Gym Advice!!
simpleejenn
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To be BRUTALLY honest, I am fat. I am not thick, I do not have a few extra pounds. I am so far beyond obese I have had enough. (5ft 4in and a dead 250). Tonight, I made the decision to join Planet Fitness. There is no question that tomorrow I will be joining the gym. I am not depressed, sad or anything detrimental about my being fat, I am so far beyond sick of it!! But I am SCARED as hell of grown *kitten* judging woman. Thoughts, advice, criticisms?
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PF, least mine here, is a great place. They really aren't kidding about the judgement free. I see people of all sizes there, working up and enjoying themselves. If you aren't sure where to start ask them for one of the trainers to help you. They are great and can really guide you on proper technique and everything you need to know to the gym.
Just show up, bring some water and be ready to enjoy yourself!!0 -
Just show up, bring some water and be ready to enjoy yourself!!
This. And remember that you will have good days and bad days. Just stick with it. But you can do it. Best of luck.0 -
Just chuck on some earphones, block everyone else out and do what you can.
I am just about the only girl that uses my gym, and just about the only overweight person. 99% of people that go there are training weight lifters. One day I was leaving and had turned my music off. I was dripping in sweat, one guy said to another "look at that" the other guy was like "yeah, but she works out really freaking hard" made my day!0 -
To be BRUTALLY honest, I am fat. I am not thick, I do not have a few extra pounds. I am so far beyond obese I have had enough. (5ft 4in and a dead 250). Tonight, I made the decision to join Planet Fitness. There is no question that tomorrow I will be joining the gym. I am not depressed, sad or anything detrimental about my being fat, I am so far beyond sick of it!! But I am SCARED as hell of grown *kitten* judging woman. Thoughts, advice, criticisms?
The majority of my workouts have been at home on my own treadmill this past year. During the last 8 weeks, I've ventured into the fitness center where I work. The only one judging me was me.
There are a few horror stories from people on here who have had a bad experiences from jerks, but I think overwhelmingly, those are few and far between. Good luck, and enjoy the ride.0 -
No-one there is judging you. People go to the gym to do their own thing and work out. Don't worry about it. If I see someone at the gym who is obviously very overweight and out of shape I'm proud of them for being there.0
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think how good u will look , over time people get used to one another anyway .. its like going to a new school, except people are there to train their *kitten* off and achieve their fitness goals0
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I keep to myself at the gym. If they wanna judge, let them. I'm pretty good at assuming a leave-me-alone air. If they want to be judgemental, that's their problem; they're the jerks, not me. I'm here to improve myself, and I'm not letting someone else's childishness get in my way.0
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You might be surprised by how little people will be paying attention to you at the gym.
When i first started getting into shape at the gym I felt like people would be watching me to see if I was doing anything wrong, but i figured that even IF people were judging me, chances are, they aren't going to say anything, so there was no point in worrying about thoughts you'll probably never hear. Also, at my gym, there are people of all sizes and I pretty much admire anyone who is willing to get up,work out, and work hard - no matter the size. I think a lot of us have that mentality.
It's all about you, so who cares what anyone else at the gym thinks? Just remind yourself of where you'll be/what you'll look like in the future because you're there.0 -
When I lived in Arizona, there was this woman that did her workouts out on the sidewalks. She did this silly like dance and jive thing. EVERY SINGLE day!! Soooo many people made fun of her.....including people I knew. I heard it all the time. I always smiled for her! I always praised her! Honked for her! Getting to watch her weight loss journey was incredible! I was so excited for her! My point: you will ALWAYS have people that judge you (big or small), but you will also have just as many people cheering you on. Go for it and you'll be surprised how much more joy you get than criticism.0
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When I lived in Arizona, there was this woman that did her workouts out on the sidewalks. She did this silly like dance and jive thing. EVERY SINGLE day!! Soooo many people made fun of her.....including people I knew. I heard it all the time. I always smiled for her! I always praised her! Honked for her! Getting to watch her weight loss journey was incredible! I was so excited for her! My point: you will ALWAYS have people that judge you (big or small), but you will also have just as many people cheering you on. Go for it and you'll be surprised how much more joy you get than criticism.
THIS!
