Is my mother jealous or just concerned?

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  • ErzaScarlet
    ErzaScarlet Posts: 64 Member
    I weigh 144 pounds and what to get down to 133 pounds and I'm 5ft5.5. I don't need to loose weight I'm a healthy weight, i just want to be on the lower end of a healthy weight scale.
  • ladymiseryali
    ladymiseryali Posts: 2,555 Member
    I weigh 144 pounds and what to get down to 133 pounds and I'm 5ft5.5. I don't need to loose weight I'm a healthy weight, i just want to be on the lower end of a healthy weight scale.

    If what others have said is right, that you've suffered from EDs for a bit, then your mother is being cautious and you shouldn't hold it against her. She's worried. If you're doing it in a healthy way, then you need to reassure her.
  • sarafil
    sarafil Posts: 506 Member
    More importantly, would she be concerned about your use of the word "loose?"

    Oh my god, thank you!!!
  • Bentley2718
    Bentley2718 Posts: 1,689 Member
    It seems to be that every time I loose weight or say I'm going to loose weight my mother is always like you don't need to loose weight.

    She gets angry at me when I Exercise am I just being paranoid or is she genuinely jealous of my success?

    Does anyone else have a saboteur or demotivater trying to crush their success?

    If you're not overweight, then the comments about you not needing to lose weight make sense. HOWEVER, if she gets mad at you when you engage in healthy levels of exercise (or any exercise at all of you are sedentary), then I would say something else is going on, but I don't have enough information about your mother to say what that something else might be.
  • MyM0wM0w
    MyM0wM0w Posts: 2,008 Member
    Beats me, but if it were me, I'd stop telling her and "just do it."

    This.
  • ErzaScarlet
    ErzaScarlet Posts: 64 Member
    More importantly, would she be concerned about your use of the word "loose?"

    Sorry it was a typing error. I'm not perfect and neither are you.
  • ErzaScarlet
    ErzaScarlet Posts: 64 Member
    Thanks for the advice :)
  • _VoV
    _VoV Posts: 1,494 Member
    if your mother is an "older" person, they are usually "old school". most older people don't like the look of skinny women these days.
    their thinking is.....if you're a bigger person then you are healthy. i know thats how my grandparents were.

    Have you ever heard of the '60's model 'Twiggy?' Hero worship of super slim women goes back quite a while.
  • ErzaScarlet
    ErzaScarlet Posts: 64 Member
    I wrote this post for advice on my mother not on my grammar! Why are people so obsessed with trying to correct and belittle people!

    People should think more about their actions instead of trying to knock down my confidence about my Flipping grammar!
  • perfectingpatti
    perfectingpatti Posts: 1,037 Member
    I wrote this post for advice on my mother not on my grammar! Why are people so obsessed with trying to correct and belittle people!
    People should think more about their actions instead of trying to knock down my confidence about my Flipping grammar!

    Seriously, just ignore those comments. I'm a mom and probably have a child your age. If you were my daughter and had an eating disorder, I would be concerned whenever I saw you "dieting" or starting to exercise a lot. Exercise is great, but for your mom, it could send a red flag. Ya know? Talk to her about it.
  • MB_Positif
    MB_Positif Posts: 8,897 Member
    After reading more of your replies and glancing at your diary, I think that it's ok that you want to lose a few pounds or lean out some. Have you considered eating at maintenance and just exercising to create your deficit? I see that you have some high days and some really low days. I know that you said your mom does not like you exercising but if you were eating maybe 1600-1800 calories a day and exercising enough to burn 200-300 calories 3 or 4 times a week she wouldn't worry as much. Good luck!

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