercise is important to stay healthy. Unless you're underweight or you workout too hard, I don't see why she should be concerned.

sarahisme18

You didn't say what you weigh, what you want to weigh, or whether you have a history of ED.

Without knowing that, it's impossible to answer this question.

^ this.

But just looking at your diary, you're definitely not eating enough most days. So, she might actually be concerned with good reason.

taunto

You didn't say what you weigh, what you want to weigh, or whether you have a history of ED.

Without knowing that, it's impossible to answer this question.

Nah, you don't no silly thing like that. All you need to know is that her mother is like, totally jealous of her because she ruined her mothers vajayjay by being born. So rude!

perfectingpatti

You've said in another post that you've suffered years with eating disorders. My guess, as a mother, is that she's worried about you and not jealous.

vvanm

She may feel anxious that weight is too big an issue for you and is trying to de-emphasize the importance of it. Without knowing your height, weight and goals it's impossible to say. She may be trying to tell you that you are so much more than a number on a scale, and not communicating that well.

californiagirl2012

It seems to be that every time I loose weight or say I'm going to loose weight my mother is always like you don't need to loose weight.

She gets angry at me when I Exercise am I just being paranoid or is she genuinely jealous of my success?

Does anyone else have a saboteur or demotivater trying to crush their success?

Sometimes it's genuine concern and sometimes it's their own insecurities speaking and the fact that you are succeeding that shows them their own failure. The more you succeed at this journey the more you will experience resistance, you are swimming against the tide of society. Some of it is just people need time to adjust to the new you. I've been maintaining for over a year now and people are finally accepting the new fit me and this is the way it is. I refuse to let anyone sabotage my efforts and it's kind of a constant battle and will be for me until the end of my days I imagine. I know what I want and I got it. I know what I want to keep and I will keep it. This is your body and YOU OWN IT. OWN IT. DECIDE.

BeautyisBeingU

You didn't say what you weigh, what you want to weigh, or whether you have a history of ED.

Without knowing that, it's impossible to answer this question.

^^^^^ I agree. You can be 95lbs and 5'6 and she may be right!

chubbygirl253

Well, since no one can see your profile, none of us can know if you need to lose weight or not. So how would we know if she is concerned or envious?

^This! If your privacy is so important that we can't see your pic or profile then why ask for our opinion? The 2 or 3 sentences you provided doesn't give us nearly enough insight to give an informed answer.

MB_Positif

You didn't say what you weigh, what you want to weigh, or whether you have a history of ED.

Without knowing that, it's impossible to answer this question.

Nah, you don't no silly thing like that. All you need to know is that her mother is like, totally jealous of her because she ruined her mothers vajayjay by being born. So rude!

Ruined vajayjay...

perfectingpatti

^This! If your privacy is so important that we can't see your pic or profile then why ask for our opinion? The 2 or 3 sentences you provided doesn't give us nearly enough insight to give an informed answer.

If you look at the OP's prior posts, you'll see that she has suffered with eating disorders. That's what leads me to think her mom is concerned and not jealous.

bsuew

post doesn't say if you are over weight or not, or how old you are? Could she just be worried about you? If you are overweight maybe just sit down and talk with her and ask her for some ideas, or see if she wants to walk with you or exercise along with you. Let her see that you are just trying to be healthy and not harm yourself.

AnniePenny

Eat more. Your mom is just worried about you

Barbellerella

You said in a previous post that you had three years worth of Eating Disorders. So she's concerned, rightfully so.

prairiedawg2014

if your mother is an "older" person, they are usually "old school". most older people don't like the look of skinny women these days.
their thinking is.....if you're a bigger person then you are healthy. i know thats how my grandparents were.

crystelnicole

I lost 119-121lbs in three years. Since then, my mom is a real ***** with me....