Gym Advice!!

LMick1986

So, I totally went and joined!! Only anticipated signing up, but love the place so much...I am going back.
No detriment, in fact...I got hit on when I left!! YAY! Ok, now I am so stoked!

Sweet!! Just imagine the compliments rolling in when you start to feel not so fed up with your weight.....when you're actually excited that you reached your personal goals and milestones. It will show and people will respond to that. Way cool! Keep it up!

BetterCrazyThanLazy

SCREW THEM!

That's all I have to say. Congratulations on making the most important step - you FIRST step!

elprincipito

When I first started hitting the gym I was 133lbs and i couldn't bench 95lbs properly. I am now 157lbs and still gaining weight and can bench 225lbs (properly and controlled motion). If i had worried about others looking at me and thinking of me as a stick i probably wouldn't have gone far. You have to do you and don't give a flying fudge about what others think.

JustJennie1

Good for you! *high five*

The awesome thing is that you joined a gym and you're committed to living a healthy lifestyle. If anyone gives you s*it about it tell them to go suck an egg!

hiker359

Just going to say that 99% of the people there are too busy thinking about themselves to worry much about you, and the other 1% aren't worth worrying about since most of the time they'll keep whatever they're thinking to themselves. Just go and do what you know you need to do. Thinking you need to be skinny to use the gym is like thinking you need to be dead to use the hospital.

Laces_0ut

I have never seen anyone make fun of someone in the gym for being overweight. in fact its the opposite. if anything is said its words of encouragement.

after some initial soreness you will be amazed at how good you feel after hitting the gym...so get your butt into a gym and have a great time!

Wonderob

So, I totally went and joined!! Only anticipated signing up, but love the place so much...I am going back.
No detriment, in fact...I got hit on when I left!! YAY! Ok, now I am so stoked!

It's brilliant that you joined, good for you, keep it up

But I do wonder why you think its so good that you got hit on?? Does your new husband feel the same about it?

phoenixsmommy

to worry about what they think is to consider yourself worth less than they are. if they think that way they are worth less than everyone. your physical shape doesn't devalue who you are. you have just as much right to be there as them. more if you need it more. that's what i think everytime i walk in the doors. every time is a personal struggle but you have to remember that you are worthy of any one of them. we are all the same humans under the skin.

eatinghappy

CONGRATULATIONS!!!

Experiment with all of the options at the gym: classes, strength training, personal training (do you get a free personal training session?) be sure to take advantage of this option - the trainers can be super helpful; try pilates, yoga, spin. Find your "fit" and persevere! You are an awesome woman on a journey to a healthier, brand new "you".

tlc

PS
Here's a mantra for you:
"I am in the right place, at the right time, and God is showing me my next adventure!"

Brandywithrow

I Did Not have time to read the other posts BUT I was the same way about 10 Month ago I am 5"6 ish and I weighed 260 I was so worried about what everyone else was thinking of me. I was dripping sweat just from my warm up BUt I kept going and each day got a little bit easier. Today only 10 month or so Later I weight 189 and im still always worried when I lift weights about the Body building men and what they are thinking about me BUT when all is said and done its your life and only you can change is! Slow and steady really does win the race I wish you success on your journey!!

MelisRunning

I am 5' and my SW was 255. I joined a gym and refused to let people intimidate me. After having lost 144 pounds, I still feel intimidated (silly me/my problem) but hold my own, have lifting buddies and a general good time while there. Congrats on taking such a huge step! Kudos and good luck!

californiagirl2012

To be BRUTALLY honest, I am fat. I am not thick, I do not have a few extra pounds. I am so far beyond obese I have had enough. (5ft 4in and a dead 250). Tonight, I made the decision to join Planet Fitness. There is no question that tomorrow I will be joining the gym. I am not depressed, sad or anything detrimental about my being fat, I am so far beyond sick of it!! But I am SCARED as hell of grown *kitten* judging woman. Thoughts, advice, criticisms?

You can do it. It will be a long hard road filled with worthwhile victories. Good for you for taking the step and making the decision. Keep your eye on the prize.

Here is what worked for me. I only lost 60 lbs but I carried around an extra 20-40 of that most of my life and when I peaked to my most obese weight I felt like you. It took me two years to lose the 60lbs, but I'm older (almost 52) and have elder lady health issues to deal with as well.