Most of the time people (or those who are serious about training) don't even really look at anyone else, they've got their music blasting and they're in another place completely! "In the zone!!!" I know that's how I am! But like this girl has said, there will always be a few (but not many) who do judge - but seriously, you're at the gym! You have goals and you're damn well going to kill that workout and start achieving your goals! Who gives a rats about low lives and their stupid opinions! Don't find any excuses to put you off from going, you can do it! The best thing you can do is chat to the gym managers and trainers to get them to show you how to use the equipment (therefore no-one can judge you and laugh at you for doing things incorrectly and you'll feel a lot more confident about using different things there and more likely will go), then turn on your music and cover yourself in sweat and work hard! Then no one can think "why's she even bothering" or whatever else you think people may say...
Think cardio + weights and you'll be on your way to weightloss heaven! Good luck! 0 -
its not about anyone else, its about you! who cares what other people think?
have fun!0 -
The majority of judgements will be people thinking "good for her deciding to make a change". People are all at the gym to better themselves. We all had to walk in there for the first time at some point.
Just think, 6 months down the line you'll be looking and feeling a whole lot better and you may notice new people joining and you'll be thinking how good it is that they've decided to make a change too.0 -
To be BRUTALLY honest, I am fat. I am not thick, I do not have a few extra pounds. I am so far beyond obese I have had enough. (5ft 4in and a dead 250). Tonight, I made the decision to join Planet Fitness. There is no question that tomorrow I will be joining the gym. I am not depressed, sad or anything detrimental about my being fat, I am so far beyond sick of it!! But I am SCARED as hell of grown *kitten* judging woman. Thoughts, advice, criticisms?
The only judging I ever see is on here (Check out the 10,000 messages about gym etiquette!). Most in my gym keep themselves to themselves and help if you ask. That said, it might be different for women. Lots of guys in one place and things usually turn competitive, lots of women and things often turn *****y!0 -
Whenever I am feeling self conscious at the gym, I ask myself... am I looking at other people? Am I judging their bodies or their workouts or even paying any attention to them at all? No, I'm not - so why on earth would they possibly be looking at me?!
It's easy to get caught up in worrying about it but you just have to remind yourself that if you're not doing it, chances are nobody else is
I judge fat people who are sitting on the sofa eating fast food, not those who are going to the gym.0 -
Whenever I am feeling self conscious at the gym, I ask myself... am I looking at other people? Am I judging their bodies or their workouts or even paying any attention to them at all? No, I'm not - so why on earth would they possibly be looking at me?!
Well that's the right answer for sure, and that's what I should do too; however when I think about it, I can't honestly say that's what I do.
If I go over to do some curls and I see a guy swinging his hips forward on his curls then I think that can't be right.
There's also a girl who dresses up like she is at a wedding then chats to the muscle guys for an hour in between her 10 second workouts. I can't help but shake my head - I'm judging!0 -
My gym advice:
Go to gym.
Disregard the existence of others.
Do your thing.
Leave gym.
Repeat on next designated day.0 -
To be BRUTALLY honest, I am fat. I am not thick, I do not have a few extra pounds. I am so far beyond obese I have had enough. (5ft 4in and a dead 250). Tonight, I made the decision to join Planet Fitness. There is no question that tomorrow I will be joining the gym. I am not depressed, sad or anything detrimental about my being fat, I am so far beyond sick of it!! But I am SCARED as hell of grown *kitten* judging woman. Thoughts, advice, criticisms?
Congrats on taking such a positive step.
Remember, a journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step.
That's all I have to say. 0 -
I can totally relate to your worries. I joined my gym back in May weighing 229 and I also worried about judgements but I have to say I did and still do as others have pointed out - put my music on and do my session.
A few months ago I started to do jogging on the treadmill (was always scared of this, imagining myself flying off so I always walked and held on for dear life) I do spurts of jogging now and I come off like jerry the berry and panting but I have to admit I feel like I've accomplished something. I also do some weights now as well and just count my reps and listen to the music. People judging me does not even enter my head now.
Honestly, just go in and do your thing, you'll surprise yourself by how much you can improve reps and times on machines
Good luck0 -
My gym advice:
Go to gym.
Disregard the existence of others.
Do your thing.
Leave gym.
Repeat on next designated day.
Hmm
"Disregard the existence of others" and their very valuable advice? Their motivation? Their companionship?
Nope. Make some friends there. Smile. Allow other to help you. Help others. Encourage others. Be friendly
Makes the gym less of the painful, horrible chore that it could be for me.
My wife LOVES her Zumba class, as do all the other women there.
Would she still go to her Zumba class if it were just her and the instructor? I doubt it, and the countless hundreds of workout videos, Zumba DVDs etc that are sat collecting dust at home will indicate!0 -
I thought planet fitness was meant to be a 'judgement free zone' anyway.
