Uncomfortable with the topic of my weight loss

chubbygirl253

huh. I'm not shy about anything and I genuinely love hearing how great I look.

Kyrogix

I agree with you 100%. Weight loss and improvements in fitness level is a personal thing. However, when friends, family and loved one's notice your hard work and efforts take it gracefully. Good luck with your journey!

BeingAwesome247

Broadcasting my start weight and how much I wanted to lose was my way of holding myself accountable.
Broadcasting that I gained weight back has helped me kick it in the butt too.....

cwelch2677

I only want to talk to about three people about my weight loss. The questions usually stop when someone wants to know how I'm losing weight and I tell them I run 20 miles a week. I don't like attention being drawn to how I look. That should only matter to me and my husband and as long as we're happy I don't think it's anyone elses bussiness.

Angie_1991

I'm ok with it as long as it isn't my family saying "are you going to stick with it this time?" That's horrific.,.......

cassiegal724

I like gettting the compliments, it feels nice to know that my hard work and dedication is paying off. What actually annoys me is when I'm asked for my "secret" and get disappointment when it's eating less/healthier and exercising. I find it incredibly gratifying to motivate and inspire people, but I can't give anyone a quick fix!

sweetpea129

Yes, i feel the same. I would like to just say "Thank you" and move on but when they keep going on about it i get uncomfortable. FOr me i think there are a couple reasons. The first being that im embarassed that i left myself get that big. I like to think that people just werent noticing me/weight gain but when they comment on how much ive lost, i know thast not true. Another thing is that i still get uncomfortable with them looking at my body because im not happy with it yet. So when they step back and look at me completely i get a bit shy and think of all the problem areas that sitll need work.

Cupcakehippiemommy

Def yes! I think it is more a feeling of embarassement for me personally,perhaps because I feel like I should not have gained the weight to begin with ya know? Weird I am getting more comfortable with it now but still hard lol Good luck on your road to success doll ^u^

NavyKnightAh13

I am actually in the same boat. People that haven't seen me in a while will make comments and can't believe it. One of my sorority sisters told me to stop losing weight and not get any thinner because I'm half the bean i used to be (my pledge name is Vanilla Bean) but as i thought about it, i still don't feel any thinner. But what makes me uncomfortable is when the subject comes up about running because a lot of people can't believe that I do 5ks (i have ran 5 so far) and its like "you really think I couldn't do it?" :grumble:

Just say "thank you" and then change the subject. The only one I feel comfortable talking about weight stuff to is my husband, but that is because he has seen me at my heaviest and still loved me, he has seen me at my tiniest (which is what i am now) and still loves me.

possibri

What about if you just thank them and focus on your health or how you feel? Then change the subject.

Something like, "Thanks. I'm getting healthier.", "Thanks. I'm feeling better.", or "Thanks. I'm enjoying (fill in your favourite activity or exercise here)." Then add a comment about something unrelated, "Did you see the new James Bond movie?" or anything else to introduce a new topic and left them know you are finished having a discussion about your body now!

If you tell them you don't want to talk about it, they may assume that you have health or food issues that are causing you to lose weight.

It is your body so shut the conversation down if you don't want to have it.

Good luck!

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alpine1994

Yes totally agree. It's weird because I have no problem displaying my progress for the MFP world to see but as soon as friends and family bring it up I'm like a turtle going back in to my shell. I am really shy and embarrassed about it. I think it's natural. It's a really personal thing and if you're anything like me, weight was never something I wanted to talk about when I was overweight. So now that people are bringing it up, even though it's positive, it's just weird and uncomfortable. It's all good.

yaomihaha

I am also, but my reason mainly is that I am afraid that I will fail on my weight loss so I rather nobody notice that I am trying.

VorJoshigan

I used to be like that, but I finally got to the point where I started to enjoy it. I found that I never had the success I wanted until I learned to embrace the praise.

I think the biggest deal for me before was that I felt like a fraud. I felt like I didn't deserve the positivity.

Sample negative self-talk "Don't those idiots understand that the only reason I lost weight is that I was Fatty McFatterton before?!"

I felt like my weight loss was not an accomplishment, but instead it was atonement for past misdeeds and not deserving of recognition.


I'm much better now.

pennylaner

I'm trying to keep my weight loss a secret too-- not sure how this is going to work 15-20 lbs from now but so far it's going well.. Personally I don't want people watching me lose weight wondering how far I'll go or if I'll fail and gain back double. I just want it to be over and then live my life.. I get it!

Exactly! I wish they could just notice when I'm finally done.

And yes, part of if is that I negatively interpret comments of "you look so thin!" as meaning, "you used to look much fatter!", which I know is my own issue.

ElleBee66

So, this is going to sound weird and I am just wondering if anyone else has this problem. I am very uncomfortable discussing my weight loss, even with those close to me. I am all for discussing the topic of weight loss and getting healthier in general. The problem for me begins as soon as someone mentions my personal weight loss. I don't even like discussing it with my family. My close family has realized this, and they will comment occasionally that I look good or that my jeans are nice, or something like this, but they will never push any further. I just thank them and that's the end of it. My extended family, most of my friends, and anyone I run into who I haven't seen in a while are a completely different story. It seems to be all they want to talk about when they see me. It makes me uncomfortable to talk about it, and I have no idea why. I am lucky that my boyfriend as amazing as he is and will very quickly change the subject when he notices this start happening, as I can never seem to find a polite way to tell them that I would rather not talk about it. Has anyone else had this problem?

You are not alone - I feel exactly the same way. I am delighted to get a few compliments - "you are looking well" etc, but anything beyond that I find deeply embarrassing. I was out for dinner recently with some friends and and one of their mothers was there. She would NOT let the subject go and kept bring it back up again and again. To the extent that at one point she even bent down and looked at my legs under the table and commented on them. I was so embarrassed - in the end I made my excuses and left early. :blushing:

InnerFatGirl

I'm the opposite, I LOVE, LOVE, LOVE people mentioning my weight loss, and often tell strangers about it

I sympathise, though. Perhaps, you're insecure in yourself?