There is no mystery to weight loss, everyone thinks something is wrong, their metabolism is broken, they have low thyroid, they have menopause or whatever issue, they are as unique as a snowflake, whatever. I thought a lot of these things once too but once the doctor helped resolve the health issues for me I learned there is still no magic pill. Most people eat more than they need to and are not at good at estimating calories as they think they are. Most people have a lower BMR than they think they do. The only way to know for sure is to go to a lab and have it tested. It doesn't seem fair to have to eat less and feel a little hunger. It's hard to face the truth of it, very hard. It's not fun. It's drudgery at times. But if you learn to enjoy your smaller amounts of food (necessary to lose weight, since the reason we got fat in the first place was eating too much whether we knew it or not), and rejoice in your victories it can be done.

All I can do is share what worked for me. I achieved my goal at age 50 after beating my head against the wall for 15 years. Yeah anyone can do it, but I can tell you that you are up against a lot when you are older and I believe females have some unique issue to face with hormones and such. The sooner you can get a handle on it the better. DO NOT GIVE UP. As I got older and the weight piled on (and I didn't feel I was eating too much!) everyone kept telling me to give up, this is what happens when you get older. I'm small, and I didn't realize how small I was until I lost the weight. Everyone said I had big bones. I looked hefty because I worked out. Once I lost the weight I realized how small I really was and that small people don't need to eat as much as big people. HINT: If you are short you are probably small.

Your body loses weight in chunks, not linear. I have found that you can do everything right and your weight loss seems to plateau but if you are patient and keep exercising and eating at a deficit (however slight) you will lose it, it will suddenly "whoosh". There are so many variables for the scale; water retention, digestion, hormones, allergies, sodium, carbs, water intake, DOMS, inflammation, the list goes on. People mistakenly think they lose or gain weight when they eat more or less because of these fluctuations.

Losing weight requires tremendous patience. You will not lose it when you want it or where you want it. The body does its thing. Some apparent plateaus can last a month or so. You cannot make it happen faster. You must focus on two things; calories and exercise. Nothing else matters. Scales and metrics don't matter. The day in and day out grind of exercise and calories are all that matters. It is not very exciting until things fall into place. You get your victories and you ride one victory to the next.

The scale is a trend tool. The scale is good but put it away and only check once a week and only use it as a trend tool. It will fluctuate, it does not matter. Take front side and back progress pictures at least once a month. You will see differences that the metrics won't tell you and it's that little bit of NSV that will keep you going until the next victory.

To say eat more is wrong.

To say eat less is wrong.

To find the exact calories needed for YOU to be in a healthy sustainable calorie deficit is the right answer. Wait, if you need to adjust by 100 do it, wait, adjust, wait, adjust, wait. The tortoise wins this race.

All that matters is calories. A healthy balanced diet within a calorie budget for a deficit that is right for YOU is all that matters for weight loss. Don't make it complicated.

Also people play mental accounting games with calories just like with finances. Make steps to make sure you are making accurate measurements. Packaged foods can have MORE than they say but not less (they get in trouble if less so they would rather error with MORE).

If you typically intake sodium at a certain rate your body adjusts, but if you make a sudden change then you will see a spike.

Exercise is for making your lean body mass pretty (especially lifting weights) for when the fat is gone. Losing fat with no muscle is ugly and cardio alone will not make you pretty. You cannot out exercise too many calories.

It really is about calories. I tell people this all the time and they say "Well if calories are all that matter why do you eat so clean???!!" Well, because it makes me feel better, sleep better, and perform better at my sports.

Too many changes at once can be hard on some people. I've always eaten healthy so it easy for me to simply eat less. Eating at a calorie deficit is hard on people; even a small deficit puts your body in a state of flux with hormones and such. Everyone is different. Some people can handle a deeper calorie deficit than others, this is not right or wrong, it just is. Stress in your life affects your hunger hormones; lack of sleep, fatigue, job stress, family stress, financial stress, etc. Add in emotional eating issues and it gets even more complicated. Most people can only handle so much change/stress at once, they try to do too much and fail. Sometimes it might be a better strategy to eat at maintenance and make some small changes first, it really depends on how much stress you are taking in at the moment.

What is the exact number of calories for you?

We’ve been trying to figure out an exact NUMBER of calories that everyone should be eating, without recognizing that everyone is slightly different. In truth, the calories aren’t the end game. Your body is. So the EXACT amount of Calories that are right for you is the EXACT amount that will allow you to maintain your ideal bodyweight no matter what some calculator or chart says.