If you see anyone judging report them and set off the lunk alarm.
All all seriousness though, nobody is looking/really cares what you get up to. Just do what you have to do, and leave.0 -
HI.. I can relate..
I finally had my ahaa moment and signed up for Planet fitness. I was 5'3" and 242lbs.
While it was unnerving for me to walk in that initial time I am glad I did! No one was looking at me.. They are all in their own worlds, headphones on, doing their own workouts. But you will find friendly staff and people the more you go.. you cna be as friendly or not as you want
I started on 5-25-12 and faithfully go 6 times a week. Started on treadmill on a 1.2 pace because thats all I could take. Now I go over 3.0 with incline at 3.0. I have added the 30 min circuit at PF for the last two months as well.
I have lost a total of 57 lbs and dropped 4 clothes sizes so far..
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To be completely honest, I am a hateful, judgemental person, and I am constantly catching myself judging other people for being overweight. I know it's wrong, and I'm working on it, but that's the truth.
That being said, I NEVER judge an overweight person when they are at the gym. In fact, when I see an overweight person working out, I find it motivational. I use people who are at the beginning of their fitness journey as inspiration. If someone who is just starting out can find the time and energy to push themselves, I, who am already fit, should have no excuses.
You go girl!0 -
If I see someone at the gym who is obviously very overweight and out of shape I'm proud of them for being there.
This! There is a woman at my gym who I've been watching lose and it's fantastic! She smiles more, is trying more things and it's just been really cool to watch. People may look at you but don't assume they are looking at you for a negative reason. It could be that they are proud of you or simply that their eyes wandered that way. But in the end, it only matters what you think. In a few months, these first weeks will be behind you and you will be on your way to a new healthier you!0 -
Most of the time I just try to adopt the attitude of "I may be fat, but I'm losing weight, and you'll always be an *kitten*!" Most of the time it works. The fact is, people are judgemental. Some more so, some less. But sometimes I think we project what people are thinking becasue we're so self-conscious when actually theyr'e not even thinking about us.
Do your thing. And try not to worry about what other people are thinking.
And good fro you for taking a major step!0 -
Two and half years ago, I was at 296lbs. I'm now at 189lbs and starting training for a triathlon. I spend about 6 or 8 hours a week at the gym. When I see someone on the street or in a restaurant, obese and probably not making an effort to change, I do judge them; I'm a bit of a judgmental jerk, generally.
However, when I see someone new at the gym, sweating buckets at 3mph on the treadmill, all I want to do is hug them, fist-bump them, and cheer them on.
I've been there, my wife's been there, and many, many people have been there. The single hardest part is that moment of clarity that is hitting you like a freight train right now - and making the decision to change. Everyone workout you do is infinitely better than the workout you don't do. Change is hard, but until you take that first step, there can be no change. Every day, everyone gets up and makes a choice - and for most, it's automatic - and that choice is whether to eat poorly, stay in bad health, and over-eat. It is a struggle - and I struggle with it now, and I will struggle with it for the rest of my life - but it does get easier, and it is a struggle you can overcome. That struggle is between the easy way - poor food, overeating, no physical activity - and the healthy lifestyle of eating right and exercise.
Making the choice to change is the hardest part. Congratulations on it - do what you can, and good luck.0 -
The fact is, people are judgemental. Some more so, some less.
And there's nothing wrong with that
If an elderly lady drops her shopping, I'll be judging. If a guy bends down to help, then I think, 'what a nice guy', if he doesn't then I make a judgement the other way. We all do that
If I see an overweight person waddling on the treadmill then I think 'good for you' has my respect straight away
If I see an overweight person waddling out of McDonalds then I think they're not too concerned about their health and well being0 -
I am a member of PF too, just started a couple of weeks ago. I go in with my headphones on and do my thing... And watch the eye candy of course... But have not had any issues with jerks yet. Only had one guy hitting on me by "showing me how to use the machine". And the hydro massage table is awesome!0
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Nobody is judging you....
Nobody cares.0 -
So, I totally went and joined!! Only anticipated signing up, but love the place so much...I am going back.
No detriment, in fact...I got hit on when I left!! YAY! Ok, now I am so stoked!0 -
One way to look at it is... If you're feeling that way, chances are 90 percent of the people there are feeling that way too. and honestly, the first day is the hardest. Once you realize no one really cares what you're doing, you'll become comfortable. Keep at it, yo!0
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