In other words, an online calculator might tell you that you need to eat 2,500 calories
per day to maintain your ideal bodyweight. But the only way to know for sure if this is
the right amount for you is to test it out. If you gain weight or can’t lose weight eating
that much, then you know you need to eat less to lose weight no matter how many
calculators and text books say otherwise.

This doesn’t mean your metabolism is broken, it just means the estimate of your needs
was just a bit off.

-John Barban (The Body Centric Calorie Guide from the Venus Index and Adonis Index Manuals)

The good thing is you don't have to worry about the starvation mode myth if you are fat. Only skinny people have to worry about starvation mode. It does not mean you have the capability to eat at a large calorie deficit if you have emotional eating disorders or other issues going on, but at least you don't have to be afraid of it anymore.

The Theory of Fat Availability:
•There is a set amount of fat that can be released from a fat cell.
•The more fat you have, the more fat can be used as a fuel when dieting.
•The less fat you have, the less fat can be used as a fuel when dieting.
•Towards the end of a transformation, when body fat is extremely low you
may not have enough fat to handle a large caloric deficit anymore.

At the extreme low end, when your body fat cannot ‘keep up’ with the energy deficit
you've imposed on your body, the energy MUST come from SOMEWHERE. This is
when you are at risk of losing lean body mass during dieting (commonly referred to
as ‘starvation mode’). This happens at extremely low levels of body fat, under 6% in
men and 12% in women [Friedl K.E. J Appl Phsiol, 1994].

-Brad Pilon and John Barban (from The Reverse Taper Diet in The Adonis Index and Venus Index manuals)

Lifting weights is KEY. I recently had my DXA scan done and at 51.5 years of age I have the bone density of a super athletic 30 year old. That is a direct result of lifting for over 30 years. Now if that is not scientific proof that lifting weights keeps you younger I don't know what is! Also I believe it is why most people think I look much younger than I really am.

Start lifting now, lift heavy and change it up often, find a lot of weight routines with free weights, make it fun, embrace it, make it part of your life. Only 3 days a week is all it would take. Crank up your tunes and learn to love it, because your body will love it and it will make your quality of life better in many ways, especially when you get older like me.

Because of this I don't have to worry about osteoporosis. If you wait until you are older and your bones start to deteriorate it's a bit too late, you can't get back what you lost, and you can only start a resistance routine that will prevent further damage.

If you are female you don't have the hormones to get big naturally. I lift heavy and I'm still really tiny. My lean body mass is only 104 lbs and that is fairly heavy for a 5'1" female, and quite a bit of this is due to my having very dense bones from 30 years of lifting, not all muscle, and I'm still quite tiny.

My muscles really are not that big, but they show a lot of definition because I'm quite lean. If I gained some fat then I would have a softer more toned look (which is OKAY too!). Then if I gained more fat I would look bulky and hefty like I did most of my life until last year. YOU CAN HAVE WHATEVER YOU WANT. Lean and ripped, soft and toned, or hefty, it all depends on how much fat you leave on your body. Calories are the only thing that changes fat. Exercise is for changing or maintaining your lean body mass only. Lifting weights will give you the best bang for your buck for shaping your body. I finally changed my shape by putting lifting first and cardio 2nd. You cannot out exercise too many calories.

Wishing you the best!
Bobbie

Debbe2

Just show up, bring some water and be ready to enjoy yourself!!

This. And remember that you will have good days and bad days. Just stick with it. But you can do it. Best of luck.

Exactly! You have a great attitude! Stick with it and you will see results!

melleyshelley

No-one there is judging you. People go to the gym to do their own thing and work out. Don't worry about it. If I see someone at the gym who is obviously very overweight and out of shape I'm proud of them for being there.

Couldn't have said it better. When I go to the gym, that's ME time. I don't care about what other people are doing, if I'm keeping up with them, or even if they are looking at me. I'm so focused on me. It's one place that I get to be selfish and in my own world. Embrace that. When I do see overweight people there, I am so freakin proud of them and hope that they stay round. Do it day by day, try not to blow yourself out on the first day. Team up with a fitness coach for a few sessions, and then do your thing.

Head up girl. You are making a terrific decision! Proud of you.

Ready2Rock206

I think most people at the gym are too focused on themselves to care about anyone else.

As long as you're not like the guy at my gym who may have been playing w/his junk last time I saw him you should be fine! :noway:

petechiae

Bump, because I'm in the same situation and want to read this as inspiration.

Kelly_Runs_NC

no one is going to judge you. To be honest, I'm there doing my own thing and rarely pay attention to anyone else there.